Chillis:
Nigerian men always giving assignments

List of things to do.

When the women does all these, what value will you be bringing in.
twah

Na the very single and desperately searching dudes dey give martial advice pass marriage councellors. Or haven't you noticed the trend on here?

OP, can you at least now write the "Wisdom for Men"

Thanks in advance

Jamean:
We can all see why some marriages won't work; when the whole responsibility is vested on the woman like she is a magician. So men are for bed and provision chores. Your proposition is faulty.

I am a woman. Domestic chore is my favorite hobby, especially laundry. But I won't be able to do it all the time because I work. So, I will engage the services of a house assistant, dry cleaner or washing machine.

I am a woman. I like to cook, and can cook well. But I won't be able to cook fresh meals everyday because I work. So, I will cook quite a quantity and refridgerate. Some times we may have dinner outside.

I am a woman. I like to baby sit. But I won't be able to because I work. So, I opt for a nanny, daycare or even my mum.

Men should get a hang of these things and stop making marriage a privileged burden for women.

Your marriage can be successful when you both work in love and understanding.

@Bold:

Classic!

Privileged burden?

Hahahahahahaha!

Absolute trash!!

Na single dey advise married people on how to make their marriage work now Hmmm

Blind leading blind

Pls let everyone go and do what works for him/her joor

EfemenaXY:


Na the very single and desperately searching dudes dey give martial advice pass marriage councellors. Or haven't you noticed the trend on here?

Funny enough na dem they mugu pass....their mumu button na all over. They will wash their wives pant sef.

They won't leave the married to advise themselves.... Shioorr
Nonsense

remsonik:


Funny enough na dem they mugu pass....their mumu button na all over. They will wash their wives pant sef.

They won't leave the married to advise themselves.... Shioorr
Nonsense

Lol!

Take it easy, sister.

EfemenaXY:


Na the very single and desperately searching dudes dey give martial advice pass marriage councellors. Or haven't you noticed the trend on here?

Notice ke.
Once I peruse the first line I don't even read the jaggons make person no get headache .

The kind of advice you see here confirms by 2200 nigeria will still remain a jungle.
if these ones with Internet access to the world could reason like animals, how much more those in the wilderness

Chillis:


Notice ke.
Once I peruse the first line I don't even read the jaggons make person no get headache .

The kind of advice you see here confirms by 2200 nigeria will still remain a jungle.
if these ones with Internet access to the world could reason like animals, how much more those in the wilderness

Babes!

Where've you been? You don miss gist tire, compliments of Edwife and Sambarry

EfemenaXY:


Babes!

Where've you been? You don miss gist tire, compliments of Edwife and Sambarry

Which gist abeg

I dey hide somewhere, these people wan kill me with drink. God pass them

Chillis:


Which gist abeg

I dey hide somewhere, these people wan kill me with drink. God pass them

The other thread.

Chillis:


Which gist abeg

I dey hide somewhere, these people wan kill me with drink. God pass them

Make dey just handle you small,your mata no be for here....

I beg,post my own.

EfemenaXY:


Babes!

Where've you been? You don miss gist tire, compliments of Edwife and Sambarry

I don miss jist o.tomorow is Monday na.another hustling and bustling


so let me relax and hear jist jare

AgapeCharis, you thought about all these or you wanna credit it to someone

edwife:


Well i can ask for 50-50 doesn't mean that i can't let you make most of the decisions... ,there won't be any need for me to even hang on it if i know my man is wise and intelligent.

How do you marry the two? (50 - 50 and making most of the decisions?)

Do you believe a husband and wife are equal even though you would let the husband make 'most' of the decisions

What is the indices of him 'making' most of the decisions?

bukatyne:


How do you marry the two? (50 - 50 and making most of the decisions?)

Do you believe a husband and wife are equal even though you would let the husband make 'most' of the decisions

What is the indices of him 'making' most of the decisions?

You had to drag me here among the sharks didn't you?

Will get back to you.....

edwife:


You had to drag me here among the sharks didn't you?

Will get back to you.....

No problem

bukatyne:


How do you marry the two? (50 - 50 and making most of the decisions?)

Do you believe a husband and wife are equal even though you would let the husband make 'most' of the decisions

What is the indices of him 'making' most of the decisions?

What i meant is this,we can discuss something together and along the line after much deliberation,his decision is more practical or favourable than mine,so i let him go ahead.

or sometimes after so much arguments,i will let him go ahead and do what he thinks is right,for peace sake sometimes but it has always worked on my favour because it doesn't always work the way he thought it will ,so like a prodigal son he comes back and says you were right.

When next we found ourselves in such situations,he won't hesitate to let me have my way.

We are equal but gifted differently.In all there should be harmony in the home and this harmony must be in sink with nature.Marriage is a give and take.

For the fact that i might let him get away with certain things,doesn't mean because i am weak or dumb,only because i want peace.
Over the years,i have learned to pick my battles.

edwife:

What i meant is this,we can discuss something together and along the line after much deliberation,his decision is more practical or favourable than mine, so i let him go ahead.

Naturally, that is common sense talking. If he has a better idea, why should I insist on my way? That's selfish.

edwife:
or sometimes after so much arguments,i will let him go ahead and do what he thinks is right,for peace sake sometimes but it has always worked on my favour because it doesn't always work the way he thought it will ,so like a prodigal son he comes back and says you were right.

When next we found ourselves in such situations, he won't hesitate to let me have my way.

That's compromise... I am sure he will say same too for some situations

edwife:
We are equal but gifted differently. In all there should be harmony in the home and this harmony must be in sink with nature. Marriage is a give and take.

Extremely true. I however do not agree with 'nurtured' gender roles. If he is better at something, let him do it/direct it.

edwife:
For the fact that i might leave him get away with certain things, doesn't mean that because i am weak or dumb, only because i want peace. Over the years, i have learned to pick my battles.

Also true and I am very sure it's same for him.

People in relationship with us will always get away with things.

In all, I wanted to point out the 'a husband is the head/take final decisions' talks flying around her is wash and does not apply in a practical loving home (I don't do theory shit. Different strokes for different folks).

Decision making is much more complex than 'I am the head/ I am the tail' stuff.

You look at who needs it more, who is more affected, who is more knowledgeable, the situation on ground, if you have a concrete reason to object etc.

Thanks for the response.

It was a deviation from the normal pre-emptying and choosing to see/read whatever you want to popular in this area

The you = not you

The word of God is the manual for operating your marriage if it must command the glory of His presence - http://www.shiloh2015.com/making-your-marriage-command-help-at-shiloh-2015/