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koyyes:
Once upon a time, there was a married man,kind,loving and generous to his kids. But he was a chronic cheat. Then suddenly, he contracted Aids and passed on hiv to his wife. He is dead now leaving his kids fatherless and his underweight widdow battling for her life. The same people who told her to pray and look the other way now avoid her like a plague. This is a true life story. I'm not trying to scare you. [s]I'm just trying to let you know that your life and happiness does not revolve around your husband.[/s] Be healthy, be happy,get a job and face your kids. If countless,peaceful confrontation does not change your greedy husband that you no longer can tolerate, Then take a bow and leave that marriage. It's your call.

oseod:
See ehn, baby, if u gree for me, I will neva cheat on you, infact anything that will make me look at another woman ehn, let thunder strike my eyes...ahn ahn, biko nu
My nickname in school was mr faithful...and my middle name is steadfast

lovat:
my pm

koyyes:
Once upon a time, there was a married man,kind,loving and generous to his kids. But he was a chronic cheat. Then suddenly, he contracted Aids and passed on hiv to his wife. He is dead now leaving his kids fatherless and his underweight widdow battling for her life. The same people who told her to pray and look the other way now avoid her like a plague. This is a true life story. I'm not trying to scare you. I'm just trying to let you know that your life and happiness does not revolve around your husband. Be healthy, be happy,get a job and face your kids. If countless,peaceful confrontation does not change your greedy husband that you no longer can tolerate, Then take a bow and leave that marriage. It's your call.

ishiamu:
Oloshi. I go shoot u

Toks2008:
[b]Story for the gods...

Nobody is safe from HIV or stds because even condom does not really give guaranty protection.

If you like continue to change men a million times,95 out of 100 men will cheat on you even if you are hotter than the sexiest lady in the world.

For the men, if you must commit the hell bound sin of philandering please and please do your wife the honor of doing it far far far away from her to give her the respect and please for the sake of your life,that of your wife and the children, please use a protection.

I want every lady reading this to take this hard pill in and swallow with a cold glass of water,MOST MEN WILL CHEAT ON YOU NO MATTER WHAT and you will be the most clueless and foolish woman to pay back by doing same thing because at the end you will be at the losing end remeber that its a cruel world of men and if you ever allow yourself fall victim of baseless retaliation,you will blame yourself by the time many men use you like rags after you have ben sent packing from your matrimonial home.

Wise up.[/b]

Thats all.

nickibarb:
Please help me. I'm drowning.

I am feeling very depressed right now. My marriage has been mainly peaceful and chaos free. I did my part, cared for my husband, cooked for him, was available to satisfy his sexual needs 24/7, prayed for him, dressed like I did when we were dating, kept my body in tiptop shape even after 2 babies via c/s, everyone around me testifies to that both men and women.

In the wee hours of sunday morning, I was playing around with his phone cause i couldn't sleep. I realised he had WHATSAPP and BBM apps, it was surprising cause I had tried to get him to download them repeatedly so we can send pics to each other but he refused. He said he wasn't interested in them, so I deleted mine. Like every curious cat, I wanted to see what he was up to on it since he didn't tell me that he had finally downloaded it.

I saw that he had been flirting with almost 10 different girls, had met up with some, given money to a lot of them (even though our finances have not been in tiptop shape, but i've been persevering cause I know it is temporary - I have a great job offer with a N200k salary post-nysc but they are not ready for me to resume work yet, so I have no income for now). Before I digress too much, the chat that hurt me the most was a girl who asked my husband to be sending her N30k a month or week, i'm not sure again (my eyes were blurred with tears), and then whenever he needs her, he should just tell her which hotel to check into. Funny enough, they all know he is married with kids, they even ask him about his baby in the course of their chat. Another one that broke my heart was a girl he asked to arrange 15 girls for a political event being hosted by his older politician friend and the girls should be ready to provide TLC for them afterwards. From the messages, it was clear that he slept with this particular girl after that event because she reminded him that the money she received is not a replacement for the one he is supposed to give her (i'm guessing after a previous sexcapade).

I am so heartbroken, I don't know what to do. I feel like I gave my marriage my all, I followed all the rules of a good wife, I read books, i don't know what I could have done differently. My husband told me everyday how much he was in love with me for the 2 years we dated prior to marriage (we've been married 2 years and 6 months). I saw no trait of promiscuity in him. I trusted him 100% so I never policed him concerning his whereabouts (it's not really in my nature to be like that). I never saw this betrayal coming so it has been very difficult for me to deal with this. I had an emotional breakdown on sunday night when he went for a meeting with the new governor of our state (he is related to him). He came home at midnight to see me unconscious. I woke up in a hospital, apparently I had overdosed on pills. At that time, I wanted to die to get away from my life, but now I didn't die, i'm happy he came home in time to rescue me. I mean he could have easily stayed out all night because it was a special day (post-inauguration celebration). I don't know how I could have thought of leaving my two little kids less that 2 years old. [size=18pt]This man has made me CRAZY. If my family hears about this suicidal attempt, they will make me leave him immediately. My fear is, what happens to my little kids, I don't want another woman to come and maltreat them.[/size] We were legally married but not in Nigeria. I don't know if Nigerian courts would recognise our marriage certificate. I don't want to lose my kids. I feel like God has allowed a trial too great for me to handle to come my way. I feel like he over-rated my strength. I am just 27. Isn't it too soon for me to face this kind of life challenge? God knows I married this man out of love, not for money, my parents tried their best for me. They sent me abroad, that's where I met my husband, I didn't even know his family in Nigeria was relatively well-to-do. Some people say if your husband cheats on you, it's nemesis for what you did to other women's husbands. God knows I am innocent. I have tried to find out why my husband who says he loves me everyday, will go out of his way to flirt with girls and sleep with them, (it's not like it's all of them that are coming on to him, he is actually doing most of the chasing). He cannot give me a reason for it, he is just begging me to let it go. I have tried but I'm still hurting, i'm still obsessing about it. How can I heal? I don't want to die and leave my children. How can I stop this pain that is eating me up?

I have read all the articles I can find online about how to get past a cheating husband, it doesn't seem to help. I asked my husband if he used a condom and if I need to go and check for STDs. He is not able to answer me directly but says we can both go and get checked out. I feel like God has forsaken me and I don't deserve it. I have tried to be a good girl all my life. I need this pain in my heart to stop. I need to be sane again.

SuperNover:
cc: mizmycoli

egbaguy:
Some men are dogs....... @OP.....my advice is this,get ursef a job,and live ur life!!! Pray to God to touch his heart.....if u file for a divorce,do u knw who d nxt guy will be like? Dnt let ur love for him depreciate....... Some guys bleep other girls just to 'change' menu.....he might still love u wella!!! Where is @dyt sef?

oseod:
Which pry school did you attend?
Can you ppl see what corruption in the educational sector has caused?

Its God that will punish those wicked politicians for not paying attention to the educational sector hence these sort of comments.

nickibarb:
Please help me. I'm drowning.

I am feeling very depressed right now. My marriage has been mainly peaceful and chaos free. I did my part, cared for my husband, cooked for him, was available to satisfy his sexual needs 24/7, prayed for him, dressed like I did when we were dating, kept my body in tiptop shape even after 2 babies via c/s, everyone around me testifies to that both men and women.

In the wee hours of sunday morning, I was playing around with his phone cause i couldn't sleep. I realised he had WHATSAPP and BBM apps, it was surprising cause I had tried to get him to download them repeatedly so we can send pics to each other but he refused. He said he wasn't interested in them, so I deleted mine. Like every curious cat, I wanted to see what he was up to on it since he didn't tell me that he had finally downloaded it.

I saw that he had been flirting with almost 10 different girls, had met up with some, given money to a lot of them (even though our finances have not been in tiptop shape, but i've been persevering cause I know it is temporary - I have a great job offer with a N200k salary post-nysc but they are not ready for me to resume work yet, so I have no income for now). Before I digress too much, the chat that hurt me the most was a girl who asked my husband to be sending her N30k a month or week, i'm not sure again (my eyes were blurred with tears), and then whenever he needs her, he should just tell her which hotel to check into. Funny enough, they all know he is married with kids, they even ask him about his baby in the course of their chat. Another one that broke my heart was a girl he asked to arrange 15 girls for a political event being hosted by his older politician friend and the girls should be ready to provide TLC for them afterwards. From the messages, it was clear that he slept with this particular girl after that event because she reminded him that the money she received is not a replacement for the one he is supposed to give her (i'm guessing after a previous sexcapade).

I am so heartbroken, I don't know what to do. I feel like I gave my marriage my all, I followed all the rules of a good wife, I read books, i don't know what I could have done differently. My husband told me everyday how much he was in love with me for the 2 years we dated prior to marriage (we've been married 2 years and 6 months). I saw no trait of promiscuity in him. I trusted him 100% so I never policed him concerning his whereabouts (it's not really in my nature to be like that). I never saw this betrayal coming so it has been very difficult for me to deal with this. I had an emotional breakdown on sunday night when he went for a meeting with the new governor of our state (he is related to him). He came home at midnight to see me unconscious. I woke up in a hospital, apparently I had overdosed on pills. At that time, I wanted to die to get away from my life, but now I didn't die, i'm happy he came home in time to rescue me. I mean he could have easily stayed out all night because it was a special day (post-inauguration celebration). I don't know how I could have thought of leaving my two little kids less that 2 years old. This man has made me CRAZY. If my family hears about this suicidal attempt, they will make me leave him immediately. My fear is, what happens to my little kids, I don't want another woman to come and maltreat them. We were legally married but not in Nigeria. I don't know if Nigerian courts would recognise our marriage certificate. I don't want to lose my kids. I feel like God has allowed a trial too great for me to handle to come my way. I feel like he over-rated my strength. I am just 27. Isn't it too soon for me to face this kind of life challenge? God knows I married this man out of love, not for money, my parents tried their best for me. They sent me abroad, that's where I met my husband, I didn't even know his family in Nigeria was relatively well-to-do. Some people say if your husband cheats on you, it's nemesis for what you did to other women's husbands. God knows I am innocent. I have tried to find out why my husband who says he loves me everyday, will go out of his way to flirt with girls and sleep with them, (it's not like it's all of them that are coming on to him, he is actually doing most of the chasing). He cannot give me a reason for it, he is just begging me to let it go. I have tried but I'm still hurting, i'm still obsessing about it. How can I heal? I don't want to die and leave my children. How can I stop this pain that is eating me up?

I have read all the articles I can find online about how to get past a cheating husband, it doesn't seem to help. I asked my husband if he used a condom and if I need to go and check for STDs. He is not able to answer me directly but says we can both go and get checked out. I feel like God has forsaken me and I don't deserve it. I have tried to be a good girl all my life. I need this pain in my heart to stop. I need to be sane again.

Floodgater:
The last time you could swear with your life that he wasn't cheating on you.
You have parents that can help you from the looming danger but you prefare steps to enduring a cheating husband so that you can continue worshipping a man and his family that dont care whether you or your family exist. Infact you have began googling some and hoping/advicing he uses condom.
You prefare to manage a situation that will take you without your children to an abroad of no return instead of seeking ways to salvage them even if it means absconding with them to the abroad you came from. Keep decieving yourself you are staying for your kids and not of your steadily eroding esteem.
This is your second near death experience because of that man, obviously you are capable of bracing a third.
The only reason you are catching the next breath is for your man to live, when you find a more important one, you will know what to do.

egbaguy:
Some men are dogs....... @OP.....my advice is this,get ursef a job,and live ur life!!! Pray to God to touch his heart.....if u file for a divorce,do u knw who d nxt guy will be like? Dnt let ur love for him depreciate....... Some guys bleep other girls just to 'change' menu.....he might still love u wella!!! Where is @dyt sef?

nickibarb:
Please help me. I'm drowning.

I am feeling very depressed right now. My marriage has been mainly peaceful and chaos free. I did my part, cared for my husband, cooked for him, was available to satisfy his sexual needs 24/7, prayed for him, dressed like I did when we were dating, kept my body in tiptop shape even after 2 babies via c/s, everyone around me testifies to that both men and women.

In the wee hours of sunday morning, I was playing around with his phone cause i couldn't sleep. I realised he had WHATSAPP and BBM apps, it was surprising cause I had tried to get him to download them repeatedly so we can send pics to each other but he refused. He said he wasn't interested in them, so I deleted mine. Like every curious cat, I wanted to see what he was up to on it since he didn't tell me that he had finally downloaded it.

I saw that he had been flirting with almost 10 different girls, had met up with some, given money to a lot of them (even though our finances have not been in tiptop shape, but i've been persevering cause I know it is temporary - I have a great job offer with a N200k salary post-nysc but they are not ready for me to resume work yet, so I have no income for now). Before I digress too much, the chat that hurt me the most was a girl who asked my husband to be sending her N30k a month or week, i'm not sure again (my eyes were blurred with tears), and then whenever he needs her, he should just tell her which hotel to check into. Funny enough, they all know he is married with kids, they even ask him about his baby in the course of their chat. Another one that broke my heart was a girl he asked to arrange 15 girls for a political event being hosted by his older politician friend and the girls should be ready to provide TLC for them afterwards. From the messages, it was clear that he slept with this particular girl after that event because she reminded him that the money she received is not a replacement for the one he is supposed to give her (i'm guessing after a previous sexcapade).

I am so heartbroken, I don't know what to do. I feel like I gave my marriage my all, I followed all the rules of a good wife, I read books, i don't know what I could have done differently. My husband told me everyday how much he was in love with me for the 2 years we dated prior to marriage (we've been married 2 years and 6 months). I saw no trait of promiscuity in him. I trusted him 100% so I never policed him concerning his whereabouts (it's not really in my nature to be like that). I never saw this betrayal coming so it has been very difficult for me to deal with this. I had an emotional breakdown on sunday night when he went for a meeting with the new governor of our state (he is related to him). He came home at midnight to see me unconscious. I woke up in a hospital, apparently I had overdosed on pills. At that time, I wanted to die to get away from my life, but now I didn't die, i'm happy he came home in time to rescue me. I mean he could have easily stayed out all night because it was a special day (post-inauguration celebration). I don't know how I could have thought of leaving my two little kids less that 2 years old. This man has made me CRAZY. If my family hears about this suicidal attempt, they will make me leave him immediately. My fear is, what happens to my little kids, I don't want another woman to come and maltreat them. We were legally married but not in Nigeria. I don't know if Nigerian courts would recognise our marriage certificate. I don't want to lose my kids. I feel like God has allowed a trial too great for me to handle to come my way. I feel like he over-rated my strength. I am just 27. Isn't it too soon for me to face this kind of life challenge? God knows I married this man out of love, not for money, my parents tried their best for me. They sent me abroad, that's where I met my husband, I didn't even know his family in Nigeria was relatively well-to-do. Some people say if your husband cheats on you, it's nemesis for what you did to other women's husbands. God knows I am innocent. I have tried to find out why my husband who says he loves me everyday, will go out of his way to flirt with girls and sleep with them, (it's not like it's all of them that are coming on to him, he is actually doing most of the chasing). He cannot give me a reason for it, he is just begging me to let it go. I have tried but I'm still hurting, i'm still obsessing about it. How can I heal? I don't want to die and leave my children. How can I stop this pain that is eating me up?

I have read all the articles I can find online about how to get past a cheating husband, it doesn't seem to help. I asked my husband if he used a condom and if I need to go and check for STDs. He is not able to answer me directly but says we can both go and get checked out. I feel like God has forsaken me and I don't deserve it. I have tried to be a good girl all my life. I need this pain in my heart to stop. I need to be sane again.

Toks2008:
[b]Story for the gods...

Nobody is safe from HIV or stds because even condom does not really give guaranty protection.

If you like continue to change men a million times,95 out of 100 men will cheat on you even if you are hotter than the sexiest lady in the world.

For the men, if you must commit the hell bound sin of philandering please and please do your wife the honor of doing it far far far away from her to give her the respect and please for the sake of your life,that of your wife and the children, please use a protection.

I want every lady reading this to take this hard pill in and swallow with a cold glass of water,MOST MEN WILL CHEAT ON YOU NO MATTER WHAT and you will be the most clueless and foolish woman to pay back by doing same thing because at the end you will be at the losing end remeber that its a cruel world of men and if you ever allow yourself fall victim of baseless retaliation,you will blame yourself by the time many men use you like rags after you have ben sent packing from your matrimonial home.

Wise up.[/b]

Thats all.

olushowunm:
... Madam, you are just too young to understand most things. Love is about self-interest and not some emotional things. Your husband has done his best by respecting you and giving you honor by putting the ring on your finger.. You don't to worry yourself about his escapades... Just ignore his philandering ways and focus on what you know how to do best.. Love and support him.

YEM101:
Pls don't commit suicide dearie cos no man worth dying for, deep down in me there is no faithful man, don't trust too much, I ve been in ur shoes before and I knw exactly how u feel, some men even hv nude pics of ladies on their phone/ iPad, concentrate on ur kids and the job u are expecting and try to be HAPPY with or without him.

Toks2008:
Oga proff abeg which part of my post are you having headache over?

im too intellectually sound to decipher your rethorics ao please communicate effectively.

Nevertheless,except you are married at least for 10years without cheating on your wife please dont bother replying to this post.I expect men to catch my drift not boys or men with boys mindset.

Toks2008:
Oga proff abeg which part of my post are you having headache over?

im too intellectually sound to decipher your rethorics ao please communicate effectively.

Nevertheless,except you are married at least for 10years without cheating on your wife please dont bother replying to this post.I expect men to catch my drift not boys or men with boys mindset.

nickibarb:
Please help me. I'm drowning.

I am feeling very depressed right now. My marriage has been mainly peaceful and chaos free. I did my part, cared for my husband, cooked for him, was available to satisfy his sexual needs 24/7, prayed for him, dressed like I did when we were dating, kept my body in tiptop shape even after 2 babies via c/s, everyone around me testifies to that both men and women.

In the wee hours of sunday morning, I was playing around with his phone cause i couldn't sleep. I realised he had WHATSAPP and BBM apps, it was surprising cause I had tried to get him to download them repeatedly so we can send pics to each other but he refused. He said he wasn't interested in them, so I deleted mine. Like every curious cat, I wanted to see what he was up to on it since he didn't tell me that he had finally downloaded it.

I saw that he had been flirting with almost 10 different girls, had met up with some, given money to a lot of them (even though our finances have not been in tiptop shape, but i've been persevering cause I know it is temporary - I have a great job offer with a N200k salary post-nysc but they are not ready for me to resume work yet, so I have no income for now). Before I digress too much, the chat that hurt me the most was a girl who asked my husband to be sending her N30k a month or week, i'm not sure again (my eyes were blurred with tears), and then whenever he needs her, he should just tell her which hotel to check into. Funny enough, they all know he is married with kids, they even ask him about his baby in the course of their chat. Another one that broke my heart was a girl he asked to arrange 15 girls for a political event being hosted by his older politician friend and the girls should be ready to provide TLC for them afterwards. From the messages, it was clear that he slept with this particular girl after that event because she reminded him that the money she received is not a replacement for the one he is supposed to give her (i'm guessing after a previous sexcapade).

I am so heartbroken, I don't know what to do. I feel like I gave my marriage my all, I followed all the rules of a good wife, I read books, i don't know what I could have done differently. My husband told me everyday how much he was in love with me for the 2 years we dated prior to marriage (we've been married 2 years and 6 months). I saw no trait of promiscuity in him. I trusted him 100% so I never policed him concerning his whereabouts (it's not really in my nature to be like that). I never saw this betrayal coming so it has been very difficult for me to deal with this. I had an emotional breakdown on sunday night when he went for a meeting with the new governor of our state (he is related to him). He came home at midnight to see me unconscious. I woke up in a hospital, apparently I had overdosed on pills. At that time, I wanted to die to get away from my life, but now I didn't die, i'm happy he came home in time to rescue me. I mean he could have easily stayed out all night because it was a special day (post-inauguration celebration). I don't know how I could have thought of leaving my two little kids less that 2 years old. This man has made me CRAZY. If my family hears about this suicidal attempt, they will make me leave him immediately. My fear is, what happens to my little kids, I don't want another woman to come and maltreat them. We were legally married but not in Nigeria. I don't know if Nigerian courts would recognise our marriage certificate. I don't want to lose my kids. I feel like God has allowed a trial too great for me to handle to come my way. I feel like he over-rated my strength. I am just 27. Isn't it too soon for me to face this kind of life challenge? God knows I married this man out of love, not for money, my parents tried their best for me. They sent me abroad, that's where I met my husband, I didn't even know his family in Nigeria was relatively well-to-do. Some people say if your husband cheats on you, it's nemesis for what you did to other women's husbands. God knows I am innocent. I have tried to find out why my husband who says he loves me everyday, will go out of his way to flirt with girls and sleep with them, (it's not like it's all of them that are coming on to him, he is actually doing most of the chasing). He cannot give me a reason for it, he is just begging me to let it go. I have tried but I'm still hurting, i'm still obsessing about it. How can I heal? I don't want to die and leave my children. How can I stop this pain that is eating me up?

I have read all the articles I can find online about how to get past a cheating husband, it doesn't seem to help. I asked my husband if he used a condom and if I need to go and check for STDs. He is not able to answer me directly but says we can both go and get checked out. I feel like God has forsaken me and I don't deserve it. I have tried to be a good girl all my life. I need this pain in my heart to stop. I need to be sane again.

uppa:
are you for real?.....she sleeping wit anoda man wont solve a thing...it will rather destroy her the more

About 70 percent of married men admitted to cheating on their wives! Another study found that 2/3 of women are not aware of their husband's affair. I can relate to that — It took a long time until I found out myself — when I decided to check his phone.

What about the women? Most statistics found that about 50 to 60 percent of women admitted to having an affair. This one really shocked me. Are there really millions of cheating women in the states? I never even imagined these statistics.

SAMBARRY:
Ruth abokoku die with him na. Shebi na your cross, carry am on your head like cross of calvary till you start depending on drugs to suppress your hiv.



Some of your mates wey tow your line dey Victoria garden cemetery. After 2 years remembrance they're history

oseod:
Im sorry ooo...oga no vex
I know you went to school ehn
*anything that makes you sleep well at night*

But didn't your post sound like men will always cheat and women can do nothing about it
MOST MEN WILL CHEAT ON YOU NO MATTER WHAT and you will be the most clueless and foolish woman to pay back by doing same thing because at the end you will be at the losing end remeber that its a cruel world of men

Oh and congrats on your 10 yrs marriage, but if the quote above is your marital doctrine, then I believe the more of the congrats belong to your wife.

Toks2008:
Get my point

95% of men will cheat on their woman meaning we have 5% who will not.

i have been with a lady for 12years wtout cheatn on her not because of the lobe i hve for her but because i am a believer with great love and fear for GOD but im only one of the 5%

Ladies will always lure even a man who does not want to cheat and this is where the problem lies..even a man who does bot want to cheat will be lured by these jezebels and how many men can withstand these sultry beauties.