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babyosisi:
Hehehehehehehehe!! Njokusboy and timbuktou what do you say to this

Stop answering question with question, woman.

bellong:
I don't offer any advice without putting myself in the situation. It is based on what I would do if I were in it.

If you think your fulfillment, joy and happiness is dependent on the other person and cannot do without them, it is easy for you to hide info about you.

Marriages crash today because toddlers are marrying toddlers. People do deceive their spouses about who they are and after the marriage, the game changes.

No matter how difficult, honesty is the best policy. In fact telling him and being opened about you is an eliminating strategy to know if the guy is sincerely i interested in you and can stand with you in the times of storm.

We may share different opinion about marriage, so we understand differently.

No matter the situation, I wouldn't advise anybody to lay a foundation of deception, dishonesty and partial sincerity for a relationship. They are recipe for marital destruction. Too many cases abound.

The temporal relief you get from hiding stuffs is nothing but temporal compared to the pains and regret that awaits in the future.

If you sow wind, you shall reap whirlwind.

U right but, at dat moment, many tins run ones mind but I feel, at least, she should hint him about the problem to know his reaction b4 dropping d bomb.

My simply advice is don't tell the guy. Most men are not strong enough to handle such information. Most time , even the man that put a girl into such situation end up leaving the her.

I know this because I experience this first hand. Glory be to God, today am a mother of 2 beautiful girls

I didn't tell my hubby because that was my past, I only did all that needed to be done both medically and spiritually. I even got pregnant before my marriage.

With you, bellong. I couldn't put it better. In fact a lot more people are answering with such clarity that this is only a vanity comment.

Marriage is a joint venture. Nobody wants to find out they can't trust the person in whose hands they put their lives. That's what happens when you rope someone into a marriage without telling them things that will affect your union later.

As for me, if I have gone as far as deciding to marry a woman, such a discovery will not change my decision.

omoseun:
My simply advice is don't tell the guy. Most men are not strong enough to handle such information. Most time , even the man that put a girl into such situation end up leaving the her.

I know this because I experience this first hand. Glory be to God, today am a mother of 2 beautiful girls

I didn't tell my hubby because that was my past, I only did all that needed to be done both medically and spiritually. I even got pregnant before my marriage.

Would you have come here to say the same thing if it turned out the other way round?

Lets reverse the role and see if you would have been happy to learn after marriage and trying everything possible to conceive that your husband is impotent and he knew about this even before marrying you.

Isn't that interesting? Several inconsistent lies is enough to make me never to trust you not to talk of something that big.

Most men can take such honesty when the cause was through a natural cause like a disease she had while young, an honest mistake due to youthful exuberance or something forgivable.

What we can't take is someone telling me they made a mistake and aborted 2,3,4,5,6 times to the point of damaging their wombs and still want me to be believe such was an honest mistake and accept them. Tufiakwa.

Ma'am you knew what you were doing and I won't be interested in joining such journey of repaying for your misdeeds.

onegig:
Would you have come here to say the same thing if it turned out the other way round?

Lets reverse the role and see if you would have been happy to learn after marriage and trying everything possible to conceive that your husband is impotent and he knew about this even before marrying you.

Isn't that interesting? Several inconsistent lies is enough to make me never to trust you not to talk of something that big.

Most men can take such honesty when the cause was through a natural cause like a disease she had while young, an honest mistake due to youthful exuberance or something forgivable.

What we can't take is someone telling me they made a mistake and aborted 2,3,4,5,6 times to the point of damaging their wombs and still want me to be believe such was an honest mistake and accept them. Tufiakwa.

Ma'am you knew what you were doing and I won't be interested in joining such journey of repaying for your misdeeds.

I don't remember writing in my post that I lived a wayward life, neither did I mention having multiple abortion so please if you don't have something better to say, stay off my case and simply direct your response to the OP rather than analysing my comment.

omoseun:
I don't remember writing in my post that I lived a wayward life, neither did I mention having multiple abortion so please if you don't have something better to say, stay off my case and simply direct your response to the OP rather than analysing my comment.

And I didn't infer that you led a wayward life. I Just gave you scenarios where most men won't take honesty about such an issue and proceed with marriage.

Maybe you calm down and reread what is written.

@omoseun
Pls answer. If roles were reversed and you found out your husband was impotent, how will you handle it knowing that he willfully kept it from you?

@onegig am also eager to hear her response

RoyalRoy:
[color=#000033] My dear I won't wanna know..... Really a woman with 25% chance is definitely not barren!!!
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Interesting perspective!
Well, the world would have been a less malicious place if there were more like you that's for sure.

mymz:
Interesting perspective!
Well, the world would have been a less malicious place if there were more like you that's for sure.

**winks**

getting pregnant is just stage one. A 25% possibility of pregnancy means an even lower possibility of a term pregnancy and a healthy baby at the end of it.

She should have told him ages ago. Its even too late to say it now; just one month before the wedding.

That is really unfair

People should go into marriage with a fair degree of trust that you are marrying the person that you think they are.

if the man leaves her, there will be someone who will marry her for her and they will even be ready to work together to find a solution to the problem. It even saves time cos they both know the goal they are working towards
In this case they will be spendng on doctors and wasting time, when all along the lady knows what the problem is.
I will find it hard to forgive and trust such a man if a man did that to me
The marriage might not ever be the same again too.

tearoses:
getting pregnant is just stage one. A 25% possibility of pregnancy means an even lower possibility of a term pregnancy and a healthy baby at the end of it.

She should have told him ages ago. Its even too late to say it now; just one month before the wedding.

That is really unfair

People should go into marriage with a fair degree of trust that you are marrying the person that you think they are.

if the man leaves her, there will be someone who will marry her for her and they will even be ready to work together to find a solution to the problem. It even saves time cos they both know the goal they are working towards
In this case they will be spendng on doctors and wasting time, when all along the lady knows what the problem is.
I will find it hard to forgive and trust such a man if a man did that to me
The marriage might not ever be the same again too.

GOD bless you....

u de talk truth..

patrickdarlins:
TRUE LIFE ISSUE...


she has a problem with her womb....the doctor tells her that she might get pregnant but very slim chance.. 75%possibility being not pregnant...25% possibility of her getting pregnant in her marriage....says the doctor..

and her fiancee is not aware of the issue...and they are about to get married...

now the issue is...she is not getting younger..in her late twenties..now she is face with the problem of ..if to tell the fiancee of what she is going through...or never to tell him at all....and just get along with the marriage rites...

to the issue at hand now is...its gonna take a miracle for her to be pregnant...and her husband to be is not that strong in terms of Christianity not to talk of believing in miracles....

SHOULD SHE TELL HER FIANCEE ABOUT IT??OR JUST GO ON WITH THE MARRIAGE...

FOR THEE GUYS...PLEASE IF SHE TELLS YOU HER SITUATION...WILL YOU STILL ACCEPT HER AND GO AHEAD WITH THE MARRIAGE?..

just your matured responds please..

CC:lalasticlala

Please tell him. I'm sure if he were infertile/impotent, you'll like to know. Do to others as you will like them to do to you. If you tell him and he refuses to marry you again, move on.

So, when are you gonna get ya own "fiancé" make we judge you own low-SPAM-count?

KanwuliaJara:
So, when are you gonna get ya own "fiancé" make we judge you own low-SPAM-count?

by their fruit..
u shall recognise the tree..

yeye dey smell

patrickdarlins:
by their fruit.
u shall recognise the tree..

yeye dey smell

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