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Onegai:
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But why o why is it always women that have to look at the big picture and what the institution represents, did they force men into marriage that there is a Get-Out-Of-Jail-Free card that enables them to disrespect the institution they are asking women to uphold?

Is there a company where the people more concerned with the big picture and are willing to make sacrifices to make the company a global brand, were its employees, NOT THE OWNER? Did Steve Jobs not work even longer hours than his staff, is Obama not the one more stressed than his staff (and getting grey hairs faster).

How does it make sense that the HEAD OF THE HOME is disrespecting the public vows he took before his peers (because Marriage is a legal and Societal institution) but instead he wants the SECOND-IN-COMMAND to do an exemplary job of leading the children?

African men have always defied the laws of Reason and Logic. There are some few one out there, who understand that a woman will submit to a Leader. And to those ones, I salute and respect you.

modele2:
My husband once told me that if you call someone a dog the person would behave like one. Another man told me he married a second wife be cos the first one became James bond investigator.this particular guy told me that when his wife trusted him
Though it didn't stop him from cheating but he was very discrete. That when she bad friends and advisers and she wanted to prove tough he showed her pepper by marrying another wife.
Well all men are not of the same mould trying to trust him and showing him you trust him might prolong the guilt feeling and make him come to his sences. I wonder why men take the risk of 5 mins of enjoyment at the expense of a good home. Na wa.

DailyNews:
Just have it in mind that every other married lady out there is coping with a cheating hubby cos 99.99% of married men cheat For those that will come after me with cutlass, no need cos I'm on my way to France and if u decide to leave to marry a presumed Pope John Paul u feel its best, be prepared to leave that one soon, and another and another

Ladies should just know it that: u cheat while young n hot, men then don't...so when they become older, hotter like Timaya, they too will cheat to balance nature

babyosisi:
Nne eh
If not that I am born again and trying to stay on the straight and narrow sometimes I want to advise the wife of a cheating husband to just go out and cheat to her heart's desire
What nonsense
There are a zillion men out there that can give her a good time
She may actually feel much better afterwards
For how long will somebody pray ?
You are praying,your man is shining Congo at Sheraton
You go night vigil shouting die die die,he is at Hilton and both him and the Okpeke are very much alive
You are jumping from one prayer house to another looking haggard and emaciated ,he is jumping from one bed to another happy
Why can't the Holy Spirit just allow women take matters into their own hands eh

Sorry folks
My flesh was speaking

bukatyne:
I always say that 95% of bitter MILs are women who were unhappy in their marriages.

Onegai:
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But why o why is it always women that have to look at the big picture and what the institution represents, did they force men into marriage that there is a Get-Out-Of-Jail-Free card that enables them to disrespect the institution they are asking women to uphold?

Is there a company where the people more concerned with the big picture and are willing to make sacrifices to make the company a global brand, were its employees, NOT THE OWNER? Did Steve Jobs not work even longer hours than his staff, is Obama not the one more stressed than his staff (and getting grey hairs faster).

How does it make sense that the HEAD OF THE HOME is disrespecting the public vows he took before his peers (because Marriage is a legal and Societal institution) but instead he wants the SECOND-IN-COMMAND to do an exemplary job of leading the children? Even in a bank, a non-performing ED will lose their position to a junior staff if they keep abdicating their responsibilities. So why are men so suddenly shocked that after years of cheating happily, their wives have also discovered the pleasures of another man's arms? Then you must have the same lack of foresight as the Nigerian govt, who, when the sun was shining (and oil was N140/barrel), did NOT make hay ( didn't save, were not fiscally prudent) and next year, pump prices are going to increase

Nigerians always shout "this is how it has been and it will never change" and be putting down any sort of Positive Change. Then once a few folks push it through, they scramble to catch up. My friend's father NEVER CHEATED, his wife was academically great and had a strong career. When she died, the whole world stopped. Her name is a rallying point in LUTH. Because she stood on the shoulders of a giant! All our underachieving, underperforming women are too worried and broken and filled with mistrust to fly high, whose shoulders will they stand on?

African men have always defied the laws of Reason and Logic. There are some few one out there, who understand that a woman will submit to a Leader. And to those ones, I salute and respect you.

bongolistik:
u ar mekin serious nd nice point here, bt one thing I jst wnt u 2 undastand here is dat nature favors a cheating man more dan d woman nd dier is absolutely no equality here btw a man nd a woman wen it coms 2 matters lik dis.

U can xpect a man 2 easily kick d a.ss of a cheatin wife out bt dnt xpect a woman 2 easily do dat cos at d tail end, d woman stil suffers d most.

Factors like aging, menopause, lost of beauty, societal presure and discremination naturaly afects women more in al ramification, so u see y she can nt easily kick out d a.ss of her cheating husband.

A man in his 50's nd 60's can easily pick up anoda fresh nd vibrant woman as wife nd evn be hapy do so, bt it is dificult 4 women of such age 2 find back dat type of hapines again in man.

So d whole condition is jst critical nd lies on d man 2 turn a new leav.

Op, if truly al u said are right, nd dat u stil kip urself wel nd stil look gud, den bring dat ur hubby 2 me let me crack his head 4 him so he wil knw dat dier is notin nxt 2 a nice and submisiv women who ar dificult 2 find, and he has one by his sid witout valueing her dat much. Den his head jst need 2 be cracked so he wil com bak 2 his senses.

voodoo85:
right... me... i wouldn't tolerate him at all. if such thing happens- rock&roll- door is open. men need to understand once and for all- if u want someone younger, someone with nicer booobs and ass, even if its for one night- u always can have it, but don't come back. who do u think i am? a trash? a doormat ? that u could clean your feet? fuuuck no. i wish all women would have self respect and wouldn't turn a blind eye to his adventures. and saying that oh 99% nigerian men r cheating- no need to make it a norm! if he cheated on u- r we talking about love between u 2? maybe u r talking about love but not him. if u r telling that u r staying with jst because of the kids- u r fooling yourself. yours and his relationship will change after his cheat and am sure kids will feel bad in family where parents don't talk with each other, dropping harsh comments etc.

SirShymex:
That was cos they got caught and it became a public affair. And due to their status in the society and not wanting to lose that privilege, they had to do whatever it takes to save their careers.

If they had been just a regular Joe, it would have been a different story. And I'm sure they still cheated after that - especially playboy Bill lol.

How about the wives who stood by them despite the public embarrassment? Was that also a black thing?

Onegai:
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But why o why is it always women that have to look at the big picture and what the institution represents, did they force men into marriage that there is a Get-Out-Of-Jail-Free card that enables them to disrespect the institution they are asking women to uphold?

Is there a company where the people more concerned with the big picture and are willing to make sacrifices to make the company a global brand, were its employees, NOT THE OWNER? Did Steve Jobs not work even longer hours than his staff, is Obama not the one more stressed than his staff (and getting grey hairs faster).

How does it make sense that the HEAD OF THE HOME is disrespecting the public vows he took before his peers (because Marriage is a legal and Societal institution) but instead he wants the SECOND-IN-COMMAND to do an exemplary job of leading the children? Even in a bank, a non-performing ED will lose their position to a junior staff if they keep abdicating their responsibilities. So why are men so suddenly shocked that after years of cheating happily, their wives have also discovered the pleasures of another man's arms? Then you must have the same lack of foresight as the Nigerian govt, who, when the sun was shining (and oil was N140/barrel), did NOT make hay ( didn't save, were not fiscally prudent) and next year, pump prices are going to increase

Nigerians always shout "this is how it has been and it will never change" and be putting down any sort of Positive Change. Then once a few folks push it through, they scramble to catch up. My friend's father NEVER CHEATED, his wife was academically great and had a strong career. When she died, the whole world stopped. Her name is a rallying point in LUTH. Because she stood on the shoulders of a giant! All our underachieving, underperforming women are too worried and broken and filled with mistrust to fly high, whose shoulders will they stand on?

African men have always defied the laws of Reason and Logic. There are some few one out there, who understand that a woman will submit to a Leader. And to those ones, I salute and respect you.

BananaBender:
Fathers are absent in the lives of their children and feminism is to be blamed?? Not the irresponsible man that impregnated a girl who he isn't ready to raise a family with? What about the 1diotic black man that abandons his family due to Bleep and jail time?? What about the even more 1diotic black men that think selling cocaine or becoming a rapper is the only way to make it in life??

Women stay working two, three jobs just so they can take care of these kids and then you turn around to blame the parent(woman) that chose to stay as the bad one. You point your blaming finger to the woman enslaving herself for her kids and you absolve the men from any blame? How does this make sense to you?

I do not support single parenthood but I will rather be a single mom that raise my children in a home where their father is a serial cheat or where their father is abusive. What do you want those children to learn? That it is okay to cheat?? Most men charged with domestic abuse grew up in a domestic home, I bet those mothers were trying to stay married and raise their kids in a home with both parents. Where did that lead them Shy? Why would I stay with a cheating man, a man I can only grow to hate and find repulsive. Imagine a child growing up in a home where the parents live like roommates, where there is no love, everyday na so so fight-fight. That child is better off in a single home than in a home with both parents.

I can't even date a man that is not a feminist Shy. Tufiakwa!

Flytefalls:
I think you'll find plenty of women feel happier to leave it! The biggest ish I have with cheating are the lies. When you, Dailynews, inevitably cheat on your wife (who probably will not sign up for your I cheat, you cheat arrangement because it's stupid), I hope you will take ownership over your male inclinations and speak the truth at the risk of losing everything. If you could not, I'll forever be calling men like you weak .

I'm going to ignore the blah blahs about women and money because again, sweeping generalisations that don't account for all.

GoodFaith:
"Why can't the Holy Spirit just allow women take matters into their own hands eh" --- Kill the maan
She cheat---the man she cheat with Bleep one,two time move on
She will be holding the empty plate
Ask woman that imported a man-- from Belgium after fucking for two year
After the import
the man re export himself back to Belgium

SirShymex:
Well, he must have been a late bloomer, or ya mum just never created an atmosphere for peace at home.

Regardless, there are always isolated cases. And perhaps ya dad falls into this category.

babyosisi:
That is the mistake you men make
Just like you don't want any permanence with the women you cheat with,you suppose a cheating woman wants something permanent with the man?
You think she wants to mess up her marriage?
I am not talking of an old lonely woman and a man dumping her
I am talking of a married woman whose husband is married and cheating
She can also stay married and cheat on the sides,no strings attached
After they come off the bed or wall,everyone returns to their marital homes to continue the marriage from where it stopped

Dipville:
Sorry bout ur cheating hubby @ happy wife

But to be honest with ourselves,look arnd...how many gals on this thread can boast she neva dated a married man...

A lady once told me...she enjoys dating married men...Cz of the money am sure

Am not saying @ happywife/rowzzay did this b4 getting married

But honestly,most of the married women complaining here have done it once@least

It's karma if u ask me

I pray ur husbands have a change of heart

BananaBender:
Fathers are absent in the lives of their children and feminism is to be blamed?? Not the irresponsible man that impregnated a girl who he isn't ready to raise a family with? What about the 1diotic black man that abandons his family due to Bleep and jail time?? What about the even more 1diotic black men that think selling cocaine or becoming a rapper is the only way to make it in life??

Women stay working two, three jobs just so they can take care of these kids and then you turn around to blame the parent(woman) that chose to stay as the bad one. You point your blaming finger to the woman enslaving herself for her kids and you absolve the men from any blame? How does this make sense to you?

I do not support single parenthood but I will rather be a single mom that raise my children in a home where their father is a serial cheat or where their father is abusive. What do you want those children to learn? That it is okay to cheat?? Most men charged with domestic abuse grew up in a domestic home, I bet those mothers were trying to stay married and raise their kids in a home with both parents. Where did that lead them Shy? Why would I stay with a cheating man, a man I can only grow to hate and find repulsive. Imagine a child growing up in a home where the parents live like roommates, where there is no love, everyday na so so fight-fight. That child is better off in a single home than in a home with both parents.

I can't even date a man that is not a feminist Shy. Tufiakwa!

Onegai:
If my husband was a WEALTHLY FORMER PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES, A WEALTHY EX-FOOTBALLER (MOST LIKELY TO END UP IN GOVT) or A WEALTHY BASKETBALL PLAYER (who will most likely sign a 6-figure deal to write his memoirs after he retires)....

Baby, I will fight any oloshi strolling around him, cook him egusi and pound yam daily and pray unceasingly for him

But y'all broke brothas, you will be cheating, giving me High BP, I cannot even afford to fly the kids and I out for a weekend in Dubai, instead I'm in your rented house, waiting to turn off the gen at 10pm and sleep in heat, skabashing in the darkness telling myself "he will return to my arms one day" whilst you are shouting "hallelujah!" on top of one woman in an air-conditioned hotel room somewhere....

As my aunt said to her ex-husband, "I'm leaving you because you're cheating and beating me and you cannot give me hypertension and AIDS when you haven't even built your house"

She went on to marry a widowed retired military General #CorrectWoman

bossmini84:
I repeat neva I say neva tolorate a cheating husband ur children would be wired, ur sons would see nothing wrong in cheating and ur daughters would accept it when the go into a releationship.

majekdom2:
well late boomer I can't say but i think so..my mum... Lols he has 3 wives and hundreds of of concubines I know of . Well even tho testeoteorene depletes with age , more harm may be done while cheating in the early stage. It is best to avoid it and not encourage it . I know no man is perfect.

Kimoni:
The word "learning" should have given you an idea of who I'm referring to. Children learn from their parents not neighbors

cococandy:
my naija sisters are very hypocritical when it comes to stuff like this. Someone who just left her lover's house with the xemen still not dry will join hands to shame another woman in the street because that one was caught.

Meanwhile all men cheat and we have fact to prove that men are even slightly higher in number than women in the population. So who are the men cheating with?
Not Nigerian women of course. Maybe she goats and women from other countries. Certainly not my virtuous sisters.

meyri:
If you findings and suspicions are true, my advice is to put urself 1st. Do what you need to maintain your sanity and happiness (whatever that is to you), everything else is secondary, your children & husband. Once you find your peace, you can take of others.
* Me, I can't be in the same environment with a cheating husband. *

GoodFaith:
U failed to make comment regard Belgium import
I am glad I have more control of my life
The doors are open,
U can leave
U don't have games girl
I know better

babyosisi:
And there hasn't been girls that married old loaded men,enduring and marking time waiting for them to die?
Two can play that game
Google Anna Nicole smith RIP

SirShymex:
Sholly, find a perfect male feminist, and get hitched with him. And stop disturbing women who're trying to keep the family structure intact and raise black kings and queens.

GoodFaith:
Anna Nicole smith didn't get anything , as she was hoping for
The case just got resolved less than a year now
The billion died, Billions son fought her out the way to the upper court
Billion son passed away and Anna Nicole smith passed away

Onegai:
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But why o why is it always women that have to look at the big picture and what the institution represents, did they force men into marriage that there is a Get-Out-Of-Jail-Free card that enables them to disrespect the institution they are asking women to uphold?

Is there a company where the people more concerned with the big picture and are willing to make sacrifices to make the company a global brand, were its employees, NOT THE OWNER? Did Steve Jobs not work even longer hours than his staff, is Obama not the one more stressed than his staff (and getting grey hairs faster).

How does it make sense that the HEAD OF THE HOME is disrespecting the public vows he took before his peers (because Marriage is a legal and Societal institution) but instead he wants the SECOND-IN-COMMAND to do an exemplary job of leading the children? Even in a bank, a non-performing ED will lose their position to a junior staff if they keep abdicating their responsibilities. So why are men so suddenly shocked that after years of cheating happily, their wives have also discovered the pleasures of another man's arms? Then you must have the same lack of foresight as the Nigerian govt, who, when the sun was shining (and oil was N140/barrel), did NOT make hay ( didn't save, were not fiscally prudent) and next year, pump prices are going to increase

Nigerians always shout "this is how it has been and it will never change" and be putting down any sort of Positive Change. Then once a few folks push it through, they scramble to catch up. My friend's father NEVER CHEATED, his wife was academically great and had a strong career. When she died, the whole world stopped. Her name is a rallying point in LUTH. Because she stood on the shoulders of a giant! All our underachieving, underperforming women are too worried and broken and filled with mistrust to fly high, whose shoulders will they stand on?

African men have always defied the laws of Reason and Logic. There are some few one out there, who understand that a woman will submit to a Leader. And to those ones, I salute and respect you.