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So if they are just friends and old flames are not brewing why are they calling each other sweet heart etc? Shebi you're a new groom yourself and you have your own fair share of women issh.so you don't know when fire is on the mountain abi? Smh

anyway op

dBard:
...he reconnects with an old 'friend' and d general assumption from the wise NL family is that he is cheating.
@first consideration, don't u think a cheating husband would have been smart enuff t cover his tracks especially knowing u have his password.

@o.p, wisdom doesn't act with sentiments nor assumptions..n making wahala now especially if it turns out to b false accusations will only work contrary.

You're the 'madam', call ur husband, tell him ur grievances, lay the rules down if needs be,esp concerning the lady in question.

keep in mind, Most ppl advising u here aren't married as well.
Be wise



'nuff said

Shirley07:
It will prevent stories that touches e.g std, Hiv e.t.c
Moreover, she didn't ask her to divorce. She said the op should ask her husband to choose either his marriage or his $lut. You should know men aint worth the stress.

More of the reason why the question on who to choose should never arise, cos the man would always choose his wife and maybe/maybe not continue to see his 'slut'.

dBard:
u really do lack comprehension.
Not everyone seeks attention on NL. I've got all the attention I need in reality

I do pray u attain some sense this year...fruitless prayer I know, but we can only hope.

You've got your daily attention dose..... Enjoy


@o.p..sorry for derailing

I don't condole stupidity. If I spot it, I spell it out. And your stupidity knows no bound here. If not, you won't disrespect other posters with your snide comment. Come out straight and stop being coward.

divorce him.

mide247:
my hubby and i courted four years before we finally tied d knot,we are blessed with adorable 18month old daughter.
during the years we dated he had a fling with this girl which i got to know later he blame it on d devil and promise heaven on earth to stop i forgave him, the girl on d other hand kept calling and texting that he has destroyed her life and want to dump her begging and threating at d same time,and doesn't mind been second option till she proves her love for him calling him all sort of sweet names, i couldnt take it any longer i had to call her using my hubby phone to get a life and stop been desperate etc it finally dies down
until yesterday av been noticing my husband like a week now secretly recieves calls make sure am not looking at his phone when chatting which was not so before, so when i got back frm church yesterday he was already asleep with our baby i saw his phone by his side i decided to check it cos i know his password..
lo and behold he has reconnect with d same girl back calling her sweetheart and asking abt her whereabout and promise to send her money on monday...
i was so hurt and felt like hitting something on his head but i kept my cool and went to sleep
so after breakfast i decided to ask him abt it and to my surprised he denied it that he dont know what am talking about, and was even swearing for d girl... and went inside his room to change and went out... am confused pls advice needed

Your husband does not speak for all men so do not generalise.
Your problem is not unique and it is pretty simple what you have to do ( and not do ), love him more, spice up your relationship, get kinky if you have to and communicate with him. In time he'll come to his senses

dapsy4u2:
More of the reason why the question on who to choose should never arise, cos the man would always choose his wife and maybe/maybe not continue to see his 'slut'.

It's not by words but deeds. If he's not showing the effort, the marriage is already a facade.

neoapocalypse:
Your husband does not speak for all men so do not generalise.
Your problem is not unique and it is pretty simple what you have to do ( and not do ), love him more, spice up your relationship, get kinky if you have to and communicate with him. In time he'll come to his senses

mr get kinky err

The hypocrisy is here again. I wonder what advice would be given to a man whose wife reconnects with an ex with many love texts in her fone. Im sure divorce will be preached up and down with 20 pages. Hypocrites!

Sophyrocks:
The hypocrisy is here again. I wonder what advice would be given to a man whose wife reconnects with an ex with many love texts in her fone. Im sure divorce will be preached up and down with 20 pages. Hypocrites!

are you minding them. By now I don't expect you to take nl serious and that's what I love about kanwulia and her sarcasm . she has a way of dropping it like it's hot

SAMBARRY:
are you minding them. By now I don't expect you to take nl serious and that's what I love about kanwulia and her sarcasm . she has a way of dropping it like it's hot

I really dnt take them seriously. They dnt like when a female mentions divorce but they love to shout divorce. Bunch of clowns. Lol.

chibic:
70% women cheat too...infact,their own is worst cos hubby may die from it..I bet no woman on this thread can swear she's never cheated on a man before during dating,courting,marriage..

Why I don't normally feel pity for women that complains about a cheating hubby is cos if you investigate the woman properlly,you'll be shocked that she might have also cheated sometimes in their relationship/marraige but the hubby didn't find out so it'll make her seem holy...everyday,we come across promiscous wives who will even want to turn this world upside down if she finds out her hubby is doing same..so,you should just stop crying foul.

bro u are hitting her below the belt am not married but have promised myself not to cheat when I get married so help me God
dearii if u guys attend the same Church u and your hubby should go for counseling
and ladies pls stop checking ur husband phone cos u must see something!!!!!!!
my 20000000 cowries contribution

SAMBARRY:
So if they are just friends and old flames are not brewing why are they calling each other sweet heart etc? Shebi you're a new groom yourself and you have your own fair share of women issh.so you don't know when fire is on the mountain abi? Smh

anyway op

First of all, U don't know me, so don't ascribe ish u don't know to me. If ur having such issues in ur relationship,kpele..but that is UR own wahala.

secondly, anybody can call anyone else terms of endearment, It depends on d CONTEXT of the conversation.
thirdly, seeing a conversation where terms like sweetheart was used n he promised her money, will it be Unreasonable to infer that, possibly, one party is requesting for help from the oda(financial)

Point is, since it's difficult for y'all to understand, her Jumping to conclusions that the husband is cheating at this point is very hasty .

If she has issues, call him, talk, lay down the rules if necessary, not running down to NL screaming 'Why are men like this'..aka He's cheating.

p.s;I Always say it as it is. u either like it or u don't. Not my problème.







sidenote, inspirational books are all good n dandy but they can never take the place of reality



Peace.

Don't give me that male gra gra.im not buying it. try next bus top



secondly you got married recently and posted your wedding pictures where everyone congratulated you and wished you a happy married life including me some time ago so on that basis I'm using to type that. You ve been married for a while so you know what marriage looks like from your point of view
.Thank you

dBard:
First of all, U don't know me, so don't ascribe ish u don't know to me. If ur having such issues in ur relationship,kpele..but that is UR own wahala.

secondly, anybody can call anyone else terms of endearment, It depends on d CONTEXT of the conversation.
thirdly, seeing a conversation where terms like sweetheart was used n he promised her money, will it be Unreasonable to infer that, possibly, one party is requesting for help from the oda(financial)

Point is, since it's difficult for y'all to understand, her Jumping to conclusions that the husband is cheating at this point is very hasty .

If she has issues, call him, talk, lay down the rules if necessary, not running down to NL screaming 'Why are men like this'..aka He's cheating.

p.s;I Always say it as it is. u either like it or u don't. Not my problème.







sidenote, inspirational books are all good n dandy but they can never take the place of reality



Peace.

Sophyrocks:
I really dnt take them seriously. They dnt like when a female mentions divorce but they love to shout divorce. Bunch of clowns. Lol.

in their dictionary what is good for the goose is not good for the gander. They only use that line to have their way and form na me sabi argue pass

SAMBARRY:
Don't give me that male gra gra.im not buying it. try next bus top



secondly you got married recently and posted your wedding pictures where everyone congratulated you and wished you a happy married life including me some time ago so on that basis I'm using to type that. You ve been married for a while so you know what marriage looks like from your point of view
.Thank you

which one is male gra gra here

Yes, am married now n so I know d dynamics are different...and I also know as well that tins are not always as clear cut as they seem.
It's quite simple wat I told d o.p, weed d advices here..the married will understand and advice u beta.
Too much m vs f ish here.

No beef okay...
#sidehugs

Male gra gra-egoistical I'm a man so I know it all issh



And yes that's exactly my point. You're married and so you should know BETTER than what you typed this one no be m vs f matter na all these teenagers that are on holiday that are basterdizing nl family section and o yes I receive the hug

dBard:
which one is male gra gra here

Yes, am married now n so I know d dynamics are different...and I also know as well that tins are not always as clear cut as they seem.
It's quite simple wat I told d o.p, weed d advices here..the married will understand and advice u beta.
Too much m vs f ish here.

No beef okay...
#sidehugs

SAMBARRY:
Male gra gra-egoistical I'm a man so I know it all issh



And yes that's exactly my point. You're married and so you should know BETTER than what you typed this one no be m vs f matter na all these teenagers that are on holiday that are basterdizing nl family section and o yes I receive the hug

Better than what I typed
wat part??
that she shouldn't jump to hasty conclusions?
that she should talk to her husband??
or that she should be careful of advices she gets here
read d post again n mine as well, d o.p doesn't even have enough circumstantial evidence to Conclude her husband is cheating..n yet she's here crying wolf n peeps are jumping on d usual bandwagon.

She should handle the situation@hand;he's reaching out/communication with the lady in question and Not getting ahead of herself, crying about wat she May be wrong about...and am talking from the view of a married person.


typically of NL, first 3comments n divorce is already bin bandied about.


anyway,all join.


Peace...like I said b4 , No beef

**hands over the peace pipe*

Since he is still lying about it, he obviously intends on continuing with the affair

EroticAngelina:
oh dear I feel ur pain. some men are just so wicked without a conscience. tell him to stop whatever extra marital affair he z having or u divorce him. but bfor u do that, pray for him.

Can you manage even a richarge card retail shop let alone a home? Look at who's giving advice to person to divorce. Smh!

Shirley07:
It's not by words but deeds. If he's not showing the effort, the marriage is already a facade.

I can't argue further