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Re: Please How Can My Friend Cope With A Chronic Unrepetant Cheating Husband by Nobody: 9:17am On Jun 04, 2015*

EfemenaXY:
That's not your decision to make. Unless of course, this super story is about you, and not your "friend".

Actually we are saying same thing. I don't want the divorce to come from her friend. some people will outrightly tell her to divorce him and when they finally make up, she will then say u were leading her astral. She has to decide. So after reading all the advice here, she will then decide if it's worth it to stay or leave d marriage.

Re: Please How Can My Friend Cope With A Chronic Unrepetant Cheating Husband by mumtobe(op): 10:11am On Jun 04, 2015

diegs:
Actually we are saying same thing. I don't want the divorce to come from her friend. some people will outrightly tell her to divorce him and when they finally make up, she will then say u were leading her astral. She has to decide. So after reading all the advice here, she will then decide if it's worth it to stay or leave d marriage.

Re: Please How Can My Friend Cope With A Chronic Unrepetant Cheating Husband by Nobody: 1:53pm On Jun 04, 2015

KanwuliaJara:
Onoda wan don come o!
A "friend" crying for another "friend" thread!
When are all these "friends" gonna catch their own spouse, so we can read their own matrimonial woes online?

Den not dry taya to play counselor ni?

Re: Please How Can My Friend Cope With A Chronic Unrepetant Cheating Husband by bukatyne(f): 2:08pm On Jun 04, 2015

@mumtobe....

mumtobe! mumtobe!! mumtobe!!!

How many times did I call you?

Your friend married a chronic ~~cheat~~ flirt and is now complaining he is cheating huh

Shouldn't she be worried if he stopped cheating sef undecided

She made the choice to marry a cheat; let her dust herself and get a job (not even necessary as the man believes in providing for her) and base her happiness on something else.

Since the man even travels round, she has a lot of time on her hands and she can develop a lot of hobbies.

IMHO, divorce or separation in this case is a sin.

Re: Please How Can My Friend Cope With A Chronic Unrepetant Cheating Husband by Nobody: 2:23pm On Jun 04, 2015

diegs:
Actually we are saying same thing. I don't want the divorce to come from her friend. some people will outrightly tell her to divorce him and when they finally make up, she will then say u were leading her astral. She has to decide. So after reading all the advice here, she will then decide if it's worth it to stay or leave d marriage.

I remember your story.

How are you two these days? Any better?

Re: Please How Can My Friend Cope With A Chronic Unrepetant Cheating Husband by Nobody: 2:41pm On Jun 04, 2015

veave:
Are you sure she is not married to someone I know? Just a month after his wedding he started chatting all the ladies on his contact list(I'm guessing because i still cant understand the guts he had to send to me even after all my bible and repentance based broadcasts on whatsapp). Begging for sex, even promising to give the best sex they will ever have in their life and backing his promises up with a picture of his erect joystick. This human being went as far as saying he has learnt new styles he wants to teach them. He even says it must be raw. Imagine. Raw!!!

JESUS are you serious Chai, marriage to most naija men na real 1 chance.

Re: Please How Can My Friend Cope With A Chronic Unrepetant Cheating Husband by veave(f): 8:04pm On Jun 04, 2015

fem29:

JESUS are you serious Chai, marriage to most naija men na real 1 chance.

honestly. shock catch me that day. I felt so bad for his wife... why marry at all if you know one woman is not enough for you?

Re: Please How Can My Friend Cope With A Chronic Unrepetant Cheating Husband by Stillfire: 8:31pm On Jun 04, 2015

A man shows you his true colors and you still went to marry him and you're complaining?
Shame no dey catch women like this sha when they complain? undecided

Ms Friend you sure do have a lot of patience.

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Re: Please How Can My Friend Cope With A Chronic Unrepetant Cheating Husband by SAMBARRY: 10:35pm On Jun 04, 2015

rogerdat:
Rora ma fa igbo!

iwona Rora ma fa gbana

Re: Please How Can My Friend Cope With A Chronic Unrepetant Cheating Husband by Nobody: 11:22pm On Jun 04, 2015

SAMBARRY:
iwona Rora ma fa gbana

O wa lara e bi iso.

Re: Please How Can My Friend Cope With A Chronic Unrepetant Cheating Husband by Nobody: 11:48pm On Jun 04, 2015

Phema:
I remember your story.

How are you two these days? Any better?

My dear. No much change but I found ways to make myself happy. I made friends and learnt how to sew. I go out with friends. I am even about to open my business

Re: Please How Can My Friend Cope With A Chronic Unrepetant Cheating Husband by RiffRaff: 1:27am On Jun 05, 2015

Until Nigerian women learn that it is not by "force" to marry, we wont stop hearing all this sob stories.
Your friend knew how the man was before marrying him. She made her bed of nails, let her lie on it.

On the flip side.. I will advice her to cut her lose. She made a mistake, its time to correct it rather than trying to live with it for the rest of her life.
Get a job.. Get an apartment of her own.
Divorce is the obvious answer here. Even the bible gives the only ground for divorce is infidelity.
If she never born pikin for the man. It makes it even beta to ja now.
Men plenty for Naija. Maybe a 2nd chance, she will open her eyes and choose a good man.

Another solution is to accept that she married a cheat.. Most Naija woman will kuku accept it rather than face the stigma of being divorced.
She go just know say her man's Dicck na national cake for all the babes to share. As long as he comes home after hooking up with his all his mistress & concubines.
My only fear with this option na make the man no go bring home uncurable STD's.
Its a dicey suitation.

++I Feel sorry for a whole lot of Nigerian women with the kinda stories i read here... Who raised all these kind of Men?
Maybe its time Nigerian women start hunting for foreign men... But then when i think of what girls do to good men in their prime..
I'd say yall deserve each other jare.

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Re: Please How Can My Friend Cope With A Chronic Unrepetant Cheating Husband by Nobody: 2:24am On Jun 05, 2015

Mumtobe's friend, please leave this man immediately. You do not have this kids for him yet, you can make a clean break. How can you live like this, have pity on yourself, if you have kids for this man, you are done for.

Do you know it is better to be single than in a bad marriage. Do not worry about if you will meet another 'husband'. For your sanity, get out NOW. Because you made a mistake does not mean you have to live with it for the rest of your life.

Re: Please How Can My Friend Cope With A Chronic Unrepetant Cheating Husband by Nobody: 7:44am On Jun 05, 2015

diegs:
My dear. No much change but I found ways to make myself happy. I made friends and learnt how to sew. I go out with friends. I am even about to open my business

Good! I'm glad you are living life for YOU.

It is well. kiss

Re: Please How Can My Friend Cope With A Chronic Unrepetant Cheating Husband by repogirl(f): 9:10am On Jun 05, 2015

Hmmm...it could be understandable if he was sorry but for someone who doesn't care about her at all, she better leave........na this type go infect the wife with HIV and will be taking drugs but won't tell the wife.

I bet he believes she won't leave.

It is up to her to leave or stay anyway, she should think about it very well and make her decision.