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This is a general summary of how brides are had in the Igbo traditional setting of Mbaise. It will be exposed step by step and with time.

Note: The groom is not necessarily active in these proceedings. He may or may not be present but the rites are undertaken by his kinsmen.

The first rite is the 'introduction'. The date is fixed by the groom's party and announced to the prospective bride's family. If the date is conducive for both parties, preparations are made for the visit. The male members of the family are notified so they can be present. The only females that can be in such meetings are those that came with the groom's kinsmen.

The groom may or may not arrive with his kinsmen. They are welcomed by the bride's people, given kola and asked to state their mission, which the spokesman does directly or indirectly. After stating their mission, the following items are presented for assessment by the bride's kinsmen:

a. 1 big jar of palmwine.

b. 1 carton of beer (Star preferrably).

c. 8 kolanuts (4 two lobed kolanuts (Gworo Hausa) 4 Four-lobed kolanuts (Oji Igbo)).

d. 1 hot drink.

e. A certain amount of money for 'enquiry' (ajuju).

Depending on how far the groom's location is, the cash varies greatly. This money is to enable the bride's people journey down to the groom's location to inquire after the groom's family for there are certain qualities that are frowned at by different families.

Precautions:

1. Get the palmwine from a good trusted tapper.

2. Make sure the kolanuts are good and not dried out.

3. To be on the easy side, have more than 1 bottle of hot drink and extra cash for fines.

Any fault found with the items presented results in a fine depending on the item. Note that this is hardly a peaceful proceeding as both parties dig out faults in either side as a norm in the negotiations. The groom should stay out of it. Any communications with the groom should be made in private

The prospective bride is then called in and asked if she knows the visitors. She is then told of their mission and asked if they should proceed to accept the gifts they brought. Should she reply 'Yes', the proceedings moves on and she is asked to leave.

They then settle to eat and drink as prepared by the bride's family. Mostly served here are oil bean (ugba), rice and fufu. The palmwine and drinks presented by the groom's kinsmen are used as refreshment.

After a successful introduction and enquiry, both parties moves on to the next stage.

Wow, interesting

In case she is the first daughter, dont forget to go with plenty and plenty of money because the father might have drawn a building plan, waiting for the victim that will pay fully for the project.

I NO DO AGAIN!! NA BY FORCE? MONEY FOR LAND?

That's nice , rich tradition aswell
#buh in ma place is just to drink rat poison and you aquire ur bride

Hope say d children no go cm becm orbanje. because d ritual too much

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That's called introductory rites.. It's accepted in all Igbo land but slightly differs from different locations

Celibate life is better dan going tru all dis rituals!

Omo Igbo!

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op do you have a sister ?
let put this into practice ?

#Testingmode

not even expensive

Summary.

How much ?

Buy and sell tins

WOW

Are we sure these are all we have in the list?
(Just asking)

So this is for acquisition, what of Mergers
Eboes are always crude and without class

Not anything too high jor.

The process checks to be sure the groom is prepared. When marriage is made too easy, ppl can easily move in and out of it.

Meanwhile read my story - Juliana And The Big Proposal- on DNB Stories. www.dnbstories.com

Anyways, broke niggas dont have choice

Justdulla:
The thread should have been titled how to Buy a Bride in Mbaise,,No wonder most of their ladies are into runz and many are old cargoes still single,because culture put price tag on their hand like Cristiano Ronaldo transfer feez

I'm not an Igbo but you are dumb tribalist.
You could have ignored.

What is expensive on that list there? Is it the No.5, these days parents don't even ask up to 1k as bride prize. witnessed this myself on many occasions




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Op,
There's nothing to expose there. It's not a secret. If you want to marry from Mbaise, you pockets must be heavy.
Just make out a budget of 600k upwards. Marriage is not for poor in Mbaise.

And am sure this one is just intro, once you are past this stage, your go dey pay as you go