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babyosisi:
By the post you have proven to me that men who insist on marrying virgins lack in some way
Either in size ,performance or both
A man confident in his abilities will not care who the woman is,he can get anyone and she will come for more because he garrit
A man looking for virgins wants someone who has had no other experiences to compare with
Someone who can't differentiate an anaconda from an HB pencil and a dodge charger from a 404
Someone who will think a 2 minute performance is all there is
Someone who doesn't know there are men who know how to handle a woman and handle her with panache
Same reason some men like to Marry little girls
Real women can see their inadequacies,13 year olds don't know any better

4teelaw:
I'm glad you understand my point. Please explain to that ill trained gutter boy so that he doesn't walk into a web he set up by himself.

bukatyne:
The OP gave her opinion on an issue and supports it. This is not about teaching women to deceive their husbands or not.

I am 100% sure a lot of men Don't come clean to Their spouses too.

babyosisi:
What things should you keep

1. Things you know will shatter him emotionally.for instance a woman,a friend's mom here was teaching me to cook native soup and told me some not so good things about my MIL,claiming she treated my FIL badly.I will be a fool to tell those things to my husband.The consequences will be far reaching so I will be taking that info,true or false to my grave.

2.Details of issues in your own birth family.
Believe me your hubby ain't telling you all of his
So don't go painting your siblings and parents in a terrible light.Some stories you must tell obviously but always leave some details that have to do with family integrity to yourself.Keep your parent's and family honor where necessary especially if you fear it may be used to taunt you as some immature men do.

3 your infidelity ..
This is a controversial one,I believe in faithfulness ,let me make that clear first of all.Women being emotional beings feel the guilt of infidelity more than men.It is wrong to cheat,I will not condone it and by Gods grace will never .However,if you happen to err as humans often do and are remorseful, repent and confess to your God and take that secret to your grave. Revealing it can be disastrous and will serve no purpose.Just go and sin no more .If you are a habitual cheat,of course you should seek divorce rather than living in deception.

Timbuktou:
Congratulations, sir. However, the OP's opinions are of little consequence to me. Perhaps the thread should never have been opened in the first place. Now that it has, let's deal with its consequences.

Timbuktou:
You have sons don't you? Train them appropriately, dustbin girl.

Chivee:
Indeed I've made what turned out to be futile efforts to work on my temper.. I really intend to do anything it takes to have a hold on my out-of-control emotions& my deeds still hunt me till today.
Just like i've said, As long as she doesnt push my buttons I believe we'd do just fine

4teelaw:
Oh yes I do, beautiful twin boys who are so well mannered and make people marvel at their politeness.

4teelaw:
He has never asked of my body count, even though i'm assuming he knows it's just one. And even if it's 20 and I'm lying it's just one

ApexTitan:
Oh but it is necessary. A man with a fair approximation of his wife's number count has a fair approximation of the type of woman she is. He knows whether he is settling down with a real good girl or a reformed harlot. It is imperative that the man comes to terms with it at the beginning of the relationship, having it revealed later by accident is most displeasing. The only way he can have such information is to ask, the man should ask her.

The possibility that the woman may lie about such information is why men have been advised to multiply whatever number she states by 3. It then is up to him to decide if he can live with such a woman.

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a life of promiscuity is actually bad

1stCitizen:

4teelaw:
Bros, grow up. There r so many speed bumps you will come across in life, you have to pause and navigate the turn. You may end up finding a virgin with a bad character that may totally ruin the marriage and make you regret.
Or a secondary virgin who has learnt a lot from life and extols virtue in all ramification. Personally, I met my oga early, he was my 1st BF, we parted ways, we moved on even though we were still friends, I got engaged to be married to someone else for 2yrs, it didn't work out cos the guy was an unrepentant serial cheat. Imagine girls calling you to tell you to leave dia fiance alone. Biko, how many of us were fiancee? With ring again?

When I eventually decided to walk out, it was back to my 1st who also has had series of bad experiences, he doesn't even talk about till today. The only one I even know about is how he went out with friends, met this guy got chatting. Ran out of battery, borrowed the guys phone to call his girlfriend that he will be running late and her number is stored as baby. When she picked she was all "hey baby" and he's like how do you know it's me?. And she goes "ah ah, mentions the owner of the phones name, what kind of question is this" All comfortable and familiar.
Isn't that enough to break someone's spirit? In that vein I also shared my miserable experience with that serial philanderer and mentioned the abortion in a fit of rage, without knowing one day I will walk down the aisle with that man.
If he had judged me and labelled me a slut for being engaged to a bastard, and continued searching for the virgin of his dreams, perhaps he would have passed on and lost what became the marriage we are so proud of and hold in high esteem today.

I don't know his body count, I am not interested. He has never asked of my body count, even though i'm assuming he knows it's just one. And even if it's 20 and I'm lying it's just one, how does one verify that?

There are more important issues in life and marriage. Like how to raise the kids, provide the best for them, own your home, plan vacations, retirement and just being in love with each other. The past is ancient history. Don't let it jeopardise what should be a great future.

babyosisi:
Royalroy,if dinachi is still being an ass on this thread please take him out
This thread must not be derailed by anyone
Thanks
Since he is incapable of expressing his views like an adult,take care of that

4teelaw:
I mean one after oga dug the tunnel himself.

But there's no meter, as you find it unbelievable, so will many others, so what's the use? It's either you are a virgin or not. Numbers can be conjured.

dinachi:
Whether you like it or not you deserve commendention for your gangartum courage in posting that picture as your dp. I will personally lead a crusade for your immortalization in naira land for your ability to walk on those tree trunks you call legs and what is more your ability to move those yam tubers you have as hands and those coke bottle sized fingers you type with. I am not bothered by the fact that you are pygmishly short and actually look like a wag! You are definitely a hero for being able to lift open your tiny eyea under those heavy layer of fats you call eyelids.
That said, only Jehova God almighty knows how terribly your down bellow stinks putting into consideration the sweaty thighs and stretch mark infested body. Good luck in your foolery

ApexTitan:
Again I have to appeal to everyone, men and women here to desist from making this thread an arena of personal attacks, lets keep the discussions free from insults and riling remarks. Haba

oseod:
You know i've always wondered how someone cheats ''mistakenly
Like the man landed on you by mistake, and his hips started moving by mistake....and you enjoy the thrill of the moment by mistake

Besides if you keep cheating on your spouse by mistake
And he nabs you by mistake
He might mistakenly break up with you

.........even if you occasionally feel sorry for wat you did....you make it sound like 'its just infidelity..nothing serious...I'll probably try my best no to do it next time,'

jmoore:
Of course you always know them, you also know the name of animals that live on Mars. All virgins give blowjobs? Dey dia dey mumu yourself.

pickabeau1:
Does the Bible support what she said or its a mishmash of earthly wisdom with smattering of scriptures?


Where is it said confess to God and move on

kilode100:
Dinachi right
I actually feel sorry for you, joke apart...
You are seriously pained and I wonder why

I actually feel good about my life and I am BLESSED!

I get where you are coming from, I really do, I see you as me many years back after sucking those unwashed ass holes, I always look for who to vent and take out my frustrations on... And that's why, I keep asking you who messed you up so badly.

You are the damaged goods, you are the one hurting, you are the one who's ugly because I know I am very beautiful.....

Should I continue?

Timbuktou:
Well, I'm glad your opinions hold no bearing to reality outside your sphere of influence. I would show you my size, I'm quite proud of it, but I have nothing to gain from doing so. The claim should suffice . Performance-wise too, I'm quite competent. I'm awaren, though, those women
who demonise virgin-seekers have irreparably loose puccies.

A time will come when slut-shaming will be re-institutionalised, mark my words. All this handling of women sluts is new age feel-good philosophy which I and other sane men do not buy, and for good reason too.

4teelaw:
I mean one after oga dug the tunnel himself.

But there's no meter, as you find it unbelievable, so will many others, so what's the use? It's either you are a virgin or not. Numbers can be conjured.

kilode100:
Coming clean you say?... Who has it helped
It's only below average men that are interested in such nonsense.... What will it achieve to sit down with a man that there is no guarantee that he will be there till death do us part to tell him dirt's about my past...

Anyway the truth is that there is no man born of a woman that can handle my past.
1,I have sucked many unwashed ass holes...
2,I used to like been beaten before getting fhucked.
3,I love foursome a lot... I take on three guys at once..
4,I lost count of abortions but I ve two adorable kids to call mine now.
5,I ve repented completely.

Do you still think I should spill

4teelaw:
Bros, grow up. There r so many speed bumps you will come across in life, you have to pause and navigate the turn. You may end up finding a virgin with a bad character that may totally ruin the marriage and make you regret.
Or a secondary virgin who has learnt a lot from life and extols virtue in all ramification. Personally, I met my oga early, he was my 1st BF, we parted ways, we moved on even though we were still friends, I got engaged to be married to someone else for 2yrs, it didn't work out cos the guy was an unrepentant serial cheat. Imagine girls calling you to tell you to leave dia fiance alone. Biko, how many of us were fiancee? With ring again?

When I eventually decided to walk out, it was back to my 1st who also has had series of bad experiences, he doesn't even talk about till today. The only one I even know about is how he went out with friends, met this guy got chatting. Ran out of battery, borrowed the guys phone to call his girlfriend that he will be running late and her number is stored as baby. When she picked she was all "hey baby" and he's like how do you know it's me?. And she goes "ah ah, mentions the owner of the phones name, what kind of question is this" All comfortable and familiar.
Isn't that enough to break someone's spirit? In that vein I also shared my miserable experience with that serial philanderer and mentioned the abortion in a fit of rage, without knowing one day I will walk down the aisle with that man.
If he had judged me and labelled me a slut for being engaged to a bastard, and continued searching for the virgin of his dreams, perhaps he would have passed on and lost what became the marriage we are so proud of and hold in high esteem today.

I don't know his body count, I am not interested. He has never asked of my body count, even though i'm assuming he knows it's just one. And even if it's 20 and I'm lying it's just one, how does one verify that?

There are more important issues in life and marriage. Like how to raise the kids, provide the best for them, own your home, plan vacations, retirement and just being in love with each other. The past is ancient history. Don't let it jeopardise what should be a great future.

kilode100:
You think
Smh for you!


Newsflash!!... There are people with worse crimes and BTW,there are more from where that came from..


I haven't even told him about the my canine experiences yet, and he is already on the run..


Woof Woof....
Yea right.

babyosisi:
And where does it say tell your whole past to your husband?
Show us

pickabeau1:
Does the Bible support what she said or its a mishmash of earthly wisdom with smattering of scriptures?


Where is it said confess to God and move on

Vyolet:
Yes,there should be somethings better left unsaid. This is because most men cannothandle the truth.
An average man expects his wife to understand him whenever he confesses most esp his unfaithfulness but he will always feel disgusted and even go as far as contemplating divorce if his wife does same.