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In Law Problems by purityannabel(f): 10:49pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
advice please. . my 16 years old brother in law that am living with no longer greet me in the morning but will come to ask me for money for breakfast...... he no longer regard me at all as he use to ........he have decided to do anything he wants even after telling him that it will not benefit him anything. ....what should I do ? should I overlook him or what |
Re: In Law Problems by Moana(f): 11:31pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Dont give him anything until he learns to respect you. 3 Likes |
Re: In Law Problems by SAMBARRY: 1:50am On Jun 06, 2015 |
Ask him reasons not here or let ur husband know about it. I don't know which man will allow his wife to be disrespected and not do anything about it |
Re: In Law Problems by Nobody: 2:05am On Jun 06, 2015 |
purityannabel: You could be his mother You should be able to ask him what his problem is We are talking about a 16 year old boy here not a grown man 3 Likes |
Re: In Law Problems by Jamean(f): 6:10am On Jun 06, 2015 |
Talk to your husband about it..then he should speak with his little brother. If you approach him again he may feel you really need him in your life. So give him that space till your husband corrects his attitude. If you husband fails too..then that's a problem. 2 Likes |
Re: In Law Problems by focus7: 6:33am On Jun 06, 2015 |
First report him to your husband, and if at the end you do not see changes in him then demand for him to leave. You are a woman, if you wants him to leave you know the treatment to give him. |
Re: In Law Problems by jashar(f): 8:58am On Jun 06, 2015 |
OP. Talk true, what happened? Find out what suddenly brought about this behaviour. |
Re: In Law Problems by purityannabel(f): 9:22am On Jun 06, 2015 |
@jashar I didn't have any problem with him he started misbehaving when he entered JSS3 now SS1......it became worst....... |
Re: In Law Problems by edwife(f): 9:28am On Jun 06, 2015 |
Teenagers stage,Not all teenagers will be rude or disrespectful, but acting like this is a normal part of teenage growth and development. That boy is learning to express and test out his own independent ideas. You are the adult here ,moreover it is your house.You need to set rules and consequences. I hope your husband is aware of this unpleasant development. Another adult you know and trust, such as an aunt, uncle or family friend, might be able to support him through this period. Involving someone like this can be a great way to ease the tension between you and him.One more thing don't nag him,he will turn out to be worst. 1 Like |
Re: In Law Problems by mystiqueDZ(f): 9:31am On Jun 06, 2015 |
Tell your hubby first.....if he does not fix it,the same way he does not acknowledge you,do not acknowledge him! |
Re: In Law Problems by EfemenaXY: 9:31am On Jun 06, 2015 |
focus7: Demand? Really? Is the 16 year old a piece of furniture to be thrown out at will? @op, you act and sound as though you were never a teenager yourself! Were you all sweetness and light at that stage of your life? Like seriously? Pls cut the boy some slack and try to be a bit more understanding yourself. He is afterall still a child and going through a phase, in need of guidance. Help him get through it, and start by LISTENING to him, instead of shunning him. Gra-gra-ism never solves anything. You're the adult here, so act like one. Pls. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: In Law Problems by eripecs(f): 12:44pm On Jun 06, 2015 |
purityannabel:Try prayer it works like magic. Mine was in the university. He respects me more than his mother now. 1 Like |
Re: In Law Problems by dominique(f): 2:56pm On Jun 06, 2015 |
Bear in mind that the boy in question is at a phase in life where he's very rebellious and believes adults are evil with a sole purpose to pick on them. You have to be very patient so as you don't cause irreparable damage to your relationship with him and to the family in general. Scold him when necessary and remind him that you were once his age and his rebellion won't gain him anything. Involve your husband to talk some sense into him also. Don't listen to those that advise you to frustrate him till he goes o, It could backfire. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: In Law Problems by teeboo: 6:25pm On Jun 06, 2015 |
Wonder y some pple fail to face reality @ times,a 16yr old boy staying with me will be keeping malice with me? No way,my 18yr old bother dat stays with me can not even try dat trash with me, when he knws i'll deal with him rudelessly,as tall as he's I give him a dirty slap wen he misbehave,@ op na ur broda inlaw o,u can't beat him just talk to ur hubby about it and let him deal with dat |
Re: In Law Problems by eyinjuege: 1:11am On Jun 07, 2015 |
I guess he's at that strange period in his life where he feels like a man but is in actuality stlll a child. Lead by example. Greet him first to teach him manners. Joke with him and always try to chat with him. This is to show him life is not about fights and proving things. It doesn't make you stupid but as he grows older, he will realise his folly. At this stage, being harsh with him will only drive him further away. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: In Law Problems by EfemenaXY: 6:37am On Jun 07, 2015 |
eyinjuege: Lovely, lovely, advice. Can't fault a single sentence here. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: In Law Problems by SAMBARRY: 8:05am On Jun 07, 2015 |
Are you serious EfemenaXY? So it's ok to be disrespected IN YOUR HOUSE and say he's just a teen.ok e get age category wey suppose to show courtesy abi? Basic manners demand that you greet whoever you're living with in the house whenever you wake up. Tony gaskins said and I quote "never allow someone get comfortable disrespecting you".The height of it is that he even has the effrontery to ask for money from someone he disrespect. If that is the case I can come and spend weekend in your house and not greet you .sit down in the sitting room, put leg for centre table and,be chewing gum and when I see you I say heysss EfemenaXY give me 10,000naira I want to go and have fun with my friends. Abi? EfemenaXY: |
Re: In Law Problems by SAMBARRY: 8:17am On Jun 07, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:ok so when you were a teen you were allowed to disrespect anybody you feel like just because you feel you are a "woman" Reminds me of a young girl. She should be like 12, 13.i was just coming out of the super market and she was about entering but because she lacked patience and had this care free attitude she almost ran into me to push me because she wanted to pass and so I grabbed her two arms and dragged her out and told her to learn some manners .of which when I grabbed her arms it felt very fragile like bread wey soak inside water. eventually she said sorry ma but bottom line is stop encouraging children to be rude and say they're just teens. Na so bad character dey enter person body and follow them grow. Teens are still in their formative ages you need to emphasize respect. That's why you see children beating up their parents. No be recently I read that a 19 year old boy beat up his mother because when he came home the mother hadn't yet prepared his food 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: In Law Problems by SAMBARRY: 8:21am On Jun 07, 2015 |
eyinjuege:It is not a question of being harsh. Even the Bible says foolishness abideth in the heart of a child but therod of ccorrection will set his path straight. By rod of correction i don't mean cane It's figurative. More like guiding him along life's paths no wonder anywhere you go you see uncontrollable and wild children. Even their parents cannot control them 1 Like |
Re: In Law Problems by SAMBARRY: 8:26am On Jun 07, 2015 |
Babymama1:16 year old nor dey get irekshon abi 16 year old nor dey fk or impregnate persin call the boy to order .let him know the rules of the house. What you will accept and what you will not accept. If he's not cool with it he should go and if he doesn't want to go frustrate and provoke him to the extent that he will leave on his own |
Re: In Law Problems by SAMBARRY: 8:27am On Jun 07, 2015 |
focus7:Gbam! That's all 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: In Law Problems by Nobody: 10:32am On Jun 07, 2015 |
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Re: In Law Problems by SAMBARRY: 11:02am On Jun 07, 2015 |
ok the woman is still bearing her father's name in the man's house and the bride price hasn't been paid . in that case the man can cheerfully have sex with his younger brother if she's that irrelevant there I know you are joking anyway Nonso23: |
Re: In Law Problems by Nobody: 11:08am On Jun 07, 2015 |
Re: In Law Problems by SAMBARRY: 1:45pm On Jun 07, 2015 |
rights my foot. He has to respect himself otherwise to even drink water go hard am abi na 24 hrs elder brother go dey house. When the elders say na women get the house you think say them dey joke. They determine who stays and who doesn't.if a woman doesn't want a particular person to stay in the house there are millions of ways she can drive him out . Anyway I know you just want to be funny and you got me there Nonso23: 1 Like |
Re: In Law Problems by Wendy80(f): 2:05pm On Jun 07, 2015 |
Nonso23: Are u for real? |
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Re: In Law Problems by SAMBARRY: 4:03pm On Jun 07, 2015 |
Nonso23:story for sango . |
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