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For single people, marriage seems to be like magic pills. Their are dozens of myths about married life. And now its high time for them to be debunked.

1. Marriage can fix your problems:

The whole idea that everything in your life will get better after rings is put on your fingers is pretty silly.

Imagine two people who have a lots of problem. No job, bad habit, no money. If this two people managed to fall in love and marry, how on earth would their marriage create beter cirmcumstances for them.

If you are going to marry a person whose habits annoy you- don't think they would disappear after the wedding. Any habit, tendency or addiction that your has BEFORE your wedding day will probably get worse after you are married.
It will get worse or just annoy you more. Either way, the time to see change is before you say, "I DO".

2. Married people have less love life:

Of course it's a myth. Married people have 43% intimacy than single.
Clearly, there period in a marriage in a marriage where ssex can suffer, for example where they are small babies in the family. But on the whole, marriage has only positive effect on your intimate life.

3. Married people are lonely:

Being single often equal being lonley. But being in a bad relationship is a million times worse than having no relationship at all. Married persons can feel loneliness too. In the context of marriage, this may be much worse for them.

4. Marriage can make you happier:

If you are not happy with yourself, nobody will make you feel happy. Marriage doesn't make you happy. It can bring you great joy, companionship and satisfaction. But alongside, it can also bring you frustration, anger, annoyance and confusion.

5. It is a finish line:

Consciously or subconsciously, some feel that they've "made" it and achieved something. And this is a dangerous attitude to take. The scary idea that you have got him or her and you don't need to try anymore start to enter your mind. You should better remember that being attractive, being attentive, being romantic, sharing intimately and remaining connected are vital to a long-lasting relationship.

6. 'I had enough of fun, I'm ready to settle now':

The idea that 50-year-old man need less 'fun' than a 25-year-old is ridiculous. If you see marriage as some sort of tremendous sacrifice, that's a warning sign. Marriage brings new responsibilities, but your union will give you some new fun and satisfaction.

7. Marriage is a hard work.

Marriage doesn't need work. Marriage needs attention, yous spouse need your full undivided attention at times. The time that you gave to your marriage will pay expontential divedends in joy, companionship, sexual satisfaction and teamwork. But it should fee like work if you are happy, it would rather feel like a play.

vision 2020

looking for the right candidate.

i wouldnt insert my ballot paper in worn out ballot boxes

This February cannot come in your life time again. Because This year February has 4sundays, 4mondays, 4 tuesdays, 4 wednesdays, 4thrusdays, 4 fridays & 4 saturdays. This Happens once every 823years. This is called money bags.

kilokeys:
vision 2020

looking for the right candidate.

i wouldnt insert my ballot paper in worn out ballot boxes

re u kidding me? This z not a political thread...

The truth still remains marriage is not meant for everybody.

vanen2:
This February cannot come in your life time again. Because This year February has 4sundays, 4mondays, 4 tuesdays, 4 wednesdays, 4thrusdays, 4 fridays & 4 saturdays. This Happens once every 823years. This is called money bags.

e be like say u don miss road oo

Princecalm:
The truth still remains marriage is not meant for everybody.

nd it's not meant 4 u 2 abi?

2undexy:
nd it's not meant 4 u 2 abi?

time will tell if it is meant for me or not.

Princecalm:
time will tell if it is meant for me or not.

i seee

2undexy:
e be like say u don miss road oo

i think sey na only me know.

Nice points.

However, this only deepens my concern that marriage doesn't look interesting to me anymore. My guys who are married think it's about finding the "right" partner but I feel it's the idea of a partner that doesn't appeal to me. I like my solitary life even though I am friendly and a bit extroverted.

Like someone said it is not for everyone. I don't know if it is for me.

2undexy:
i seee

yeah

8*) couple tend to look alike when they've been together for long

Princecalm:
yeah

buh m sure u have/had a gf

Princecalm:
i think sey na only me know.

no b only u, u plenty

only number 7 is not a myth

Tymax:
Nice points.

However, this only deepens my concern that marriage doesn't look interesting to me anymore. My guys who are married think it's about finding the "right" partner but I feel it's the idea of a partner that doesn't appeal to me. I like my solitary life even though I am friendly and a bit extroverted.

Like someone said it is not for everyone. I don't know if it is for me.

bro u dey fall my hand ooo, u mean u re nt quiet sure if u will get married?

SELENAqueensy:
8*) couple tend to look alike when they've been together for long

that's a fact

achinaboy:
only number 7 is not a myth

can u explain y?

Noted

2undexy:
can u explain y?

nothing to explain,,marriage is a hard work,requires hard work,harder harder works,not a myth

achinaboy:
nothing to explain,,marriage is a hard work,requires hard work,harder harder works,not a myth

hmmm...sort of

2undexy:
bro u dey fall my hand ooo, u mean u re nt quiet sure if u will get married?

I'm sorry bro, but that's how it is.

2undexy:
buh m sure u have/had a gf

having a gf does not mean you must marry her.

Princecalm:
having a gf does not mean you must marry her.

mayb.....or mayb not