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I Want To Overcome This Fear! by Boomboost(op): 8:27pm On Feb 23, 2015

Ah, the concept that is near and dear to all
of us men who have started on the path to
success with women and dating...

FEAR.

Fear of rejection.

Fear of embarrassment.

Fear of the unknown.

Fear of what she might do if I start talking
to her.

Fear of what other guys would think if they
knew that we needed help with women.

Fear of what WOMEN would think if they
knew that we needed help with women.

Fear of admitting that we're AFRAID.

...just got an awkward kiss this evening cos my heart was beating too fast.

Nlers, abeg help me and other shy guys out there trying to socialize and make friends/relationships with members of the opposite sex who may be out of our social league conquer our fear.

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by whizqueen(f): 8:33pm On Feb 23, 2015

Fear want us to run from things that are not after us.
John Mason

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by zyzxx(m): 8:35pm On Feb 23, 2015

Fear is the enemies or opposite of faith
It rub us from many blessings and our right

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by naijaboiy: 8:36pm On Feb 23, 2015

Drink poison

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by ggrin(f): 8:38pm On Feb 23, 2015

naijaboiy:
Drink poison

Wicked soul angry

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by menix(m): 8:46pm On Feb 23, 2015

@ OP.. D day u realise its either a Yes or No frm d opposite sex, d beta u get hold of dat fear.

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by naijaboiy: 8:48pm On Feb 23, 2015

ggrin:

Wicked soul

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by Boomboost(op): 8:49pm On Feb 23, 2015

Guys, I didn't ask for quotes or bashings, juz some practical advice.

Someone once asked me why I'm shy, and from dat day I was almost forcing myself to be social but it didn't work.

I appreciate the comments.

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by ggrin(f): 8:52pm On Feb 23, 2015

naijaboiy:

what's wrong wif thz one now huh

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by Boomboost(op): 8:55pm On Feb 23, 2015

menix:
@ OP.. D day u realise its either a Yes or No frm d opposite sex, d beta u get hold of dat fear.

I agree with a certain position that women don't know wat they want.

My experience, I leaned in to kiss her on our 1st date, she gently pushed me away and asked what was wrong with me, but she no comot o neither did she block my further advances.
Well, I ended up holding her waist, kissing her neck and that was all. My heart was beating uncontrollably.

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by mkpakanaodogwu(m): 8:58pm On Feb 23, 2015

U need prayers

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by Nobody: 9:00pm On Feb 23, 2015

Oo please I need 10 plots of land in this thread

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by tonnieblaise(m): 9:05pm On Feb 23, 2015

Boomboost:
I agree with a certain position that women don't know wat they want.

My experience, I leaned in to kiss her on our 1st date, she gently pushed me away and asked what was wrong with me, but she no comot o neither did she block my further advances.
Well, I ended up holding her waist, kissing her neck and that was all. My heart was beating uncontrollably.

u need jesus

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by Boomboost(op): 9:06pm On Feb 23, 2015

mkpakanaodogwu:
U need prayers

Not in this matter.

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by xpac01(m): 9:43pm On Feb 23, 2015

whizqueen:
Fear want us to run from things that are not after us.
John Mason

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by tania28(f): 9:55pm On Feb 23, 2015

Boomboost:
Ah, the concept that is near and dear to all
of us men who have started on the path to
success with women and dating...

FEAR.

Fear of rejection.

Fear of embarrassment.

Fear of the unknown.build ur confidence, no woman wants to be a man that's not confident of himself,every woman is aproachable,they re humans like u.

Fear of what she might do if I start talking
to her.

Fear of what other guys would think if they
knew that we needed help with women.

Fear of what WOMEN would think if they
knew that we needed help with women.

Fear of admitting that we're AFRAID.

...just got an awkward kiss this evening cos my heart was beating too fast.

Nlers, abeg help me and other shy guys out there trying to socialize and make friends/relationships with members of the opposite sex who may be out of our social league conquer our fear.

be social,relate with d opposite,u win some n lose some,never be intimidated

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by Nobody: 9:55pm On Feb 23, 2015

You're passing thru a natural phase. I still remember the first time I kissed a girl and the first time I squeezed her ass. . . It takes time to master such fear.

One thing you have to start doing now is learn how to look into someone's eyes and holding the gaze. Start practicing with dogs if you have one, then younger children, and then your friends and then girls. Not forgetting your own reflection in the mirror.

When you catch a girl's gaze and she looks away. You've won. Your confidence builds with constants practice.

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by Redlips22(m): 9:56pm On Feb 23, 2015

Use ur head.. Stop smoking dat shit.. it's tym u gav it up..

naijaboiy:
Drink poison

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by naijaboiy: 11:07pm On Feb 23, 2015

Redlips22:
Use ur head.. Stop smoking dat shit.. it's tym u gav it up..

Shut the fhuuck up

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by Redlips22(m): 11:10pm On Feb 23, 2015

Hey.. easy mahn... I knw u can't control ursef nymore... jst calm down.. all will b well..
Bt criously, u shud stop smoking dat poo..its driving u nuts..

naijaboiy:
Shut the fhuuck up

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by naijaboiy: 11:14pm On Feb 23, 2015

Redlips22:
Hey.. easy mahn... I knw u can't control ursef nymore... jst calm down.. all will b well..
Bt criously, u shud stop smoking dat poo..its driving u nuts..

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by Nobody: 11:23pm On Feb 23, 2015

All you have to do is try. That's the first step in overcoming any sort of fear. Take the risk.

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by Nobody: 11:43pm On Feb 23, 2015

Fear is in the mind ....Well, we all passed through that phase of life .You have to be calm , focus, confident and always keep your cool man.Blackett, already highlighted some points for you ...Thank me later

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by Nobody: 12:29am On Feb 24, 2015

Blackett:
You're passing thru a natural phase. I still remember the first time I kissed a girl and the first time I squeezed her ass. . . It takes time to master such fear.

One thing you have to start doing now is learn how to look into someone's eyes and holding the gaze. Start practicing with dogs if you have one, then younger children, and then your friends and then girls. Not forgetting your own reflection in the mirror.

When you catch a girl's gaze and she looks away. You've won. Your confidence builds with constants practice.

Yur Smart....

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by Boomboost(op): 2:38pm On Feb 24, 2015

Blackett:
You're passing thru a natural phase. I still remember the first time I kissed a girl and the first time I squeezed her ass. . . It takes time to master such fear.

One thing you have to start doing now is learn how to look into someone's eyes and holding the gaze. Start practicing with dogs if you have one, then younger children, and then your friends and then girls. Not forgetting your own reflection in the mirror.

When you catch a girl's gaze and she looks away. You've won. Your confidence builds with constants practice.

Thanks bro, I guess I'll have to start practicing.

Re: I Want To Overcome This Fear! by Nobody: 3:01pm On Feb 24, 2015

Boomboost:
Thanks bro, I guess I'll have to start practicing.

You have no choice.

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