₦airaland Forum

what are u saying? how does this relate to my post?

otiigba1:
perhaps you are young and succulent now you wont be saying this, until you could not find a man to marry and you are heading towards 40 years of age, moreover you still have to bear children for the person atleast 3 children at 40, am sure your views will change desperation comes to mind

Toks2008:
I guess you destroyed your mariage with your own hands.

I may be wrong but i believe that the lady must have made the hubby so insecured by conspicoussly making him feel like a second or third choice.

Men are egocentric and will hardly forget any form of derogatory remarks to them by the woman in their lives.

I happen to have an ex i appreciated so much and for many years i practically did my best and despite setting her up in business i also give her 20k monthly as pocket money which is very very small but was a huge sacrifice by me considering the fact that i was making average of 200k monthly.

the day she complained about lack of money and i told her that im trying my best,she responded by saying how much do i even give her that im sayiing im trying?

That was the day i felt bruised psycologically and till we parted ways that word still haunted me.

As men or women we must be careful of wat we say because i believe this new lady must have made the hubby feel like a king,like he is exactly wwhat she wants while the wige must have made him understand that giving the chance she would never had chose him and it was only a matter of time before the man finally found the woman who wants him as first option even if its not what it seems.

Guy my own is worse than yours. This is a girl that I was supporting before "marrige" and even hid her poverty from my family, paid for her exams and all that but after marriage I told her one day so innocently mercy (not real name) you've not been studying, how do you want me to pay for your next exams and she finished me with mouth & several other things. Right now I'm just scattered.

dancok:
Ur husband is just getting back at u for not interested in him in the first place, what he did is to make u have baby for him, then he had plans to suffer u, trust me, this is what some men can do, including me. Have promise to take my revenge on any lady that has no interest in me but because of marriage and age on her side, then marry me, I swear she will regret it. I will do more than ur husband, Op hey lady! U are the one at fault, and u will regret it, this is payback time.

hehehehe. so you will waste at least 10 years of your life on malice while your mates are building loving families and achieving all their relationship goals.

You will waste your life pretending to be in a committed relationship including all the going out with wife and children while you'll see families sharing their genuine love at amusement parks, cinemas and eateries every valentine's day, children's day, Christmas day etc

Since you have so much of your life to throw away because of a grudge, maybe you could volunteer for the MARS SPACE PROGRAM where people go on a one way trip to Mars to set up new colonies. at least your life would be productive.

Go to God in prayers he will see u thru n direct Ur steps, is behaviours towards u n Ur kids is not normal, fasting n prayers can do it OK, it is well

happney65:
I havent marries any..Not yet as i need to be ready in all areas of Life for Marriage..But would do so soonest..However i have Yansed as many as over 50Girls..You Dig?

nope. I guess 49 of those girls will have other guys tell them that when 'we said I love you, you were forming for us'. meanwhile they were wasting their time with you. oh well! its a crazy world.

MarieSucre:
hehehehe. so you will waste at least 10 years of your life on malice while your mates are building loving families and achieving all their relationship goals. You will waste your life pretending to be in a committed relationship including all the going out with wife and children while you'll see families sharing their genuine love at amusement parks, cinemas and eateries every valentine's day, children's day, Christmas day etc since you have so much of your life to throw away because of a grudge, maybe you could volunteer for the MARS SPACE PROGRAM where people go on a one way trip to Mars to set up new colonies. at least your life would be productive.

that is what suite d lady, for me I will balance d love and hatred

aflyingbird:
what are u saying? how does this relate to my post?

well..since you asked, on your post you were asking why do women jump into marriages so quick right?1. Well if you are young its not problem you will have enough time to wait 2. If you wait for too long you become desperate thus jumping into marriage too quick 3.if you are 25 years you are more likely to be able to have children than when you are 40 years old, why wait? If you find the right person, and if you do decide to wait how long is enough?then again who is the right person and how would you know? Lastly its not because women jump into it too quick...its because there is no love commitment and understanding in the marriage am hoping i ve elaborated enough for your comprehension

And what d hell is wrong with all these girls running after married guys!!!

dancok:
that is what suite d lady, for me I will balance d love and hatred

in case you don't know, its yourself you are doing as Nigerians would say. If you don't want to marry her then don't. I don't know where you guys get such energy to play such charades. That's why our economy is like this. All the energy and brain power to be poured into resource management would instead be poured into pretending for weeks, months or years for that girl who insulted you or spread rumour that you are not 'man enough' so you can yansh her or rape her. Weeks, months and years poured into pretending to be a wicked husband. pls try and be productive to the society in other ways. we already have enough wicked people; murderers, looters, rapists, ritualists etc.

gnykelly:
all these are just like closing the eyes to the real problems. it doesn't solve the problem. she need to attack it from the root.

solving wat frm d root?why does it always seem as if it's a woman dat needs marriage most.if d woman can take care of her kids let her move on with her life and raise her kids and let d man look Fr wat his problem is may be by then it would b late.wat d heck abt being desperate to stay married and be takin sh*t frm one local chap.No man is worth sleepless night.

DrSage:
You went too far!
Itz obvious he's nt acting normal at all,you would have taken dz issue to his family members so dat dey could at least talk to him.
But alas,u beat up his supposed girl friend,u went just too far.

I bet u didn't think he went too far by bringing a girlfriend to his matrimonial home, Haba! When the wife is around! I doubt If I'l av the patience to let the wh*ore go unscathed. I will teach her how not to be an intruder.

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MarieSucre:
She already knows all this. What's your advice?

That man is gone for good. If she tries anything to change his mind, trust me it won't work.

Ama80:
solving wat frm d root?why does it always seem as if it's a woman dat needs marriage most.if d woman can take care of her kids let her move on with her life and raise her kids and let d man look Fr wat his problem is may be by then it would b late.wat d heck abt being desperate to stay married and be takin sh*t frm one local chap.No man is worth sleepless night.

she shouldn't walk away from marriage because there is problem. being single is worst. you should have proscribed a compromise rather than a walkaway option.

xtervaganza:
nobody said anything about killing you psychotic bastard.


drfool

u said "she deserved something worse"...
wasted sperm

MarieSucre:
in case you don't know, its yourself you are doing as Nigerians would say. If you don't want to marry her then don't. I don't know where you guys get such energy to play such charades. That's why our economy is like this. All the energy and brain power to be poured into resource management would instead be poured into pretending for weeks, months or years for that girl who insulted you or spread rumour that you are not 'man enough' so you can yansh her or rape her. Weeks, months and years poured into pretending to be a wicked husband. pls try and be productive to the society in other ways. we already have enough wicked people; murderers, looters, rapists, ritualists etc.

where did u kept this saying *what u can't eat, don't smell it* abeg is good for her jare. EOD

Cutehector:
This is what happens wen u marry because age is not by ur side anylonger or u marry out of pity... Na ur fault be that

mumu talk. If u don't have anytin to say den shut up

dancok:
where did u kept this saying *what u can't eat, don't smell it* abeg is good for her jare. EOD

I'm talking about your own post.

He's tired of you and doesn't find you attractive or interesting anymore, have some dignity and self respect and move on with your life.

What is the point of staying married to someone who doesn't love you - life is too short - move on.

elantraceey:
You have a choice , either stay or leave.

Leave to where?

Ama80:
solving wat frm d root?why does it always seem as if it's a woman dat needs marriage most.if d woman can take care of her kids let her move on with her life and raise her kids and let d man look Fr wat his problem is may be by then it would b late.wat d heck abt being desperate to stay married and be takin sh*t frm one local chap.No man is worth sleepless night.

Stop claiming what youcare not. I am sure you even take more sh*t. Stop confusing people.

DrSage:
u said "she deserved something worse"...
wasted sperm

and your malfunctioning brain termed it as killing?



You're a foolish fool. You bloody impotent sob

Am very sure that there were times during your marriage,probably during quarells that you told him that you just managed to marry him...even with all the suitors you had,,Such things kills a mans love esp wen he finds out that you never really loved him but married him cos u had no other choice..He would definitely want to go and find that true love outside..Now he has found som1 that loves him you are complaining..pls just pray for ur marriage cos left to me if u didn't love him u shldnt av married him in the first place..especially wen he knows u didn't really love him.rather he was just lyk a last option...

NeduLuiZ:
A case of mugu just got wiser

U are really in sane..can u do same thing if your wife brings her boyfriend home?? Why do we even sound unreasonable at times..how can u tell a woman who is that hurt to do such thing?? Anything u can't do pls don't advise others to do same..very unrealistic advice..if she does that she has automatically told the man that she is comfortable sharing him with another woman and encouraging him to continue in his evil ways..and he would have no choice but to take his girl frnd as a second wife..please learn to exercise empathy..Don't be insiderate here

LOC1:
Two wise people cannot follow each other. My candid advice is that you should be quiet. At times, all it takes to settle things like this requires humility and a little approach of foolishness. A wise man once said, if ur husband brings another woman to ur home. Dnt be 2 aggressive. All u need do is behave like a fool nd do these 3 things. 1. Fetch water for her and ur husband to take their bathe.
2. Offer her a towel or a wrapper.
3. Cook and serve the duo with ur husband's favourite meal.
Thank me later.

dhesmond:
no need to panic woman .....such situation has been dealt with before times without number........i can help you if and only if u can take pain and follow the rules strictly .......1 dont confront him or ask him about the life hes living anymore.......2 take care of the house and do your normal house chaos......3 go to bed when necessary.........4 always put on something sexy when u are at home or when going out........5 make him feel less important in the house .......... 6 be carefree about anything that happens to him .........7 look for a male friend that can keep your company, dont miss understand me just as a friend no string attached, it might be just on fone alone as a matter of fact it might be one of your distance relatives he barely knows about ........... 7 make him super jealous ...... 8 make him feel he has loose you ..... 9 dont talk bad about him to anyone always paint him good everywhere but not in his presence always....... 10 the most important thing pray hard about it ........ trust me with the help of God he will shed tears to have you back..... get back to me asap for more directives if necessary ....thanks

Do you realize this is marriage? she will definitely have herself to blame if she try any of the above.

xtervaganza:
and your malfunctioning brain termed it as killing?



You're a foolish fool. You bloody impotent sob

ooh it seems u're trying to trade words wif me buh I aint redi to do so. Get a life boy,dz ur present 1 is meaningless.

A piece of advice : next tym,when u see ma post,ignore it,abi wetin sef?

did I quote u @ 1st. Baba maintain ur lane ooo

haul:
Op if a IndecentStar can give you an advice mehnnnn! I don't know what to say ooo,you not fit to be called a responsible woman!

This your moniker ehen! I cut cap ooooo!

Na so excited be

KwoiZabo:
Guy my own is worse than yours. This is a girl that I was supporting before "marrige" and even hid her poverty from my family, paid for her exams and all that but after marriage I told her one day so innocently mercy (not real name) you've not been studying, how do you want me to pay for your next exams and she finished me with mouth & several other things. Right now I'm just scattered.

May God help us

ad84ada:
With people like you. There's still hope. Your brain is sound. I am not endorsing what the man is doing but this is the best solution.

I do not think the husband is reacting to what has happened before marriage but I strongly believe that the woman has provoked him either by not respecting him or not given him due regard as a result of the way she met him or what he has done for him. I still believe that the woman has been dominating and placed himself equal or better than the man. She might have over rude to the man since he is the one spending for the man. there won't be smoke without fire. men I hail thee and say (gentle no dey o) as kegite sing their song

DrSage:
ooh it seems u're trying to trade words wif me buh I aint redi to do so. Get a life boy,dz ur present 1 is meaningless.

A piece of advice : next tym,when u see ma post,ignore it,abi wetin sef?

did I quote u @ 1st. Baba maintain ur lane ooo

see this eternal born fool calling someone above his Staton a boy? Isn't that rich coming from a fool who types like a failed high school dropout.




You should sod off forever. Bloody never do well tw@t

xtervaganza:
see this eternal born fool calling someone above his Staton a boy? Isn't that rich coming from a fool who types like a failed high school dropout.




You should sod off forever. Bloody never do well tw@t

baba just dey ur lane,ah no fit dey follow u trade abusive words. Peace!

DrSage:
baba just dey ur lane,ah no fit dey follow u trade abusive words. Peace!

learn to stay in yours too. It's not as if your existence bothers me