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A Lagos-based single rich guy has come out to
analyze some of the pains associated with being
a rich bachelor in the center of excellence.
The single rich guy, Gudrated, took to his time to
state 10 challenges faced by every single rich guy in
Lagos. Read below:
It’s funny to me when I read online that all that is
required to get a Naija gal is money! People
exaggerate the influence of money. Many guys
automatically assume that once you display some
cash, gals will automatically trip for you like mad.
While it may be true to some extent (I have
experienced that), it is not always the case.
I am not particularly stinkingly rich but I am a very
comfortable bachelor working with one of the
foremost multinational oil companies in Nigeria. I
can afford the basic things of life with ease and with
enough to spare. I also have friends & colleagues
who are very comfortable and face similar
challenges I and others face. Any rich, single guy will
possibly identify with some of the challenges I am
about to outline, if not all. Some of the challenges
are as follows:
1. Many girls automatically assume that you are
a player – Drive a nice car, wear good clothes, smell
well and live in a comfortable house and many gals
automatically tag you out as a player. Undecided, I
have been told so many times by girls. One of my
close friend had to quit a relationship because his
girlfriend was just too insecure and didn’t trust him.
It is also sad that my ex-girlfriends have also
accused me of cheating even though I was never
caught.

2. Many think you have a girlfriend – You walk up
to a girl, chat her up and start off a conversation.
You become her friend and eventually ask her out.
She tells you to your face that she knows that you
already have a girlfriend, and possibly a fiancée. She
tells you that it is virtually impossible for you to be
single with your current status. For goodness sake,
what does my financial status has to do with my
relationship life? From that point onward, they
hardly take you serious

3. Some girls are just interested in your money –
Yes, many rich guys can testify to this. You meet lots
and lots of female fraudster – we call them runs
girls. They pretend to like you but all they are
interested in is to get a share of your ‘national cake’
– your money. I can not count the number of times
that girls (that I am still toasting) will be asking me
to pay for their house rent, set up a business for
them, etc when I am yet to start dating them. Even at
the stage of friendship, some start asking for
phones, Brazilian hairs and all kinds of stuff. It’s
annoying! Why is it so hard sometimes to meet a
decent, good looking girl? I must confess not all girls
are like that but many are.

4. You spend more for your girlfriends –
Girlfriends who have rich boyfriends expect their
guys to spend more for them. You will find out that
your broke male friends spend far less for their
girlfriends ( and the girls appear to be contented),
but in your case, your girlfriends expect that you
‘prove’ your love by spending your cash on them. If
you don’t spend lavishly, you risk being tagged as
Stingy

5. Fine girls tend to play more ‘hard-to-get’ with
the rich guys than the broke ones – YES! You
heard me right. It’s surprisingly ironic, isn’t it? Fine
girls tend to play hard to get with the rich guys
because they want to been seen as decent and not
after money. Many atimes, it’s just sheer pretence.
They pretend to be decent, good, domesticated.
They may sometimes hide their promiscuous and
cheap lifestyle because they assume that they have
finally met the serious-minded rich guy. So, they
want to appear like a good girl. Some may also play
hard-to-get so that you can spend more during the
toasting stage. Meanwhile, you find out that these
girls keep rolling carelessly and freely with the not-
so-rich guys in the neighborhood.

6. You become paranoid –You find it hard to know
who really loves you. You also tend to think the girls
in your circle are only around because of your
money. You become confused and it gets difficult to
settle for a choice. It seems best to have settled for
someone before you ‘made’ it.

7. You may actually meet fewer number of good
girls – You heard me right. You find out that you
meet mostly bad and extremely extroverted girls.
This is because the richer you get, the more isolated
you may become. You drive your car, meaning that
you do not meet ladies often in the bus or park. You
do mostly online transfer meaning that you also
miss out on ladies who visit the banks. You also are
too busy to visit near-by higher institutions where
you can meet various chicks. We often live in very
secured estates where everybody minds his/her
own business further isolating us from meeting the
real, ‘good’ gals out there. We tend to hang out in
bars and clubs where you meet the highly
extroverted, possibly bad gals. Gals in church are
possibly worse-off too and not much better. Sign

8. You spend more than others to get a gal
others would easily get with little cash – Another
sad truth. Standards are set for you. While the not-
so-rich guys will think twice before spending even
less than 5k on a girl, you find yourself spending
comparatively more for a gal. Due to your class, you
have minimum standards for yourself, and you find
it hard to go below it as it has become part of your
lifestyle. First impression matters a lot for women.
When you take a lady on a date within your
‘minimum standard’which may be very ordinary to
you, she may become carried away with the
lavishness. She often steps up her game so as not to
appear cheap. cool

9. Your true personality is often buried beneath
your financial strength – Rich guys are one of the
most misunderstood persons. Sometimes, we just
want to be ourselves. However, friends and hanger-
bys tend to be insecure and intimidated around us
and think of us only in terms of our money. You
jokingly tease a girl, and she is quick to point out to
you that ‘is it because you think you have money?’
Not only girls, even fellow friends around you will
feel very insecure. Some do not want to introduce
you to their girlfriends because they are afraid that
you will snatch them away. You find street guys
freely talking to these fine young girls, and nobody
calls them names. If you do same, people tag you as
arrogant, player, disrespectful, etc. All focus is on
you. Gossips are directed towards you.

10. You find out the real, hard truth that money
can not buy true love – Of course, money plays a
very big role as it can fuel and sustain true love but
money can hardly get you true love. Money can get
you a beautiful woman, but it can’t get you a decent,
faithful and loyal girl. Every rich, comfortable or
even upcoming guy out there should focus more on
building a personality that is attractive to ladies. I
have been poor and loved by a lady unconditionally
before. I am comfortable and have been hurt by a
lady recently. I have been both poor and rich in my
life. From my experience, I can very well say that
LIKEABLE PERSONALITY COMES BEFORE MONEY.

I can help him he should donate his money to ME that way he will be free of the burden of being rich then he can go find his true love. I feel so nice willing to take up someone else's cross.

andromida:
I can help him he should donate his money to ME that way he will be free of the burden of being rich then he can go find his true love. I feel so nice willing to take up someone else's cross.

seriously ir funny.. wat wil happen if u shud be his true love?

Wilson125:
seriously ir funny.. wat wil happen if u shud be his true love?

After he transferred his monies to me?

Noo, he must not transfer d money b4 u can b his true love na, make him understand u luv him n nt d money..

andromida:
After he transferred his monies to me?

Wilson125:
Noo, he must not transfer d money b4 u can b his true love na, make him understand u luv him n nt d money..

Oh its before

he will see my bright, shiny love.

Eyaaaa... I undastnd hw u feel, bt i hv no words 4 u nw!!!