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Amelian:
yes, am married but 2 a younger guy

satisfied?

but this is not about me oooo...lets focus on the topic, abeg

EfemenaXY:
I know this might hard for you, but try not to judge everyone by your own sordid standards.

I don't harbour evil towards others - and I think this is the premise of your grouse with the step mother in this scenario.

Juzzybabe:
Which is better,to marry an old man and have peace and a financially secured future OR to marry a young struggling guy that will have you weep everyday and post different sorrowful marital problems on nairaland seeking advice Don't crucify ladies who makes such choices o,in the real sense I think they are wise.

Juzzybabe:
Which is better,to marry an old man and have peace and a financially secured future OR to marry a young struggling guy that will have you weep everyday and post different sorrowful marital problems on nairaland seeking advice Don't crucify ladies who makes such choices o,in the real sense I think they are wise.

majekdom2:
is it about financially secured future , and so what happens to your emotional feelings . tell me how you would feel kissing an old man whose dentition aren't complete , whose skin arent so nice to feel..... you start dating younger guys just to quench the feelings I guess, and you call this " wisdom " .

EfemenaXY:
Well said.

You forgot to add emotional maturity. They've got bucket loads of that and tons of patience.



So?

Does that make him less than a human being? As long as he treats her right and they're both happy and content with each other, then what's the problem?

For what it's worth, older men are much better lovers, unlike their impatient younger counterparts who are at best, selfish lovers in bed.

majekdom2:
The older man was once the impatient younger dude you just talked about , No one was created old . " better lovers " indeed . we humans just like to make ourselves feel good with our situations when we truly know how we feel inside . when the old man is asked to talk about the best woman in hs life , I can bet it would be that woman in his younger years .

EfemenaXY:
Why're you hating on the older men so much? Did one of them entice your girl away from you??

majekdom2:
am not hating on them . I am just a realist who says things as I see them without attaching any sentiments because am a victim or beneficiary wishing to be in that situation.

EfemenaXY:
The tone of your posts say otherwise...with traces of bitterness laced around the words.

Sophyrocks:
Choosing to marry a much older person is a choice. people will go to where they find happiness and peace of mind regardless of the age difference. If the ladies wanna escape the craziness involved in being married to their age group, so be it. Some older men are mature at handling ladies of this age group better.

Kachisbarbie:
C'est fini!
It's all 'bout choice. Personally I can't marry an old man - I may kill him outta frustration...not directly, but I fit give am high BP.
So, when I see girls that damned it all to marry an older/old man...I salute them.
If money is the ish, there are rich young guys or @least early forties. There is definitely something else they are after.
*maybe; no competition...the old man is already tired sef...lolz

byvan:
Marrying an old man is a waste of youthful hue mehn...nah only money I go chop? I wonder wetin dey go dey gist about sef, world wars?

majekdom2:
the gists will be about how he spent his own youthful days , his investments both home an abroad , his friends and business colleagues and how to treat his decaying teeth and terminal diseases.

byvan:
Lol @ decaying teeth, i wonder for how long a young woman can really listen to such gists.

majekdom2:
is it about financially secured future , and so what happens to your emotional feelings . tell me how you would feel kissing an old man whose dentition aren't complete , whose skin arent so nice to feel..... you start dating younger guys just to quench the feelings I guess, and you call this " wisdom " .

Juzzybabe:
And what even makes you think it is every young man that has a wrinkle free skin? what makes u think it is every young man with the 'rod' that knows how to perform with it? my dear,a man is old does in no way kill his sexual ability. Money beautifies love,once he has a clean wealth and he's ready to take care of the lady,even if he has a chocolate teeth,it won't just count. She will even feel general emotionally over satisfied.lool. Am a married woman o,but seriously I don't casticate babes who choose to date old wealthy men. Their happiness is all that matters. I maintain,its better to be with that old caring man than wasting time with a careless and worthless young guy that would send you to early grave either by hanging or beating or cheating.

majekdom2:
The older man was once the impatient younger dude you just talked about , No one is created old . " better lovers " indeed . we humans just like to make ourselves feel good with our situations when we truly know how we feel inside . when the old man is asked to talk about the best woman in hs life , I can bet it would be that woman in his younger years .

majekdom2:
there was no where in my post where I said every young man has got a smooth skin , no matter how we may try to sugar or honey coat it , you cant compare the body of the average young man to that of an old man .is cheating , beating exclusive to a young man , I bet you have not seen an old man that can do worse than a young man when it comes to this. a young man who beats , cheats and is a drunk may grow old with this habit ... is there any theory which says habits diminish with age ? it all balls down to the fact that if your hubby beats , cheats or does not respect you in his young age , you did not marry the right person ... simple.well , everyone has got his choice .

Juzzybabe:
The good thing the lady will find her peace.Look at it from this point,a lady struggles with a young guy,stand by help,help him succeeds and when success comes he dumps her for another. Or a married young couple not rich but the lady is standing still by him.,helping and encouraging him,but yet he beats,cheat and maltreat her,Or the one that after he has made his wealth turns his wife into his house help seeking pleasures in flings...Back in my school days,i had two set of hall mates,the ones with serious bfs that spends their pocket money on their bfs and he gives them free s*x and yet cheat on them and dump them and the ones that would rather have the sugar daddy who would stand firm,meeting their needs and even having less time for s*x with them while giving them all the emotional and moral support.what am I saying,it is all a thing of choice,happiness matters. The Op's friend feels comfortable with that man and she has her best reasons.

majekdom2:
sadly , what you see as happiness may not be what I see as happiness .life itself is not fair , your friend who was loyal to her bf didnt have it good but does not mean if she took her time , she would not find the right man ... perhaps she was lusting after something in the guy .... this thing is never a gender thing . there are guys who have been dumped by their gfs for richer men . you may say you find happiness , but you causing sorrow for some other person . your friend dates a sugar daddy who is married and expects to find a jesus as husband . ofcourse her hapiness is sorrow to the wife of the sugar daddy , or a lady married an old man and thinks the women and kids in the life of tht man will be happy , tho this depends , mostimes its a different story ... we seen this even in lives of notable people e.g ojukwu. There is no such thing as perfect partner but there is that one which is always close to whaever we see as perfection . I see any woman who marries a man old enough to her granpa has a gold digger who is trying to find a way out of poverty.

Juzzybabe:
Satisfaction is all that matters. Truly some old men are brutal but i am speaking of majority. most rich wealthy old men marries just to have a young companion. In that they do all they can to keep their companion happy and emotionally Strong. It still have advantages and disadvantages but I think the advantages is far higher than the disadvantages.

majekdom2:
if only you know what these ladies married to older men go through , majority will gladly tell you not to follow suit. yes , they marry for companion .... check inwards , majority marry to proove that their money can get them anything they want . have you seen an ugly lady in any of these stories that make news......

Juzzybabe:
Nothing in life is rosy but it is all about choice. either the man is proving his wealth or not the lady still has less to loose.

majekdom2:
your opinion tho based on the belief that the lady will have some part of the inheritance , or may have made good money and business contacts from this man . atimes it may be a different story . dont you think so ?

byvan:
I can imagine the embarrassment when you bump into an old school mate with your Grandpa husband. You go take style dey dismiss conversation while walking away swiftly before she asks who grand pa is .

majekdom2:
is it about financially secured future , and so what happens to your emotional feelings . tell me how you would feel kissing an old man whose dentition aren't complete , whose skin arent so nice to feel..... you start dating younger guys just to quench the feelings I guess, and you call this " wisdom " .