₦airaland Forum

VickyyB:
You mentioned about having a bushy eyebrow.
It's mainly found on Light-skinned boys.

hiaaaan.......there's nothing i won't hear from you sha
says who
only my sisters are light skinned
i'm brown sha....how was your night ??

firstEVA:
*sighs*
....................... she will still feel bad though as women are naturally possessive.
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Hmmmm!
This is exactly the point I was trying to arrive at!
When a lady is exercising the liberty of having affairs with more than one boyfriend while, at the same time, denying her boyfriend, overtly or covertly ( through her attitude towards him ) , the right to equally have an affair with another girl, she's seen to be over- possessive.
What fascinates me here is the fact that you know & acknowledge that (some) women are naturally possessive. Under certain circumstances, though, you tend to be over-possessive. Some of the major frictions that develop when you're relating with us(men) could be traced to that. (Pardon my slip of tongue)
( The nature of being possessive is not limited to females, though. There're some men too who are!)


By the way, there are some cultures where it is considered "normal" for a girl to have more than one boyfriend from whom she'ld eventually choose one to marry.
Our changing values.......

firstEVA:
it's different for the men. Men what sex (most of the time), women want money, care, attention. You see

Yes. I can imagine how demanding & tasking it would be to serve the role of giving you "attention" alone! - what it would take for a man to soothe you, amidst incessant naggings, after you've spent a stressful day when you've lost a protracted contentious case ( considering how personal you can take up matters, at times). Certainly it'll require a man with above average patience, sacrifice, endurance & skill. And yet, after willingly subjecting himself to such strenuous servitude solely to soothen & please you without any favour from you in return, you nevertheless feel bad when he eases some of his tensions with another lady - tension resulting partly from serving you indefatigably.
Can you now see the broader picture?

ratatis:
Yes. I can imagine how demanding & tasking it would be to serve the role of giving you "attention" alone! - what it would take for a man to soothe you, amidst incessant naggings, after you've spent a stressful day when you've lost a protracted contentious case ( considering how personal you can take up matters, at times). Certainly it'll require a man with above average patience, sacrifice, endurance & skill. And yet, after willingly subjecting himself to such strenuous servitude solely to soothen & please you without any favour from you in return, you nevertheless feel bad when he eases some of his tensions with another lady - tension resulting partly from serving you indefatigably.
Can you now see the broader picture?

lol. I like your analysis but knowing that the attention is being shared with someone else is heartrending.

firstEVA:
lol. I like your analysis but knowing that the attention is being shared with someone else is heartrending.

Yes but by now the bad feeling would have turned into something like " insecurity". You've actually shifted ground through your feeling. & the more he succeeds in making you understand him deeper & deeper, the more the quality of your feeling will change & the more you'll find yourselves striking some sort of compromise.

izaray:
Seconded

can we be loved? only if you are in Abuja.

Stale!

Y'all do every now and then!

anonimi:
I thought that one of the conditions for marrying up to four wives is that the man must love them equally.
Given that many men marry more than one, one would assume that they fulfilled this condition, not so

Our muslim brethren, wetin una think?

its not about loving them equally but making sure you fulfill their rights equally as wives... the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) admitted loving one of his wives(Aisha) most when talking about loving people equally which is very much impossible.
Every one has got different values and so can not be loved the same.

God knows best.