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Hbd cutiereborn wish u manymore fruitful Yrs Amen...@july mama's supernatural delivery is your portion can I hear a big Amen

kaffy4bill:
My princess is here.. cutiereborn, u don get bday mate... bs much later, want to rest
Lots of luv

Congrats sis, welcome princess may she be a source of joy n pride to u, ur family n the entire ummah
Lemme contact my yam supplier to bring

mummy2be:
Hbd cutiereborn wish u manymore fruitful Yrs Amen...@july mama's supernatural delivery is your portion can I hear a big Amen

Amen, thank you so much Ma.
@Mollytinrox, Thanks my dear...my regards to d posh clan.

mummy2be:
Hbd cutiereborn wish u manymore fruitful Yrs Amen...@july mama's supernatural delivery is your portion can I hear a big Amen

AMEN O

kaffy4bill:
My princess is here.. cutiereborn, u don get bday mate... bs much later, want to rest
Lots of luv

congratulations! Welcome lil princess

Wow...Congrat nurse kaffy4bil nd bheambo.may they bring joy to ur homes

Iffffffy:
Mamas I'm in tears, I just hope I should bring it here even if its nt d right section, my mum is d only person I talk to bt I can't tell her this I just saw 2unused and one used condom in dh's pocket, I'm down, so so down.

Its very hard to pretend not to see. Its very easy for people who have never experienced such betrayal to say forgive.
Trust me when I say this ; focus on the joy set before you. Its painful. Its hard. It may seem like u can't go on but u actually can. Please dont allow urself to get bp.
Do u deliberately chk dh stuff? If u do please stop for ur own health. Love sis

Iffffffy:
I put it beside me for him to see when he comes in, on getting where I am, he just shouted that he saw it in his table at office and forgot to dispose it, see lie from d pit of hell, ve not uttered a single word since, I don't know what to do, my heart is soo broken

He will never admit it o Even if he used it so why waste ur time. My dear I understand how u feel 100%. Just focus on ur joy pls

kaffy4bill:
My princess is here.. cutiereborn, u don get bday mate... bs much later, want to rest
Lots of luv

Awwwww our very own kaffy. Congrats. May God bless u both

@Bheambo and my amiable nurse kaffy. Congratulations on the arrival of your bundles of joy. I pray the joy be permament . Rest well pls. #teamjulydroppinglikenomanbusiness#

@Cutiearborn happy birthday to you. You shall live to celebrate more years on earth in good health.

@Ifffffy it is well with you and your home. Settle it all on your kneels in prayer. #e-hug sis#

@ my team mates how body o.it shall be easy for us all.

#proudlyteamoctober#

Congratulations @ kaffy. God bless the beautiful princess.

Wow! Conggrats team mates @bheambo @kaffy4bill God bless ur angels. I beta b next o I'm so tired of ds contraction o chaii! Bn on 2cm 4 a week now nd I'm scared of being induced God pls bring forth my angel with ease nd that of other mamas. Amin

Tanx @ all,so grateful
Birth story.. went for clinic on monday though reluctantly, doc asked wen last I had a scan, told him it's bn a long time so he filled scan form and I went for d scan only to realise baby dat was said to b head down is actually in a transverse position,b4 the end of the day, baby was head up and slanting position(oblique. Breech), my doc said he can't risk me goin into labour cos the possibility of changing back to head down is by God's miracle. Saw my second doc on wednesday(i use 2 hosps for anc : my work place and. Hubby's workplace hosp), the doc @ hubby's workplace said d came wen I saw her and booked me for elective cs on fri. My princess arrived friday evening weighing 3.82kg. We r both doin gr8 by God's grace.
Wishing everybody a stressfree labour.. one love.. #proudlyteamjuly#

modath:
I'm going to invite the wrath of some mamas & say i do appreciate the fact that your husband didn't get too carried away & omit to protect himself, you & our precious lil bundle...... Sorry to be blunt but just being honest about things...

Silence is golden, silence is wisdom...some things are better left unspoken

It's not everything the eyes sees that the mouth speaks...

Kimoni:
Silence is golden, silence is wisdom...some things are better left unspoken

It's not everything the eyes sees that the mouth speaks...

I agree with u o. D silence kills d offender. But u know the big problem with silence? It eats up d offended. Slowly slowly destroys fellings. In the end you are just living with the person and using something else as consolation eg child or children. No b so marriage suppose be. But as e b so wetin person go do. Me sha o I have seen that silence is best. Painful but best. Cos no gra gra can solve this kind situation

kaffy4bill:
Tanx @ all,so grateful
Birth story.. went for clinic on monday though reluctantly, doc asked wen last I had a scan, told him it's bn a long time so he filled scan form and I went for d scan only to realise baby dat was said to b head down is actually in a transverse position,b4 the end of the day, baby was head up and slanting position(oblique. Breech), my doc said he can't risk me goin into labour cos the possibility of changing back to head down is by God's miracle. Saw my second doc on wednesday(i use 2 hosps for anc : my work place and. Hubby's workplace hosp), the doc @ hubby's workplace said d came wen I saw her and booked me for elective cs on fri. My princess arrived friday evening weighing 3.82kg. We r both doin gr8 by God's grace.
Wishing everybody a stressfree labour.. one love.. #proudlyteamjuly#

Thank God 4 safe delivery...I wish u quick recovery!

Yes! Very wise!

Kimoni:
Silence is golden, silence is wisdom...some things are better left unspoken

It's not everything the eyes sees that the mouth speaks...

@bheambo, congratulations on the birth of your Prince Charming...May he continuously be a source of joy, blessing and pride to your household, Amen.

@nurse kaffy4bill, praise be to God on the arrival of your princess...May her arrival usher in good tidings in unlimited folds to your home, Amen.

@other July mamas, Modath, iyaderachuks, babymama011, proudmom38, keji3 n co, the
Lord is your strength. We are waiting oooo...July should do quick n go.

everfaithfulGod:
@Cutiearborn happy birthday to you. You shall live to celebrate more years on earth in good health.

Amen & thank you Ma.
@kaffy4bill, thank you for the Birthstory, Hope your are resting well?Our Princess (yes o, our as per God mother things, as per Birthday mate things....lol) shall be a blessing all around.
#teamseptember4grace#

@iffffffy, was going to keep quiet too but somehow, here I am...
There's nothing anyone says that will make much sense to you though you hear, not till you calm down. You have to look for a way to forgive him n forgive yourself too. Yes yourself, cos deep inside you, you harbour sthgs - no matter how little-against yourself for what happened.

Marriage is not a bed of roses, and our mothers who have been married for over 30, 40yrs, that you see and admire; if you ask them what they've gone through before getting to that stage, my dear you will marvel. There is no excuse for adultery, but do you want it to break your home?? Your story, is one of big testimony, it shows God truly loves you n so the devil will be more interested in trying to break your home. You have to gidi up be strong n pray to God about it, He will surely hear you.

Oh yes, DH has to learn his lesson, but not thru fights, shouting, et al. For me, it is SILENCE too. His food n everything am meant to do for him will not be late for a sec during lesson period -I take better care of him sef- but no serious conversation at all. Talk about heaping coals of fire on someone's head. But u know your DH best, n should know how to teach him a lesson without fights. Also pls, like @modath said, DO NOT GO SNOOPING into DH's stuffs deliberately- bad recipe! It shows you have the seed of distrust, i.e, if you do.

Lastly, just remember that bundle of Joy you are carrying and how you came about it! Be happy, my sis! Sorry for the long talk oo.

Kimoni:
Silence is golden, silence is wisdom...some things are better left unspoken

It's not everything the eyes sees that the mouth speaks...

I'm not wise,&not perfect, so the shade isn't necessary.

I also don't need to explain myself but i come from a place of love & understanding..

I have a friend whose husband gave her an infection that cost her some good childbearing years.., and they worked through it cos in Africa, women don't leave men cos of infidelity, even emotional abuse, some parents will send their daughters back, only in an extreme case of assault will the lady's parents be on her side like a cousin of mine...

I'm not validating his actions nor trying in any way to make Iffffffy feel worse, i also could have kept quiet like i initially planned to do (check my post, i was reluctant) but i just couldn't help it..

I'm not very old but I've seen & heard stories, one of my friends packs condoms in her husband's bag when he has to travel alone & insists despite the man's objection that its not an encouragement, that its a caution that he has a wife &3 kids who want him safe & sound .... I told her to stop but she told me she lost confidence in men the day their senior pastor made a pass at her(though long time ago).

@Doubledouble,

Ayam ready now cos weight is killing my back muscle,heart burn is almost numbing my oesophagus but Dr say make my lil sugar butter still dey cook ni oo,

Na person like @Proudmum38, team no half done baby allowed.. Me yaff tire, even my honey bun has minimal space to turn sef,

@kaffy4bill,

We thank God pe a gbo ohun iya a gbo tomo, ....you're here, baby is here, its all good. , my baby is breech too..
How is the healing?, pls don't stress yourself too much.

modath:
I'm not wise,&not perfect, so the shade isn't necessary.

I also don't need to explain myself but i come from a place of love & understanding..

I have a friend whose husband gave her an infection that cost her some good childbearing years.., and they worked through it cos in Africa, women don't leave men cos of infidelity, even emotional abuse, some parents will send their daughters back, only in an extreme case of assault will the lady's parents be on her side like a cousin of mine...

I'm not validating his actions nor trying in any way to make Iffffffy feel worse, i also could have kept quiet like i initially planned to do (check my post, i was reluctant) but i just couldn't help it..

I'm not very old but I'm nearer 40 than farther from, so I've seen & heard stories, one of my friends packs condoms in her husband's bag when he has to travel alone & insists despite the man's objection that its not an encouragement, that its a caution that he has a wife & 3 kids who want him safe & sound.... I told her to stop but she told me she lost confidence in men the day their senior pastor made a pass at her(though long time ago).

I hear you Modath

But you see in life, it's not every word that should be spoken. That statement you made and this explanation you've just given, while it may be a statement of fact, does not make her feel better in any way and does not help the situation at all, so why say it especially when the wound is still fresh in her heart? It is only capable of making her feel more dejected and angrier which she doesn't need right now.

And I wasn't shading you, not at all. I was only trying as much as possible to communicate with you without having to say so much, and without attracting people to my message but you didn't get it. Sometimes, it's just good to let a matter slide, people had given her excellent advices and she had confessed she was feeling better, then you come and make that statement which is capable of riling up all her emotions once again? to what end Modath? In life, sometimes, we need to suppress our feelings and some of the words we feel like saying. You could have listened to that mind telling you not to bother saying it.

Anyways, it is well. God help us all.

BS:
Was scheduled for elective cs because baby was breech. Came in for admission on wed evening, had d cs on Thurs. Baby came out weighing 3kg. Started walking around yesterday. U will hardly believe I did cs if u see me now. My recovery has been rapid. God be praised

Kimoni:
That statement you made and this explanation you've just given, while it may be a statement of fact, does not make her feel better in any way and does not help the situation at all...... people had given her excellent advices and she had confessed she was feeling better,

Unlike spoken words, its almost difficult to glean a precise emotional state from written text, you formed your opinion from your perception I did from mine as well.. No one's is superior to the other.

Iffffffy's successive "I'm trying to be calm" response to 3 mamas (+ being someone I have an affinity to) was what broke my resolve cos it didn't look like it to me, I may be wrong, but it was not a response of someone feeling better.

Iffffffy:
thanks, I came here to seek solace cuz u people are like my family, and I got it.I'm trying to calm, bt its nt easy, just not easy, its a rude shock

Iffffffy:
thanks much, really appreciate, I'm trying to calm

Iffffffy:
thanks much, I'm trying to calm

& a lot of stuff on here, so many questions I waka pass, starbucks & waistbead's drama I watched in total ghost mode, so the part about suppressing feelings & listening to the mind that said donsay nothing I take objection to, there is something called tough love.

bheambo:
BS:
Was scheduled for elective cs because baby was breech. Came in for admission on wed evening, had d cs on Thurs. Baby came out weighing 3kg. Started walking around yesterday. U will hardly believe I did cs if u see me now. My recovery has been rapid. God be praised

waoh... that is great. I had a similar experience twice (Cs) the recovery was great. How is my baby? hope she is sucking well. hugging.....

modath:
Unlike spoken words, its almost difficult to glean a precise emotional state from written text, you formed your opinion from your perception I did from mine as well.. No one's
Is superior to the other.

Iffffffy's successive "I'm trying to be calm" response to 3 mamas (+ being someone I have an affinity to) was what broke my resolve cos it didn't look like it to me, I may be wrong, but it was not a response of someone feeling better.

& a lot of stuff on here, so many questions I waka pass, starbucks & waistbead's drama I watched in total ghost mode, so the part about suppressing feelings & listening to the mind that said donsay nothing I take objection to, there is something called tough love.

I'll take my own advice and die this matter right here. It's not about whose opinion supersedes the other, it's strictly about Ify here. There is no contest for the MVP on this thread.

Let's celebrate nurse Kaffy, her baby and the new mothers. They own the day.

Peace!

Kimoni:
I'll take my own advice and die this matter right here. It's not about whose opinion supersedes the other, it's strictly about Ify here. There is no contest for the MVP on this thread.

Let's celebrate nurse Kaffy, her baby and the new mothers. They own the day.

Peace!

Seconded...one love.. so who go organise our hand shake & hug like i remember fondly.

@ our one and only nurse... You too much, all una shout was worth it...congratulations.

@bheambo..... God protect you and LO. E-hugs.

@ ifffffy when I read you post, I Dont know why I just got angry at my own DH and started shouting. Lol. My mum wud say see them as your first child...God is your strength.

@Senior Bheambo and Nurse Kaffy....I say congratulations to you Mas. May the children bring everlasting rest and joy to your homes, their arrival shall be for signs and for wonders. Congrats again.

@Most senior Modath and Senior Kimoni... Hnmmmmmm great Mamas and Virtuos Wives... permit me to say IT IS ENOUGH.. both of you have contributed immensely to this matter, and you're not wrong in anyway either! And am sure @Iffffffy has taken those things she needs from your experiences and advices. Even I have Learnt a lot!!!! .

@Iffffffy... It's good you came here to vent your heart, and I must commend.... YOU'RE A STRONG WOMAN. am not that calm at all. I for don damage everything com be the one wey go beg at last cause of the extent wey I go don carry that small matter . But God is your strength, we can only say what we feel, but can't live your marriage life for you. So, I'll encourage you to be mature about it and handle issues with care. God of marriage will not leave your home affairs unattended in Jesus name amen.

At all... I still dey here with my m/s Palava o. Always throwing up even with promethazine. It is well with me o

@senior Kaffy4bill..Congrats on the birth of your princess..may God bless you both..

@Apple19..Pele.. God is your strength..you'll get over it soonest..just hang on ..wen your baby begins to kick trust me you'll forget all you went through ..d feeling is out of this world

Hafsat24:
@senior Kaffy4bill..Congrats on the birth of your princess..may God bless you both..

@Apple19..Pele.. God is your strength..you'll get over it soonest..just hang on .._------when your baby begins to kick trust me you'll forget all you went through ..d feeling is out of this world-------

Out of this world like---- painful or can be really uncomfortable out of this world!