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Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by Sezua(m): 7:06am On Dec 28, 2014 |
Mzgracie:re u? |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by Newkidoo(m): 7:08am On Dec 28, 2014 |
nieema:I just don't know why I like you... Well my advice dear.. Happiness is a thing of the heart.. You can look for hapiness from here to London if u r not happy with yourself you cant find happiness.. So dear work on yaself. No need breaking up with him, explain things to him.. Sometimes you might need your space, sometimes you will surely want him around.. Breaking up with him won't give u d happiness u r looking for.. Just work on yasef.. That's all.. I like you.. Just ya name makes me like you.. Welcome to nairaland though!! You will get used to d insults soon 1 Like |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by aperture11: 7:12am On Dec 28, 2014 |
nieema: Hi Nieema, you seem like a really nice person and that you love your boyfriend. A compromise in a relationship is not getting out of it because things have now become inconvenient. The major issue in this relationship as I see it is that you are giving more than you are getting (You said so yourself). The fact that you focus more on his needs more than yours affirms that you love him. I hope you are a Christian because you need deep understanding of 1 Corinthians 13 (read it from either Message or NIV). You cannot continue solving problems the way you have always done, as others have said, what if you were married what would you do. If you actually had plans to marry this guy someday then you shouldn't end this relationship to sort yourself out - it is a very selfish act, but if you guys don't have an actual future planned out, by all means jet off. I once delayed my relocation out of Nigeria for several years because the person I was dating didn't want long distance relationship and she was in school, we still broke up in her service year but I never regretted my decision for one day, I truly loved her and I wanted to marry her. A quick note though, friendships after relationship rarely works even if that was the basis for the relationship. You will still have feelings for each other and moving on will be so difficult. My ex wanted same and I kindly objected. The decision ultimately is yours and from what you have written since I think you mind is made up already. I wish you all the best. 1 Like |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by nieema: 7:25am On Dec 28, 2014 |
aflyingbird:I don't play the blame game..it's pointless. You are absolutely, I've always felt like I should take care of myself...still not getting your point sir. He's not most guys and I'm not most gals. I'm not interested in emotional rants. I'd like to get some constructive feedback if you have any to offer please. |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by willexyaho(m): 7:28am On Dec 28, 2014 |
WOMEN ARE CANTANKEROUS FROM A PARTICULAR TO THE GENERAL. |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by nieema: 7:30am On Dec 28, 2014 |
kaboninc:Yes sir, thank you. |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by grimandevil: 7:32am On Dec 28, 2014 |
nieema: simple d guy is broke and u want to dump him and look for a better well to do guy. which one b refocus my life blablabla. wetin u wan refocus? ur life na camera lens.? 4 Likes |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by nieema: 7:33am On Dec 28, 2014 |
galaxi:I get what you are saying. Just hard watching a person struggle and sitting there doing nothing to help. Maybe my timing was off a bit. |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by Nobody: 7:35am On Dec 28, 2014 |
nieema:u don't play the blame game but u suddenly brought up the comment about what he needs in a gf, as if he's demanding. u must be a blind reader or u can't comprehend. i don't sugarcoat things, i told u like it is. don't pretend like u didn't get my posts. break up with him and work on urself, ok? got it? 1 Like |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by nieema: 7:40am On Dec 28, 2014 |
Newkidoo:100% TRUE Sir, thank you for the kind reminder. I love nairalanders, they speak their minds o. |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by Newkidoo(m): 7:51am On Dec 28, 2014 |
nieema:You are welcome.. Are you here to stay or just here because of this topic If it is the former, will like to be ya friend.. |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by nieema: 7:56am On Dec 28, 2014 |
aflyingbird:@ the bold: You are repeating what I originally posted...you'll get no argument from me. Sugar is not something I'm a big fan of either. I never mentioned anything about him being demanding. You made your own assumptions. Perhaps you can allow your hostility to subside and think about what you're really trying to convey to me. I don't know what your point is. Thank you for correcting my grammatical error...it happens. 1 Like |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by nieema: 7:59am On Dec 28, 2014 |
Newkidoo:I've been around here for a while. I finally registered today because I need some honest feedback. I know nairalanders would give it unedited. 1 Like |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by Newkidoo(m): 8:05am On Dec 28, 2014 |
nieema:Ok.. So u r not staying... Well will see you around when you need another honest feedback.. But hope the feedbacks have helped? |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by tosinendowed(m): 8:13am On Dec 28, 2014 |
Lala247:guessed right then |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by nieema: 8:13am On Dec 28, 2014 |
[quote author=aperture11 post=29264400] Hi Nieema, you seem like a really nice person and that you love your boyfriend. A compromise in a relationship is not getting out of it because things have now become inconvenient. The major issue in this relationship as I see it is that you are giving more than you are getting (You said so yourself). The fact that you focus more on his needs more than yours affirms that you love him. I hope you are a Christian because you need deep understanding of 1 Corinthians 13 (read it from either Message or NIV). You cannot continue solving problems the way you have always done, as others have said, what if you were married what would you do. If you actually had plans to marry this guy someday then you shouldn't end this relationship to sort yourself out - it is a very selfish act, but if you guys don't have an actual future planned out, by all means jet off. I once delayed my relocation out of Nigeria for several years because the person I was dating didn't want long distance relationship and she was in school, we still broke up in her service year but I never regretted my decision for one day, I truly loved her and I wanted to marry her. A quick note though, friendships after relationship rarely works even if that was the basis for the relationship. You will still have feelings for each other and moving on will be so difficult. My ex wanted same and I kindly objected. The decision ultimately is yours and from what you have written since I think you mind is made up already. I wish you all the best.[/quo te] Yes sir, I read it, thank you. I should probably read that on a regular. Bold text: I'm thinking you are right, although a hard pill to swallow. I am Christian enough not to respond in kind to some of these nasty insults. Does that count for anything? 1 Like |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by Nobody: 8:16am On Dec 28, 2014 |
Its depend sha |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by nairaman66(m): 9:20am On Dec 28, 2014 |
nieema: Listen to yourself.., you are the one throwing everything away because you are the woman and women do have public sympathy all day long even if they are wrong. If the guy truly loves you, I am sure you will end up regretting all your actions from today. I have been in similar situations 2 years ago.. Believe me, the girl in questions is still at the receiving end. Karma is a biatch! 1 Like |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by dinachi(m): 9:21am On Dec 28, 2014 |
The guy is having financial problems and you are not happy that you chose a man who can't provide. It is very clear to me..because you should not be breaking a relationship to focus on yourself if you really loved the guy. Afterall, people prefer their lover around as they make progress in life. What exactly do you want to do? Take a course abroad or what? It is good you clearly tell the man the truth. O boy I don tire for you as you no get money! Make I go hustle guy weh get. Stop pretending it is nit about financial status. 1 Like |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by Nobody: 9:32am On Dec 28, 2014 |
nieema:lmao. i ain't being hostile, i'm not being nicey nicey to u like some folks r, straight no chaser here. i told u to work on urself, i see u really should do that now. u keep telling me u don't understand my point, u be mumu ni? . u've admitted u need to work on urself, i told u u've likely felt this way before u started this relationship, u admitted this too and u are not emotionally mature to handle this relationship. u felt this way from the jump, u feel this way today u will feel this way tomorrow. if u know u can't be in a relationship and work on urself at the same time then free the guy and do the needful for urself. better for both of u. a relationship is not by force n whatever u do stay away from relationships till u are really ready or u will keep breaking up with men prematurely! UNDERSTOOD?! 2 Likes |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by nieema: 9:52am On Dec 28, 2014 |
nairaman66:Indeed she is. I've been faithful and supportive to the best of my ability and honest above all else. So Karma and I can kick it anytime. |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by nieema: 9:57am On Dec 28, 2014 |
dinachi:It appears that you may have skipped over my previous post. I make my own money and I'm ok. It appears to be a strange concept for some to grasp but plenty of women are handling their business in the financial department. I've been dependent on a bf income and hopefully never will. He can attest to that himself. |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by nieema: 9:58am On Dec 28, 2014 |
*NEVER been* |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by chimchim1(m): 10:00am On Dec 28, 2014 |
nieema:I don't believe u. What's it dt u can't share wt him. Or is he the cause of ur problems. I am married and can be frustrating sometimes but no matter what I am happy I married her. If u think u can have a future wt him why not solve the problems wt him. It's either u have a better person and the person is already buying his place in ur heart and u re trying to pay him off or u re tired of him cos u have realized he's not ur kind or class of person. My opinion though! 1 Like |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by Nobody: 10:05am On Dec 28, 2014 |
Mzgracie:u are right, mzgracie. she will learn when she breaks up with him and he finds a better, suitable person for himself. she thinks she's all dat n a bag of chips but she can get replaced. she will be crying later when dude's already moved on with better person. 1 Like |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by Nobody: 10:09am On Dec 28, 2014 |
temitemi1:IIncluding 3 trillion pounds?? |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by JeffreyJamez(m): 10:10am On Dec 28, 2014 |
PrettySpicey: I didn't see an incentive in that verse..... OLe ni e |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by nieema: 10:14am On Dec 28, 2014 |
aflyingbird:Review your previous comments as well as mines. You said: People don't just wake up one want to take care of themselves. My response was: I've always taken care of myself. And by that I mean my overall well being. If you calmed yourself for a second, perhaps you could stop exchanging MY WORDS for your own. I think you are trying to twist my words but you would have to wake up much earlier to pull that off, honestly. |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by nieema: 10:21am On Dec 28, 2014 |
chimchim1:No sir, I'm not that kind of woman to cheat or entertain another man. He knows that's not my style. I hope he and I can have a future as well. I appreciate your feedback. |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by richt75: 10:36am On Dec 28, 2014 |
Nmeri17:you took my words! 2 Likes |
Re: Would You Accept A Break Up Gift? by DopeAngel(m): 10:39am On Dec 28, 2014 |
redcliff:if it is by reading books, everybody would be billioniares now 1 Like |
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