ameenahz:



Hi. Do you think it is wrong for a married woman to use contraceptives?

Hello. As I said before how a person chooses to make love is their business. My response to that lady was in the light she was judging the OP and acting as if the OP was a fool or it was wrong for her to have unprotected intimacy with her HUSBAND whom she had made plans to build a family and life with.

mutter:



No it`s you I want as a mate so either with my husband or yours. You decide

My husband and I don't believe in sharing each other, we're selfish . You clearly do, so please provide your number via pm or I will believe that you are a man masquerading under a female profile to rile up people. And I will encourage everyone to post on any thread you dare speak on with "Mutter is a 419 pretending to be female, beware".

So, that number, when do I receive it?

carefreewannabe:


Says someone who struggles with reading comprehension.

DieeDiee:


Hello. As I said before how a person chooses to make love is their business. My response to that lady was in the light she was judging the OP and acting as if the OP was a fool or it was wrong for her to have unprotected intimacy with her HUSBAND whom she had made plans to build a family and life with.

I understand you and I am not speaking in the light of hop's issues. My question is a general one. Do you think It is wrong for a married woman to use contraceptive?

ameenahz:




I understand you and I am not speaking in the light of hop's issues. My question is a general one. Do you think It is wrong for a married woman to use contraceptive?

Your question can be viewed from two angles.
1- the moral & principles angle: I have no opinion on the matter. Whether someone does it or not has no bearing on me and it is not my place to judge, do you. Would I do it? I don't know I'm not at a point in my life where that is a concern but what I can tell you is I would do what felt right for me and I wouldn't concern myself with people's opinions. You do you and I do me is my philosophy.
2 - human rights angle: My answer is an unequivocal NO there is absolutely nothing wrong. Your body is yours and yours alone. You have the right to decide what goes on with it.

oyb:
imagine if obamas mother had followed the drunken loser who fathered him to africa

end of.

Bwahahaha!

DieeDiee:


Hello. As I said before how a person chooses to make love is their business. My response to that lady was in the light she was judging the OP and acting as if the OP was a fool or it was wrong for her to have unprotected intimacy with her HUSBAND whom she had made plans to build a family and life with.

She was MORE than foolish.

It's obvious.

Onegai:


My husband and I don't believe in sharing each other, we're selfish. You clearly do, so please provide your number via pm or I will believe that you are a man masquerading under a female profile to rile up people. And I will encourage everyone to post on any thread you dare speak on with "Mutter is a 419 pretending to be female, beware".

So, that number, when do I receive it?

You are certainly mistaken about that. If I was the OP, I would have kicked him out immediatly and then wait for my baby to come, regain my strenght and then take a final decision.
At the end of the day I would not go out of my way to harm him but if that is the step needed to make sure i reduce damages I would not hesitate. For instance I would go on with the divorce even if he looses the his residence status.

The main issue here is that this woman wants the man to herself at all costs so i am just adding one more to her bizarre options.

As for the number- if your friend is good looking and decent I might consider MIL option but not wife.

The OP is a let down to women!

carefreewannabe:


She was MORE than foolish.

It's obvious.

Okay ke we heard you. Now please keep quite you are making a noise.

mutter:


You are certainly mistaken about that. If I was the OP, I would have kicked him out immediatly and then wait for my baby to come, regain my strenght and then take a final decision.
At the end of the day I would not go out of my way to harm him but if that is the step needed to make sure i reduce damages I would not hesitate. For instance I would go on with the divorce even if he looses the his residence status.

The main issue here is that this woman wants the man to herself at all costs so i am just adding one more to her bizarre options.

As for the number- if your friend is good looking and decent I might consider MIL option but not wife.

The OP is a let down to women!

Say what?

DieeDiee:


Your question can be viewed from two angles.
1- the moral & principles angle: I have no opinion on the matter. Whether someone does it or not has no bearing on me and it is not my place to judge, do you. Would I do it? I don't know I'm not at a point in my life where that is a concern but what I can tell you is I would do what felt right for me and I wouldn't concern myself with people's opinions. You do you and I do me is my philosophy.
2 - human rights angle: My answer is an unequivocal NO there is absolutely nothing wrong. Your body is yours and yours alone. You have the right to decide what goes on with it.

Ok. thank you.

With this silence I hope the op is still alive. The guy may have....

ameenahz:



Ok. thank you.

May I ask why you were interested in my opinion?

Sounds like you're speaking from two sides of your mouth.

If you were OP you would kick him out.
Really?

But in your other posts(not just on this thread anyway) you're always advocating women swallowing sh1t in the name of making it work but you won't do the same?
You tell them it is ok to allow cheating and polygamy is cool because you're the perfect african woman but now you're confessing you can't take it?

In fact before she made her idea of a solution known, you had already started blaming her for wanting to deal with the situation even when you know you wouldn't sit down and take it if you were her.

Na wa for you madam mutter.

mutter:


You are certainly mistaken about that. If I was the OP, I would have kicked him out immediatly and then wait for my baby to come, regain my strenght and then take a final decision.
At the end of the day I would not go out of my way to harm him but if that is the step needed to make sure i reduce damages I would not hesitate. For instance I would go on with the divorce even if he looses the his residence status.

The main issue here is that this woman wants the man to herself at all costs so i am just adding one more to her bizarre options.

As for the number- if your friend is good looking and decent I might consider MIL option but not wife.

The OP is a let down to women!

DieeDiee:


May I ask why you were interested in my opinion?

Your post sounded like you have something against married women using contraceptives for any reason at all.

cococandy:
Sounds like you're speaking from two sides of your mouth.

If you were OP you would kick him out.
Really?

But in your other posts(not just on this thread anyway) you're always advocating women swallowing sh1t in the name of making it work but you won't do the same?
You tell them it is ok to allow cheating and polygamy is cool because you're the perfect african woman but now you're confessing you can't take it?

In fact before she made her idea of a solution known, you had already started blaming her for wanting to deal with the situation even when you know you wouldn't sit down and take it if you were her.

Na wa for you madam mutter.

LOLEST!!!
Carefreewannabe and Mutter are both confused. They love judging so much they can't think straight. They are quick to jump and shoot their mouth's off they don't know how to rationalise or they just lack the ability to express themselves.

ameenahz:


Your post sounded like you have something against married women using contraceptives for any reason at all.

Really? But all I did was ask why she should use contraceptives if she's married in answer to what someone said I even gave you context and I even said I don't care what a person does it's their choice what kind of sex they want

I saw your other posts. Are you married and using contraceptives?

DieeDiee:


Really? But all I did was ask why she should use contraceptives if she's married in answer to what someone said I even gave you context and I even said I don't care what a person does it's their choice what kind of sex they want

I saw your other posts. Are you married and using contraceptives?

You made no sense whatsoever in this thread.

cococandy:
Sounds like you're speaking from two sides of your mouth.

If you were OP you would kick him out.
Really?

But in your other posts(not just on this thread anyway) you're always advocating women swallowing sh1t in the name of making it work but you won't do the same?
You tell them it is ok to allow cheating and polygamy is cool because you're the perfect african woman but now you're confessing you can't take it?

In fact before she made her idea of a solution known, you had already started blaming her for wanting to deal with the situation even when you know you wouldn't sit down and take it if you were her.

Na wa for you madam mutter.

Mutter is a miserable woman who seeks company in her misery. That's a fact I know.

DieeDiee:


Really? But all I did was ask why she should use contraceptives if she's married in answer to what someone said I even gave you context and I even said I don't care what a person does it's their choice what kind of sex they want

I saw your other posts. Are you married and using contraceptives?

OK ma.


Yes, I use some forms of contraceptives.

Shirley07:

Mutter is a miserable woman who seeks company in her misery. That's a fact I know.

you know?

How?

Shirley07:

You made no sense whatsoever in this thread.

Not my problem if you don't understand English and I wasn't talking to you anyway

ameenahz:




OK ma.


Yes, I use some forms of contraceptives.

Look if it works for you don't mind other people's opinion. It's your life whatever you do is between you, your husband and Allah. People who judge are really judging themselves not you.

cococandy:
you know?

How?

Lol... Coco stop you know she's going to be foolish enough to answer that.

DieeDiee:


Okay ke we heard you. Now please keep quite you are making a noise.

Do you also have babies with Nigerian men who impregnated you because they needed papers? How many?

DieeDiee:


Lol... Coco stop you know she's going to be foolish enough to answer that.

Well I find mutter intriguing and interesting. If she (Shirley) knows something I don't know,then I'm curious

DieeDiee:


Look if it works for you don't mind other people's opinion. It's your life whatever you do is between you, your husband and Allah. People who judge are really judging themselves not you.

Thank you. I was actually not trying to determine if it is right or wrong. I thought you had a misconception and you think it is absolutely wrong so I felt I should 'correct' you (for lack of a better word). I understand you now.

cococandy:
Sounds like you're speaking from two sides of your mouth.

If you were OP you would kick him out.
Really?

But in your other posts(not just on this thread anyway) you're always advocating women swallowing sh1t in the name of making it work but you won't do the same?
You tell them it is ok to allow cheating and polygamy is cool because you're the perfect african woman but now you're confessing you can't take it?

In fact before she made her idea of a solution known, you had already started blaming her for wanting to deal with the situation even when you know you wouldn't sit down and take it if you were her.

Na wa for you madam mutter.

If I was the OP. The OP is not a nigerian woman and obviously was too naive and even if she was smart, comprehending the Nigerian way of life can take a life time if it does not flow in your blood.

So I do not see myself as contradicting myself. Every case depends on the particular circumstances. While polygamy is part of the nigerian way of life, there is also away to go about it, just as there is a way to go about everything in life.
For a polygamous marriage all parties have to know about it but in this case it does seem that the man does not want the OP to know about it and is till now making no efforts to tell her the truth.
The OP knows the truth and is making all eforts to cling in the false hope that she can eliminate "Adamma" in Edo.

Oh well.
I guess in essence you believe in doing things according to the dictates of the environment /society where you are in.

Ok

mutter:


If I was the OP. The OP is not a nigerian woman and obviously was too naive and even if she was smart, comprehending the Nigerian way of life can take a life time if it does not flow in your blood.

So I do not see myself as contradicting myself. Every case depends on the particular circumstances. While polygamy is part of the nigerian way of life, there is also away to go about it, just as there is a way to go about everything in life.
For a polygamous marriage all parties have to know about it but in this case it does seem that the man does not want the OP to know about it and is till now making no efforts to tell her the truth.
The OP knows the truth and is making all eforts to cling in the false hope that she can eliminate "Adamma" in Edo.

carefreewannabe:


Do you also have babies with Nigerian men who impregnated you because they needed papers? How many?

I'm confused. Was this supposed to sting? FYI you are going to need to try harder and come up with something intelligent because stupidity flies over my head.

(This is another example of your foolish nature to jump to conclusions without even a cause.)

DieeDiee:


I'm confused. Was this supposed to sting? FYI you are going to need to try harder and come up with something intelligent because stupidity flies over my head.

(This is another example of your foolish nature to jump to conclusions without even a cause.)

Tell us, how many men have used you to get their papers? Miss Feeling funky when she says let everybody do what they want when she doesn't even know what it is like to pay loads of taxes when at the same time mixed race kids don't know what it is like to have a father and a mother. Foo*lish kid.