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dickrider:
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Well, let's us get married

initiate:
Aint these reasons good enough for you?

After God created man he said its not good that man should be alone, lemme create him a help meet....the most important reason for marriage is companionship but ppl av miscontrued it to d fullest.

DollyParton1:
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Masters of Sex.

dickrider:
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Waooo!.... I don't know the reason why I always like direct and outspoken lady like this: may be it was due to my introvert nature.

Cavenchy:
OP why? After reading this post I now want to get Married! Not for all the reasons posted but for the fact that none of them seem to apply to me, therefore I should be ready to settle down. Just need to find the right Mrs.

Oh u dint want to get married bfor reading? . Wat part of d post made u change ur mind? And ar u d right Mr?
Ans all oo.

gospi:
Oh u dint want to get married bfor reading? . Wat part of d post made u change ur mind? And ar u d right Mr?
Ans all oo.

Your post exposed the truth about giving and truly loving for unselfish reasons. Life is too short to be spent within yourself alone.

Life is God's beautiful gift. Just like the fire on a candle: It doesn't diminish when it light's up another rather they both glow. It's all about the will to give and love someone long enough for you to truly know them and care for them and most importantly to have that one truly know and care about you too, and by so doing, you both blossom.

Someone once said, all else fades away when you get old and can't do much for yourself, but all that's left that still makes any sense to you is the love you share with the few who still remain by your side. Life must be lonely without someone to spend that life with.

I felt a lot of people before now wouldn't see marriage the way I did, but your post is proof I'm not alone in my thoughts and hopefully others would learn from it. Thanks.

Every Mrs has a Mr right for her, Its finding the right match that matters. Where there is a will, there is a way.

Kachisbarbie:
nah

These reasons are not secrets.

You should have said something like
* financial security
*social status
*sympathy/ pity

Etc

Hw ar they not secrets? How many people tell dia partners wen proposing that they just need dem for "KiDS", "SEX" or just to please dia mother?
I also wrote "money"(financial security)
Yea social status and pity ar also part of dem..
U knw I can't write all na.. Cos there ar so many wonderful reasons

themodernman:
After God created man he said its not good that man should be alone, lemme create him a help meet....the most important reason for marriage is companionship but ppl av miscontrued it to d fullest.

Soo right.Its bin so miscontrued esp in Africa.

I do not agree to any of this reasons why pple get married.
is marriage for joke?
marry a woman so that she can cook for u? without knowing any other thing about her then oneday you will see food and not be able to eat it.

ekiloui:
No 2. Nearly happened to me...I ran 4 my dear life. I just noticed the way he would say when we get married atleast I'll have someone to take care of the house. Even once he said in my village men don't enter the kitchen..Omo I had to bolt, if I must get married it's not to become a househelp

Lol. U ar even lucky he told u

If ur only reason for marriage is because of love and companionship then thats unfortunate. What about d sex, kids and the assistance you will get from one another. If u are only looking for love and companionship u can get it even without getting married

lordyugo:
Its a lil bit of everytn u mentioned.everybdy dt has ever gotn married since d beginning of time got married for sm selfish reasons ,all d talk bout luv romance etc is jus to gloss over it and make it appealing, if not u wont hear for better or for worse cos d knw both parties r coming wit different selfish reasons

there's nothing wrong with any of the reasons the op gave, he or her and his or her ilk just have warped views.

justi4jesu:
Your secret is safe with me.

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I got married because I don't want to fornicate, I want to be a father & bear responsibility because my DAD tried to make sure we never lack... So am ready to be like my DAD


But in marriage if you don't marry your own destiny wife hmm you go hear am

Out of all these points you've listed.... I don't see anyone tangible enough to convince anyone to get married...


You need S E X find a sex worker 'olosho'
You need house help get a maid
You need kids get a Surrogate mother
parents pressures you show them an adopted child
want to maintain the lineage makes babies with surrogacy and employ a nanny to take good care of them...

So, what's the essence of marriage?

gospi:
People get married for various reasons. A lot of reasons people get married for won't be revealed to their partners even wen asked trust me, cos wen u know d real reason ur partner is marrying or agreeing to marry U, you mite not just wana go ahead.

You would hear reasons like, I need a companion,because I love him/her bla bla bla...

While these mite be true ,deep down are som reasons u don't want to hear...which are possibly d main reasons she is accepting ur proposal or why d guy is proposing...
Here ;

1.For Ladies ;THE WEDDING CEREMONY

Hmmmm. This happens especially wen ladies attend dia friend's wedding ceremony, they love the whole paparazzi..wearing wedding gowns, people gathering for their sake,reception,everybody is looking at me, snapping pictures.d whole PARTY TINGy... Forgetin dat d weddin ceremony lasts for A DAY and d marriage is (suposd) to b forever .Take dis out and a lot of ladies won't be so eager to get married...

2.Guys:THEY NEED A HELPER ( Especially a house help)
Hmm. 90 percent of African Men get married for this reason. A guy goes to work comes back and there is no food .. He tells himself "mehn I need a wife" No dear.. U need a cook. Most guys will propose when they seee u as someone that can cook very well, sweep d house, wash dia clothes,wash dia plates...name dem...all oda tins are secondary to dem...
Guys untill you stop mistaking the word "HELPER" for "HOUSE HELP" ,I guess we hav a long way to go in marriage.

3.For both guys and ladies : THEIR PARENTS WON'T LET THEM BE.
This reason tho... If not for parental pressure a lot of singles won't be so eager for marriage..
You hear singles say "my mother has told me that if I don't want her to die bfor her time den I should get married",So dis guys goes out searching for Her for dat reason,not like dats wat he would hav done if left alone by parents.
D lady also accepts d guys proposal and inside her she's like very "Wow at last my mum won't die bfor her time "!!!
Marriages like dis do not last.As much as we Love our parents let's be careful not to let them push us into tins we ar not ready for.

4. For guys and ladies: KIDS
Minus kids ,like 80 percent of singles wll still remain Singles for life but because they want kids and they want them to grow up wit a mother or father ,hence dey want to get married.
As much as I acknowledge the fact that kids are very important,that shouldn't be the topmost reason for getting married...What if the kids don't even come?

5.For guys and ladies (especially guys);SEX
We all know that a lot of guys don't joke with sex,for so many if not for sex they won't get married. For ladies who love sex so much :they want to get married and have legal sex.
Yea I know a lot of people hav sex dese days witout getting married..But som feel guilty after d act cos they know its not right.
So to hav sex and feel good about it they want to get married.
Sex shouldn't be ur top most priority for marriage, U would hav lots and lots of it wen married and with time u wll understand that there is more to marriage than just sex.

There are several other reasons like
All my friends are getting married,Menopause getting close to menoSTOP(lol)...,money etc

Like I said earlier don't expect to hear dis reasons from people when you ask..
Very few people marry for companionship,for love or because of what they want to give.
Almost everyone is about what they want to get from the other person and what marriage offers.

If I think about WHAT I WANT TO GIVE in marriage and you think about WHAT u want to give ...Why won't marriage work?

Selfishness kills try being Selfless at least sometimes.

So for singles ;Why do you want to get married?
For the married: Why did U get married?
Abeg talk true

Especially guys Guys don't need marriage to have sex... So please change your line of thought

every night rape is assured

I love you for this

initiate:
Aint these reasons good enough for you?

from your post, if I marry I get
a helper to take care of domestic needs;
no more disturbance from parents, families, colleagues at work, sisters in church, small girls in the area who want to buy phone
I have kids to carry on my name and to play with and to inherit my billions
and assurance of sex everynight

so wats wrong with that? more than good enough reason to get married. in fact if you don't get this then wats the poit?

U don't need to get married to get all u listed above

For ur domestic chores u cld get an househelp
For ur frnds n fam bothering u, avoid too many visits
For kids wu wld bear ur name, u cld get a desperate gal to be ur baby mama, just mk provision 4 ur own kids so she can gladly give dem ur name.

Marriage doesn't promise u all u listed above, not all gals can handle domestic work, nt all marriages turn out fruitful, I no dis is d idealogy of a typical black man.

I tink d most impt tin is companionshp, cos witout dis marriage must be a bore, all odas are d fruits dat comes wit it.

Matttthew:
All those er baseless n pointless....
Having good reason would be better like....
To promote God love
His existence
To get a real second.... A real helping hand, an advicer.. A prayer one... The one dah encourage.....





Everything no b sex or materialistic now.....

That marriage would be soo boring.

dickrider:
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I need a ride!!! Asap!!!!

pinkshell:
U don't need to get married to get all u listed above

For ur domestic chores u cld get an househelp
For ur frnds n fam bothering u, avoid too many visits
For kids wu wld bear ur name, u cld get a desperate gal to be ur baby mama, just mk provision 4 ur own kids so she can gladly give dem ur name.

Marriage doesn't promise u all u listed above, not all gals can handle domestic work, nt all marriages turn out fruitful, I no dis is d idealogy of a typical black man.

I tink d most impt tin is companionshp, cos witout dis marriage must be a bore, all odas are d fruits dat comes wit it.

mmmhhhh! E be like say you dey make sense...

pinkshell:
U don't need to get married to get all u listed above

For ur domestic chores u cld get an househelp
For ur frnds n fam bothering u, avoid too many visits
For kids wu wld bear ur name, u cld get a desperate gal to be ur baby mama, just mk provision 4 ur own kids so she can gladly give dem ur name.

Marriage doesn't promise u all u listed above, not all gals can handle domestic work, nt all marriages turn out fruitful, I no dis is d idealogy of a typical black man.

I tink d most impt tin is companionshp, cos witout dis marriage must be a bore, all odas are d fruits dat comes wit it.

lets face reality here, most marriages don't enjoy good companionship due to the values we have in Nigeria today. if you have it you are lucky but you aint likely to have it. talk to about 10 couple you know and average it out.

as per what you listed above ie house chores, baby mama etc don't you thing its much more convenient and manageable if you have all these wrapped in one person?

also please note; its not going to be an impersonal relationship, you would have understanding and mutual respect for each other and all these benefits would oil the works. and if you persevere you will end up calling in love after 30 years. good luck

initiate:
lets face reality here, most marriages don't enjoy good companionship due to the values we have in Nigeria today. if you have it you are lucky but you aint likely to have it. talk to about 10 couple you know and average it out.

as per what you listed above ie house chores, baby mama etc don't you thing its much more convenient and manageable if you have all these wrapped in one person?

also please note; its not going to be an impersonal relationship, you would have understanding and mutual respect for each other and all these benefits would oil the works. and if you persevere you will end up calling in love after 30 years. good luck

most marriages don't enjoy good companionship due to the values we have in Nigeria today. - what values? U aint being sPecific, so how am I to know what u mean?


if you have it you are lucky but you aint likely to have it. - Y are u making 'dis' abt me, cool down jesus loves u. Hehehe

if you have all these wrapped in one person? - honey, u need a re-orientatn, if u go in2 marriage to seek ur own selfish gains, u wld be dissapointed, bsides u can't av it all.

At ur last 3 lines, I wasn't seekin an advice we were only discussing here. #Cheers

^^ pinkshell thanks I couldnt agree more. The things the OP listed are the selfish characteristic traits found amongst many Africans when they plan to get married. I'm happy once again I ain't alone in my believe that marriage should be more about companionship than anything else. Sort of like an extension of yourself in another human being. Loved your response to the person above your last post as well. I was having trouble comprehending his/her point tbh. Cheers.

pinkshell:
U don't need to get married to get all u listed above

For ur domestic chores u cld get an househelp
For ur frnds n fam bothering u, avoid too many visits
For kids wu wld bear ur name, u cld get a desperate gal to be ur baby mama, just mk provision 4 ur own kids so she can gladly give dem ur name.

Marriage doesn't promise u all u listed above, not all gals can handle domestic work, nt all marriages turn out fruitful, I no dis is d idealogy of a typical black man.

I tink d most impt tin is companionshp, cos witout dis marriage must be a bore, all odas are d fruits dat comes wit it.

God bless u

pinkshell:
most marriages don't enjoy good companionship due to the values we have in Nigeria today. - what values? U aint being sPecific, so how am I to know what u mean?


if you have it you are lucky but you aint likely to have it. - Y are u making 'dis' abt me, cool down jesus loves u. Hehehe

if you have all these wrapped in one person? - honey, u need a re-orientatn, if u go in2 marriage to seek ur own selfish gains, u wld be dissapointed, bsides u can't av it all.

At ur last 3 lines, I wasn't seekin an advice we were only discussing here. #Cheers

what values? pecuniary, convenience and social values

Y are u making 'dis' abt me its not abt u. when I say if you have it I mean "if one has it" its a manner of speaking, I hope you get it

now honey, having it all wrapped in one person doesn't mean you sit around all day with you legs up and drinking orijin and enjoying the whole scenario, but rather you have to macth up and make sure she too has all her need, or most at least, wrapped up together in you. irs give and take baby. if it weighs too much to one side the centre wont hold for long. long and short of the gist is that there has to be some practical and functional aspect to the thing, sentiments and emotions wont last so long

last three lines; advice to who might need it. maybe you don't but you could pass it on

Anytin u say!

initiate:
what values? pecuniary, convenience and social values

Y are u making 'dis' abt me its not abt u. when I say if you have it I mean "if one has it" its a manner of speaking, I hope you get it

now honey, having it all wrapped in one person doesn't mean you sit around all day with you legs up and drinking orijin and enjoying the whole scenario, but rather you have to macth up and make sure she too has all her need, or most at least, wrapped up together in you. irs give and take baby. if it weighs too much to one side the centre wont hold for long. long and short of the gist is that there has to be some practical and functional aspect to the thing, sentiments and emotions wont last so long

last three lines; advice to who might need it. maybe you don't but you could pass it on

1. Traditional marriage rites : 450,000 naira
2. Entertainment: 100,000 naira


1. Hall: 150,000
2. Decoration: 60,0000
3. DJ: 25,000
4. MC: 40,000
5. Wedding gown and suite: 60,000
6. Food and drinks: 200,000
7. Camera man: 65,000
8. Wedding ring: 45,000
9. Miscellaneous: 20,000

Total: #1,215,000 naira only.

You ready to marry?