Sexual molestation is one big problem we ought to tackle in our society. We don't have to leave it all to the police. We can help ourselves, starting from our homes. Dads and mums, if you know none of you can sit home and take care of your children, then be very careful with the kind of house boy/girl, gateman, gardener or nanny you take into your homes.

I was molested twice at about 5-7 and 9-10 years of age. I used to see female to male molestation as not often severe compared to male to female molestation or same sex molestation. Truth is, they are often the same. Although I believe that same sex molestation is the most horrible because for males, it not only comes with a brain re-orientation (brain re-wiring) but also comes with a deformity. I can recall vividly that even at that age, without sëmen secretion, I very much enjoyed the molestation (my first sex). The problems attached to this kind of scenario is often felt later in life and now, I look back at the life I lead and could connect my wrongs with the very first encounter I had with a woman. This is my story:

I was a child born into a broken home with a poor dad. After my mum and dad separated when I was a year old, I had to move from Lagos to my village with my dad. In the village, an uncle of mine living close by had two maids and a house boy. The first maid (name withheld) was more matured in the way she lived and was descent unlike the second maid named Eucheria. I often go to my uncle's house innocently to run errands for my dad or my grandma (may her lovely soul RIP). I didn't know at that point in time that I had a much older admirer, say about 18-23 years old, waiting for the right time to lure me into her room with some sweet words. I knew nothing about sex at that age. I was innocent.

On one faithful day, I went on an errand and this time, I met the abscense of everyone except Eucharia. They almost always left the house together and were always home together but this time, she was the only one home. Didn't smell anything fishy since I was only a kid. She called me and I responded and here is exactly how our discussion went:

Eucharia: How are you?
Me: fine.
Eucharia: (She smiled) There is something I'd like to do with you. You will enjoy it.
*(Innocent and naive little me thought it was only play and I enjoyed playing very much as a kid) I smiled back*
Eucharia: Will you like to follow me inside so that we do it?
Me: Yes (I said happily)
*We went inside and she had the door bolted. She took off her cloths and I looked away. She had me turn my face towards her and kissed me. She then took mine off and*

Eucharia: Climb on top of me (she said in a soft tone).
*Naive little me did what she said like a student following a teacher's instructions*
Eucharia: What we're about to do is very much fun. You will love it.

*She kissed me again and started stroking my pënis, I felt fulfilled with her fingers all over me as if she was working on a guitar. She opened her legs and a smell filled the room. She put me inside her. It was the best day of my life as at then.

Till today, I still wondered why she chose me. Was it because I was very tall and people didn't seem to know I was way younger than I looked. But all the same, nobody would have placed me above 10-12 years of age at that stage and having sex with a 10-12 years old boy is/was still molestation.

We were having the fun of our lives till we heard a knock at the door. It was my uncle's house boy at the door. He was back from the market. She slowed it down and made me keep quiet. Guess I didn't need telling at that moment to know that what we were doing was bad. We kept mute till he walked away and we dressed up. She opened the door and had me stay outside like nothing happened between us. When I saw the houseboy, I noticed his suspicion but I still acted innocent*

Ever since I had that sex, I've not being the same. I started having sexual urge. I still didn't show it. The whole thing between me and my uncle's maid ended at one shot. It was like a one night stand. That compound was always crowded so she utilized the slightest chance she got and used it to disvirgin me. It would have continued but it wasn't long before my mum came to the village to pick me up and head back to Lagos.

I missed her very much. I wished then that we did play together the way we did the other day. But as faith had it, I went back to Lagos.

About three years passed and I had gotten her off my mine. My mum had rented an apartment at Orile Iganmu. Due to the nature of her restaurant businesses, she had her employees, her mum, her sister, etc, live with us in our 3 bedroom flat. It wasn't funny. I and my siblings had to share one room with some of the workers and the two house girls. Njideka, one of the house girls was 17 as at then.

I had a very big problem at my tender age. I slept like a half dead person and when woken up, I often sleep walk. On a particular day I slept hungry, I was woken up to take my dinner only for me to throw the food in trash can and go back to sleep. I was told what happened in the morning but I didn't believe it.

I was sleeping close to Njideka one very night and had been woken up by her. She asked me to climb on top of her and have sex with her. We lay between 2 other people and this very girl thought that someone wouldn't hear her talk or hear her moan, except the people lying close to us were dead bodies. Truth is, I acted that night based on my sleep issues. I didn't know what I was doing till one of my mum's worker caught us. Just like a drunk person who suddenly gets sobber, I woke up from my slumber and untop of our 17 years old house girl.

The lady that caught us threatened to tell my mum. I knew that if she tells my mum, I was finished. I usually preferred being flogged in school than at home. I never cried when I was flogged in school but whenever my mum handles me, I dare not save any teardrops. She normally pounced on her prey(s) with whatever she played her hands on, like shoes, hanger, padlock, pots etc. By then, my sister and other people in the room had woken up. People in the room were all asking me to beg the lady not to tell my mum about it.

I hated being flogged by my mum but I also didn't like begging. At that little age, I had a very bad habit of not being able to beg for forgiveness, so I didn't plead with the lady. Njideka pleaded all she liked but the lady still told my mum the next morning. The most annoying thing about that lady was that she lied to my mum that I was pleading she not report my actions to her. Hell was let loose when my mum came back the night of the day she was told about what had happened, as my mum not only flogged me for having sex, she also flogged me for attempting to hide it from her. I got the worst beating of my life that very night. Njideka didn't get it easy too. She was even dealt with more than I was but not even a tear drop rolled down her eyes. I guess that was why mumsy flogged her more because she hated not bringing tears out of somebody's eyes when she's beating up that person. We were made to carry heavy stools while the flogging continued.

After this event, I was fully exposed to the opposite sex. I was still in primary school. I had a girlfriend in school. Her twin brother Ubong was my best friend. Ufong and her brother shared stuff with me and I shared mine with them. Ufong always sitted very close to me. She never like sharing sits with any other person. I liked her and I often fingered her in the classroom when lesson wasn't going on. The whole event was short lived when I was given double promotion after that academic year.

I was spoilt beyond measure. I was obsessed with girls/ladies. I recall vividly a certain night I was touching one of my mum's workers while she was asleep. She was way older than I was. She woke up and asked me:

Cynthia: What are you doing.
*I didn't respond*
Cynthia: Do you want to have sex with me?
Me: Yes
*Seriously, I didn't know where this boldness came from*
Cynthia: We will only kiss today and then we'll have sex tomorrow.
*I thought to myself, wow, how was this possible and surprisingly, we kissed that day and had sex the next day*

I was lost. And it took several years for me to regain my senses. I would have been a world class harlot had it not been for the kind of home I had and after primary school, I lost all the swags i used for getting girls. This was because I was made to attend Government College Lagos (GCL) Erikmore, which was a male school. I didn't turn a harlot but what I turned into was far worse...

I lost my senses whenever I lay with a lady. Whenever a female family friend visits, I wouldn't sleep at night because I was always busy touching them. It was terrible to the point that I extended it to a few of my cousins. I'm not proud of my story but I hope to use it to get a message out there.

It took till I was about 20 and an admission into the university for me to stop my abominable character. Although I stopped touching girls at night, the sexual urge didn't go. My school helped me concentrate more on academics so I only had sex with girls when I was on holiday. I had slept with pretty girls, but I also slept with ugly ones because I couldn't just say no. That is, once my dick is hard and she gives me a go ahead, I wouldn't send her looks. I do it. Although am a changed person today.

The only thing that I'm proud of about my sex life is that I never raped any girl till today.

So parents or would be parents, watch who you keep your children with. A day's molestation can damage a child's life for good.

I thank God you are now a changed person and I believe people will learn one or two things from your story.

Most parents are very careless with their kids.I pray God gives us the Grace.

Thank God for your life, I hope some parents will learn from this

Thanks to you two. I actually feel like if mum and dad hadn't separated, I would have lived a better life. But all the same, future is what counts more...

anthoniaz:

I thank God you are now a changed person and I believe people will learn one or two things from your story.
Most parents are very careless with their kids.I pray God gives us the Grace.

ernecy:
Thank God for your life, I hope some parents will learn from this

francizy:


So parents or would be parents, watch who you keep your children with. A day's molestation can damage a child's life for good.

@bolded, that is all

francizy:
Thanks to you two. I actually feel like if mum and dad hadn't separated, I would have lived a better life. But all the same, future is what counts more...

Yes the present and future. Glad you turned out right.

bennyrazz:
@bolded, that is all

True..

but at the end of the day you also molested girls and imposed yourself on them and I am sure some only said yes because they were scared to say no.
Being abused does not give you a right to abuse others back.
Thank God you have changed but have you asked your victims if they were able to have a normal life after that

mutter:
but at the end of the day you also molested girls and imposed yourself on them and I am sure some only said yes because they were scared to say no.
Being abused does not give you a right to abuse others back.
Thank God you have changed but have you asked your victims if they were able to have a normal life after that

I never imposed myself on any girl. I don't know what was difficult for you to understand there. I've never given any girl any reason to get scared when with me and I never will. I've dated girls that I've spent time with and without having sex with them, even after seeing them naked. Does this whole thing actually make me the devil? Acting out of what was impacted in me by people?

Are you a saint? If you have sinned before then you don't have the rights to criticize me. You didn't even show any sign that what those girls did to me was bad, you just omitted all that and jumped straight to biting my behind.

It seems you probably felt bad that I talked about girls that molested kids. Just hope you ain't one of them...

francizy:


I never imposed myself on any girl. I don't know what was difficult for you to understand there. I've never given any girl any reason to get scared when with me and I never will. I've dated girls that I've spent time with and without having sex with them, even after seeing them naked. Does this whole thing actually make me the devil? Acting out of what was impacted in me by people?

Are you a saint? If you have sinned before then you don't have the rights to criticize me. You didn't even show any sign that what those girls did to me was bad, you just omitted all that and jumped straight to biting my behind.

It seems you probably felt bad that I talked about girls that molested kids. Just hope you ain't one of them...

I am sorry I did not sympathize with you!
Yes what was done to you was evil, it was wrong.

But you see you were also not "forced" with physical force but you were still forced because pressure was mounted on you and you had no choice, their will was imposed on you.

But that does not justify your doing the same to others.
If you ask a house help to sleep with you, she would do it for fear of you maltreating her or coursing her to leave.
You just have to admit that there was no justification for what you did.

i am certainly not condemning you but also just pointing that out to you.
If you have a chance apologize to your victims.

mutter:


I am sorry I did not sympathize with you!
Yes what was done to you was evil, it was wrong.

But you see you were also not "forced" with physical force but you were still forced because pressure was mounted on you and you had no choice, their will was imposed on you.

But that does not justify your doing the same to others.
If you ask a house help to sleep with you, she would do it for fear of you maltreating her or coursing her to leave.
You just have to admit that there was no justification for what you did.

i am certainly not condemning you but also just pointing that out to you.
If you have a chance apologize to your victims.

OK...

Though I still hold that you misinterpreted some of my write ups. I never touched any house help. The ones I had encounters with took advantage of me.

The first took advantage of the fact that I was naive. The second took advantage of my condition. If I were fully awake, I wouldn't be foolish enough sleeping with the second one, knowing fully well that I could be caught and dealt with mercilessly.

As for the girls I had touched at night, they pretty much understood what my condition was and till date am very much close to 3 of them while I still talk with the remaining 2. If I hadnt had sex at a tender age, how would have known anything about man and woman when at my tender age I was made to distance myself from girls till I was disvirgined by my uncle's house help.

All the same, thanks for your contribution.

Thank God for ur life.a lot of molestation is going on these days.that am scared of raising a kid in this world.
Let me say this in pidgin so everyon would understand:if you get any small pikin .hm you better watch that neighbor , uncle , aunt , family friend who is always friendly .a word is enough for the wise.i de come make i go check my pot of soup for fire..

drajjay:
Thank God for ur life.a lot of molestation is going on these days.that am scared of raising a kid in this world.

Seriously!

Just read one about children of 2-5 years molested by men of 40-50something. Felt like crying.

I remember a couple of years ago a male Nigerian artist had talked about his sexual abuse as a child at the hands of their maid. The guy got laughed at on social media. He was called everything from a punk to a liar. It was sad to read that. Sexual abuse regardless of the gender will leave scars. May God protect our children

Feel for you bro.

I was 7 or 8,mine was with Anty Evelyn,a neighbour.Till she moved out of the house,this went on.I recall never looking forward to an encounter with her but couldn't resist whenever she carried out her plans on me.

The rest is history now.

CyrusXandria:
Feel for you bro.

I was 7 or 8,mine was with Anty Evelyn,a neighbour.Till she moved out of the house,this went on.I recall never looking forward to an encounter with her but couldn't resist whenever she carried out her plans on me.

The rest is history now.

The truth is that people do not make a big deal out of male child molestation. Its not even like these females in question are ugly. Can't recall the looks of the first one that had it with me but I know the second was pretty. They would have gotten more older guys outside but I guess they were ashamed of asking grown up guys for sex.

I learnt a lot in life and I will hopefully use what I've learnt in training my unborn children.

I just hope you weren't much as affected as I was.

Peace bro and thanks for your comment.

soulglo:
I remember a couple of years ago a male Nigerian artist had talked about his sexual abuse as a child at the hands of their maid. The guy got laughed at on social media. He was called everything from a punk to a liar. It was sad to read that. Sexual abuse regardless of the gender will leave scars. May God protect our children

Amen

francizy:


OK...

Though I still hold that you misinterpreted some of my write ups. I never touched any house help. The ones I had encounters with took advantage of me.

The first took advantage of the fact that I was naive. The second took advantage of my condition. If I were fully awake, I wouldn't be foolish enough sleeping with the second one, knowing fully well that I could be caught and dealt with mercilessly.

As for the girls I had touched at night, they pretty much understood what my condition was and till date am very much close to 3 of them while I still talk with the remaining 2. If I hadnt had sex at a tender age, how would have known anything about man and woman when at my tender age I was made to distance myself from girls till I was disvirgined by my uncle's house help.

All the same, thanks for your contribution.

You did nothing wrong, wrong was done to you. I am so sorry you had to experience this, I wish that your mom would have had them arrested and taken to trial and the judge would have put them under the jail house. I despise pedo.philes with a passion.
Your behavior with girls and your cousins is normal for kids who were sexually abused.
Molestation can affect a child for life, I know people who are suffering now because of it, alot of them have strange sexual habits. My heart goes out to you and all of the victims of molestation.
Life inprisonment for all pedo.philes.

A takes a lot of guts and courage for someone to share such intimate details of themself on nairaland. Since a lot of people act on here like they have never committed a single sin.


Anyways poster, there's a wise saying, the best teacher is your own experience. Learn from it and correct tomorrow's mistakes.

khiaa:



You did nothing wrong, wrong was done to you. I am so sorry you had to experience this, I wish that your mom would have had them arrested and taken to trial and the judge would have put them under the jail house. I despise pedo.philes with a passion.
Your behavior with girls and your cousins is normal for kids who were sexually abused.
Molestation can affect a child for life, I know people who are suffering now because of it, alot of them have strange sexual habits. My heart goes out to you and all of the victims of molestation.
Life inprisonment for all pedo.philes.

Thanks love! You're the best.. At least you and others understood.. Had it not been you already have a man, I would have loved you till death do us part.

You deserve a hug and a wet kiss...

rokiatu:
A takes a lot of guts and courage for someone to share such intimate details of themself on nairaland. Since a lot of people act on here like they have never committed a single sin.


Anyways poster, there's a wise saying, the best teacher is your own experience. Learn from it and correct tomorrow's mistakes.

I most definitely have. Looking forward to a wonderful upbringing for my kids.. Thanks sexy miss..

francizy:


Thanks love! You're the best.. At least you and others understood.. Had it not been you already have a man, I would have loved you till death do us part.

You deserve a hug and a wet kiss...

Thanks dear heart.

Innocence lost
You r brave for sharing this.
I keep telling some of my relatives, stop sending these small children on errands, they say am too soft.
I will show them this story.
Thanks for sharing.

khiaa:









Thanks dear heart.

Welcome boo.. Hope things are going well for you?

5minsmadness:
Innocence lost
You r brave for sharing this.
I keep telling some of my relatives, stop sending these small children on errands, they say am too soft.
I will show them this story.
Thanks for sharing.

Thanks for reading and thanks for your comment..

God bless...

I was molested too by a maid/sister of our neighbor. Till today, it's still like it happened today. That was around 1990,1991 1992. The feelings was something I couldn't understand them. She called me in her room and sent nephews and niece away to play. She asked me to climb on her, I did without knowing what was going on. My little man was just touching d tin without much impact.
God have mercy.