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| My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by MixedMan: 8:35pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
Please I really need your advice my fellow nigerians.. My brother in law is breaking my family and my marriage.. I got married with my husband 2011, it was going all well and lovely.. I really loved my husband,he's the most caring man on earth and gentle,gives me listening ears and take care of the family.. By. Sept 2014, he's immidiate younger brother visted us, I was thinking it was a short visit only for me to discover he wants to stay with us pending on when he gets new job within the city.. I learnt he lost his former job at abuja due to some personal issues he never want to revealed to us.. And he's 38 not yet married.. As at jan this year, he made some funny moves with me.. That shows he's interested in me.. I gave no room for that,just recently only for me to discover he's helping my husband to arrange other women outside.. According to some of the people telling me.. This is not the first time nor even the sixth time.. He will arrange girls for my husband in hotels,clubs etc Just last two weeks,I decided to stalk them, when he told me he wasn't coming back tonight.. Just for me to see them at a popular club at ikeja with some girls.. I have confronted my husband and told him but till now he's stll haven't changed, this past friday it repeated itself again.. Right now I'm confused,I don't know what to do.. I need your help my fellow nigerians. Patience from Lagos. 1 Like 4 Shares |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by lantessy(m): 8:38pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
@op, you need to pray. Try and talk to your husband concerning the dangers in his act too. May God change his mind. 17 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by TwentySeven: 8:38pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
Madam, just make sure you're using protection with your husband. AIDS is real! 81 Likes 5 Shares |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by Mancity26(m): 8:40pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
1. You need to pray hard. 2. When you gobto bed, talk 2 him with luv voice. 3. Take it to your pastor b4 going to his parents. 4. Do you ve children for him? 5. Finally, update yourself..I mean packaging to look sexy more than those babe. Learn Calaba style to support it.. Thank me letter. #funnynation 25 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by 0luwatope(m): 8:41pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
Dont panic... Break his head... 24 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by Nobody: 8:42pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
What I could induce from dis story is that your husband's brother controls him... Why on earth would an older brother who has a family allow his younger brother do that to him? My advice is u talk to ur husband family, could be d mother, father or his sister or any relative of his. 7 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by Nobody: 8:51pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
38years old jobless guy living with his brother n chasing girls every where, you should find a way to take him for deliverance 37 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by deji47: 8:56pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
Do all in your power to find a sustaining job for your brother inlaw. The earlier the better. Without a job he is not leaving that house and record your conversation if he ever tries to approach you again. Cos tomorrow e fit tell your hubby say u de give am eye! 23 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by soonest(f): 8:57pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
Your husband is the one that wants to break your marriage not his brother. 158 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by jaytee01(m): 8:57pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
Stop listening to rumours and stalking your husband. It is not good for your peace of mind. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by Nobody: 9:13pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
Rat poison full everwhere 8 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by tellwisdom: 9:29pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
Can I help you by pressing your yansh?  |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by Jahblessme: 9:39pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
Ur husbands brother isn't the one breaking your marriage,your husband is the culprit. A responsible faithful man would say capital NO and warn his brother off. He could've told his bro that he's principled and would like to respect his marriage.That would have immediately caused him to reset his brain and behave himself. Please face your husband or are you trying to kid yourself into thinking your bro in law dragged your hubby by his privates and stuck it into a vjay? Funny enough u may be shocked to know its your hubby even requesting his bro to supply the girls. Your grouse is with your hubby..sorry.He's the one who took the vows and promised to stick with you. Please go and test yourself for STDs first before you start stalking him..Do not have unprotected se x anymore,save your life first then decide what to do. It's important to speak with your hubby about his brother making you uncomfortable, I doubt he will budge thoush seeing that he has a partner to fornicate with. Good luck! 43 Likes 5 Shares |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by Agrika: 9:40pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
soonest:Gbam! 13 Likes |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by SAMBARRY: 10:02pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
Don't worry I'll help you buy red pant and Green bra next o jare. Let's hear what the next person has to say  |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by wisdomiskey(m): 10:08pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
wu carezz carri yuh problem comot for here jor! all diz married peeple nd deir wahala  3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by poppop: 10:13pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
deji47: Is that a joke or something? Op get on your knees and pray that BIL out of your home. In the mean time, please use a condom. Don't shed needless tears oh. These days those cheating folks aint joking and the STD and HIV carriers are equally not joking.  3 Likes |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by Nobody: 10:29pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
soonest:did you read my mind?! exactly what I was about to write! 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by deji47: 10:34pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
poppop:Definitely not a joke. Do you see the BIL leaving the house without a job? She should be on the look out for a job for him while praying. |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by poppop: 10:39pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
deji47: That is not her job. Of course if she hears of any good opportunity, it will certainly not be out of place to inform BIL but actively looking for a job for him is just pushing it. Who does that? Like really who does that? 9 Likes |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by MARKone(m): 10:44pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
wisdomiskey: Nairaland is a big community, you are here commenting on a section that deals mostly with family and married folks, and you are telling the OP commot here..all diz married peeple nd deir wahala(sic)  . These kids sef . Why don't you locate the section that suits your age and present status(single) e.g TV/Movies, Gaming, and yes I heard the kiddies section is coming soon.69 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by deji47: 11:11pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
poppop:Someone who is desperate to save her marriage. |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by GodnGold: 11:40pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
MixedMan:.Do you have kids,do you want to live long and see what your kids will be?do you have a job?do you cook well?do you perform your conjugal duties properly?If you are positive to all these,then wipe your eyes seven times RELAX and tell God about it,you will see drama unfold between the duo.You can't keep a man under lock and key ma'am. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by nairalife2013(m): 11:56pm On Jul 19, 2015 |
lagmostkuit:if it is a closely knitted family were the siblings and parents are all bonded in a kind of inseparable union, talking to third parties could escalate to unmanageable levels in her disadvantage. I think she should just play it cool and avoid the randy brother in close circuits and show more love and understanding and forgiveness and take greater steps in church activities while showing intense commitment to the bornagain traits of a true christian to discourage the seemingly possessed brotherinlaw! They all will come to thier senses and apologise. Some men dont joke with their siblings no matter who they are married to. Some wouldnt care if thier marriage crash, as far as they dont have issues or skirmishes with thier siblings or parents...this kind of home is not for any kind of lady. Only ladies with special qualities and luck survive here...and when they overcome the turmoil, thier conjugal bliss in the everafter has no limits. 8 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by Swissheart(f): 7:17am On Jul 20, 2015 |
It probably run in their blood.....aburo nd egbon oniranu........try talk to ur husband ....remind him of d good old days.....if he doesn't become remorseful ....wahala dey b dat 1 Like |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by melodies: 7:49am On Jul 20, 2015 |
This is more than trying to have a heart to heart talk with her hubby because it's like he's just been waiting for d opportunity and it's finally come and as such there's no entreaty dat will change him. If you still want to stay in d marriage, take steps to protect yourself e.g. purchase plenty of female condoms to use with your hubby cos he might be averse to using one if you suggest. I Take steps to protect your kids by avoiding unnecessary violence in d home via quarrels n fights. Above all, get a job for yourself not your BIL. This will give you economic freedom and you will then see clearly what you should really do in a situation like this. 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by Dyt(f): 7:54am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Let me join the crowd Pray Fast Talk Nonsense 1 Like |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by itoese(m): 3:58pm On Jul 20, 2015 |
If he is not contributing positively to your family development, then make your husband quit him. Talk to your husband gently and pesistently to let him stay on his own. |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by bukatyne(f): 4:10pm On Jul 20, 2015 |
soonest: 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Husbands Brother Is Breaking My Marriage by Fkforyou(m): 4:29pm On Jul 20, 2015 |
Your BIL is drowning and he is dragging your husband with him, the unfortunate thing is that your husband can't think for himself at his age ( he should be atleast 40)......Nawa..o....Your BIL na boss..38, unmarried, jobless and still womanizing. 1 Like |
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