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Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by Fulaboy(m): 3:28pm On May 09, 2015

KingTom:
Can you imagine?

that girl must be made of diamond angry

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by KingTom(m): 3:30pm On May 09, 2015

Fulaboy:
that girl must be made of diamond

As in ehn

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by Fulaboy(m): 3:35pm On May 09, 2015

KingTom:
As in ehn

let's presume each single cow is 100k and you're buying 5 which is 500k excluding other marriage expenses. And after all these they gave you a second punny angry

God4bid bad thing I'd rather stay single

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by Tallesty1(m): 3:36pm On May 09, 2015

MizMyColi:
Well, prolly due to my western exposure, I don't understand the need for exorbitant BPs.

I understand, if there's a mutual agreement for symbolic exchange...which in this case, would be money.

Value vs Value.

The Americans don't.
It's all about mutuality.

It is this bureaucracy that's a major factor why we have more singles today.
Times are changing.
The world's going through this craze for materialistic overdrives.

It therefore adds that if you don't "have", marriage is not for you.
Those who manage to have now become scared that some woman would pop out from no where and chop them clean.
Talk about dead locks.

In other news, my Nokia Palasa don spoil

Well, things will be done about it with time.

There are changes already.

What's the model of the phone and what happened to it.

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by KingTom(m): 3:40pm On May 09, 2015

Fulaboy:
let's presume each single cow is 100k and you're buying 5 which is 500k excluding other marriage expenses. And after all these they gave you a second punny

God4bid bad thing I'd rather stay single

For fairly used product oh, just imagine! grin

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by Fulaboy(m): 3:45pm On May 09, 2015

KingTom:
For fairly used product oh, just imagine!

I fit buy car with the money kawai is quit better sefff

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by KingTom(m): 3:48pm On May 09, 2015

Fulaboy:
I fit buy car with the money kawai is quit better sefff

500k clean camry with A.C grin

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by Fulaboy(m): 3:50pm On May 09, 2015

KingTom:
500k clean camry with A.C

aha with that car you go chop free punnies tired grin

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by KingTom(m): 3:51pm On May 09, 2015

Fulaboy:
aha with that car you go chop free punnies tired

Baba your head dey there grin

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by Fulaboy(m): 4:07pm On May 09, 2015

KingTom:
Baba your head dey there

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by KingTom(m): 4:22pm On May 09, 2015

Fulaboy:

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by MizMyColi(f): 5:36pm On May 09, 2015

Tallesty1:
Well, things will be done about it with time.

There are changes already.

What's the model of the phone and what happened to it.

Shaming shy tins.
I no fit tok am.
grin

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by Nobody: 5:36pm On May 09, 2015

Poverty is a bytch....

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Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by LewisO: 5:37pm On May 09, 2015*

KingTom:
The way bride prices are expensive these days is alarming, na wetin make I never marry till now! Can you imagine? Me! To bring 5 cows for a fairly used girl? Mbanu!

Meanwhile...

[color=Teal] Can you just imagine?

@bolded... A girl that had been screwed several times that she can't even count how many times she had being screwed.

It baffles me, some parents will even be asking for bride price from the man like his life depends on their daughter if he didn't marry her. Mtcheww. [/color]

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Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by teemy(m): 5:45pm On May 09, 2015

There was a lady's case that made front page twice due to her hubby raping her. The guy mentioned he had paid high for her bride price. A man I had occassion to talk with over the phone who found it not out of error to call his wife worthless in front of a stranger told me he had paid her bride price. A friend of mine told me he had once beaten his wife blueblack which he would not have had the liver to do if he had not paid her bride price. What made all these honourable men because of bride price do wrong by what they themselves by their own standards would have termed unfair.

I did not pay any bride price as far as my wife is concerned. Who knows maybe I would have done same if the spirit of 'ownership' had gotten into me if that is what happens for those who follow this tradition irregardless of my stance of not ever hurting my wife. I believe it should not be commercialized if done or else it's better abolished.

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Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by Toks2008(m): 5:56pm On May 09, 2015

The issue of bride price in today's world have been blown out of proportion and what we see today is totally absurd.

Tradition is very important and must be adhered to but let me make it clear to many pastors who have not found it necessary to understand the concept of bride price from the Biblical point of view and to many ignorant people who have misconstrued the essence of the act.

The Biblical bride price(Lobola) is totally different from what we see today as parents practically sell their daughters in some parts of the world and you will see the man treating the lady like shits after marriage shouting "I paid your bride price" as though that is a condition to make her feel like a bought object.

DEMANDING MONETARY OR MATERIAL BRIDE PRICE FOR A CONSENSUAL UNION IS NOT BIBLICAL BUT A PRODUCT OF MAN MADE GREEDY TRADITION

In the bible, 50 shekels of silver was the amount a man who RAPES a virgin must pay AS A PENALTY for the wrong doing and even after paying the father of the lady can still deny him the lady in question beacuse the money paid is a penalty for the crime but today the greedy world have made this a reference point to demand for insane amount on a lady who is far from been a virgin.

Deuteronomy 22:28-29 reads "Suppose a man is caught raping a young woman who is not engaged,He is to pay her father the bride price of fifty pieces of silver, and she is to become his wife, because he forced her to have intercourse with him. He can never divorce her as long as he lives"

Exodus 22:16-17 also states “If a man seduces a virgin who is not betrothed and lies with her, he shall give the bride-price for her and make her his wife. If her father utterly refuses to give her to him, he shall pay money equal to the bride-price for virgins.

The most acceptable bride price according to the bible should be paid ONLY FOR VIRGINS in form of gifts or maybe even money only at the discretion of the groom to be as seen in the case of Abraham sending his servant to bring a wife for Isaac and never by demand as we see today where they will ask the man to come and collect a list from the bride's family.

Genesis 24 - Now the young woman was very beautiful to behold, A VIRGIN,NO MAN HAD KNOWN HER And she went down to the well, filled her pitcher, and came up. And the servant ran to meet her and said, “Please let me drink a little water from your pitcher.” So she said, “Drink, my lord.” Then she quickly let her pitcher down to her hand, ...

Genesis 24:53-59:Then the servant brought out gold and silver jewelry and articles of clothing and gave them to Rebekah; he also gave costly gifts to her brother and to her mother.

So they called Rebekah and asked her, "Will you go with this man?" "I will go," she said.So they sent their sister Rebekah on her way, along with her nurse and Abraham's servant and his men.

This is a wake up call for us to teach our daughters good ethics and enshrine it in their psyche that it pays to remain a virgin for your husband alone. Yes we know we may have peculiar cases of sexual abuses which of-course can be waived but parents should stop using the Bible as a guide to the man made policy of the type of bride price demanded in this present day.

I am not against paying of bride price on a lady a man wants to marry even if she is a LovePeddler but its high time we drew a line between man made tradition and Biblical injunctions.

I hope this helps.

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Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by daveP(m): 6:00pm On May 09, 2015

I've seen a case where the lady ran away cos they asked for the impossible from the groom to be. The groom became worried and even the bride's family were shocked she didnt run to him, but elsewhere. She had her way and now the family bond is stronger. Uncle Feranmi God bless you o

(serves chilled drinks)

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by kaima1984(f): 6:03pm On May 09, 2015

Tallesty1:
A girl that truly loves me will not come from where the bride price is too high.

But There's a shortcut sha.....

Nope, It is not getting her pregnant.

All these villages that collect heaven and earth in the name of bride price have the one that are the basics. They are the ones that are compulsory.

Ask the bride(if she's a good material)the ones that are compulsory and do them.

When her family make any other unnecessary demand, tell them that you ain't giving them anything, react as if u are angry and tell them that you ain't marrying again.

And watch the speed the girl go take rush go enter unah motor.

Worked for a friend at Anambra.

The guy threatened to cancel the marriage and the family were the ones begging for peace.

keep Anambra state aside from this BC I know very well DAT my state dnt bill ppl BC of marriage

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Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by beyoncausme: 6:03pm On May 09, 2015

bride price is normal as tradition demands it,its not somtin we can jst change in this generation

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by Adaezeagu(f): 6:04pm On May 09, 2015

zingywingy:
that's the only way Igbos could benefit from there hardworking slave sons helping Yorubas developing Lagos, Hausa developing Abuja and other African countries but left their village underdeveloped...yet they claim intelligent on NL......mumus

Y they all do olosho in Lagos street and Abuja airwaves and kano sabongeri.. ..their toto sweet die..someone told me oo...I no do am

eyyaaa sorry oooo

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by lilmax(m): 6:05pm On May 09, 2015

KingTom:
The way bride prices are expensive these days is alarming, na wetin make I never marry till now! Can you imagine? Me! To bring 5 cows for a fairly used girl? Mbanu!

Meanwhile...

guy

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by 500GP: 6:09pm On May 09, 2015

THIS IS FOR THE IBO. MONEY CONSCIOUS TRIBE

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by Toks2008(m): 6:11pm On May 09, 2015

Fulaboy:
let's presume each single cow is 100k and you're buying 5 which is 500k excluding other marriage expenses. And after all these they gave you a second punny

God4bid bad thing I'd rather stay single

Please just go to Benin rep,Togo and you will be amazed that with 50k you can successfully marry a decent super sexy curved sexually decent lady who will give no bleep about your money but will be ready to stick with you all your life.

This is not about being cheap but its their culture whicch delves on mutual love between couple and not the Nigerian greedy money munging nature of some parents.

How i wish i could speak french..i for don marry one tey tey.

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Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by Adaezeagu(f): 6:17pm On May 09, 2015

This is another Igbo bashing thread
Igbo hater will keep formulating fake stories just to discredit us
Igbo girls are bad yet they will still be following us like flies
Anyways I don't care if u like my tribe or not( in adambano's voice)
[b][/b]men following Igbo gals like flies since creation

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Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by Adaezeagu(f): 6:25pm On May 09, 2015

500GP:
THIS IS FOR THE IBO. MONEY CONSCIOUS TRIBE

amebo
Mind ur business

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by mmsen: 6:27pm On May 09, 2015

Naughtysite:
Must there be a bride price ?

Must you sell your daughters ? Chai, poverty...

It isn't material poverty but moral and rational poverty that allows practices such as this to continue.

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Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by Nobody: 6:27pm On May 09, 2015

Adaezeagu:
This is another Igbo bashing thread
Igbo hater will keep formulating fake stories just to discredit us
Igbo girls are bad yet they will still be following us like flies
Anyways I don't care if u like my tribe or not( in adambano's voice)
[b][/b]men following Igbo gals like flies since creation

Obviously, you did not read!

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by Nobody: 6:28pm On May 09, 2015

Me were don see how all those traditional masquerade dey ask my brother make he buy two cows and some very very expensive things the family no fit even buy for themselves,

Naso my brother and us vex ohh, we come tell them say if na love, make the love die here say we no do again, the girl just dey cry there say she go kill herself she no mind, the stvpid father won come use sense come say we go negotiate oh, he drop the cow say make we bring goat, come reduce a the list like mumu, how much we paid as bride price na 10k grin

. Aldo the the money dey OK shall,

Naso we do the wedding ohh, see as them dey enjoy them life now with enough money even buy land.

Like serious. Na guys dey fall our hand, if them dey call those there price, just walk away you go see weti go happen,

If the girl no leave her house come meet you or the parents no reduce the price or she no kill herself.

Who dey pay those rubbish nowadays,

ALL THOSE USELESS SECOND HAND GIRLS.

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Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by Adaezeagu(f): 6:33pm On May 09, 2015

darknez:
Obviously, you did not read!

Really!
Have u read d comments?

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by Fulaboy(m): 6:34pm On May 09, 2015

Toks2008:
Please just go to Benin rep,Togo and you will be amazed that with 50k you can successfully marry a decent super sexy curved sexually decent lady who will give no bleep about your money but will be ready to stick with you all your life.

This is not about being cheap but its their culture whicch delves on mutual love between couple and not the Nigerian greedy money munging nature of some parents.

How i wish i could speak french..i for don marry one tey tey.

hmmm cool but nonetheless our fulani ladies are super cool too but not that expensive so I will stick to my sisters cool

Re: When The Bride Price Is Too High For Him To Pay by Tallesty1(m): 6:35pm On May 09, 2015

kaima1984:
keep Anambra state aside from this BC I know very well DAT my state dnt bill ppl BC of marriage

The story that I shared happened in Ihiala.

My elder brother's wife is from Ogbunike.

I have other relatives and friends that married from anambra.

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