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I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by sammily(m): 7:02am On Jul 13, 2016
Please I want people to help me out here. I proposed to my girlfriend of 8 months last 2 week ago and we agreed to visit her home last Sunday. I have always dropped her off around the place but I have never entered the house because I wasn't yet ready to meet the parent because we were just dating then and I wasn't yet sure that she was the one for me. Meanwhile all these while, My girl was only referring to her mum so I subconsciously concluded that the father is late. So last Sunday, I got to their house at Agege pen Cinema and what I saw was very sad. I saw a man looking so haggard in the sitting room and I greeted him, He answered in a very low tone and welcomed me. My girls mum soon came out to the sitting room and also greeted me. We exchanged pleasantries before my girl came out to join us in the discuss. At a point my girls mum brought out money and asked the haggard man to go and buy fuel to power the generator for me so that Heat will not disturb me.

We discussed at length after the man left. To cut the long story short, After the meeting we fixed another date for the second meeting that I was supposed to attend with a family member. When I was about leaving, I gave them some money and some to the man and he fell on his knees thanking me as if he has never owned N1000 in his entire life. When my girl was seeing me off, I asked her who the man was and lo and behold, it was her father. I couldn't believe my ears. it was like a rude joke. it was unbelievable. She must has sensed my confusion before she started telling me stories of how the man maltreated her mum when he had money, how he married another wife who squandered all his money and left them in penury. She said he used to beat her mum and all sorts which I cannot write here.

Since that Sunday till now, I've had no peace of mind, I've been thinking and imagining how a right thinking woman and her daughter can comfortably relegate the man of the house to a mere houseboy. That Sunday, the man was wearing a torn knicker and a white singlet that I won't even use to clean my car. Even my wife to be hushed him down when he came back and wanted to keep the fuel change to himself. Something is wrong somewhere, a woman who could treat her husband like this no matter what he did in the past is scary. I have not even picked her calls since that Sunday evening. I am scared and I don't know what to do next.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by chiefolododo(m): 7:04am On Jul 13, 2016
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Oliviaxx(f): 7:08am On Jul 13, 2016
Hmm...this one is strong
Perhaps you really should run for your life 'coz marriage is a life-long commitment. It could be you tomorrow...my 2cents

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by kbams241: 7:10am On Jul 13, 2016
Hmmmm. #Teamrunforurlife#

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by jesussaves22: 7:11am On Jul 13, 2016
Pls dont rush into that marriage now untill you have investigated things for yourself.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Ugoeze2016: 7:13am On Jul 13, 2016
Run for your dearest life unless you are ready to be trampled on by those two women. Enough said.


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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by ChappyChase: 7:15am On Jul 13, 2016
House Boy 2 Loading...................

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by feldido(m): 7:16am On Jul 13, 2016
Prepare to be Houseboy Number 2 grin

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Askseek(f): 7:16am On Jul 13, 2016
Borrow 8 legs join the 2 u have and run for your life. Don't look back oh.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by femolacqua(m): 7:20am On Jul 13, 2016
You dey see danger, danger, wahala dey.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Nobody: 7:20am On Jul 13, 2016
have seen cases like this, but in that case, the husband was terribly sick after misusing his money on another woman and left his original wife, now he's down with sickness and the wife don pack out so the original wife had to take him in when he's had no one.
Men can be like that sometimes, dont be shocked cause you never know what led the mom and her daughter to act that way...although i aint supporting their action.

A lesson for you when you get married, stick with your wife, stop doing 'olojukomolo'

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by AntiWailer: 7:23am On Jul 13, 2016
chiefolododo:
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE

ChappyChase:
House Boy 2 Loading...................

feldido:
Prepare to be Houseboy Number 2 grin

kbams241:
Hmmmm. #Teamrunforurlife#

Listen to Terry G. RUN RUN RUN... grin

By the time ur head clear, u will be too old to run like her Dad.

So the best time to run is NOW !!

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by general111: 7:25am On Jul 13, 2016
Op just use usain bolt style..i didnt say u shud run oh...

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by nnamdibig(m): 7:28am On Jul 13, 2016
If you are not ready to be like the man you saw, its time to move on. Because your fiancé will be taking advice from her mum.

on are second thought, if you have really decided to marry the girl, then go and spend some times with the man. am sure he will have something to tell you. at least you hear his own side of the story.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Nobody: 7:30am On Jul 13, 2016
The truth is the man has been charm by the woman, a right thinking woman will not do that in front of a visitor, bro u have been adviced to run but i will say u should sprint for ur dear life because i believe the lady is also aware of it

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by stunningjudy(f): 7:30am On Jul 13, 2016
Some women amaze me. So because he maybe mistreated her in the past then she and her daughter now turned him to an errand boy and ur fiancee is silly. Op, if there is any change in ur financial situation and she happens to be ur wife I hope u know you will be treated like that as well.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by stchinedu: 7:41am On Jul 13, 2016
A wise man once told me, 'if you want to know how your wife will look in old age, take a look at her mother.'

In this case, it's more of what she will turn to be, later in her marriage. My only advice is, [size=13pt]RUN FOR DEAR LIFE!!! 'GBA OSO NDU!!!' 'SA ASALA FUN EMI RE!!!.'[/size]


For the 'sabinus' wey fit come this thread dey defend the girl and her 'iya loja', una no get point at all. undecided

No matter what happened, there is something called forgiveness (except it is 'forbidden' in their religion). If the man was a bad man, are they not worse with the way they are treating him? Apparently, they have turned to the monster they claim to be fighting.

What you saw was a divine revelation. Don't say you were not warned.

My 2cent.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by ashatoda: 7:43am On Jul 13, 2016
my guy if you know u are the son of ur papa, u better run for ur life. No sensible man will ever stoop low to be his familys boy boy irrespective of whatever mistake he has made. He might be forced to be gentle but not to d extent dat he will be cowering b4 his daughter. This is d handiwork of real juju talk common sense into ur brain or else u will experience same. Many pple will question this but its d truth. A bad mother in law is d worst thing that could happen to a man she will influence her daughter negatively especially if d lady is not a serious xtian which i could deduce from ur girls case. Dis woman will tell her daughter to 'take care' of u as she did to her father and ur case will be more pathetic. Pls dump her immediately, dnt entertain any explanation or try and see her cos she fit come with juju if u need to see her physically go with a trusted pal dat is on d same page with u. Importantly seek d face of God before entering anoda relationship and be a fast and smart thinker in relationship just like dis.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Acidosis(m): 7:48am On Jul 13, 2016
Run for your life!!!! It runs in the family. In their family, the woman is the boss.



Don't even bother to think about it. Her family is the first place to learn whether she's marriageable or not. Damn any opposing view any marriage counsellor has to say.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Nobody: 7:52am On Jul 13, 2016
Sammily, do not marry that woman if you value your life. You never see wife o.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by ojun50(m): 7:52am On Jul 13, 2016
I will advice u nt to settle down in that family because her mother we control d sheet out yr home

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by tomquest: 8:07am On Jul 13, 2016
sammily

1) your fiancée and her mum are blood. You can literally see your wife's future in her mum today;
2) her mum is a mean, ungodly, unforgiving woman;
3) the fact that your fiancée didn't tell you anything about her dad speaks volumes about her heart. It's certainly similar to her mum's- stony, unforgiving, ungodly, devoid of pure love;
4) ask yourself, if you are nothing would your fiancée have any regard for you, considering how she treats her own biological father?
5) use your brain: doesn't the dad's behavior show evidence of diabolism hovering in that family? Wanna be part of it?
6) they say don't judge a book (your fiancée) by its cover (her family) but God is warning you now by even allowing you to read the book's 1st and Last chapter.

Judge for yourself.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Nobody: 8:13am On Jul 13, 2016
Don't break up with your fiancé but put her in a position to break up with you perhaps they are diabolical they won't come after you.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by ajokebelle(f): 8:41am On Jul 13, 2016
That's a cycle, it will repeat itself. For the family to have not even hidden it or show the father a little respect in your presence says a lot.
Even of ur fiancee is a strong Christian, she will finally succumb to her mother's advice nt to talk of if she is not.
The bond between a mother and daughter is very strong, it s almost impossible to destroy.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by sisisioge: 8:45am On Jul 13, 2016
Run!

My dad wasn't really there for my sis and I but he is by all means our father. Even my mom that paid almost all still respects him. Lubbish!

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by waywardpikin: 8:46am On Jul 13, 2016
Please run my brother. Listen to your instincts. Don't do what will make you regret. Women usually take after their mothers, especially subconsciously. I'm not even going to talk about the diabolical implications of what you witnessed firsthand which could be meted out to you if you 'misbehave'.

Sometimes it's just safer to marry a girl from a good home with a proper family structure to avoid stories that touch o.

You have been warned.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Nobody: 8:48am On Jul 13, 2016
In all, I only pity the old man in this story embarassed. I thought such roles are only interpreted in 9ja movies.

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by obiak4(m): 8:56am On Jul 13, 2016
FIND a way to have a one on one chat with the father to lay all speculation to rest
But will not ADVICE you to continue or show much interest until you FIND out who your inlaws are
Or better still ask people AROUND THE street how thier family members behave or treat people
Blessed be

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by ngoben(f): 9:12am On Jul 13, 2016
Runnn dnt look back...snakes give birth to their kind

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Coyotejack(m): 9:23am On Jul 13, 2016
AntiWailer:








Listen to Terry Guy. RUN RUN RUN... grin



He said run run run
I say RUN NICCUR RUN

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Re: I Am Scared, My Fiancee And Her Mum Treats Her Father Like A Houseboy by Coyotejack(m): 9:25am On Jul 13, 2016
AntiWailer:








Listen to Terry Guy. RUN RUN RUN... grin



He said run run run
I say RUN NICUR RUN

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