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The 9 relationship stages that all couples
experience
Are you in a new relationship? Or are you in a
seasoned relationship with someone you’ve been
with for several years?
It doesn’t matter how long your relationship has
lasted, because all the relationships will fit snugly
in one of these relationship stages.
Find your own relationship stage here, and it’ll
definitely help you understand your own love life
better.
Stage #1 The infatuation stage. This is the first
stage in every relationship. It almost always
starts with an intense attraction and an
uncontrollable urge to be with each other. Both of
you may be intensely sexually attracted to each
other, or both of you may just love the cuddles
and each other’s company. In this stage, both of
you overlook any flaws of each other and only
focus on the good sides.

Stage #2 The understanding stage. In this stage,
both of you start getting to know each other
better. You have long conversations with your
partner that stretches late into the night, and
everything about your partner interests and
fascinates you. You talk about each other’s
families, exes, likes and dislikes and other
innocent secrets, and life seems so beautiful and
romantic.
Stage #3 The stage of disturbances. This stage
usually forces its way into a happy romance after
a few months of blissful courting. Do you
remember the first fight or angry disagreement
you and your partner had? For the first time ever
in the relationship, both of you confront each
other over a conflict, even though it’s sorted out
quickly.

Stage #4 The opinion maker. In this stage, both
of you create opinions about each other. As the
months pass by, both of you know what to expect
from each other, and you make an assumption
about your partner’s commitment towards the
relationship.
When these opinions and expectations about your
partner differ now and then in real life, it can
either leave you ecstatic or depressed.
You don’t expect your man to buy you flowers,
but he does. You feel ecstatic. At the same time,
you expect him to pick you up from the airport on
time. But he arrives an hour later because he
forgot all about picking you up. It depresses you.
Stage

#5 The moulding stage. You have your own
expectations from an ideal partner. And in this
stage, both of you try hard to mould each other to
fit your own wants in a perfect partner. This
stage is a lot about give and take, and both
partners constantly try to subtly convince each
other to change their behavior towards the
relationship. This is a power struggle, and one
that can end the relationship if both partners are
domineering.

Stage #6 The happy stage. If the relationship
survives past the moulding stage, both of you
may have changed equally for each other and
understood each other’s expectations. In this
stage, the relationship cruises along perfectly and
both of you may be blissfully happy with each
other.
Almost always, this is the stage when both of you
feel like a perfect match. You may even decide to
get engaged or get married. This happy stage is
also the stage of attachment when both of you
truly feel connected to each other and love each
other intensely.


Stage #7 The stage of doubts. It’s been several
years since both of you have been in a
relationship with each other. And somewhere
along the way, doubts start to creep in. The
intensity of the doubts depend on how happy both
of you are in the relationship.
You start to think of your past relationships, your
exes, and other prospective partners. You tie your
happiness in life with your relationship. If you’re
unhappy, you blame it on the relationship.
In this stage, you start comparing your
relationship with other couples and other
relationships. Would your relationship survive this
stage? It definitely could, as long as your
relationship isn’t monotonous and repetitive.

Stage #8 The sexual exploration or bust stage.
This is the stage when your sex life starts to play
a pivotal role. Both your sex drives may change
or one of you may get disinterested in sex.
In this stage, you either give up on passionate sex
or constantly look for ways to make sex more
exciting. If sexual interests start differing here,
one of you may end up having an affair. But on
the other hand, if you find creative ways to make
sex more exciting, your relationship could get
better and bring both of you a lot closer.


Stage #9 The stage of complete trust. This is the
happy stage when both of you love each other
and trust each other completely. But at the same
time, the unbreakable trust in each other could
also turn into taking each other for granted.
In this stage, both of you know the direction of
the relationship and both of you are completely
happy with each other and find it easy to predict
each other’s behavior and decisions. But with
stability in love comes the urge to take each
other for granted.
As pleasant as this final stage of love may be,
it’s still no excuse to take each other lightly or
stop appreciating each other, because love is an
intense emotion that can be rekindled by anyone
else at any time if you fail to express your
romance to your lover.
If you’re in a relationship for a while, you may
have experienced all or most of these relationship
stages. And if you’re still in a young love, don’t
let the dark side of these relationship stages scare
you.

Instead, look at these 9 relationship stages as
stepping stones into a better future, one that’s
filled with a lot of love and happiness, just as
long as both of you remember to keep love alive
all the time.

Any other stage/s I omitted, please add yours.
Disagree with some? let me know
Holyjossy

Not all couple get to the no. 9 stage.

Princecalm:
Not all couple get to the no. 9 stage.

But at least, 80%of couples do.

holyjossy01:
But at least, 80%of couples do.

less than that, a couple might live their entire life without attaining that stage.

cAvEat EMPTOR

Nyc, op try n arrange ur post.

@op u don marry

Op you are very right honestly I experienced everything you mentioned infact you nailed it all but thank God am now in stage 9 but na God's grace o e no easy at all