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Is This Man Action Justified? by Nobody: 11:36am On Jul 23, 2015*

My neighbour and his wife have been married for the past two years but just recently tragedy struck leading to divorce on ground of infedility on the woman"s part.. The man"s properties were shared among the two children after that the man went abroad with the other child leaving the woman with the younger one. Two days ago,we learnt the man was in town,so the ex-wife went to the man house demanding for more money for the child upkeep,instead of harkening to her request,the man not only arrested her but sent some youths to evade the woman"s store... Now my question is_:_ is the man action justified? even if divorced is the man not suppose to care for the other child? Cc: lalasticlala.

Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by Cutehector(m): 11:38am On Jul 23, 2015

Op please come again tongue

Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by Nobody: 11:40am On Jul 23, 2015

Cutehector:
Op please come again

sori i forgot you lack comprehensive skill so fvck out.

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Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by Cutehector(m): 11:41am On Jul 23, 2015

Jollyjoy:
sori i forgot you lack comprehensive skill so fvck out.

lol come again...

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Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by adanduka: 11:44am On Jul 23, 2015

Wow, didn't know a divorced man could cheat on his ex huh

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Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by Chidoks(f): 11:45am On Jul 23, 2015

[quote author=Jollyjoy post=36185084]sori i forgot you lack comprehensive skill so fvck out.[/quot

shuo!!;

Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by Tallesty1(m): 11:45am On Jul 23, 2015

adanduka:
Wow, didn't know a divorced man could cheat on his ex

https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-happy023.gif

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Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by 5minsmadness: 11:47am On Jul 23, 2015

Wetin concern the wife whether he cheat abroad or not? Una never divorce? He no go live hin life again?

Wetin concern cheating with demanding for upkeep for the child? Una never share hin property? Una never divorce?

When the man took one child and madam took the other child didn't she know that means she is to cater for her own while the man caters for his own? And that any other thing he does for the other child is out of the benevolence of his heart? Why dragging your child to demand for upkeep?

The wife has no locus standi in this matter AT ALL. She is simply being emotional. Advice her next time to keep away from oga when he comes to town!

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Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by Nobody: 11:47am On Jul 23, 2015

adanduka:
Wow, didn't know a divorced man could cheat on his ex

you are not getting it,even be4 the divorce occured,the man was already staying in londön,he only visited once in a while,i left that part becos it nt necessary.

Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by Nobody: 11:49am On Jul 23, 2015

[quote author=Chidoks post=36185262][/quote]hahahaha.

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Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by Yustash001(m): 12:02pm On Jul 23, 2015

How do you mean cheated on the woman after when they've divorced?

Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by okirewaju(f): 12:03pm On Jul 23, 2015

Confused much

When they signed the divorce papers what was the final agreement? That would determine if the man is liable to take care of the child with his ex- wife or not. Is the mother expected to use the proceed/cash or rent of the properties for the child's upkeep?

But for the arrest and all that I think its not necessary. He would have respected the fact that the wife is the mother of his children.

Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by MRBrownJ: 12:12pm On Jul 23, 2015

the woman is deluded for demanding any more money from her ex, or even talk of cheating, the day they divorced AND SHE TOOK HALF HIS PROPERTY (after only 2 yrs of marriage, kai!!!!) is the day she got all she should get out of this unfortunate deal.

the man is insane for reacting the way he did, instead he should have simply ignore her, OR better yet, propose to take away the other child from her, if she cant care for it properly.

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Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by 5minsmadness: 12:13pm On Jul 23, 2015

Tallesty1:
https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-happy023.gif

My feelings exactly grin

Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by Houseofglam7(f): 12:35pm On Jul 23, 2015

Why you carry their matter for head like Afro huh

You be marriage counsellor?

Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by Nobody: 1:32pm On Jul 23, 2015

Houseofglam7:
Why you carry their matter for head like Afro

You be marriage counsellor?

am not but i can advise her...what are neighbours for,btw i no carry anything for head.

Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by emmatok(m): 10:51pm On Jul 23, 2015

Jollyjoy:
My neighbour and his wife have been married for the past two years but just recently tragedy struck leading to divorce on ground of infedility on the woman"s part.. The man"s properties were shared among the two children after that the man went abroad with the other child leaving the woman with the younger one. Two days ago,we learnt the man was in town,so the ex-wife went to the man house demanding for more money for the child upkeep,instead of harkening to her request,the man not only arrested her but sent some youths to evade the woman"s store... Now my question is_:_ is the man action justified? even if divorced is the man not suppose to care for the other child? Cc: lalasticlala.

In divorce cases it is the court that makes decisions and not the parties.

If the court demands the man pays the woman for children upkeep, good. But if not, that's left for the man to decide.

But the woman can't just walk up to him demanding for money. The child should be sent to his father, If she can't take care of the child.

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Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by papauju(m): 8:49am On Oct 11, 2015

emmatok said it all

Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by Nobody: 8:59am On Oct 11, 2015

The thing that pains me in this story is the fact that the kids were separated.
And not just separated but the course of their lives may be so far different and they have not much in common
They wont share those growing up joys one has with siblings doing things together and bonding together
One comes back with a british accent while the other one is a born and bred naija kid
They are so far apart that they cant just go and see each other at the weekend if one is missing the other
Divorce mostly affects kids
Those kids may never share a close brother sister relationship again
Ive seen this happen before. One was brought up in the UK and the other in Nigeria. They evenually attended the same university in Nigeria but they were not friends talk less of brothers anymore. Very sad.

Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by BE811APP: 8:06pm On Oct 30, 2015

Is d 2nd child his huh

Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by Nobody: 8:29pm On Oct 30, 2015

BE811APP:
Is d 2nd child his

yes

Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by edwife(f): 8:45pm On Oct 30, 2015

5minsmadness:

Wetin concern the wife whether he cheat abroad or not? Una never divorce? He no go live hin life again?

Wetin concern cheating with demanding for upkeep for the child? Una never share hin property? Una never divorce?

When the man took one child and madam took the other child didn't she know that means she is to cater for her own while the man caters for his own? And that any other thing he does for the other child is out of the benevolence of his heart? Why dragging your child to demand for upkeep?

The wife has no locus standi in this matter AT ALL. She is simply being emotional. Advice her next time to keep away from oga when he comes to town!

Lol this is funny. cheesy

Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by Nobody: 8:55pm On Oct 30, 2015

Jollyjoy:
My neighbour and his wife have been married for the past two years but just recently tragedy struck leading to divorce on ground of infedility on the woman"s part.. The man"s properties were shared among the two children after that the man went abroad with the other child leaving the woman with the younger one. Two days ago,we learnt the man was in town,so the ex-wife went to the man house demanding for more money for the child upkeep,instead of harkening to her request,the man not only arrested her but sent some youths to evade the woman"s store... Now my question is_:_ is the man action justified? even if divorced is the man not suppose to care for the other child? Cc: lalasticlala.

She went demanding money after she got half his assets, after she was caught gbenshing up and down? The man has done the right thing by arresting her, she should she should tried for fraud and blackmail and slapped with a restraining order to boot. grin

PS: She should transfer then other child to the father too if she can't cater for him.

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Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by Nobody: 10:20pm On Oct 30, 2015

Timbuktou:
She went demanding money after she got half his assets, after she was caught gbenshing up and down? The man has done the right thing by arresting her, she should she should tried for fraud and blackmail and slapped with a restraining order to boot.

PS: She should transfer then other child to the father too if she can't cater for him.

i think the man went too far..

Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by timilehing(m): 6:54am On Oct 31, 2015

Jollyjoy:
i think the man went too far..

No, he didn't. There's nothing left after shared properties.

Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by Nobody: 6:59am On Oct 31, 2015

It's not justified. The man is still pained.
But why did the woman open yansh for another man na? Just two years in marriage undecided

Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by defendedvictim(m): 7:09am On Oct 31, 2015

EggovinMma:
It's not justified. The man is still pained.
But why did the woman open yansh for another man na? Just two years in marriage

Well, op...d justification lies in what was contained in the divorce papers. They might have agreed that the woman wil take care of d younger one while d man takes care of the other.

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Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by Nobody: 11:40am On Oct 31, 2015

EggovinMma:
It's not justified. The man is still pained.
But why did the woman open yansh for another man na? Just two years in marriage

He is justified o. I can't begin to imagine his frustration. The woman na correct mumu. Trying to reap where she did not sow undecided

Re: Is This Man Action Justified? by Nobody: 11:44am On Oct 31, 2015

[quote author=okirewaju post=36185958]Confused much

When they signed the divorce papers what was the final agreement? That would determine if the man is liable to take care of the child with his ex- wife or not. Is the mother expected to use the proceed/cash or rent of the properties for the child's upkeep?

But for the arrest and all that I think its not necessary. He would have respected the fact that the wife is the mother of his children.[/quote]
if she had respected the fact that he is the father of her child, she wouldn't have gone to him for more money.

Besides what type of stupid parents split children because of divorce undecided

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