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Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by kunle81(op): 8:25pm On May 08, 2015

This is second time i caught my wife cheating on me. She acknowledged she is not lacking anytin in this marriage, finance and strenght! We have three children. She is appologising again. Should I let her go. Pls I cant compose this msg more than this cos am not happy am weak. Pls your advise. Thx

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by agarawu23(m): 8:29pm On May 08, 2015

A cheating wife can kill her husband, if truly you caught her "red handed" I think you have the decision to make yourself.

Are you 100% sure you are satisfyingly her? if yes, she can't stop the act since this is not the first time.

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by Nobody: 8:30pm On May 08, 2015

Lol...mr married man,she is ur wife,not ours.

Whatever u wanna do,do it!

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by dulux07(m): 8:33pm On May 08, 2015

Jst let her go. Once bitten twice shy. This is d second time u caught her, m very sure dis is not d second time she cheated on u.

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by SleekyP(m): 8:33pm On May 08, 2015

let me make a call......
Ishilove
MizMyColi

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by Nobody: 8:40pm On May 08, 2015

[color=#150000]3rd time is the charm.

Wait till she cheats a 3rd time. . .

Mumu.[/color]

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Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by francizy(m): 8:40pm On May 08, 2015

Hehehehehe, OP if I tell make you kiss and make up with your wife, will you?

If I tell you to divorce her straight, will you?

Abeg do weting dey your mind and stop asking us this kind question here.

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by Nobody: 8:48pm On May 08, 2015

If she fool you the first time. SHAME ON HER
If she fool you the second time. SHAME ON YOU.
But if she still fool you the third time. YOU ARE A COMPLETE ID!OT.
I think you have a Trust Management Issue.

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by Nobody: 8:50pm On May 08, 2015

First of all, what your wife is doing is totally wrong and silly. The fact that she has three children and she is sleeping with someone that's not her husband goes a log way to show how irresponsible she is coupled with her low commitment to her family and her marriage

That being said, for the reason that you already have children I would advise you still protect your union with your wife.
Divorce or break-ups can affect children psychologically and emotionally. I can tell you that for sure.

I would advise you talk to your wife. She is your wife and you should know how to talk to her in a way that she would understand.
Tell her that she is a wife with children and the path she is taking would bring no good to her and her family.
I would also advise you get a spiritual leader or an elder relation to talk to her. This would also help.

One more thing, have you asked yourself why she keeps on cheating on you?. I think you should yourself that. You should also ask her too.
Perhaps you are doing something wrong.

You should also petition her case to God. Pray that God should change her. There is nothing prayer cannot do.

I wish you the best in your marriage.
Thanks.

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by Princessonelove: 8:50pm On May 08, 2015

Eyah I can't even make a joke about this...OP tell her people about it and take the kids for DNA tests. You can't be too sure.

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Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by ammyluv2002(f): 9:06pm On May 08, 2015

missclasssy:
First of all, what your wife is doing is totally wrong and silly. The fact that she has three children and she is sleeping with someone that's not her husband goes a log way to show how irresponsible she is coupled with her low commitment to her family and her marriage

That being said, for the reason that you already have children I would advise you still protect your union with your wife.
Divorce or break-ups can affect children psychologically and emotionally. I can tell you that for sure.

I would advise you talk to your wife. She is your wife and you should know how to talk to her in a way that she would understand.
Tell her that she is a wife with children and the path she is taking would bring no good to her and her family.
I would also advise you get a spiritual leader or an elder relation to talk to her. This would also help.

One more thing, have you asked yourself why she keeps on cheating on you?. I think you should yourself that. You should also ask her too.
Perhaps you are doing something wrong.

You should also petition her case to God. Pray that God should change her. There is nothing prayer cannot do.

I wish you the best in your marriage.
Thanks.

You're the best......so real! People think divorce is easy kiss

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Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by Tallesty1(m): 9:07pm On May 08, 2015

SleekyP:
let me make a call......
Ishilove
MizMyColi

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Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by Tallesty1(m): 9:10pm On May 08, 2015

missclasssy:
First of all, what your wife is doing is totally wrong and silly. The fact that she has three children and she is sleeping with someone that's not her husband goes a log way to show how irresponsible she is coupled with her low commitment to her family and her marriage

That being said, for the reason that you already have children I would advise you still protect your union with your wife.
Divorce or break-ups can affect children psychologically and emotionally. I can tell you that for sure.

I would advise you talk to your wife. She is your wife and you should know how to talk to her in a way that she would understand.
Tell her that she is a wife with children and the path she is taking would bring no good to her and her family.
I would also advise you get a spiritual leader or an elder relation to talk to her. This would also help.

One more thing, have you asked yourself why she keeps on cheating on you?. I think you should yourself that. You should also ask her too.
Perhaps you are doing something wrong.

You should also petition her case to God. Pray that God should change her. There is nothing prayer cannot do.

I wish you the best in your marriage.
Thanks.

Be Honestly Honest Here.

Can you continue living with a guy who you have caught red handed twice?

Personally I can't, if I caught her twice then it means she's been bleeped a million times.

Staying with this woman will force him down 6feet.

Divorce Her@OP.

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by SleekyP(m): 9:12pm On May 08, 2015

Tallesty1:
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*flipping*

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by Nobody: 9:14pm On May 08, 2015

Tallesty1:
Be Honestly Honest Here.

Can you continue living with a guy who you have caught red handed twice?

Personally I can't, if I caught her twice then it means she's been bleeped a million times.

Staying with this woman will force him down 6feet.

Divorce Her@OP.

Are you married? If yes, do you have children?
If you do, then would you destroy your marriage at the detriment of your children's lives and future.

Do you know the effect divorce has on children?
In cases like this one has to apply wisdom.

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by Nobody: 9:16pm On May 08, 2015

ammyluv2002:
You're the best......so real! People think divorce is easy

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Exactly, especially when you have children.

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by MizMyColi(f): 9:19pm On May 08, 2015

Tallesty1:
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Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by mdbissalla(m): 9:27pm On May 08, 2015

who knows whether these three childern sef no bi your own... hmm i fear wooo
quickly do DNA Test... abeg no b me talk am ooo na u carry yam come my place

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by MRBrownJ: 9:29pm On May 08, 2015

@OP
forgiving someone who is not sorry for what they have done is pointless as they will surely do their mistake one and one. you have to let go of that ungrateful disrespectful person, unless you are willing to catch whatever she is going to catch from her lovers (HIV/AIDS, PREGNANCY, EBOLA etc)

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by Tallesty1(m): 9:31pm On May 08, 2015

missclasssy:
Are you married? If yes, do you have children?
If you do, then would you destroy your marriage at the detriment of your children's lives and future.

Do you know the effect divorce has on children?
In cases like this one has to apply wisdom.

It's obvious you don't know what it feels like when your wife cheats on you.

First it feels like acid is eating through the depths of your soul, burning away your dignity, pride, dreams, shatters your Self-Esteem and murders your soul finally.

It inflicts a mass amount of pain on your soul. Learning about it alone can be emotionally and physically devastating.

Then imagine living in same house with the person who caused you such pain? You see him or her everyday, you replay everything s/he did to you in your mind because forgiveness is possible but to forget completely is not.

Imagine living with someone you would never trust.

Every unknown call raises your Blood Pressure.

You die anytime she leaves house and not come back in time.

Like I said earlier, living with a cheat will force any man down six-feet.

Consider STDs.

Consider Raising Children That Are not Your Own.

Divorce Is The Best Option.

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Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by Venom104: 9:31pm On May 08, 2015

missclasssy:
Are you married? If yes, do you have children?
If you do, then would you destroy your marriage at the detriment of your children's lives and future.

Do you know the effect divorce has on children?
In cases like this one has to apply wisdom.

Yes, divorce is not easy especially when you think of the effect it has on most children.. but have you also considered the effect a marriage without love and trust will have on them.. what if the kids grow up thinking thats the way relationships are meant to be and later in life dont get to have any meaningful connection with anyone.. a woman that cheats on you once doesnt love you, a woman that does it a second time will someday finally decide to kill you so she can be free again..

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by IamOdin: 9:41pm On May 08, 2015

missclasssy:
First of all, what your wife is doing is totally wrong and silly. The fact that she has three children and she is sleeping with someone that's not her husband goes a log way to show how irresponsible she is coupled with her low commitment to her family and her marriage

That being said, for the reason that you already have children I would advise you still protect your union with your wife.
Divorce or break-ups can affect children psychologically and emotionally. I can tell you that for sure.

I would advise you talk to your wife. She is your wife and you should know how to talk to her in a way that she would understand.
Tell her that she is a wife with children and the path she is taking would bring no good to her and her family.
I would also advise you get a spiritual leader or an elder relation to talk to her. This would also help.

One more thing, have you asked yourself why she keeps on cheating on you?. I think you should yourself that. You should also ask her too.
Perhaps you are doing something wrong.

You should also petition her case to God. Pray that God should change her. There is nothing prayer cannot do.

I wish you the best in your marriage.
Thanks.

HIAN!!!

who lend you this brain??.cos the dick head i know wouldn't make this suggestion on her own..this is probably your most sensible post since you joined nairaland.#changes!

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by Nobody: 9:44pm On May 08, 2015

IamOdin:
HIAN!!!

who lend you this brain??.cos the dick head i know wouldn't make this suggestion on her own..this is probably your most sensible post since you joined nairaland.#changes!

You are wrong.

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by happyjuliet(f): 9:44pm On May 08, 2015

What did she do? Give us d full details cool

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by IamOdin: 9:53pm On May 08, 2015

missclasssy:
You are wrong.

Elaborate...

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by Nobody: 9:55pm On May 08, 2015

IamOdin:
Elaborate...

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by IamOdin: 9:57pm On May 08, 2015

missclasssy:
www.nairaland.com/missjenna

Elaborate more.

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by MRBrownJ: 10:16pm On May 08, 2015

so people think its better to have two miserable people raising children together, hating on one another, lying and cheating on one another, acting foul in front of the kids, fighting, possibly taking their frustrations on the kids etc instead of two HAPPY divorced parents that live and raise their children separately?!

we are certainly doomed.

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by thankyouJesus(m): 10:20pm On May 08, 2015

I have nothing to contribute but sincerely, you need to take the kids for DNA test.

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by sneak3(m): 10:32pm On May 08, 2015

Bros with all sincerity this is actually ur call.. the sole decision rest wiv you. But if am to advise you, this is really a no brainer , it is a straight forward decision. Simply package her home and present to her parent a documebtry eveidence of their child's infidelity...

My submission is this she's never gona change.. cheating on you consistently like the way and manner Messi and Ronaldo score goals and u still come here to ask for advice??

Ok on a lighter note just give her a pat at the back I trust world leaders to call and congratulate you for your statesman behavior..

Re: Pls I Realy Need Ur Advise by ojun50(m): 10:59pm On May 08, 2015

If every one hear believe u i wil nt because u are also cheating, remember u were also searching for sugar mummy.

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