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bigfrancis21:
Igbo bashing has become quite a common thing in Nigeria such that it has become normal to bash Igbo on every single thing, even on things that are meaningless.

You created this thread to ask why Igbo prefer to marry from their tribe. Are you really serious? This is a question you opened this thread for looking for 'answers'? Would you have opened this very thread in the first place had a Yoruba or Hausa guy been the one who preferred to marry from their tribe? Yes or No? Why would a Yoruba parent reject a non-yoruba suitor, and that will not be an issue. In fact, such action is justified. A Hausa parent will do the same and no dust will be raised about it. But when an Igbo parent does the same, then its a big deal. It is a serious issue that calls for serious attention and criticism, then you begin to get tags like ''Igbos are 'tribalistic'', 'they are 'selfish'', it is an 'Igbo problem' e.t.c. Minor issues that aren't issues when done by other tribes become a serious issue when Igbo is involved.

I look around me, majority Ibibios marry within the Ibibio tribe, majority Hausas marry within Hausa, Yoruba within Yoruba, why should the Igbo marrying within themselves even be a question in the first place? Despite the level of inter marriage between whites and blacks here in the US, majority whites marry within whites, chinese within chinese, blacks within blacks, and you're going to sit there and tell me that it is a problem when Igbos prefer to marry Igbos?? Like seriously??

I get your point about love being the most important factor between 2 people from different tribes and there are marriages between Igbo men and non-Igbo women however majority Igbos don't need to look outside for love when they can find it within themselves. The same love you mentioned as important, Igbo men get it from within the tribe. Why look outside? What about culture preservation and values? Why should Igbo preferring to marry from within even be an issue in the first place when other tribes are doing the same? Is the creation of this thread even justified in the first place?

Tomorrow you're going to open another thread asking 'Why do Igbo people speak Igbo?' Like seriously??

onyedikachukwue:
Our women feel more comfortable with us.i can't marry a girl who is not from anambra.


Proudly ANAMBRA
I REP NNEWI

If you check my thread,it's a question not an allegation all you needed to do was to give ur advice to d Lady.I know d Yorubas nd Hausas do dat but in dis case d guy is igbo.You Igbo guys aren't giving me answers dat I want instead u r paranoid.Abeg no be me start am oh.

A friend of mine has being dating a guy for some years now. She's not an Anambrarian. She's a very lovely lady,beautiful, kind, down to earth and she loves the guy so much.

I'm worried because the guy hasn't proposed and he is from Anambra state . I don't know if he'll eventually marry her because I've heard and I've seen a lot of people from Anambra state marrying from their tribe.

I need to know why they do that even when most times it's against their wish. What's your advice for her? Don't you think that the guy may eventually leave her for an Anambra Lady?

Thanks

If you check my thread,it's a question not an allegation all you needed to do was to give ur advice to d Lady.I know d Yorubas nd Hausas do dat but in dis case d guy is igbo.You Igbo guys aren't giving me answers dat I want instead u r paranoid.Abeg no be me start am oh.

squaddy:
If that is where you hail from,then you certainly told a blatant lie in your previous posts.

Anyway let me make a point clear to you miss,we do not hate women from other ethnic extraction but the thing is,women from our ethnic group are neck-twisting gorgeous!!. Look around you and you will attest to that. I'm sure your anger is fuelled by that fact as well.

Pray hard alright? Attend more shiloh programs and your igbo prince charming "MAY" one day bring you to the land of the rising sun. Enjoy your day.

CHM11:
I've noticed that Nairalanders based in the USA can write long epistles, couldn't even finish my igbo brother's comment.
But I get his point.
@bigfrancis21 nice point, but here's my view.
Others do it doesn't make I right.
Additionally, Nigeria is made up of major 3 regions. North west and east. The people in the North inter marry freely, fulani, gwarri, benue, hausa, Tiv etc....people in the west intermarry freely too, yoruba, egun, badagry, etc. But because tribes in the EAST are much, igbo's don't like marrying others and its justified because it favours them better.

J12:
If 60 percent of Igbos marry from their tribe and the remaining 40 percent marry from other tribes, I wouldn't call that a norm.
I don't know if you've read the comments of Igbos of this thread but majority of them have refuted the OP's claim by stating that they have various relations married to non-igbos.

Nnewi is just a negligible excuse for your claims, the population of Nnewi people are not more than 1 percent of the total Igbo population. There are bigger Igbo sub-groups that are very open to inter-tribal marriages like the Mbaise and Ngwa people. Hence, the idea of using Nnewi as a reference point makes no sense.

xhamel89:
The truth is that Igbos are highly tribalistic. No tribe does it better. They are the best in their own eyes. Others are bad, hausas are illiterates, Yorubas are dirty. All sort of things you hear from them. That feature of them is a clear a position of their tribalism life. The day an Igbo rule Nigeria, we are finish.

One Company on Allen Avenue in Ikeja here, does not only teach his Igbo brothers that other tribes are bad, especially Yorubas, it also ensure that other tribes are like Isrealites in Goshen. Too bad for who create this mentality in them.

Quote me and.........

wisdompraise:
TeamAnambra.

Nice to have you here, Ada.

onyedikachukwue:
Our women feel more comfortable with us.i can't marry a girl who is not from anambra.


Proudly ANAMBRA
I REP NNEWI

luggy:
is not true, psquar is from anambra, one of the twin brother marry from yuroba, so think about What ur saying

enkay4love:
wallow in ur stupidity n ignorance,what do u mean," told a blatant lie in my former post?& what makes u think I'm single? Let alone desire ur tribal likes if I were to still be? U're just full of shit.

CHM11:
I've noticed that Nairalanders based in the USA can write long epistles, couldn't even finish my igbo brother's comment.
But I get his point.
@bigfrancis21 nice point, but here's my view.
Others do it doesn't make I right.
Additionally, Nigeria is made up of major 3 regions. North west and east. The people in the North inter marry freely, fulani, gwarri, benue, hausa, Tiv etc....people in the west intermarry freely too, yoruba, egun, badagry, etc. But because tribes in the EAST are much, igbo's don't like marrying others and its justified because it favours them better.

I for example wouldn't want any of family member to marry an igbo man or woman, I'd rather marry a yoruba or even a fulani. This is because I have not had a good experience as regards the igbos I've encountered in life.
All in all, igbos!!..marry yourselves, its good for you bcause other tribes will hardly understand your behavior and character.

nzeobi:
We prefer people who understand us better. Nobody will marry from a tribe that will using his hard earned money for owambe and stuffs like that.
Ka chineke mezie okwu

CHM11:
I've noticed that Nairalanders based in the USA can write long epistles, couldn't even finish my igbo brother's comment.
But I get his point.
@bigfrancis21 nice point, but here's my view.
Others do it doesn't make I right.
Additionally, Nigeria is made up of major 3 regions. North west and east. The people in the North inter marry freely, fulani, gwarri, benue, hausa, Tiv etc....people in the west intermarry freely too, yoruba, egun, badagry, etc. But because tribes in the EAST are much, igbo's don't like marrying others and its justified because it favours them better.

I for example wouldn't want any of family member to marry an igbo man or woman, I'd rather marry a yoruba or even a fulani. This is because I have not had a good experience as regards the igbos I've encountered in life.
All in all, igbos!!..marry yourselves, its good for you bcause other tribes will hardly understand your behavior and character.

laudate:
I strongly doubt if you read through all the comments on this thread starting from the very first page to the end, especially those from fellow Igbos who asserted clearly that Igbos marry within their tribe because it is expected, and also for various cultural reasons.

So stop citing this your strange 60% to 40 per cent theory. Where did you conduct the census and who verified it? Nnewi is not a ngeligible excuse. There are several other towns and communities that share the same sentiment as those in Nnewi, especially when it comes to their first sons and first daughters.

Ask your friends and neighbours back in the South-East, if you are still in doubt and stop living in denial.

chillingbabe:
Most caring my A.ss, you can't change the fact that an Anambra guy Will NEVER marry a gal dats not from his state..Was Lola accepted easily into the okoye's family? Go and google wat transpired before she was finally accepted,MumuMugu like you..
The only igbo guys that can marry outside there state are guys from IMO,ABIA,ENUGU and DELTA(ibo) ..Stop being pained niccur!

squaddy:
The book of lamentation.

You hate us and spread baseless lies about us for no reason,well I want to give you a real reason to hate cuz a wench like you disgust me!! now stay the hell off my mentions

J12:
You also failed to notice the various Igbos who have said they have many relations married to non igbos. I'm igbo, so I'm telling you that many igbos don't marry from their tribe. I also have relations that are married to non-igbos.

If you have other towns in Igboland that follow the Nnewi example, please say them here.

whatx:
@Bigfrancis21

Trying to observe nairaland rules, else i would have rained it on you.

You don't have to justify your culture nor comment on every post you come across.

If you don't have real experience, hold your peace. Am from the ibo speaking part of delta state and also a victim of such relationship.

Even being from the igbo-speaking part of delta state did not help me, as the particular family in question told my girl that it will be over their dead body.

On hearing the news i took time to strategies how to tackle this challenge, but to my surprise the babe made a shocking revelation.
She told me that the mum has actually being informing her of one spare part dealer who is from Anambra who she wants her to marry (true story), and that she has visited the guy severally (ehn ehen?).

On hearing this people i change am for hear. WHAT DO YOU MEAN? WHAT NONSENSE? WHEN DID THIS HAPPEN? YOU VISITED HIM WITHOUT MY PERMISSION? Screaming at the top of my voice. I angrily went home that day from our meeting joint.

To be fair with her, she later called and tired to calming me down asking; "what do i do"? By then i have already Googled the dude from the names she gave me (serious under cover sh#t). And my people Wetin i see nor help matters oh, the guy already has a car and am still using my most trusted two leg slabaquin.
I told her to follow her heart, which is the most stupid advice i have ever given. I tried analysing it for her as a wafi man,
- you Stick with me we try make it in life together, i graduated top in my department, a chartered accountant, currently doing my msc in accounting, though no job yet but tomorrow MAY be better.
- you go with them, married the guy within the next two years, and thing may blossom between you two.
I decided to ask her one question which i didn't get the answer till date- do you love him? She replied that he is a cool guy (ukpabiokpabio okpokicha, cool guy).

I discharge her that day thinking say my qualification go save me and thus decided to give her the silent treatment. Two weeks later she finally broke the silence with an outright personal invitation for me to their wedding (i die stand) this is a girl i have dated for the past 12 consecutive months, no break. See Wetin first silent treatment bring me, i almost poisoned my friend who gave the silent advice.

Well, that's about my experience with an Anambra babe, she is now married with one issue, leaving happily.

So bigfrancis21, i do not give what i don't have, this is my true story. That our forefathers are corrupt does not mean you should be corrupt, that everybody is going left does not mean you should go left (check ur boko alert before you move oh), that ever tribe is tribalistic dies not been you should be.
Further revelation from her on the negative pressure she received from her parents and siblings (whom i chat and play with every visit)was so shocking that i didn't even bother to go discuss with any of her family members.

I tort i was igbo until i met a lady from across the niger. just one bridge made me realised that there is difference between IGBO and IBO. Today, if you referred to me as IGBO i might slit your throat.

ADVICE: tell your friend to ask the guy directly if he is serious, thereafter discuss marriage possibility. If you must be a relationship ref, you have got to be good in what you are doing. Life is too short for wasting around.

PEACE OUT

pastorKosiso:
Igbo women are faithful even until death. They don't cheat anyhow because they value marriage and relationship....

laudate:
Oga, go back and read all the 15 pages of this thread. Are you saying the Igbo that have stated why they do not marry outside Alaigbo are lying

You want me to start listing towns and communities in your own area for you? Obviously, you have lived so long outside the South-East that you have lost touch with the norms of your people....

whatx:
Tinibu? "Flolo the stlate load"
Village people done disturb the man say he marry from wrong place. Them done pursue the Ghanian with Ghana must go, you come here dey talk yan apata.

Bia nwoke, tekikwe time. Kpachakwa anyian.

bigfrancis21:
Igbo bashing has become quite a common thing in Nigeria such that it has become normal to bash Igbo on every single thing, even on things that are meaningless.

You created this thread to ask why Igbo prefer to marry from their tribe. Are you really serious? This is a question you opened this thread for looking for 'answers'? Would you have opened this very thread in the first place had a Yoruba or Hausa guy been the one who preferred to marry from their tribe? Yes or No? Why would a Yoruba parent reject a non-yoruba suitor, and that will not be an issue. In fact, such action is justified. A Hausa parent will do the same and no dust will be raised about it. But when an Igbo parent does the same, then its a big deal. It is a serious issue that calls for serious attention and criticism, then you begin to get tags like ''Igbos are 'tribalistic'', 'they are 'selfish'', it is an 'Igbo problem' e.t.c. Minor issues that aren't issues when done by other tribes become a serious issue when Igbo is involved.

I look around me, majority Ibibios marry within the Ibibio tribe, majority Hausas marry within Hausa, Yoruba within Yoruba, why should the Igbo marrying within themselves even be a question in the first place? Despite the level of inter marriage between whites and blacks here in the US, majority whites marry within whites, chinese within chinese, blacks within blacks, and you're going to sit there and tell me that it is a problem when Igbos prefer to marry Igbos?? Like seriously??

I get your point about love being the most important factor between 2 people from different tribes and there are marriages between Igbo men and non-Igbo women however majority Igbos don't need to look outside for love when they can find it within themselves. The same love you mentioned as important, Igbo men get it from within the tribe. Why look outside? What about culture preservation and values? Why should Igbo preferring to marry from within even be an issue in the first place when other tribes are doing the same? Is the creation of this thread even justified in the first place?

Igbo people are tribalistic, they are evil, they love money, yet you want to marry them? Seriously?

Tomorrow you're going to open another thread asking 'Why do Igbo people speak Igbo?' Like seriously??

funmercy1:
where? Hahaha boi I live in owerri I. C tins.hahahahahahah