₦airaland Forum

raayah:
I understand where you are coming from, but people who are from rich parentd usually live privileged life.

If i have the Money and connections, i'd make sure my kids never enter danfo, make sure they go to very good schools and set them up in the right path to start their career.

Why should I let my kids suffer in life. Look, suffering is not necessary to suceed. Some people get things on a platter of gold and that's ok too.

Its even proven that rick kids perform better because they have access to top tutors, necessities and good school. If they are hard-working its easier for them to move forward career-wise. Its a privileged life and its ok.

Suffering is not hardwork and it also does not mean you will suceed if you suffer.

femi4:
Graduates are looking for jobs
IT placements are difficult to get
Corp members are finding it difficult to secure place of primary assignment.

Yet, you claimed Nigerian youth are not ready to work. Seems the op has never stepped into the country in a long while

mmsen:
They will never understand or allow themselves to see clearly, so many Nigerians are embittered by the experiences of their youth and look to lash out at anyone whom they deem did not suffer as they did.

They don't realize that most people who are born into poverty die in the same state.

Wealth brings opportunity, not just material wealth but ideas. An exposure to better ideas allows one to maintain or grow your wealth and increase your quality of life.

The mentality that everyone should suffer because one person suffered is a regressive idea that should be done away with.

raayah:
Exactly, the Job situation is brutal in Nigeria. The only reason being that our government have destroyed our Economy.

Why is OP shaming people who chose to help their family out of this hell.?

Koroaso:
******ANOTHER FAILED ATTEMPT TO BLAME THE YOUTHS,DO NOT BLAME THE YOUTH....YOU ARE PLAYING WITH FIRE***************

******THUGS HAVE OIL LICENSES AND HOLD THE WHOLE COUNTRY TO RANSOM!!!!...AND YOU BLAME THE YOUTHS....NAIRALANDR OR WHATEVER YOU CALL YOURSELF....YOU BETTER CHECK YOURSELF....NIGERIAN YOUTH HAVE A REPUTATION WORLDWIDE TO BE HARDWORKING AND INDUSTRIOUS........

*********NIGERIANS ARE NOT FOOLS ANYMORE*****************

********WHEN YOU GIVE OIL WELL TO TY DANJUMA AND HE MAKES 500 MILLION DOLLARS MONTHLY....500 MILLION THAT BELONGS TO ALL OF US*************


******** YOU COME ONLINE AND CALL US LAZY.....LAZY FOR SAYING THE TRUTH NIGERIAN LEADERS ARE PSYCHOPATHIC THIEVES...I HAVE SAID IT AGAIN......GO AND WRITE ANOTHER ARTICLE WE ARE GOING TO KEEP SAYING IT TILL THE WHOLE WORLD KNOWS WHAT WE ARE GOING THROUGH IN NIGERIA.........THANK GOD FOR SOCIAL MEDIA!!!!***********

**********THEY HAVE REALIZED THAT WE ARE NOW FIGHTING BACK ON SOCIAL MEDIA.........AND THEY KNOW MANY LEADERS HAVE BEEN REMOVED WITH SOCIAL MEDIA....NOW THEY WANT TO SHUT THE YOUTHS UP......HAHAH....NICE TRY**************

*******AN ONLINE REVOLUTION HAS STARTED,NIGERIAN YOUTHS ARE AWARE AND READY FOR THOSE OF YOU STEALING OUR COMMONWEALTH SINCE THE 70''s OUR PARENTS AND GRANDPARENTS DID NOT FIGHT BACK....THATS WHY WE ARE HERE TODAY...NIGERIAN YOUTHS WILL FIGHT BACK THIS MESSY SITUATION HAS TO STOP************

********FOR A 26 TO DRIVE HIS FATHERS CAR IS NOW A VILIFIED ACTIVITY WHEN WE HAVE A PRESIDENT WITH MORE PRIVATE JETS THAN THE USA PRESIDENT,AND USES 1 BILLION NAIRA AS FOOD BUDGET IN A COUNTRY WHERE MAJORITY ARE IN ABJECT POVERTY***********

********OR A FINANCE MINISTER WHO AIDS AND ABETS DISAPPEARANCE OF 20 BILLION US DOLLARS***********

********AND YOU TURN AROUND AND BLAME THE YOUTHS.....YOU ARE DELUSIONAL!!!************


********HOW DID NIGERIA GET HERE ??***************

********THE CORRUPT LEADERS MORTGAGED THE YOUTHS FUTURE BORROWED ALL THIS MONEY AT A HIGHER EXCHANGE RATE NOW NAIRA HAS FALLEN WE PROBABLY OWE TWICE THAT AMOUNT IF YOU FACTOR IN THE NEW EXCHANGE RATE AND INTEREST ACCRUED***********

********ESSENTIALLY THESE PEOPLE HAVE SOLD NIGERIA BACK TO SLAVERY,COS WHATEVER MONEY NIGERIA MAKES NIGERIA WILL HAVE TO HAND IT OVER********

********FUEL SCARCITY,JOB SCARCITY,SECURITY SCARCITY,EDUCATION SCARCITY,HEALTH SCARCITY**********

********LETS FACE IT OUR LEADERS HAVE FAILED US*********

********THERE ARE COUNTRIES THAT DONT HAVE,THEIR ARE COUNTRIES THAT HAVE AND HAVE BEEN LOOTED *******

*******WE NEED TO STAND UP AND MOBILIZE...PDP OR APC NIGERIANS DONT GIVE A DAMN ANYMORE*******

********JONATHAN,OKONJI AND DIEZANI HAVE WRECKED THIS COUNTRY FURTHER************

********WHEN WE MADE BILLIONS IN OIL SALES WE DID NOT SAVE FOR HARD TIMES.....THESE PEOPLE STOLE NIGERIA BLIND AND INVESTED OUTSIDE THE COUNTRY,NOW THAT RAINY DAYS ARE HERE,THEY CAN GO BACK TO THEIR INVESTMENTS BUT THE COMMON MAN LIKE ME AND YOU WILL SUFFER THE HARDSHIPS******

*******ENOUGH IS ENOUGH***********

SEE THE PICTURE OF THE MEN THAT RUINED NIGERIA BELOW.
AS LEADERS YOU GUYS SHOULD TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR A FAILED STATE,EVERY SINGLE ONE OF YOU!!!!!!
YOU GUYS HAVE FAILED US AS A COUNTRY,BY CONTINUING TO ALLOW CORRUPTION,INSECURITY FESTER UNABATED.

EVERYDAY PEOPLE DIE OF UNDESERVED HARDSHIPS WHILE YOUR BILLIONS IN SWISS ACCOUNTS ARE ACCRUING INTERESTS....YOU HAVE BUILT HUMONGOUS MANSIONS WITH MONEY YOU STOLE FROM PEOPLE YOU WERE ENTRUSTED TO SERVE.

YOU ARE RUNNING THE WHOLE NATION LIKE A CIRCUS ACT......YOU MIGHT FOOL A LOT OF PEOPLE BUT NOT ALL.

ON BEHALF OF ALL NIGERIANS YOUTHS SHAME ON ALL OF YOU.
WE REGRET HAVING HAD YOU AS LEADERS EVER.
ALL OF YOU.
MAY KARMA SERVE YOU SIMILAR PORTIONS YOU SERVED NIGERIANS.

ONLY MEN WITH LOVE FOR THEIR NATION SHOULD BE ENTRUSTED WITH GUARDIANSHIP,NOT PEOPLE LIKE YOURSELVES.....

mmsen:
I keep seeing this stupid letter on this forum.

If you want a different outcome then parents would have to be more flexible. If Nigerians as a whole and Nigerian parents in particular are angry at the product then they should both look within - garbage in, garbage out is a very simple equation that would best describe what many are railing against.

Would Nigerians accept that parents should be more permissive? That children should be allowed to ask questions? That children learn by doing and are naturally curious? That children need guidance without anger? That corporal punishment is a form of domestic violence and thus evil? That the responsibilities of the household are for the parents and that children should only be concerned with their immediate welfare and development? Will Nigerians understand that they have too many children (on average) and are under undue stress as a result, which they then push unto the children?

Nigerian society has to be made to see that independent thinking and actions are healthy habits that should be nurtured - traits that many Nigerian parents/elders seem fearful of. Those that show superior parenting habits in Nigerian society are often treated with suspicion and hostility.

The author of this piece has failed all measures of logic by writing this piece. She seems to think that human beings raise themselves, the reality is that parental responsibility is a huge factor - what we see is what we emulate.

If the author is serious about this issue then they should begin by addressing the many flaws that Nigerian parents typically display in their child-rearing habits. What the author has done with this article is begin halfway through the story instead of beginning at the foundation. Such an assessment would require a thorough examination of Nigerian - dealing with the cult of 'elders', through to the plague of superstition and religion in Nigeria. When the author does that then they may find out why Nigerian society is the way that it is. In the mean time they will join the other cowards in blaming those without power or responsibility for the failings of the society.


P.S.
The author, in a manner consistent with her dishonest tone refused to mention the amount of money that many Western parents spend on their adult children by way of buying homes, buying cars, spending exorbitant amounts on over-elaborate weddings. I also know of many who have received hefty 'loans' from their parents for unspecified, non-performing businesses. This does not even deal with the issue of people who are 'placed' in jobs as a result of a family connection. This article really was written for the benefit of the clueless Nigerian masses who cannot see the wood for the trees and allow imbeciles like this author to present an entirely fictitious notion of life outside of Nigeria.

mmsen:
They will never understand or allow themselves to see clearly, so many people are embittered by the experiences of their youth and look to lash out at anyone whom they deem did not suffer as they did.

They don't realize that most people who are born into poverty die in the same state.

Wealth brings opportunity, not just material wealth but ideas. An exposure to better ideas allows one to maintain or grow your wealth and increase your quality of life.

The mentality that everyone should suffer because one person suffered is a regressive idea that should be done away with.

Nairalandar:
Culled from a friend Facebook Page:

I was as a student and then a resident in the UK. I live in Abuja now. One of first things that I discovered about UK-born, white, English undergraduates was that all of them did holiday or weekend job to support themselves – including the children of millionaires amongst them. It is the norm over there – regardless of how wealthy their parents were. And I soon discovered that virtually all other foreign students did the same, except status-conscious Nigerians.

I also watched Richard Branson (owner of Virgin Airline) speaking on the Biography Channel. To my amazement, he said that his young children travel in the economy class – even when the parents (he and his wife) are in upper class. Richard Branson is a billionaire in Pound sterling. A quick survey would show you that only children from Nigeria fly business or upper class to commence their studies in the UK. Foreign students from other countries don't do this. There is no aircraft attached to the office of the Prime Minister in the UK. He travels on BA. And the same goes for the Royals. The Queen does not have an aircraft for her exclusive use.

These practices simply become the culture which the next generation carries forward. Have you seen the car that Kate Middleton (the wife of Prince William) drives? VW Golf or something close to it. But there’s one core difference between them and us (generally speaking), they(even the billionaires among them) work for their money, most, if not all, of us steal ours.

If we want our children to bring about the desired changes we have been praying for on behalf of our dear country, then please, please let’s begin now and teach them to work hard so they can stand alone and most importantly be content and not having to “steal” which seems to be the norm these days.

We have Nigerian children who have never worked for 5 minutes in their lives insisting on flying “only” first or business class and using the latest cars fully paid for by their “loving “ parents.

I often get calls from anxious parents”my son graduated 2 years ago and is still looking for a job, can you please assist!”
“Oh really! So where exactly is “THIS CHILD?” is my usual question. “Why are you the one making this call dad/mum and not your child?"
I am yet to get a satisfactory answer, but between you and me, chances are that the big boy is cruising around Abuja with a babe dressed to the nines, in his dad’s spanking new SUV with enough “pocket money” to put your salary to shame. The girls are probably trying to shame Paris Hilton in profligacy. It is not at all strange to hear a 28-year old who has NEVER worked for a day in his/her life in Nigeria but “earns” a six-figure “salary” from parents for doing absolutely nothing apart from being their child.

I see them in my office once in a while, 26-years olds with absolutely no skill to sell apart from a shiny CV, written by his dad’s secretary in the office. Of course, he has a driver at his beck and call and is driven to the job interview. We have a fairly decent conversation and we get to the inevitable question- so, what salary are you looking to earn? Answer comes straight out – N250,000.00. I ask if that is per month or per annum.

“Of course, it is per month”
“Oh, why do you think you should be earning that much on your first job?”
“Well, because my current pocket money is N200,000.00 a month and I feel any employer should be able to pay me more than my parents.”
No wonder corruption continues to thrive. We have a society of young people who have been brought up to expect something or everything for nothing, as if it were a birthright. Even though the examples I have given above are from parents of considerable affluence, similar patterns can be observed from Abeokuta to Adamawa, Mushin to Maiduguri.

Wake up mum! Wake up dad! This syndrome – “my children will not suffer what I suffered" is destroying your child's tomorrow. You are practically loving your child to death. A word is enough for the wise!

Are rich parents really over-indulging their kids?
How much is too much?
What's your opinion?

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