Dear Nairalanders,

My heart is very heavy as I write this. I'm a member of this forum but I purposely created this username for this issue as I want to remain anonymous. Im not the type that discuss my problems in the public but what is happening is beyond me and I need your help.

My wife and I got married May 2012 and I was the happiest man on earth on that day. Many prayers were offered concerning our fruitfulness and not in our slightest imagination did we think that we will have problem with having children. As God will have it my wife missed her period the following month and did pregnancy test to confirm and it was positive. Our joy knew no bound. I immediately gave her “holiday” from any form of domestic activities. She immediately registered for ante-natal. She has been attending the ante-natal for about 8 weeks when the doctor decided it was time to do the ultrasound. The ultrasound was done and it was discovered that the fetus was measuring a lesser length than it should measure, 5 weeks or thereabout. Also the heart beat was not seen. The doctor said the pregnancy was not viable.

It was a very sad day for both of us but I managed to console her, we even went to another hospital to confirm but the same result was given. She later went to the hospital for evacuation of the pregnancy.

To cut the story short, we have had four other pregnancies that the fetus did not develop. The fetus will always develop to maximum of 7 weeks and stop developing. She has taken Progesterone injection so many times without any significant result. I’ve researched a little bit and the result I found was recurrent miscarriage. This has been a great concern for us and I'm always afraid whenever wifey is pregnant that the same thing will happen (what should be a thing of joy for us has now become a nightmare).

The pain she goes through at each evacuation is something that brings tears to my eyes and I sometimes wish she is not even pregnant so we will not go through the same cycle.

My fellow Nairalanders, please help us out, any medical advice or other things we can do to overcome this challenge will be appreciated. Please if you have gone through this before or have any information that can help kindly offer it, don’t just read and go on. We belief in our God and we focus on Him as the doer of all things but we need medical or any other advice (nothing fetish) that can help.

We live in the Southwest (Not Lagos).

My wife is now 30 while i'm 34 Years old.

I feel so sad for u....u shld go and see a good doctor,I know that there must be an underlying medical factor that's causing this thing. All I can suggest is that u see a very very good gynaecologist. My prayers are with u and wifey

Oh dear! my heart bleeds to hear this.




Please where are the docs ?





Please help him.

However,I know that God can solve it for you op.




don't give up yet.

pweetixandy:
I feel so sad for u....u shld go and see a good doctor,I know that there must be an underlying medical factor that's causing this thing. All I can suggest is that u see a very very good gynaecologist. My prayers are with u and wifey

Thanks pweetixcandy. we have been seeing different doctors but they seem not to understand what is going on. they always suggest Progestrone which she has been taking but no result yet.

Trying too hard!
Give it a break!
The woman's body and mind need to heal!

daimsy:
Oh dear! my heart bleeds to hear this.




Please where are the docs ?





Please help him.

However,I know that God can solve it for you op.




don't give up yet.

Thanks.

You will need to gynaecologist and a competent one to hear his/her view and you compare with what you can get online when you research on what might have cause the miscarriage




Also, you need to hold on to your faith and believe all this are just phases that will soon pass away

worriedhusband:


Thanks pweetixcandy. we have been seeing different doctors but they seem not to understand what is going on. they always suggest Progestrone which she has been taking but no result yet.

I dunno what to say..maybe the docs aren't good enough?

dre11:
You will need to gynaecologist and a competent one to hear his/her view and you compare with what you can get online when you research on what might have cause the miscarriage




Also, you need to hold on to your faith and believe all this are just phases that will soon pass away

We are holding on. I just need to reach out since no man is an island. Thanks.

Hummmm, I understand how u feel. U need doc's help most especially gynaecologist and also prayer(it maybe spiritual) @ dis time, confess d word of God into ur life and be positive in ur thought. It'll come to pass. Shalom

cc: bushdoc9919, Royver, evilbrain1 and other medical experts.

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not a doctor... but I wlll advice you table this completely before God...the author and finisher of our faith...with HIM everything is possible.

worriedhusband:
Dear Nairalanders,

My heart is very heavy as I write this. I'm a member of this forum but I purposely created this username for this issue as I want to remain anonymous. Im not the type that discuss my problems in the public but what is happening is beyond me and I need your help.

My wife and I got married May 2012 and I was the happiest man on earth on that day. Many prayers were offered concerning our fruitfulness and not in our slightest imagination did we think that we will have problem with having children. As God will have it my wife missed her period the following month and did pregnancy test to confirm and it was positive. Our joy knew no bound. I immediately gave her “holiday” from any form of domestic activities. She immediately registered for ante-natal. She has been attending the ante-natal for about 8 weeks when the doctor decided it was time to do the ultrasound. The ultrasound was done and it was discovered that the fetus was measuring a lesser length than it should measure, 5 weeks or thereabout. Also the heart beat was not seen. The doctor said the pregnancy was not viable.

It was a very sad day for both of us but I managed to console her, we even went to another hospital to confirm but the same result was given. She later went to the hospital for evacuation of the pregnancy.

To cut the story short, we have had four other pregnancies that the fetus did not develop. The fetus will always develop to maximum of 7 weeks and stop developing. She has taken Progesterone injection so many times without any significant result. I’ve researched a little bit and the result I found was recurrent miscarriage. This has been a great concern for us and I'm always afraid whenever wifey is pregnant that the same thing will happen (what should be a thing of joy for us has now become a nightmare).

The pain she goes through at each evacuation is something that brings tears to my eyes and I sometimes wish she is not even pregnant so we will not go through the same cycle.

My fellow Nairalanders, please help us out, any medical advice or other things we can do to overcome this challenge will be appreciated. Please if you have gone through this before or have any information that can help kindly offer it, don’t just read and go on. We belief in our God and we focus on Him as the doer of all things but we need medical or any other advice (nothing fetish) that can help.

We live in the Southwest (Not Lagos).

My wife is now 30 while i'm 34 Years old.

all I can say to you is this have faith and believe in God

There is nothing He cannot do

Believe me, when I say I have seen miracles concerning situation similar to yours even doctors confessed it can never be explained by medical science

Ok

It could actually be a case of 'Anembryonic pregnancy'. A condition in which a blighted ovum(immature egg) implants in the uterine wall and begins to develop partially untill the pregnancy gets botched.

It's likely she has a high FSH/LH ratio.

Why didn't you guys seek the help of a gynae after her first botched pregnancy?

Medical Advice is what i suggest, From a qualified doctor at a qualified Hospital.




MAY GOD HELP YOU OP

I am touched by your experience. What are the doctors saying about the root causes? Because something is definitely wrong somewhere. 1st maybe a mistake, 2nd maybe a coincidence. How do you explain 3rd, 4th and 5th. I am worried you waited this long. The doctors must be saying more useful things, if you ask me. Do you till have your parents and parents-in-laws alive? What are they saying or doing?

Two things are involved:

1. health issues with you or madam (she needs close examination).

2. Hand of the evil ones.

On health issues; I will always recommend: Parklande Specialist Hospital - Hospitals/Clinics/Maternity
Address: 13, Razaq Balogun Street, Off Adebola Street, Off Adeniran Ogunsanya, Surulere, Lagos, Lagos
Phone:0803 333 0721

Ask to speak to Dr. Orebanjo. He is british trained OB/GYN and very good. He's got other friends of like experience. He is a consultant to Reddington Hospital (which might too expensive). Let him or any other doctor of your choice see both of you even before conception. Do you get it?

There is NOTHING GOD CANNOT DO. I decided to write because you said nothing fetish. If you had, I would only have prayed. I don't know which church you worship. Not interested anyway. I am a Catholic but will recommend Mountain of Fire. Make out a week both of you and attend their week long deliverance session. You need to invade the devil's camp violently. I have testimony. You won't spend much, just a bed space majorly depending on your pocket.

You have to trust in God's divine grace and saving power... Peace to you.

For now....I strongly suggest that you see a consultant gynecologist.....and discuss your options.

Give her time to heal before trying again and please be prayerful. Don't loose faith, remember all that is needed for a miracle is a lil faith like that of a mustard seed.

God is difinitely ur strenght, he will see u true just keep praying

Hmm, So sad

Needs to pray

onila:
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onila! Ontop another man's grief u'r booking space! Where is ur conscience

wow.

prayer works wonders.

don't loose faith. P.U.S.H

TELL IT TO THE GREATEST PHYSICIAN: JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH. ITS WELL WITH YOU. DON'T GIVE UP.

my brother pray and then visit a good gynecologist and both of you should seek medical attention together.
It is well with your home.

God is merciful. You will soon see and hold your children in Jesus name.Amen

I feel your pain and my Prayer is with U

Let her and probably you go for deliverance at the MFM (Mountain of Fire and Miracle Ministry) especially at the headquarters.

Another reason why surrogacy should be encouraged amongst blacks.



Could be an underlying medical issue. Let her visit her Gynea for a thorough examination. It is well