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TRUE LIFE ISSUE...


she has a problem with her womb....the doctor tells her that she might get pregnant but very slim chance.. 75%possibility being not pregnant...25% possibility of her getting pregnant in her marriage....says the doctor..

and her fiancee is not aware of the issue...and they are about to get married...

now the issue is...she is not getting younger..in her late twenties..now she is face with the problem of ..if to tell the fiancee of what she is going through...or never to tell him at all....and just get along with the marriage rites...

to the issue at hand now is...its gonna take a miracle for her to be pregnant...and her husband to be is not that strong in terms of Christianity not to talk of believing in miracles....

SHOULD SHE TELL HER FIANCEE ABOUT IT??OR JUST GO ON WITH THE MARRIAGE...

FOR THEE GUYS...PLEASE IF SHE TELLS YOU HER SITUATION...WILL YOU STILL ACCEPT HER AND GO AHEAD WITH THE MARRIAGE?..

just your matured responds please..

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Yes

Not telling him is laying a foundation of deception. What gives the people this idea that every guy is first interested in the woman becoming a baby factory than in her alone first?

If she doesn't tell now, they will still go for medical tests after marriage and the truth would be revealed. Better face the demon now than be put to double annointing of shame, rejection and regret.

Yawn!!! Tell him

Its pure wickedness, if u hide such big issue rm ur fiancee. U ve to let him know.

Let's ask Babyosisi or Babymama1.

OP I presume you are a guy right? If she hid such a thing from you, and you later found out, what will be your reaction?
Also tell her this "Do unto others as you want them to do to you". If after telling her that and she still does not know what to do, then that lady is a confused fellow for life.

Hmm.
You didnt state What led to that kinda situation?
Is it due to previous abortions? Or was she born that way?

Silence is golden,
What goes around comes around..
Let it be made known to the man before he finds out through other means,it might be unpleasant at first but if he's true,then he would stay with her, join faith and then miracles will happen.

Mehn such a dicey c2ation.i dunno what to say.

Timbuktou:
Let's ask Babyosisi or Babymama1.

O gini kwa

I think she should tell him.

Hide it from him till doctor's report exposed you..

Yomieluv:
Hide it from him till doctor's report exposed you..

You got it right, I was even thinking what's the probability that the miracle will not be sooner that being expose sef, she shld never underestimate the work of God...someone like me will run if she analyse her situation to me in the beginning, the more she tell guys that comes her way she will definetely end up with no marriage

The doctor said 75% not 100%.

The doctor didn't say you are totally barren.
What's your problem that you just can't shut your mouth? You want to dig your grave before you are killed?

Think of the 25% chance that you are going to have a baby, stay positive!

Tell him oooo. It's easier to trust God with a clean conscience. If he chooses to stay, you can trust God together than secretly fighting a battle on your own.
My humble opinion.

jadelyn007:
The doctor said 75% not 100%.

The doctor didn't say you are totally barren.
What's your problem that you just can't shut your mouth? You want to dig your grave before you are killed?

Think of the 25% chance that you are going to have a baby, stay positive!

thats almost impossible my dear....25% out of 100%...no na....so u mean she shouldnt tell the fiancee??

jashar:
Tell him oooo. It's easier to trust God with a clean conscience. If he chooses to stay, you can trust God together than secretly fighting a battle on your own.
My humble opinion.

and what if the fiancee refused to get along with the marriage rites...what will u do?

libertyfather:
You got it right, I was even thinking what's the probability that the miracle will not be sooner that being expose sef, she shld never underestimate the work of God...someone like me will run if she analyse her situation to me in the beginning, the more she tell guys that comes her way she will definetely end up with no marriage

but if at the end of like 4-8yrs in d marriage..no issue...then d man go de run here and dere ...not knowing the problem is from d women...and d woman go con keep quite abi?...conscience dey oo...can she stand the heat of her conscience??...and what if the man finaly finds out dat its d womans fault....do u tink d man will ever forgive her again?

Yomieluv:
Hide it from him till doctor's report exposed you..

nawa oo...seriously??

cococandy:
I think she should tell him.

ur reasons for telling him please...

ahnie:
Mehn such a dicey c2ation.i dunno what to say.

just say ur mind....assume say na u(GOD forbid)...wetin u go do??....the marriage is about to take place...a month from now...seriously...

Pineapp:
Hmm.
You didnt state What led to that kinda situation?
Is it due to previous abortions? Or was she born that way?

Silence is golden,
What goes around comes around..
Let it be made known to the man before he finds out through other means,it might be unpleasant at first but if he's true,then he would stay with her, join faith and then miracles will happen.

everyone got a past....

thanks for ur opinion tho..

bukatyne:
Yes

your reasons please...

toyeoye:
Yawn!!! Tell him

thank GOD that you are a man...please answer...

if na u be the man...u go continue with the marriage or u go end am...please be sincere.

RoyalRoy:
[color=#000033] As long as there is at least a percentage of having babies then just zip it.


Yea.... Zip It.

A man may not want you just for procreation alone but for companionship and other things.

Telling him is just like giving him a heart ache.

The most natural thing is that he will want to leave....but then if the heart is involved then it makes it a hard decision.

Keep praying for a miracle and hopefully things will go your way.


If it doesn't.....then don't be mad if he looks for other alternatives.

Cheers!! [/color]

....hmmmm...nawa oo

I think she should tell him. Nothing liberates like the truth n there is always the IVF option.

She should tell him, this is not the type of thing you keep from your intended.

Tell him. He gets scared and bails. She is hurt and embarrassed and single. She gets over it.

Don't tell him. They get married. They have issues after a few years of "barrenness". The truth comes out. He gets scared and blames her. Their marriage falls apart. She lives in pain, shame, disgrace, then he bails. She is single and "used goods"

But there is another possibility.

Tell him. He gets scared. But he loves her. He decides to brave it out. They get married. He agrees to adopt. They have a successful marriage.

Which is the better option? True there are many other possibilities (the curse of quantum physics), but a marriage without honesty and truth at the beginning? That a recipe for pain and hurt.

Don't know for sure, but I might suspend the marriage plans and seek solutions with her or just go ahead with the marriage with hope ways would be found... But if she knows and never tells me about a problem as gross as this and after marriage I get to find out, hmmm

Honestly i cant assume it to be me.

patrickdarlins:
just say ur mind....assume say na u(GOD forbid)...wetin u go do??....the marriage is about to take place...a month from now...seriously...