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Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by Kimoni: 11:18pm On Jun 25, 2015
limamintruth:
Well IMHO, home chores must neither be shared 'equally' nor restricted to a particular gender.

Hence, chores should be voluntarily carried out by the partner who has more free time in his/her hands & is not in anyway incapacitated by illhealth.

And even in instances where both spouses are home & not busy, its advisable that such chores be carried out together by them both(with the exception of cooking which is the wife's sole responsibility to do).
Bukatyne said something similar to this. My question is why exempt cooking? Why must cooking alone be restricted to females?
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by freecocoa(f): 11:23pm On Jun 25, 2015
FrancisTony:
If she deny it, Ishilove, Lalasticlala and Obinoscopy can check her IP address. grin
Since I don't even know the genesis of the story, I will leave you to it, you are not a good ameboist btw.grin

You couldn't even break it down for me. angry
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by oloyede252(m): 11:23pm On Jun 25, 2015
Shollypopzz:
That's news to me, where did you get your data from?? BTW, what do you mean by chore equality?
that the main POV of the op post.
chore equality in marriage and relationships.. what your thought about that.



about that stat,it was quoted in a new York times magazine article, you can Google it up
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by SirShymexx: 11:25pm On Jun 25, 2015
FrancisTony:
1) She logged out 9.09pm.

2) She referenced babygirl's marriage on what she told me on another thread and I saw when she was viewing.

3) She was on babyosisi case when she wanted to deactivate.

Her moniker is E****. grin
And some fvcking fugly owanbe sket said I was the one behind that handle.

A lot of folks need to be slapped on this forum.
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by armyofone(m): 11:26pm On Jun 25, 2015
The guys don't eat I guess.
How were they living before the ladies came into the picture ....quite puzzling.

Kimoni:
Bukatyne said something similar to this. My question is why exempt cooking? Why must cooking alone be restricted to females?
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by bukatyne(f): 11:28pm On Jun 25, 2015
Kimoni:
Bukatyne said something similar to this. My question is why exempt cooking? Why must cooking alone be restricted to females?
I did not say cooking should fall on the women only.

However, each home is different and the couple should find out What works for them.

My hubby for instance 100% prefers I cook the soup and store in the freezer and the first person to get home makes dinner.
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by Kimoni: 11:29pm On Jun 25, 2015
armyofone:
The guys don't eat I guess.
How were they living before the ladies came into the picture ....quite puzzling.
Honestly, I'm lost
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by bukatyne(f): 11:29pm On Jun 25, 2015
oloyede252:
that the main POV of the op post.
chore equality in marriage and relationships.. what your thought about that.



about that stat,it was quoted in a new York times magazine article, you can Google it up
Chores can never be equally shared.

Everyone can pull their weight 100% though
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by Nobody: 11:29pm On Jun 25, 2015
freecocoa:
Since I don't even know the genesis of the story, I will leave you to it, you are not a good ameboist btw.grin

You couldn't even break it down for me. angry
Lol

SirShymexx:
And some fvcking fugly owanbe sket said I was the one behind that handle.

A lot of folks need to be slapped on this forum.
That can't be you because I know how you type.

By the way, if it's a man behind that moniker, I'll be dissapointed because the user seems jobless with peoples personal info.

I have seen you fight with your real moniker - all those NL monikers acting holy should be dreaded. grin
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by oloyede252(m): 11:31pm On Jun 25, 2015
bukatyne:
Chores can never be equally shared.
Everyone can pull their weight 100% though
thank you.
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by nltrue: 11:34pm On Jun 25, 2015
I am jobless and you have a job? grin grin grin grin grin grin
see this hungry gay,who dash you job?
We will see who is jobless,how come you still up till now?active since 6 in the morning?I will go and still leave you here with your married aunties grin grin grin.
Now let see who is jobless,shall we?
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by nltrue: 11:37pm On Jun 25, 2015
Married women where are your husbands?It is close to midnight where are your kids? grin
What kind of life is this?everyday? huh huh
No wonder they are always bitter,always instigating divorce,always frustrated. grin grin then they hide behind the word feminist,bunch of jokers.
Especially this one still viewing,babygirl go sleep o,married woman grin
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by bukatyne(f): 11:38pm On Jun 25, 2015
oloyede252:
thank you.
Why do I feel we are not on the same page?

I believe in husbands and wives doing all chores depending on their personalities and availability.

The chores equality will not work because I might be out of town today and him unavailable tomorrow.


Chores can also not be measured.
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by limamintruth: 11:40pm On Jun 25, 2015
Kimoni:
Bukatyne said something similar to this. My question is why exempt cooking? Why must cooking alone be restricted to females?
The restriction arises only where both spouses are home at their free-time.

The primary reason is because in most cases, women are better cooks than men. cool
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by dubylhover(m): 11:41pm On Jun 25, 2015
freecocoa:
Since I don't even know the genesis of the story, I will leave you to it, you are not a good ameboist btw.grin

You couldn't even break it down for me. angry
grin,not all females knw hw to do amebo na
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by Nobody: 11:41pm On Jun 25, 2015
SirShymexx:
That's the homo and stalking shyte I abhor - these plonkers just can't keep my dyck out of their mouths, and they'll always drag me into everything.

I don't when I started giving a fvck about anyone, to start chasing and attacking inconsequential folks. I fight all my wars with my face wide open. Shyte, I can be discussing with 50calibre who is Igbo on one thread - and hit the politics section on a next thread and start fighting tribal wars with Igbos. I don't give a fvck.

Anyway, FrancisTony, you and Mynd44 need to find ya sexuality - both of you are fruity as the bottle of alize drink. grin Didn't mynd44 call himself a feminist a few days ago? - hahahahahaha. That guy just came out of the closet! lipsrsealed
So, a male that supports equality of men & women is gay?

Pray tell, how many self-acclaimed male gays are feminist.
Lets start there....
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by Kimoni: 11:44pm On Jun 25, 2015
bukatyne:
I did not say cooking should fall on the women only.
I know you said bulk cooking while he said and meant all cooking(I believe), just wondering why any chore should still be restricted to a particular gender if we are to accept chore equality.

However, each home is different and the couple should find out What works for them.

My hubby for instance 100% prefers I cook the soup and store in the freezer and the first person to get home makes dinner.
Exactly! Is this rocket science?

**modified
Bukatyne, I just read ur post on chore equality. I get your stand now
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by SirShymexx: 11:50pm On Jun 25, 2015
FrancisTony:
So, a male that supports equality of men & women is gay?

Pray tell, how many self-acclaimed male gays are feminist.
Lets start there....
The word feminist itself is self-explanatory. It means feminine(ist) and when you break "feminine" further down: you'll come up with, having qualities or an appearance traditionally associated with women.

Homos are more or less feminine and aligning with the ideology is natural for them if they decide to. So for a guy to say he's a feminist, he's definitely feminine (homo) and he's in his comfort zonegrin

You lot keep letting Chimanmanda who apparently has been suffering from acute depression for a long time (according to the Guardian UK, before she told them to pull the story down) to keep emasculating you with nonsense. undecided
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by Mynd44(mod): 11:56pm On Jun 25, 2015
SirShymexx:
That's the homo and stalking shyte I abhor - these plonkers just can't keep my dyck out of their mouths, and they'll always drag me into everything.

I don't when I started giving a fvck about anyone, to start chasing and attacking inconsequential folks. I fight all my wars with my face wide open. Shyte, I can be discussing with 50calibre who is Igbo on one thread - and hit the politics section on a next thread and start fighting tribal wars with Igbos. I don't give a fvck.

Anyway, FrancisTony, you and Mynd44 need to find ya sexuality - both of you are fruity as the bottle of alize drink. grin Didn't mynd44 call himself a feminist a few days ago? - hahahahahaha. That guy just came out of the closet! lipsrsealed
You shouldn't have brought my name up in this shymmex.

You shouldn't have at all.
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by SirShymexx: 11:58pm On Jun 25, 2015
Mynd44:
You shouldn't have brought my name up in this shymmex.

You shouldn't have at all.
I'm here to help you, brother.

I can't let another black man go astray.

You're a man and embrace who you're.

Anyway, I'm out - catch you in the politics section when we bump heads.
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by limamintruth: 12:01am On Jun 26, 2015
Kimoni:
I know you said bulk cooking while he said and meant all cooking(I believe), just wondering why any chore should still be restricted to a particular gender if we are to accept chore equality.



Exactly! Is this rocket science?
It seems you didnt understand my post.

I never absolved the man from cooking as you put it. The man is expected to do the chores whenever he is the one home & the wife is busy, sick or not home.

And i also said that wherein both spouses are home together, they should endeavour to do the chores together. It should not necessarily be 50-50 though (so that it wont seem like a competition/challenge; thus no need for any measuring tape grin)

Note that the restriction on cooking which i made mention of in my other post arises ONLY in instances whe both spouses are home & free.

However, i admit that this is not a one cap fits all thingy cos what may work for Couple A might not be same as what works for Couple B.
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by Nobody: 12:03am On Jun 26, 2015
SirShymexx:
1. The word feminist itself is self-explanatory. It means feminine(ist) and when you break "feminine" further down: you'll come up with, having qualities or an appearance traditionally associated with women.

2) Homos are more or less feminine and aligning with the ideology is natural for them if they decide to. So for a guy to say he's a feminist, he's definitely feminine (homo) and he's in his comfort zonegrin

3.) You lot keep letting Chimanmanda who apparently has been suffering from acute depression for a long time (according to the Guardian UK, before she told them to pull the story down) to keep emasculating you with nonsense. undecided
1.) Reason why I told Ki..moni that i'm rather a humanitarian or supporter of egalitarianism not a feminist.

2) A gay can be masculine or effeminate.
A straight can also be masculine or effeminate.
I don't see why a gay should be feminist to fight for his sexuality.
Gayism isn't a gender thing and a gay male is still enjoying the same privilege a straight male has in this sexist world that doesn't favour women.

3.) Lol? Chimamanda emasculating me/us?
Being a supporter of egalitarianism doesn't mean a woman will domineer me.
I believe that respect has to be reciprocated.
She was depressed? Why?
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Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by Kimoni: 12:04am On Jun 26, 2015
limamintruth:
It seems you didnt understand my post.

I never absolved the man from cooking as you put it. The man is expected to do the chores whenever he is the one home & the wife is busy, sick or not home.

And i also said that wherein both spouses are home together, they should endeavour to do the chores together. It should not necessarily be 50-50 though (so that it wont seem like a competition/challenge; thus no need for any measuring tape grin)

Note that the restriction on cooking which i made mention of in my other post arises ONLY in instances whe both spouses are home & free.

However, i admit that this is not a one cap fits all thingy cos what may work for Couple A might not be same as what works for Couple B.
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by freecocoa(f): 12:06am On Jun 26, 2015
dubylhover:
grin,not all females knw hw to do amebo na
leave Francis alone jor.

He is every inch a man.tongue
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by SirShymexx:
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Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by Nobody: 12:09am On Jun 26, 2015
This girl isn't so smart, she logged out and logged in with her real moniker not long ago instead of waiting till tomorrow. grin
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by dubylhover(m): 12:11am On Jun 26, 2015
freecocoa:
leave Francis alone jor.

He is every inch a man.tongue
grin grin,of cos nau..abi did i say otherwise?hw do yu even knw he is every inch of a man
Re: Gender And Chores- Issues In Relationships And Marriages by freecocoa(f): 12:13am On Jun 26, 2015
dubylhover:
grin grin,of cos nau..abi did i say otherwise?hw do yu even knw he is every inch of a man
You said otherwise, you actually referred to him as a woman but we forgive you.cheesy

How I know? That shouldn't be your problem now.
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