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Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by ahnie: 1:02pm On Jun 12, 2015
Clears throat**It takes a strong man to hear such damaging truth.i 'll tell him.
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by jadelyn007(f): 1:05pm On Jun 12, 2015
patrickdarlins:
thats almost impossible my dear....25% out of 100%...no na....so u mean she shouldnt tell the fiancee??
there is almost nothing in life is 100% certain, there is a 50% chance that we'll see tomorrow, their is also a 50% chance we won't live to see tomorrow. Do we then focus on d 50% negative? 25% is different from no chance at all.
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by jashar(f): 1:11pm On Jun 12, 2015
patrickdarlins:
and what if the fiancee refused to get along with the marriage rites...what will u do?
Move on with life as hard as it may be. undecided

Is he the only man in the world?
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by Nobody: 1:37pm On Jun 12, 2015
jashar:
Move on with life as hard as it may be. undecided

Is he the only man in the world?
men are are everywere......good men are scarce now...hope u know...and besides...time is not on her side..
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by jnrbayano(m): 1:42pm On Jun 12, 2015
Not telling her husband-to-be is akin to giving him grade A poison.

It is criminal.
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by mymz(f): 1:45pm On Jun 12, 2015
RoyalRoy:
[color=#000033] As long as there is at least a percentage of having babies then just zip it.


Yea.... Zip It.

A man may not want you just for procreation alone but for companionship and other things.

Telling him is just like giving him a heart ache.

The most natural thing is that he will want to leave....but then if the heart is involved then it makes it a hard decision.

Keep praying for a miracle and hopefully things will go your way.


If it doesn't.....then don't be mad if he looks for other alternatives.

Cheers!! [/color]
And if it were you and i in this situation for example, would you still advice i "zip it"? smiley
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by jashar(f): 1:46pm On Jun 12, 2015
patrickdarlins:
men are are everywere......good men are scarce now...hope u know...and besides...time is not on her side..
Na by force to marry? Leave time alone joor. So, because of time she should just marry anyhow shey?
I don't believe that. I'd take being single and happy any day any time than being married and made to feel miserable.
It's hard o, but if bro can't deal with issue, she should free him instead of getting married to him and the guy would feel trapped and coerced into the marriage.
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by Nobody: 1:49pm On Jun 12, 2015
jadelyn007:
there is almost nothing in life is 100% certain, there is a 50% chance that we'll see tomorrow, their is also a 50% chance we won't live to see tomorrow. Do we then focus on d 50% negative? 25% is different from no chance at all.
true
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by Nobody: 1:50pm On Jun 12, 2015
mymz:
And if it were you and i in this situation for example, would you still advice i "zip it"? smiley
help me ask am
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by Nobody: 1:52pm On Jun 12, 2015
jashar:
Na by force to marry? Leave time alone joor. So, because of time she should just marry anyhow shey?
I don't believe that. I'd take being single and happy any day any time than being married and made to feel miserable.
It's hard o, but if bro can't deal with issue, she should free him instead of getting married to him and the guy would feel trapped and coerced into the marriage.
who wears the shoe...knows were it pinches...
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by Nobody: 1:53pm On Jun 12, 2015
jnrbayano:
Not telling her husband-to-be is akin to giving him grade A poison.

It is criminal.
lols.....i don piss for body...very true oo
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by Nobody: 1:54pm On Jun 12, 2015
ahnie:
Clears throat**It takes a strong man to hear such damaging truth.i 'll tell him.
hmmm
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by jashar(f): 1:56pm On Jun 12, 2015
patrickdarlins:
who wears the shoe...knows were it pinches...
Hmmm... I know bro cry, I know.
*sighs*
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by Nobody: 1:57pm On Jun 12, 2015
mcdokwe:
Don't know for sure, but I might suspend the marriage plans and seek solutions with her or just go ahead with the marriage with hope ways would be found... But if she knows and never tells me about a problem as gross as this and after marriage I get to find out, hmmm
u go carry gun follow her abi?
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by Nobody: 1:58pm On Jun 12, 2015
freecocoa:
She should tell him, this is not the type of thing you keep from your intended.
good
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by cococandy(f):
patrickdarlins:
ur reasons for telling him please...
it's pretty obvious isn't it?
Not everything needs explanation
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by bukatyne(f): 4:26pm On Jun 12, 2015
patrickdarlins:
your reasons please...
The husband to be should know what he is up against so he is making an informed decision
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by RoyalRoy(mod): 4:40pm On Jun 12, 2015
mymz:
And if it were you and i in this situation for example, would you still advice i "zip it"? smiley
[color=#000033] My dear I won't wanna know..... Really a woman with 25% chance is definitely not barren!!!
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Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by Nobody: 5:14pm On Jun 12, 2015
cococandy:
iys pretty obvious isn't it? Not everything needs explanation
true....thanks
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by Nobody: 5:16pm On Jun 12, 2015
RoyalRoy:
[color=#000033] My dear I won't wanna know..... Really a woman with 25% chance is definitely not barren!!!
[/color]
what happens to the remaining 75%??.....they are not telling u its 50-50 oo......oga wetin u de talk??....almost impossible seems impossible....seriously...
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by Nobody: 5:18pm On Jun 12, 2015
bukatyne:
The husband to be should know what he is up against so he is making an informed decision
2 bottles of orijin for u dis cold evening..
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by raumdeuter: 5:44pm On Jun 12, 2015
If a man has HIV should he tell his fiancee?
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by Nobody: 7:34pm On Jun 12, 2015
Ask babyosisi, she should have a way out cool
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by RoyalRoy(mod): 8:20pm On Jun 12, 2015
patrickdarlins:
what happens to the remaining 75%??.....they are not telling u its 50-50 oo......oga wetin u de talk??....almost impossible seems impossible....seriously...
[color=#000033] There is nothing Impossible in Life.....



[size=15pt] NOTHING!!! [/size] [/color]
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by toksbisola: 10:11pm On Jun 12, 2015
@Op; Now permit me to reverse the case before I’ll give a reply!

Take this; Assuming her fiancé has a low sperm count and as you know there is a slim chance of him not being able to father a child and he hides this delicate information from his fiancée who will eventually become his wife. What do you think would happen if she eventually finds out in the marriage that her husband has this problem and kept it as a secret away from her before they got married?

I hope you see where I am heading. My advice to intending couples is never to hide anything from a prospective spouse/partner that would later hunt your marriage/relationship which in some instances can lead to a separation/divorce especially if the spouse/partner is unable to bear the secret(s) when it eventually comes out.

It is better to let any medical problems out NOW BEFORE THE MARRIAGE and let either of the spouse/partner; be it a fiancé or fiancée decide if they would want to carry on or not with the relationship/marriage.

In this day and age, lots of intending couples now go for medical check-ups before the wedding just to be aware of each others health issues/status. You really think that if such a check-up is carried out on the lady in question it won’t come out in the open? She best think again.

My conclusion on the matter is; DO NOT HIDE ANYTHING FROM A SPOUSE/PARTNER. Never think of starting a relationship/marriage based on Lies, Deceit and Secrets. The consequences can be sometimes disastrous and calamitous when it all comes out in the open.

I rest my case
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by sniperr007(m): 11:39pm On Jun 12, 2015
bellong:
Not telling him is laying a foundation of deception. What gives the people this idea that every guy is first interested in the woman becoming a baby factory than in her alone first?

If she doesn't tell now, they will still go for medical tests after marriage and the truth would be revealed. Better face the demon now than be put to double annointing of shame, rejection and regret.
It's easy to advise ger to tell him but put ursef in her place, its very hard.

To me, she shud hit him abt d issue but coming out 100%, I no fit sabi.
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by Nobody: 11:49pm On Jun 12, 2015
babyosisi:
O gini kwa
Just wanted your informed opinion on this matter, seeing as you're the expert on what to hide from intended spouses and all. What would you advise in this scenario?
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by bellong: 12:09am On Jun 13, 2015
sniperr007:
It's easy to advise ger to tell him but put ursef in her place, its very hard.

To me, she shud hit him abt d issue but coming out 100%, I no fit sabi.
I don't offer any advice without putting myself in the situation. It is based on what I would do if I were in it.

If you think your fulfillment, joy and happiness is dependent on the other person and cannot do without them, it is easy for you to hide info about you.

Marriages crash today because toddlers are marrying toddlers. People do deceive their spouses about who they are and after the marriage, the game changes.

No matter how difficult, honesty is the best policy. In fact telling him and being opened about you is an eliminating strategy to know if the guy is sincerely i interested in you and can stand with you in the times of storm.

We may share different opinion about marriage, so we understand differently.

No matter the situation, I wouldn't advise anybody to lay a foundation of deception, dishonesty and partial sincerity for a relationship. They are recipe for marital destruction. Too many cases abound.

The temporal relief you get from hiding stuffs is nothing but temporal compared to the pains and regret that awaits in the future.

If you sow wind, you shall reap whirlwind.
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by TV01(m): 12:17am On Jun 13, 2015
RoyalRoy:
A man may not want you just for procreation alone but for companionship and other things.
True, he may or he may not - but surely that's a question that can and should be be asked - regardless of fertility - at this stage?

RoyalRoy:
Telling him is just like giving him a heart ache.
And not telling him may do just the same. Only it will be when he has been misled - and who knows for how long. Telling him now allows him to make an informed decision, and prepare himself for what may lie ahead should he decide to proceed..


TV

...bellong...dey regulate go jor grin!
Re: Should She Tell Her Fiancee Or Not by Nobody: 1:15am On Jun 13, 2015
babyosisi:
Hehehehehehehehe!! Njokusboy and timbuktou what do you say to this
Stop answering question with question, woman.
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