brut:
Op,all will be well by God's grace.I agree with the other guy who asked if you have looked into your past.Did any of you betray or hurt anyone in the past?there are certain things to look out for.

God will help you.

brut:
Op,all will be well by God's grace.I agree with the other guy who asked if you have looked into your past.Did any of you betray or hurt anyone in the past?there are certain things to look out for.

God will help you.

hadeolaikimat:
The question is wat is ur blood group and wat is ur wife blood group?If u are rhesus positive and ur wife is rhesus negative or vice versa, then dat will be a tip we can use to find solution.

Adaorah:
There s nothing beyond God. Had similar experience. Ours was termed blighted ovum. Twice was evacuated. then the 3rd preg according to their result again was heading towards that dxn. we angrily left d clinic and decided to wait for 3 months before starting ante natal. to God b d glory everything was succefl. had a smooth gestation period though had a fresh still birth which only God Can explain. but d baby was healthy. (think is placenta abrupt ion shortly after I was induced. To God b d glory have 2 now. 2013 2014. 6yrs of marriage. u will surely overcome. just keep d faith. never give up

Ekii:



I believe this nurse. My aunt always takes this drug before conceiving but failed to do so before she took in for her 3rd child,like your wife,she had to do evacuation around the same time. When she came to lagos,I follwed her to a pharmacy where she got the drugs. At that time,it was 15k. As of today,she's got a fourth child. But before you buy any drug,do so only with a good recommendation.

worriedhusband:
Dear Nairalanders,

My heart is very heavy as I write this. I'm a member of this forum but I purposely created this username for this issue as I want to remain anonymous. Im not the type that discuss my problems in the public but what is happening is beyond me and I need your help.

My wife and I got married May 2012 and I was the happiest man on earth on that day. Many prayers were offered concerning our fruitfulness and not in our slightest imagination did we think that we will have problem with having children. As God will have it my wife missed her period the following month and did pregnancy test to confirm and it was positive. Our joy knew no bound. I immediately gave her “holiday” from any form of domestic activities. She immediately registered for ante-natal. She has been attending the ante-natal for about 8 weeks when the doctor decided it was time to do the ultrasound. The ultrasound was done and it was discovered that the fetus was measuring a lesser length than it should measure, 5 weeks or thereabout. Also the heart beat was not seen. The doctor said the pregnancy was not viable.

It was a very sad day for both of us but I managed to console her, we even went to another hospital to confirm but the same result was given. She later went to the hospital for evacuation of the pregnancy.

To cut the story short, we have had four other pregnancies that the fetus did not develop. The fetus will always develop to maximum of 7 weeks and stop developing. She has taken Progesterone injection so many times without any significant result. I’ve researched a little bit and the result I found was recurrent miscarriage. This has been a great concern for us and I'm always afraid whenever wifey is pregnant that the same thing will happen (what should be a thing of joy for us has now become a nightmare).

The pain she goes through at each evacuation is something that brings tears to my eyes and I sometimes wish she is not even pregnant so we will not go through the same cycle.

My fellow Nairalanders, please help us out, any medical advice or other things we can do to overcome this challenge will be appreciated. Please if you have gone through this before or have any information that can help kindly offer it, don’t just read and go on. We belief in our God and we focus on Him as the doer of all things but we need medical or any other advice (nothing fetish) that can help.

We live in the Southwest (Not Lagos).

My wife is now 30 while i'm 34 Years old.

dhabeautyjas:

May G*d console you and your wife with beautiful kids.

biggjoe:

Yea. He already did. We have a lovely boy (our first issue) who was concieved without any issues. The miscarriage was our second attempt.

worriedhusband:


Thanks. I am already making enquiries on where to do the Rhesus factor test.

idu1:
kingtom

pweetixandy:
king tomtom

KingTom:
Where is the patient?

idu1:
where u dey since

EvilBrain1:


All you need is to check you and your wife's blood types. The rhesus factor is the positive or negative sign after the letter. If your wife is Rh negative (eg O-) and you are positive (eg A+) then you are incompatible. If your wife is positive, or both of you are negative, then you're compatible.

I would be very surprised if that was the cause of your problem though since rhesus incompatibility typically causes problems late in the pregnancy, not at the beginning. From your OP, it seems that your wife has been having blighted ovum which would explain why the pregnancies failed to develop past 7 weeks. Blighted ovum means the pregnancy has some genetic abnormality which is stopping it from developing. This can be due to some genetic problem with one or both of you, or more likely due to sheer bad luck. Blighted ovum is a common enough problem that it happens to many (most?) women at least once, with many not even realizing it. It happening 5 times in a row is uncommon but not impossible. I once treated a patient who had 4 in a row and the fifth pregnancy was normal.

Of course there are many other causes of recurrent miscarriages. Often, its due to undiscovered medical problems in the mother like diabetes, thyroid issues and autoimmune diseases. You both definitely need to see a good gynaecologist who will probably ask for a barrage of tests. Don't go and do the tests yourself because you'll just end up wasting your money on irrelevant ones.

And please, remember to keep supporting your wife psychologically. If you think this problem is hard on you, imagine how she feels. It would mean a lot for you to follow her to all the doctors visits instead of letting her go alone. This problem belongs to both of you, not her alone.

Also, don't waste you time looking for solutions in any church/mosque/juju shrine. They'll just scam you out of money that can be better used to deal with the problem. I wish you guys the best.

worriedhusband:
Dear Nairalanders,

My heart is very heavy as I write this. I'm a member of this forum but I purposely created this username for this issue as I want to remain anonymous. Im not the type that discuss my problems in the public but what is happening is beyond me and I need your help.

My wife and I got married May 2012 and I was the happiest man on earth on that day. Many prayers were offered concerning our fruitfulness and not in our slightest imagination did we think that we will have problem with having children. As God will have it my wife missed her period the following month and did pregnancy test to confirm and it was positive. Our joy knew no bound. I immediately gave her “holiday” from any form of domestic activities. She immediately registered for ante-natal. She has been attending the ante-natal for about 8 weeks when the doctor decided it was time to do the ultrasound. The ultrasound was done and it was discovered that the fetus was measuring a lesser length than it should measure, 5 weeks or thereabout. Also the heart beat was not seen. The doctor said the pregnancy was not viable.

It was a very sad day for both of us but I managed to console her, we even went to another hospital to confirm but the same result was given. She later went to the hospital for evacuation of the pregnancy.

To cut the story short, we have had four other pregnancies that the fetus did not develop. The fetus will always develop to maximum of 7 weeks and stop developing. She has taken Progesterone injection so many times without any significant result. I’ve researched a little bit and the result I found was recurrent miscarriage. This has been a great concern for us and I'm always afraid whenever wifey is pregnant that the same thing will happen (what should be a thing of joy for us has now become a nightmare).

The pain she goes through at each evacuation is something that brings tears to my eyes and I sometimes wish she is not even pregnant so we will not go through the same cycle.

My fellow Nairalanders, please help us out, any medical advice or other things we can do to overcome this challenge will be appreciated. Please if you have gone through this before or have any information that can help kindly offer it, don’t just read and go on. We belief in our God and we focus on Him as the doer of all things but we need medical or any other advice (nothing fetish) that can help.

We live in the Southwest (Not Lagos).

My wife is now 30 while i'm 34 Years old.

Kindly mail me ur contact on bobankky@yahoo.com.appreciate








God will soon put a smile on your face. I wish we can talk in private

Evvilgenius:


Be strong OP, help is on the way..the situation is very redeemable.
Forget this Rhesus factor crap as its only if your wife is Rh -ve and has given birth to Rh +ve baby or carried such baby to term before.