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Adufetohposh:
As annoying as the whole idea is, I ll like to respect d op's decision.... whatever Rocks ur boat man.

Presently u re still young and sure know how to catch ur fun ; Except u choose to die young. You will end up not liking this ur decision @ ur old age....

Nothing kills faster Than boredom/ depression. You will need ur someone intimidate to share ur thoughts with, you will wish u had a child even if it's just one, but it will be too late then. Mind you, ur siblings re engrossed with their own family, so they wnt be there for you. Your friends and families will be inviting you to their son/daughters graduation party and u will be there wishing u did not make the decision, But pride wnt allow u confess ur depression!

i disagree with you. My sister is married to a beast but because f culture she remain with him,is she not depress? ,the other is married to a man who lives abroad that keep promising to take her along since 5yrs ago,is she not feeling lonely. Brother i see no reason to get married. Im a young chap trying to make it and keep falling back because of family problems. I will never make such a mistake of getting married.that's all,

macof:
You can't care for adopted child like ur blood

That's Nigerian mentality.

Champele:
ina ekwuheri. Even if i want kids,i can have them without marriage. I believe the op. Marriage is the worst thing that happened to many people i know. As im writing this,my sister is crying,guess what?! Her husband don beat her again. Nonsense!

those who fail in marriage are weak and honestly not intelligent...sorry but it's true...

If not, they would know to learn to be patient and know their partner's background, personality and ambitions
marriage however is a wonderful thing, it's a taboo to have children with just anyone you meet off the street, you need to bond..marriage isn't just wedding, many marriages never involved a wedding ceremony but there must be a bond between the two and an agreement for the future together

There are men who have 5 wives and 20children, they all live in peace, comfort and harmony...that's the strength of a REAL MAN, WOMEN AND SIBLINGS

don't take it the wrong way but ur sister made a mistake of a man not a mistake of marriage

Champele:
That's Nigerian mentality.

Nah, human mentality

Champele:
i disagree with you. My sister is married to a beast but because f culture she remain with him,is she not depress? ,the other is married to a man who lives abroad that keep promising to take her along since 5yrs ago,is she not feeling lonely. Brother i see no reason to get married. Im a young chap trying to make it and keep falling back because of family problems. I will never make such a mistake of getting married.that's all,

there's no African culture that requests a woman to suffer physical abuse from her husband..at least I don't know of any

That's only prevalent in Muslim middle eastern countries

macof:
those who fail in marriage are weak and honestly not intelligent...sorry but it's true...

If not, they would know to learn to be patient and know their partner's background, personality and ambitions
marriage however is a wonderful thing, it's a taboo to have children with just anyone you meet off the street, you need to bond..marriage isn't just wedding, many marriages never involved a wedding ceremony but there must be a bond between the two and an agreement for the future together

There are men who have 5 wives and 20children, they all live in peace, comfort and harmony...that's the strength of a REAL MAN, WOMEN AND SIBLINGS

don't take it the wrong way but ur sister made a mistake of a man not a mistake of marriage

You mean my sisters and many other female relations and friends that are suffering from marriage all made mistake?,i don't believe that. We need to change that culture,both in the village and in Church. For now, i don't want to fall a victim.

macof:
those who fail in marriage are weak and honestly not intelligent...sorry but it's true...

If not, they would know to learn to be patient and know their partner's background, personality and ambitions
marriage however is a wonderful thing, it's a taboo to have children with just anyone you meet off the street, you need to bond..marriage isn't just wedding, many marriages never involved a wedding ceremony but there must be a bond between the two and an agreement for the future together

There are men who have 5 wives and 20children, they all live in peace, comfort and harmony...that's the strength of a REAL MAN, WOMEN AND SIBLINGS

don't take it the wrong way but ur sister made a mistake of a man not a mistake of marriage

My brother, are you married?

Because as they used to say "love is blind and marriage is the eye opener"

Champele:
You mean my sisters and many other female relations and friends that are suffering from marriage all made mistake?,i don't believe that. We need to change that culture,both in the village and in Church. For now, i don't want to fall a victim.

In Jesus name you will not fall a victim! Say AMEN!!

I used to be like OP but then I changed. ...and now I'm feeling like changing again
and one reason is:I can't stand the lies, pranks and deceits.

I have friends(m n f) who don't ever want to get married but most of their reasons are quite logical... at first I thought the op was logical until I read when he starts to chip in Bible verses on the curse on woman.. to me, the op stance on being single is due to past bitter experiences he had with female folk
sorry! shi.t happens

by the way, let me rephrase lordreed's opinion: if women were cursed to bring sorrows into men's lives , is your mother included?

its your life tho...live it as you deem fit but hope you will stay righteous while at it?

quivah:
I have friends(m n f) who don't ever want to get married but most of their reasons are quite logical... at first I thought the op was logical until I read when he starts to chip in Bible verses on the curse on woman.. to me, the op stance on being single is due to past bitter experiences he had with female folk
sorry! shi.t happens
by the way, let me rephrase lordreed's opinion: if women were cursed to bring sorrows into men's lives , is your mother included?
its your life tho...live it as you deem fit but hope you will stay righteous while at it?

Whether you are logical or not. Whether you like it or not. Whether you accept it or not. Whether my mother is included or not, the TRUTH still remains the truth. That women were DIRECTLY cursed by God in the Scriptures, that their Sorrows will be greatly multiplied (Genesis 3:16, 1 Timothy 2:14).

And they have brought these "sorrows" into relationships and marriages. I have heard it many times from the mouth of married men that "WOMEN ARE NECESSARY EVIL".

In as much as I don't believe it, I know these men are talking out of experience and am not surprised.

My resolve to stay unmarried didn't spring up from any bitterness I have with women. I don't have any. I just don't like the way women take decisions by emotions, not by facts and the way they behave as if without them will die. A lot of women lack emotional intelligence. Some men manifest this too.

I am the person that called it quits with my last gf, because of a lot reasons. But the major ones are as a Christian no more boyfriend - girlfriend rubbish and I don't like the way she takes decisions by emotions not by facts.

In the PURSUIT OF HAPPYNESS consider singleness for life, because he who marries will have trouble in the flesh(1 Corinthians 7:28).

By the way, have you watched the movie "Pursuit of Happyness" by Will Smith. I love the movie its a true life experience, struggles and history of Chris Gardener. The famous, rich, African-American stock broker cum motivational speaker.

He once came to Nigeria to talk about success.

Find out what his wife did in that movie when was poor and struggling, and then compare around you.

Don't say I didn't tell you. A lot of married men always end up in regret. If you think am lying check this thread from page 0 and other similar threads.

In life you are on your own don't live it for another person, because no body will answer for you when you stand before God.

If you want a life of freedom with happyiness forget marriage.

FYI I don't hate women. I hate troubles!! But unfortunately women always bring a lot of troubles.

I don dey happen;

https://www.nairaland.com/2265800/she-hid-hiv-status-hubby/3

All I can see is a man who is not bold enough to take up responsibilities.

ColinAdua:
I am 36+, single, loving it and will love to be single for life, forever. Infact, I have decided to be single forever. Today, I just looked back and I feel so happy, taking this decision 10 years ago during my NYSC.

My life is so clutter free and stress less when compared with those of my married peers. I said this is definitely one of the best decisions I have made in my life. Because my life is so peaceful and predicted. I work only on my business and starting post graduate studies.

I feel I need to celebrate my 10 years taking this decision to stay unmarried and single(MIND YOU I DON'T DO BOYFRIEND - GIRLFRIEND RUBBISH. I BELIEVE ITS A SIN).

In celebrating, I think it good to encourage more young men to embrace this way. Just like Bible says; "He that is able to receive it(singleness), let him receive it"(Matthew 19:12). You can read from verse 10 for better understanding.



140 Reasons Why You Should Consider never marrying.
There are lots of good reasons to stay single. At first you may think that staying single isn't a good thing, but there are few things you should consider, well 140 things to be exact. This is a comprehensive list about not being in a relationship or marriage and the perks that come with it. I bet a lot of these things don't even cross your mind, and perhaps after you read this you'll give the single life a second thought.

1. You can do what you want, when you want.
2. You don't have to dress up for anyone.
3. You don't have to cook for anyone but yourself.
4. No nagging. Ever.
5. You don't have to pay for your girlfriend/wife or children.
6. You can snore when you feel like snoring.
7. You don't have to meet her parents, especially if they dislike you.
8. You don't have to share scare resources.
9. No wife to invade your privacy (email, facebook, cell numbers, whatsapp etc).
10. Don't have to worry about marriage and it's costs.
11. Don't have to hear "But, honey.. we never have our alone time!"
12. You don't have to share the television.
13. You can play video games all day in your free time without feeling guilty.
14. You decide when to go to bed.
15. You don't have to make dinner for anyone.
16. You can scratch yourself, stretch, yawn and fart, and all that other rude stuff when you want.
17. Your food/foods stuff lasts much longer, only cooking for one.
18. You can sleep till noon on weekends without feeling bad.
19. Less pressure about your weight.
20. You are the king of the toilet seat, it can remain up or down, as you like.
21. Don't have to worry about "accidently" having a child.
22. You can vacuum when you feel like it.
23. You don't have to worry about being "dumped".
24. There is no jealousy, people won't know how poor/rich you are, if you don't want them to know.
25. You can "geek out" without being nagged.
26. Everything in your home is yours, and stays where you keep it.
27. You don't have to explain where you were last night.
28. You decide when to do the dishes.
29. A lot more time to spend with friends or at church.
30. Less pet peeves to deal with.
31. Don't have to worry about her hanging out with guy friends (and vice versa).
32. You are not morally obligated to do things against your will.
33. No one else is going to eat your leftover chicken and pepper soup.
34. You can concentrate more on your own life and targets.
35. You can answer the phone when you feel like answering the phone!
36. You can sit there all day in your underwear or even naked and not feel obligated to dress.
37. Going out to eat and then to a movie is cheaper for just one.
38. You won't have that "I want kids" discussion. Nonsense!!!
39. When your car gets old and has a lot of miles on it, you can trade it in for a new one without anyone complaining or feeling bad.
40. You can eat whatever you want, when you want, without a compromise.
41. You don't have to hang with her annoying, disrespectful, lazy, saucy, attitudinal friends.
42. You can walk around naked without fear of her bringing friends home.
43. No sharing of the fan, it's all yours.
44. Only have to deal with your own insecurities, and not hers too.
45. You can stare at the gals all you want without the "uh oh, busted" feeling.
46. You don't have to come up with excuses for things.
47. You don't have to worry about your checking account vanishing mysteriously. Well, not as much.
48. You don't have to suffer a pink puffy bathroom.
49. Speaking of bathrooms, you don't have to worry about "the smell" after you go.
50. You only have to deal with your own fetishes, and not some abnormal fetishes that are totally alien and nauseating to you.
51. No one is telling you that you need to work out and lose weight.
52. You don't have to buy gifts for the holidays for the 'extended family'.
53. You don't have to tell white lies. "Yes dear, that dress is pretty", when you know its whack.
54. If you live alone, you can pee(even on your bed and no one will know) with the door open without grief.
55. You don't have to suffer her going through your belongings.
56. You don't have to worry about your cell phone bill being huge because she borrowed it for a whole week or sending any one recharge card.
57. No one will steal your covers at night.
58. Paying for vacations for one is cheaper.
59. You don't have to suffer the aftermath of a breakup.
60. You don't have to hide your habits.
61. You don't have to shave.
62. You get the entire couch to yourself.
63. No one sees what you look like when you wake up in the morning.
64. No waking from the other person's snoring, farting or even bed wetting!
65. No one to accidentally see your dirty or torn underwear.
66. You get the entire boxed "meal for two" for just yourself!
67. No one telling you to get your clothes out of the washer or dryer.
68. When you cook you don't have to worry about how bad it is.
69. You don't have to share your soap.
70. No one telling you what you can or cannot buy when shopping.
71. No one is telling you to go to the gym because their embarrassed by how you look.
72. No one complaining about what you are listening to in your car.
73. You won't have someone throwing out your stuff because they think you don't need them any more.
74. All of the space in the closet is all yours.
75. All those dirty messes you made, you can leave them that way for as long as you want!
76. You can drink milk straight out of the container without anyone telling you to use a glass.
77. You won't have any other opinions to contend with.
78. You won't have to bother about birth control, pills, condoms or even whether your kids are yours and all those rubbish.
79. When you get home from work, you can do whatever you want without someone telling you to get something done around the house.
80. You won't have someone else telling you what is right and what is wrong.
81. You won't have someone taping over your favorite movies.
82. You don't have to laugh at jokes that are not funny.
83. Someone isn't telling you to cut the lawn.
84. Someone isn't telling you to not hang out with certain friends.
85. You don't have to appear to eat healthy around her.
86. You won't have your in-laws telling you about their religious beliefs, which are not your own.
87. You don't have to spend thousands on a engagement ring.
88. You won't have to tell them you love the ring they got you, even though you think it's rubbish.
89. Speaking of weddings, it's cheaper not having one. Imagine spending over N300,000 just for a wedding.
90. You won't have someone vacuuming during your nap.
91. You are the supreme master of the refrigerator.
92. You won't have doubts if the person you are with is really in love with you or not.
93. The only debt you have to worry about is yours.
94. You won't have to worry about marriage counseling.
95. You don't have to give anyone reasons for buying the 100" big screen 3D LED TV.
96. You won't have someone nagging you to get a better job or why you resigned.
97. You don't have to worry about compliments and if they're good enough.
98. There is less noise if you live alone.
99. You can run around in a make-shift toga and do a little dance while singing opera without someone giving you a strange expression.
100. You clean the bathroom when you feel like cleaning the bathroom.
101. You don't have to worry about coming up with vacations and if they are good enough for your significant other.
102. You don't have to buy gifts for her or her brood!
103. Your car is yours, no sharing.
104. You will always get the best seat in the house to watch your favorite shows and movies.
105. You are never late for anything. Ever.
106. You decide if you want pets or not.
107. You only have to worry about retirement for one.
108. If you want Tom and Jerry bed sheets, you can have them!
109. You don't have to listen to someone else meaningless preferred music, like Nigerian hip hop music(very meaningless).
110. The only sick person that you have to worry about, is you.
111. You won't bother about paying school fees(high rising school fees), except your own.
112. A cruise to Obudu Cattle Ranch is cheaper by yourself.
113. You don't have to clean up after anyone but yourself.
114. When you shop for food at a store, your have the authority on whats good for you or not.
115. You never have to hear the line, "Let's just be friends".
116. You control the thermostat and remote, in your house, if you are too cold crank that sucker up.
117. You can play video games all night without someone telling you to be more productive with your time or come to bed.
118. You can talk on the phone for hours with girls without hearing the "who's that, who's that??" line.
119. There is no compromising on how to decorate your house, it's totally up to you.
120. You don't have to explain why an entire pan of brownies have been eaten in a single night.
121. Speaking of desserts, you only have the ones in which you like. No fruitcake for you.
122. You decide when to do the pile of dishes in the sink.
123. You don't have to worry about bailing your wife out of custody at 3am in the morning on a work night.
124. You don't have to explain why you have a brand new expensive sports car in the driveway.
125. You can veg all day in front of the television watching your favorite TV football club without complaint.
126. No one complaining why girls are leaving comments on your Facebook, twitter, etc.
127. The only "voice of reason" is your own to deal with.
128. You don't have to say "I'm wrong, you're right" even though you know that you're right but you're just saying that you're wrong to stop argueing.
129. Pray as like, shout it as you like, as long as you like, without bothering how she feels..
130. There won't be any "meet the parents" problems.
131. You only have to support yourself.
132. You don't have to wonder what they mean when they say "No, I don't need flowers", yet when you don't get flowers for them they get mad.
133. All the money from the tax return is yours to spend on whatever, without being hassled.
134. You won't have to deal with the "I love you" question, and whether or not if they really mean it.
135. No one will throw your stuff out on the lawn.
136. There will be no one asking you "What time will you be home?" and giving you a guilty feeling about even going out.
137. No one is wondering why your are reading this list in the place, at all. Single or Not?
138. Bible even recommends it.(Matthew 19: 10 - 12, 1 Corinthians 7: 8, 26, 29, 32, 37, 38)
139. You can't worry how to explain to her people or police how she died, whether you used her for money rituals or those rubbish that in-laws usually throw up.
140. You won't bother whether she is lousy in bed, frigid, barren or even infected with STDs.

Let's keep it here for now.

In a nutshell, in fact you're as free as the air.

Is the single life better than being married? Single is better.

Waooo! Singlehood is strength! Singlehood is sweet! Singlehood is sumptuous!

Have a taste!!!

Judie7654:
All I can see is a man who is not bold enough to take up responsibilities.

Oh! I agree. Please get off my thread its meant for guys.

LordReed:
You come to a public forum to air your brain addled views, yes I know you. Women are a curse abi? I know you, you misogynist.

lol let the guy be. If he wants to be a bachelor all his life it's his choice but he must just say the truth. Even if some men don't want to get married they still crave a women and this man seems not to have such for the past 10 years which makes me come to the conclusion that he must simply be gay.

Notyourb1tch:
lol let the guy be. If he wants to be a bachelor all his life it's his choice but he must just say the truth. Even if some men don't want to get married they still crave a women and this man seems not to have such for the past 10 years which makes me come to the conclusion that he must simply be gay.

If he likes let him be gray sef no qualms but he should know it gives him no license to hate or denigrate women.

LordReed:
If he likes let him be gray sef no qualms but he should know it gives him no license to hate or denigrate women.

exactly. Thank goodness we still have some good men like you.

LordReed:
If he likes let him be gray sef no qualms but he should know it gives him no license to hate or denigrate women.

Do you issue licence? Its gay not gray.

Whether you like it or not women are CURSED(In the light of Genesis 3:16). Even in 1 Timothy 2:12 and 14, Apostle Paul through the Holy Spirit refused them to teach in Fellowships referring again to their transgression.

Just relax. Very soon you will enter that marriage you are very obsessed about with these women you are too obsessed with and your eyes will open.

Then we will know who hates women.

Then you will know why married men used to say women are neccessary evil.

I don't blame you, fantasy is just clouding your reasons. Am very happy that very soon it will clear.

Even with all your insults, as a good Christian I promise to give you a shoulder to lean on.

Good day.

Notyourb1tch:
exactly. Thank goodness we still have some good men like you.

Dear lady,

It seems you're very inexperienced.

FYI; Few seemly good words on pages of nairaland is not enough to reveal who is a good man.

He seems to be supporting women and that makes him good?

Hmmmmmm! I have seen things. Let me keep there.

ColinAdua:
Do you issue licence? Its gay not gray.

Whether you like it or not women are CURSED.

Just relax. Very soon you will enter that marriage you are very obsessed about with these women you are too obsessed with and your eyes will open.

Then we will know who hates women.

Then you will know why married men used to say women are neccessary evil.

I don't blame you fantasy is just clouding your reasons. Am very happy that very soon it will clear.

Even with all your insults, as a good Christian I promise to give you a shoulder to lean on.

Good day.

Acts 10:10-16 King James Version (KJV)
And he became very hungry, and would
have eaten: but while they made ready, he
fell into a trance,
And saw heaven opened, and a certain
vessel descending upon him, as it had been
a great sheet knit at the four corners, and
let down to the earth:
Wherein were all manner of fourfooted
beasts of the earth, and wild beasts, and
creeping things, and fowls of the air.
And there came a voice to him, Rise,
Peter; kill, and eat.
But Peter said, Not so, Lord; for I have
never eaten any thing that is common or
unclean.
And the voice spake unto him again the
second time, What God hath cleansed, that
call not thou common.
This was done thrice: and the vessel was
received up again into heaven.

LordReed:
Acts 10:10-16 King James Version (KJV)
And he became very hungry, and would
have eaten: but while they made ready, he
fell into a trance,
And saw heaven opened, and a certain
vessel descending upon him, as it had been
a great sheet knit at the four corners, and
let down to the earth:
Wherein were all manner of fourfooted
beasts of the earth, and wild beasts, and
creeping things, and fowls of the air.
And there came a voice to him, Rise,
Peter; kill, and eat.
But Peter said, Not so, Lord; for I have
never eaten any thing that is common or
unclean.
And the voice spake unto him again the
second time, What God hath cleansed, that
call not thou common.
This was done thrice: and the vessel was
received up again into heaven.

Pls can u be more explicit.

snakebeat:
Pls can u be more explicit.

Those using God to call women and by extension marriage cursed are liars. God in this passage rebukes Peter thrice for calling what He has blessed, unclean.

Hebrews 13:4 - Marriage is honourable in all,

Yet we have here this fellow calling women cursed and telling us marriage is no longer sanctioned by God or whatever nonsense meanwhile

1 Timothy 4 King James Version (KJV)

1 Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils;

2 Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron;

3 Forbidding to marry,

Judge for yourself by the scriptures if what this fellow is spewing here matches up with the Word of God.

Notyourb1tch:
lol let the guy be. If he wants to be a bachelor all his life it's his choice but he must just say the truth. Even if some men don't want to get married they still crave a women and this man seems not to have such for the past 10 years which makes me come to the conclusion that he must simply be gay.

You're painfully ignorant. So because he decides not to be swallowed by the pit of marriage, he's now a homosexual? This is why I have disdain for females because most of you talk so foolishly.

LordReed:
If he likes let him be gray sef no qualms but he should know it gives him no license to hate or denigrate women.

You're a pathetic simp.

aim5:
You're painfully ignorant. So because he decides not to be swallowed by the pit of marriage, he's now a homosexual? This is why I have disdain for females because most of you talk so foolishly.

Notyourb1tch:

Foolish ho.e.

aim5:
Foolish ho.e.

Still does not change the fact that you are a retarded gay fktard. Don't make your frustrations my problems comprehend?!

LordReed:
If he likes let him be gray sef no qualms but he should know it gives him no license to hate or denigrate women.

Let him hate if he wants. Nobody cares nor will we women lose sleep over him and his opinions

Notyourb1tch:
Still does not change the fact that you are a retarded gay fktard. Don't make your frustrations my problems comprehend?!

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So because OP and me don't have plans on marrying women, that makes us gay? Typical shaming tactic from a black female beast like yourself. I'm just glad more men are waking up to the bulls.hit you treacherous females are playing.

Notyourb1tch:
Let him hate if he wants. Nobody cares nor will we women lose sleep over him and his opinions

He free to have his personal opinions but once he broadcast his opinion on the Internet then he just made it a matter of public record and opened it up for discussion.

Op you are a very lazy fellow!!!

So you want to run away from marriage so that you can be as dirty as you want to be