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elantraceey:
In just a year?


You people are making marriage look so easy o

Any relationship more than 2 yrs , with kurukere road. Run for your life

Carefree - where did you meet your spouse.
Tpiah - why did you meet your spouse.


Now I'm going to bed

Chillisauce:
Carefree - where did you meet your spouse.
Tpiah - why did you meet your spouse.


Now I'm going to bed

You aren't serious.

Chillisauce:
Any relationship more than 2 yrs , with kurukere road. Run for your life

I preferred long relationships o

elantraceey:



I preferred long relationships o

Like 7yrs kind of.
Wetin I wan come do for the honey moon again

moca:
Abeg TV01, come and finish what u started
I'm interested

Moca, notin' to report o jare!

After being introduced to almost all the eligible women in the Pentecostal - and Nigerian community circles - London and SE UK (reesh Ireland sef) with nothing forthcoming - I was beginning to wonder? Different, different types of excuse; too short, too dark, scrawny, not in IT, drives small car, no property doesn't dress well, eats salad etc. etc.

As if finishing me wasn't enough, there were also questions about my family and lineage. "Is he not so and so's grandson", "wait 0, isn't he related to so and so"? Then one didn't actually make any complaint, just burst out laughing - I was in absolute despair - was marriage really meant for me or I for marriage?

All my mates were long since married and I was in that situation were even most of my younger ones were married. I know what it's like when they call you "uncle" with the silent "useless" before it. I was always the first call when someone was doing intro or naming. Afterall, "what is he doing"?

We thank God for technological advances

TV

TV01:
Moca, notin' to report o jare!

After being introduced to almost all the eligible women in the Pentecostal - and Nigerian community circles - London and SE UK (reesh Ireland sef) with nothing forthcoming - I was beginning to wonder? Different, different types of excuse; too short, too dark, scrawny, not in IT, drives small car, no property doesn't dress well, eats salad etc. etc.

As if finishing me wasn't enough, there were also questions about my family and lineage. "Is he not so and so's grandson", "wait 0, isn't he related to so and so"? Then one didn't actually make any complaint, just burst out laughing - I was in absolute despair - was marriage really meant for me or I for marriage?

All my mates were long since married and I was in that situation were even most of my younger ones were married. I know what it's like when they call you "uncle" with the silent "useless" before it. I was always the first call when someone was doing intro or naming. Afterall, "what is he doing?

We thank God for technological advances

TV

Yeso!
Thanks for sharing. Unless u don't want to, I believe everybody has a spouse waiting somewhere.
Sometimes, it looks like a fairy tale but that's d plain truth

May ur union continue to blossom!

elantraceey:



I preferred long relationships o

It's only few that stand d test of time
By then most gals are disadvantaged(u know what I mean)

Chillisauce:
Like 7yrs kind of.
Wetin I wan come do for the honey moon again

No na ,7yrs too much na , like 3-4


The special side go still dey na

moca:
It's only few that stand d test of time
By then most gals are disadvantaged(u know what I mean)

That's true o but both short and long has it's advantages and disadvantages.

TV01:
Moca, notin' to report o jare!

After being introduced to almost all the eligible women in the Pentecostal - and Nigerian community circles - London and SE UK (reesh Ireland sef) with nothing forthcoming - I was beginning to wonder? Different, different types of excuse; too short, too dark, scrawny, not in IT, drives small car, no property doesn't dress well, eats salad etc. etc.

As if finishing me wasn't enough, there were also questions about my family and lineage. "Is he not so and so's grandson", "wait 0, isn't he related to so and so"? Then one didn't actually make any complaint, just burst out laughing - I was in absolute despair - was marriage really meant for me or I for marriage?

All my mates were long since married and I was in that situation were even most of my younger ones were married. I know what it's like when they call you "uncle" with the silent "useless" before it. I was always the first call when someone was doing intro or naming. Afterall, "what is he doing?

We thank God for technological advances

TV

ROFL

TV, you cracked me up.

Just to be sure, did you complain that the girls eat salad or did they complain?

Chillisauce:
Carefree - where did you meet your spouse.
Tpiah - why did you meet your spouse.


Now I'm going to bed

elantraceey:
No na ,7yrs too much na , like 3-4


The special side go still dey na

Even that one's still quite long.

If the man and woman know what they want, then why wait beyond a year? Or two maximum?

Hazardd:
your story is not interesting jor

This had me in stitches!!!

That's some brutally honest tone man.

I actually didn't understand her story at all and I was going to say something close to what you said but I didn't want to rain on anybody's parade, besides, this thread has a very warm, gentle feel and I didn't want to spoil that

@OP

Verg nice thread.

elantraceey:
That's true o but both short and long has it's advantages and disadvantages.

You are right.

Besides, no need to rush. Each couple has their own time.

InZA:
This had me in stitches!!!

That's some brutally honest tone man.

I actually didn't understand her story at all and I was going to say something close to what you said but I didn't want to rain on anybody's parade, besides, this thread has a very warm, gentle feel and I didn't want to spoil that

@OP

Verg nice thread.

You did the right thing first and then spoilt it.

carefreewannabe:
You did the right thing first and then spoilt it.

I know right

I couldn't help it.

Sorry

InZA:
I know right

I couldn't help it.

Sorry

It's ok.

Have you got a story to tell?

TV01:
Moca, notin' to report o jare!

After being introduced to almost all the eligible women in the Pentecostal - and Nigerian community circles - London and SE UK (reesh Ireland sef) with nothing forthcoming - I was beginning to wonder? Different, different types of excuse; too short, too dark, scrawny, not in IT, drives small car, no property doesn't dress well, eats salad etc. etc.

As if finishing me wasn't enough, there were also questions about my family and lineage. "Is he not so and so's grandson", "wait 0, isn't he related to so and so"? Then one didn't actually make any complaint, just burst out laughing - I was in absolute despair - was marriage really meant for me or I for marriage?

All my mates were long since married and I was in that situation were even most of my younger ones were married. I know what it's like when they call you "uncle" with the silent "useless" before it. I was always the first call when someone was doing intro or naming. Afterall, "what is he doing?

We thank God for technological advances

TV

what a description!

We lived 5houses away from eachother for years,i was very young though and he graduted early and moved to a bigger city so we only see during the holls but he was closer to my mum.He came home for Xmas dt year and i caught him staring at my hips and sayin,you are big girl now oo (me i was lyk see ds boda o )not to bore you,we dated for 4yrs and we now have gorgeous 1yr old,il choose him in d next life and after..........!

Lumpyy:
We lived 5houses away from eachother for years,i was very young though and he graduted early and moved to a bigger city so we only see during the holls but he was closer to my mum.He came home for Xmas dt year and i caught him staring at my hips and sayin,you are big girl now oo (me i was lyk see ds boda o )not to bore you,we dated for 4yrs and we now have gorgeous 1yr old,il choose him in d next life and after..........!

Did you ever think he could be this one before this Xmas holiday?

EfemenaXY:
Even that one's still quite long.

If the man and woman know what they want, then why wait beyond a year? Or two maximum?

Well i will say to understand each other better , you know humans are very good at pretending but not for long , it depends on the age of the lady sha and if they are both ready to tie the knot on time.

Lumpyy:
We lived 5houses away from eachother for years,i was very young though and he graduted early and moved to a bigger city so we only see during the holls but he was closer to my mum.He came home for Xmas dt year and i caught him staring at my hips and sayin,you are big girl now oo (me i was lyk see ds boda o )not to bore you,we dated for 4yrs and we now have gorgeous 1yr old,il choose him in d next life and after..........!

Chaii don't cut the story na

Otta, 2003: Sunday afternoon, went to drop off dad's car at the mechanic, had no change(bike fare was #30 and I had a #1000 note on me) and decided to enjoy a walk home. I decide to explore a new route and, viola, I come upon a business centre and decide to put a call through to a friend make we for hang out; see we had phones but no airtime in those days.

Someone was on the phone when I got there so, I had to wait my turn. In the meantime, there was a lovely looking gyal sitting by the side eating ofada rice and as I was hungry I asked to join, and with the most dazzling smile made to give me the dish, I said thanks and said I was kidding and asked her name which she told me. So, I put my phone on silent mode, took their phone and dialled my number twice and told them the guy didn't pick, I totally forgot to call my homey.

I get home and dial the number and asked to speak to her, it turns out she was the daughter of the phone centre woman and I only had the chance to chat her up because mom was attending to another customer. Anyway, her mom tells me to call her own phone and I say it's not going through. She hands over the phone to daugjter and I proceed to introduce myself "erm, I'm the guy that asked for rice now now. Please, don't hang up". Somehow, she found it funny and the rest is history. We're currently trying for baby number 2. Hehehehe.

carefreewannabe:
It's ok.

Have you got a story to tell?

Maybe by this time next year I'd have a story. *fingersandLegsandHandsandMouthCrossed*

Lumpyy:
i caught him staring at my hips and sayin,you are big girl now oo

I'm giving that brother major side eye right now.

moca:
Yeso!
Thanks for sharing. Unless u don't want to, I believe everybody has a spouse waiting somewhere.
Sometimes, it looks like a fairy tale but that's d plain truth

May ur union continue to blossom!

Amen.
My actually finding someone was a miracle - I was convinced it was a single life - maybe as a missionary for me. I sold every asset I had and just had one big pile of cash. Just waiting to be directed to my duty station .

carefreewannabe:
ROFL

TV, you cracked me up.

Just to be sure, did you complain that the girls eat salad or did they complain?

Me complain? Who dash monkey banana? I just used to turn up for dates - or call, I did lots of cold calling - with a hopeful look on my face (or tone of voice). I only provided a snapshot of reasons.

Even the good ones were turned into excuses. "Why always gymming? at least you are not fat na"? "You mean you have no children or have never been married? What's wrong with you. I'd be more comfortable if you had some tangible history - what are you hiding?"

Most of them didn't pass first date. And I suspect that many of the ones that persevered through the first date were mostly out of pity. Second dates sef, I used to fear. That's when they would bring up their immigration issues and explain how they needed to marry within the next 3 months or return home !. Or their impending homelessness, or dire financial situation.


TV

Lumpyy:
,il choose him in d next life and after........!

Best part of the story.

Lovely thread but not for single guys like me.
I'll keep watching.

carefreewannabe:


Did you ever think he could be this one before this Xmas holiday?

Hmmmmm,not before he came o,but i was sure the minute he did cos he asked me to marry him str8 ni ,my mum wasso excited she dint sleep tru d night because wev know the family for ages and he was obviously a gentle man!

TV01:
Amen.
My actually finding someone was a miracle - I was convinced it was a single life - maybe as a missionary for me. I sold every asset had and just had one big pile of cash. Just waiting to be directed to my duty station .




Me complain? Who dash monkey banana? I just used to turn up for dates - or call, I did lots of cold calling - with a hopeful look on my face (or tone of voice). I only provided a snapshot of reasons.

Even the good ones were turned into excuses. "Why always gymming? at least you are not fat na"? "You mean you have no children or have never been married? What's wrong with you. I'd be more comfortable if you had some tangible history - what are you hiding?"

Most of them didn't pass first date. And I suspect that many of the ones that persevered through the first date were mostly out of pity. Second dates sef, I used to fear. That's when they would bring up their immigration issues and explain how they needed to marry within the next 3 months or return home !. Or their impending homelessness, or dire financial situation.


TV

But everything was different when you met your wife, right?
Please tell us more, only if you don't mind, of course. Sorry for being so curious. I was born this way.

Lumpyy:
Hmmmmm,not before he came o,but i was sure the minute he did cos he asked me to marry him str8 ni ,my mum wasso excited she dint sleep tru d night because wev know the family for ages and he was obviously a gentle man!

Nice story.

Timbuktou:
Otta, 2003: Sunday afternoon, went to drop off dad's car at the mechanic, had no change(bike fare was #30 and I had a #1000 note on me) and decided to enjoy a walk home. I decide to explore a new route and, viola, I come upon a business centre and decide to put a call through to a friend make we for hang out; see we had phones but no airtime in those days.

Someone was on the phone when I got there so, I had to wait my turn. In the meantime, there was a lovely looking gyal sitting by the side eating ofada rice and as I was hungry I asked to join, and with the most dazzling smile made to give me the dish, I said thanks and said I was kidding and asked her name which she told me. So, I put my phone on silent mode, took their phone and dialled my number twice and told them the guy didn't pick, I totally forgot to call my homey.

I get home and dial the number and asked to speak to her, it turns out she was the daughter of the phone centre woman and I only had the chance to chat her up because mom was attending to another customer. Anyway, her mom tells me to call her own phone and I say it's not going through. She hands over the phone to daugjter and I proceed to introduce myself "erm, I'm the guy that asked for rice now now. Please, don't hang up". Somehow, she found it funny and the rest is history. We're currently trying for baby number 2. Hehehehe.

I like your story a lot.

Sometimes it is good when things develop their own way, like not having change when you actually need it or having to wait in a queue.