lovat:
I'm still waiting for your reply

chowlade:
Do it back to him. dont let him have a clue dat u did it

chowlade:
why is d husband like that?

Prettydiamond:
see the God fearin man ni... Na only u waka come... Waka dey go b4 u miss road. Make I hear say I d chase man

freecocoa:
Reply to what?

iPopAlomo:
Just how old is the husband...? she no disclose... the OP sef get skeleton for cupboard...

One thing I know... I'll never advice married couples...

fellis:
@ All the men going, "Men are naturally polygamous"
"Men are not predisposed to monogamy" and other such crap, you all have mental problems.
Why will you go to church to marry a woman and promise to love her in a monogamous setting when you know you cannot stay faithful to her.

Men are sick hypocrites.
Naturally polygamous my ar$e.
You expect faithfulness from women when you can not do the same.
You preach submissiveness of women from the Bible but conveniently forget that the same Bible forbids adultery.
If you cannot be faithful to your wife after marriage then inform her before getting married instead of being a sneaky lying filthy hypocrite.

I don't know why OP tried to kill herself. What a very odd way to react to his infidelity.
Whatever happened to making his life miserable to pay him back for what he did?
You two are even living under the same roof so you can plan all manner of sick sh|t against him without him knowing.
Why kill yourself?!?

netizenbuzz:


When people say "stay for your children", I'm always like
It might be better if you left for their sake sef. Don't let your sons grow up thinking it is normal for husbands to cheat, wife would forgive anyway. Mummy forgave daddy. Daughters too will also grow up with low self esteem thinking it's normal for hubby too cheat
Like you said sha, she should live for her kids.

oseod:


See ehn, baby, if u gree for me, I will neva cheat on you, infact anything that will make me look at another woman ehn, let thunder strike my eyes...ahn ahn, biko nu
My nickname in school was mr faithful...and my middle name is steadfast

oseod:


Funny enough, u do have a point.
Nobody is criticizing the husband, its the wife that is taking all the bullets
Well said, and that, I do not support

But i'd rather you look at it another way, it is of higher priority to console the hurting woman than to throw insults at the husband . The keyword there is *priority*


If u ran into a crime scene where a close friend was attacked, is losing blood, and the thief is already on the run,
what would you do?, begin chasing the thief you might not catch, or[b] rush ur dying friend to the hospital[/b]?

nickibarb:


husband is 13 years older than me. sorry if not disclosing that makes it look like i'm hiding something. i was 22 when we met and he was 35.

Thanks everyone for your input so far. i'm feeling better already. looks like talking to strangers as a form of therapy really works.

fellis:
@ All the men going, "Men are naturally polygamous"
"Men are not predisposed to monogamy" and other such crap, you all have mental problems.
Why will you go to church to marry a woman and promise to love her in a monogamous setting when you know you cannot stay faithful to her.

Men are sick hypocrites.
Naturally polygamous my ar$e.
You expect faithfulness from women when you can not do the same.
You preach submissiveness of women from the Bible but conveniently forget that the same Bible forbids adultery.
If you cannot be faithful to your wife after marriage then inform her before getting married instead of being a sneaky lying filthy hypocrite.

I don't know why OP tried to kill herself. What a very odd way to react to his infidelity.
Whatever happened to making his life miserable to pay him back for what he did?
You two are even living under the same roof so you can plan all manner of sick sh|t against him without him knowing.
Why kill yourself?!?

netizenbuzz:


When people say "stay for your children", I'm always like
It might be better if you left for their sake sef. Don't let your sons grow up thinking it is normal for husbands to cheat, wife would forgive anyway. Mummy forgave daddy. Daughters too will also grow up with low self esteem thinking it's normal for hubby too cheat
Like you said sha, she should live for her kids.

chowlade:
Do it back to him. dont let him have a clue dat u did it

fellis:


Which kain stay for the children?
What nonsense.
Will staying for children save her from having STDs? Even the children she is staying for, who will stay to take care of them if she god forbid dies from a deadly disease gotten from her philandering husband?
Stay for children my foot.

Useless men everywhere that want to eat their cake and have it

elantraceey:


Op please do not listen to this, two wrongs never make a right.

My heart bleed while reading your story and honestly I can't say I know how you feel but I seriously feel for you.

I thank God for your life that he could come at the right time to rescue you it simply means that all hope is not lost with your husband . I know it will be difficult to forgive and just forget it all but I know love conquers all , you can forgive him but first you need to ask him these questions.

Why did he cheat on you? ( For everything I believe there's a reason , whether it's from you or him, it could be something you don't know that push out, though it's no excuse but find out)

Is he ready to be faithful now?

It's one thing to say sorry and another thing to not go back to it , He could do all the begging and still go about cheating probably this time he'll make it more secretive so you need to know if he's ready to be genuinely faithful now, It will be difficult to trust him again but you'll just have to.


Then he'll need to change his friends, this might be difficult but I tell you if he still keeps his cheating friends, he's going to go right back to it and you know most politicians are womanizers , if he still continues to organize ladies for them then he's never going to stop cheating then delete the what app and Bbm from his phone, take charge of your marriage ma'am .



Please don't you ever think of committing suicide ever again , whenever the thought comes, just look at your kids and imagine what will happen to them, no man is worth dying for.

And also get a job asap, in case anything happens you'll not be at the losing end.

gboss4sure:
So sorry for your experience but what can I say.

We men don't know why we cheat, I've asked myself so many times why do we cheat and am yet to get that answer.

Love can't stop us from cheating. Please if you know why men cheat, do tell me.

@op, instead of killing yourself, please leave him. Your death will cause problems for your kids.

So suicide is not an option, divorce is if you can't forgive him.

But if you ask me, I would advise you forgive and let go, take solace in God, remain the good girl you are.

And as for the ladies of generation, they don't even care if you are married, as far as you give them small cash, they open leg for you. Is that bad.

nickibarb:


husband is 13 years older than me. sorry if not disclosing that makes it look like i'm hiding something. i was 22 when we met and he was 35.

Thanks everyone for your input so far. i'm feeling better already. looks like talking to strangers as a form of therapy really works.

babyosisi:


You teach people how to treat you and what you accept becomes the rule
If your husband treats your folks like crap and you have accepted it
So shall it be
A man hurts you and buys you a box of clothes and all is is ok
A man that hates your own mother and won't allow her watch your own children
Girl wake up

iPopAlomo:



What sort of fucking question is this...?!

You've a d!ck that's working... why won't you use it...?

Cut it off and see if you would still cheat...

Some really dumb question you're asking yourself...

and I've just answered it... smh...

@OP... don't go to jail ooO... is not fun in there... make you no go comot Oga blokos...

chowlade:
Do it back to him. dont let him have a clue dat u did it

Prettydiamond:
diamond is not a title or somefn, diamond is my name!

Lightening:
This is the same lady that.posted this link about same husband.on May 12.

https://www.nairaland.com/2309230/ive-been-combing-consciencewas-wrong

Peruse through peoples comments. Indeed, the OP has a very low self esteem and is living for the unappreciating husband.

If you do not work on yourself, you will continue to come here monthly to report your husband.

chowlade:
Do it back to him. dont let him have a clue dat u did it

fellis:


Which kain stay for the children?
What nonsense.
Will staying for children save her from having STDs? Even the children she is staying for, who will stay to take care of them if she god forbid dies from a deadly disease gotten from her philandering husband?
Stay for children my foot.

Useless men everywhere that want to eat their cake and have it.

ishiamu:


Oloshi. I go shoot u