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searching4love:
[b]You girls are fond of extorting gullible men in different forms and turn down sexual advances thinking you are wise.

A guy approaches u to woo u and instead of telling him NO u saw him as a potential MAGA due to his interest in u. He fix a date with u and u insist on meeting him at an eatry so u can spend his money and take away food to satisfy your unending hunger. When such guy have a one on one moment with u and u turn down his sexual advances how do u expect him to recover all the money u extorted from him Eventually he feels cheated and try to force his way on you and u scream rape after the deed is done without letting people know how much u extorted from him in your quest to satisfy your longer throat My point is that until Nigerian girls change their money hungry mentality and stop seeing men as a financial prey, they can never escape been molested by men seeking revenge. Nigerian girls are thieves who will stop at nothing to extort men in the disguise of fake love and at the end turn down his advances. I dont pity such girls and i never will. Note: i am not in support of men who rapes little children or fathers who molests their daughters. My opinion is strictly about Hungry Nigerian girls.

This is why i keep advocating that foreign girls are better wives/girlfriends. If u want peace of mind, go for a foreign girl.

#Team foreign girls [/b]

Very very silly comment...

[quote author=PapaOyoyo post=36759910]Na naija girls you dey tell all dis one?

Mtchewww[/quot. Na naija girls de rape boys nw oo

Greed greed greed on the part of girls.... If you know you won't do, don't chop the guys 50kobo, but to them, every guy na client..


Our African morals of dressing we should imbibe it on our ladies.. Hmmmm


I don talk my own..

I need Alomo Abeg...

emusmith:
Biblical/ Wisdom Ways To Avoiding "RAPE" At All Cost In A Filthy World


Good Morning Y'all. I woke up to see a very cool thread on FP regarding this topic. Different views, yea! "What's God's view?", I thought.

The Bible offers a whole package of counsels to young folks and older ones too.
The complains God gets to receive are so because most of the times, humans either are ignorant, nonchalant or disobedient.

I hate all form of molestation to the core. It's sinful. Those involved in it are heartless. Yes! God knowing all that then warned, "Keep yourself from the wickedness in the world", don't channel blames, be smart and run for your life. You have just one life to live.

Why Is Rape A Sin?

First and foremost, it is forcing yourself on someone AGAINST THEIR WILL. God Himself never forced humans to accept Christ. That's why Love has no trace of force in it. The formula of Love should be: Love= Patience × Kindness.



Note: AGAINST THEIR WILL.

If any guy or lady forces him/herself on another, such should be punished by the law.

If it's not against their will, it's not RAPE!

See: Adam and Eve were not "RAPED" by the serpent. They were not forced into disobeying God that's why God did punish them likewise. They mutually consented to the lies of Satan- They did, against all arguments, they did. They got served as a product of one act of flirtation. You and I are witnesses

I'm very selective when it comes to visiting ladies myself. Don't look surprised when I say I have turned down some Invitation Offers & Appeals, because I see ahead! But some ladies, whether they don't o or wants to actually commit you into their lives, I dunno!

Let's quickly check out 7 BIBLICAL/WISDOM WAYS OF AVOIDING RAPE AT ALL COST IN A DIRTY WORLD.

Note: MY PERSPECTIVE IN THIS THREAD IS SEEING IT THROUGH GOD'S EYES. If you're not going to see it that way, don't misquote. Today na Sunday.

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1. Embrace Godliness

Godliness is the act of obeying God's command in everything you do. If God says, "Abstain from fornication and its likes". Abstain! If you don't, there are usually consequences. (This doesn't JUSTIFY the act) There is punishment to the offender(like the serpent was punished) but then you've been affected (A whole generation was affected through Adam's negligence and blame passing). Do your part and God WILL protect you. I know godly a girl who could have been a victim but her godliness saved. It's a long story- the man's manhood dropped like a pack of cards suddenly! The next morning, the non sense man called her a "witch". Haha! What people can't demystify, they mystify, lol! She only did bind his manhood in Jesus Name. God saw her INNERMOST HEART DESIRE & PRAYER then came in to help (He searches the heart, remember. Not the mouth)


2. Don't visit a male unless you're so sure of him.

Oh, while I was in the university, I had this circle of girl friends in my estate then. They sleep in my room. We laugh and play like siblings. We are so sure of ourselves. They don't need anyone to preach "rape" to them when it gets to us. The same with you, ladies. Don't visit a guy unless you're at least, 75% sure of him. Many chicks like experiment, that's where they meet their waterloo.


3. Dress decently always.

Yea, they'll say, "what concerns anyone with my mode of dressing". I can state with facts that the wife of Potiphar actually lusted after Joseph because he had a "good stature" and was good to look upon. (6 packs plenty). In those days, servants don't wear shirt again. She almost lured the young man. So, your dressing is important too. "You shouldn't wear a tiny, flabby skirt to visit a guy you know is sexually active"It is just COMMON SENSE. Should that one be taught you? I thought they now have "tights"?
If you are "very courageous" (big b**bs), Wisdom says "Don't advertise it by using weak or no bra". What people advertise is a clue to what they want to give. Do you want to give it? Some times, they wear buttoned shirt and you know that those "pawpaws" would want to peep- MY POINT IS, Use Wisdom rather than complaining unnecessarily.


4 Read the handwriting on the wall and follow its signal.

Especially in the scenario where a girl visits a guy; you go to his house and the posters on his walls are that of naked women. Maybe, you see him as a Sex Addict and YET, he is the only one in that whole department qualified to be your READING MATE! Hmmm...I laugh in Hispanics! Only you waka come! Enough handwriting in the sick wall, ceiling and door yet you ignore it. God always give signals and warnings. THAT DOESN'T JUSTIFY RAPE- the law will punish him if caught, but your insensitivity and inaction can have you pay a huge personal price.


5. Check your inner circle of friends.

Perhaps, you are like me, who condemn every form of molestation. You should be like me too in the friends you keep. Your friends (who are into you) are drunks, clubbers and smokers and you- a faithful, innocent girlfriend of theirs opens your door for them late in the night. I do not condemn anyone but I think you're at the risk of getting laid, against your PERFECT WILL, some day. It all happens fast but trust me, the friends you harbour can hurt you more. Remember the age long maxim, "keep your enemies close but your friends closer". Friendship is a burden, sometimes.



6. The average male gives money for sex, you CAN'T re-invent the will. Don't try to- Flee!

Speaking of PERFECT WILL, most girls are living with a guy and allowing sex because of the money he has and that is not their PERFECT WILL. The money is covering up for all that. I was by a suya spot one evening, a young, grown up girl came by and jokingly pleaded the malam to give her some "free" suya, that malarm openly asked her if she will open her legs. Yes, he is not learned, unexposed and all. I later bought for her, free. No strings. Not everyone is like me. Many girls are opening their legs for their dinner. They don't have a will talk less of having sex against their will. This topic is highly relative, ok.



7. Don't Visit A Guy Whose Presence Causes You "heat"- Don't deceive yourself.

Still buttressing, you can't deceive yourself- EMOTION IS HOT, KNOWLEDGE IS COLD. You can't step on hot coals and expect not to be burnt. Life is not a movie theatre. You ain't Usher (walking on live coals). I know my "soft spot" honestly. In a normal day, there is something I'll see in a lady that may move me. I shouldn't be behind a closed door with such. You should also avoid such UNHOLY MEETINGS. Anything can happen in such scenes. Have you ever had sex and be feeling bad you had it? That sex came about due to your IMPERFECT & WEAK WILL. The guy touches the girl, she says "No please." He does it again, "No, stop it!" But she still sits on the bed seriously watching a movie...hmm! If sex happens and she calls it "rape", what do you say to that? You stand up and walk out. He begs and apologizes. In fact, don't even visit at all!

"Avoid all appearances all evil", the Bible warned.

From day 1, your heart if it's in your hand, will tell you (with time) if a guy can hurt or rape you and you will streamline your relationship with such a person.


CONCLUSION: Rape is evil. It is committed by heartless people. The law punishes everyone indulging in it. Rape is FORCING yourself to have sex with someone. In rape, more often than not, the girl screams and wants to run by any loop. If she is on the bed, enjoying and asking for more. Is that rape? That's IMPERFECT SEX. It's not Rape because you were not COERCED as you failed to heed to these SEVEN WISDOM TIPS.

Good Morning & Happy Sunday.

Good write up..

But I will give you some real life happenstances that you may wish to tell me how your rape logic works;

1. A Girl raped by a male friend or uncle or someone really close to home whom she felt comfortable with until the assault.

2. A girl drugged and raped.

3. Robbers raping females.

Etc.

There are no ways to avoid being raped in my opinion because these rapists are creatures of evil. They stalk their prey in some cases and in others they just grab an opportunity and pounce.

A Good Christian girl with no provocative outfit on, who does not live a reckless lifestyle either would still get raped the day she enters the crosshair of a rapist.

Your write up is more like a precaution and not in any way a fail safe method of avoiding rape.

Thanks.

Pastor MadCow.

Nicely said

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BabyDaddy20:
Excluding minors.
99% of rape victims are at fault.
I'm not in support of rape tho.

Again another statistics from thin air..

How can a girl be at fault for being raped?

nameo:
Very very silly comment...

extremely silly

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thanks OP. God has given us the wisdom to take certain steps to avoid putting ourselves in position of harm or misfortune but we sometimes ignore it. I have a cousin who doesn't allow any female in order to control konji except his girlfriend and some really close ones that know and understand his stand on abstinence. This is not also ruling out the fact that there are some cases where there was nothing the victims could've done about it
It is also very pertinent to pray not fall into any misfortune

MadCow1:
Good write up..

But I will give you some real life happenstances that you may wish to tell me how your rape logic works;

1. A Girl raped by a male friend or uncle or someone really close to home whom she felt comfortable with until the assault.

2. A girl drugged and raped.

3. Robbers raping females.

Etc.

There are no ways to avoid being raped in my opinion because these rapists are creatures of evil. They stalk their prey in some cases and in others they just grab an opportunity and pounce.

A Good Christian girl with no provocative outfit on, who does not live a reckless lifestyle either would still get raped the day she enters the crosshair of a rapist.

Your write up is more like a precaution and not in any way a fail safe method of avoiding rape.

Thanks.

Pastor MadCow.

Pastor

Thanks for your contribution.
Just a precaution as you rightly said...May God protect us all.

This is very good one from u. But the truth remains, many victims of RAPE are also part of the cause. Be contented with whatever you have, what your parents can afford you and most especially what your BF can afford. 'Greediness is the root of all evil' as they say. #SayNoToRape

Folksyharry:
thanks OP. God has given us the wisdom to take certain steps to avoid putting ourselves in position of harm or misfortune but we sometimes ignore it. I have a cousin who doesn't allow any female in order to control konji except his girlfriend and some really close ones that know and understand his stand on abstinence. This is not also ruling out the fact that there are some cases where there was nothing the victims could've done about it
It is also very pertinent to pray not fall into any misfortune

Yea. That's why we need God's protection like the story in my first point.

Hmmm!

Really?

Tallesty1:
Thank you op for this wonderful post.

Y'see sometimes we humans like tempting the devil and the people around us and are always ready to put the blame on whoever is unfortunate enough to be used by the devil.

I remember a man that slapped his wife for pising him off all the time.

As usual, everyone around was blaming the man for not "being man enough" to walk away. Some even suggested that he go for "anger management program".

It was then that one man asked the people why they don't tell the woman to also go for a "stop pising him off program"

Something similar also happened at the place I stay, a lady wore a tiny skirt that was meant for a 10yr old girl. The skirt tore when she was trying to climb bike.

As usual, instead of blaming herself for wearing a tight skirt, she blamed the okada guy for not bending the bike well enough.

I am not supporting rapist, in fact I abhor them seriously but what have you as a lady done to protect yourself?

Sometimes I read some childish stories online about people that allow kissing and romancing but no sex! Like seriously?

So if the man should loose control and bleep heavens out of her, she will scream rape and win the always available sympathy of the society.

Guys, you people should learn to control yourselves, I know it is hard but it is possible. Also make your intentions know.

If you are inviting a girl over, please make sure she knows what she's coming for.

Finally, get one girlfriend and stay faithful. It is hard but it is possible and the best way to build yourself for marriage, staying faithful there nah must.

Also remember that some girls are taking advantage of this rape "thingy" to get on guys.

They will enjoy sex with you and claim rape afterwards.

Another thing is, stop dating underaged girls.

They always say "rape" when their parents find out that something is going and you can't blame them because they gotta give excuse.


Happy Sunday 2 y'all.

So true!
The part of underage girls lying you raped them when caught is revealing. You hear them say #say no to rape...but that is not a gospel as it doesn't change anyone. You change things! Avoid things you can avoid.

Lilyomi:
I love this write up especially da decent dressing. Whether we like it or not, men are moved by wat they see. Unfortunately, dressing almost naked attracts mostly boys. Men are attracted to women of class. A working woman who is decently dressed.

Do you have any idea how many decently dressed women have been raped? Even women, in extremely culturally strict societies, who wear full-cover veiling clothing have been raped sometimes. Rapë isn't about what a woman wears or doesn't wear. Rapë is about shameless men who are mentally sïck and have no self control! Stop deceiving yourself with the dressing issue - it's not the underlying cause of rapë.

Larryfly:
From your moniker, it shows that you ve really been a victim of such girls. I hope you dont rape them. Stop justifying rape my brother. If you dont know how to woo a woman without spending money foolishly tell me let me teach you.

That is not what he is saying so don't twist things into a superiority context. We know that you are highly rated at wooing women but the contests, battles and standards you folks set is responsible for the rush amongst the women folk for the basement.

Just like what the banks are doing to the women folk purely out of greed is what women do to themselves for the same reason, more and more money and what he is saying that these aggravated contests blow back into incidents of rape. I don't totally agree but I am of the school that says 'prevention is better than cure' and I am always an advocate of women seeking to 'develop themselves' mentally, morally and financially in order to make better choices and ultimately cut down on cases of self induced violence.

PapaOyoyo:
Na naija girls you dey tell all dis one?

Mtchewww

Even their dressing to chuch alone makes a brother lose focus. Like the one passing to church right now

only seven points?? not enough please! be contended with what ever you have. 9) stop watching poorman bikini beach n blue films. 10) don't live near fuckshop or motel. 11) don't double date.

only seven points?? not enough please! be contended with what ever you have. 9) stop watching poorman bikini beach n blue films. 10) don't live near fuckshop or motel. 11) don't double date. the rest have been summarized.

Reference:
That is not what he is saying so don't twist things into a superiority context. We know that you are highly rated at wooing women but the contests, battles and standards you folks set is responsible for the rush amongst the women folk for the basement.

Just like what the banks are doing to the women folk purely out of greed is what women do to themselves for the same reason, more and more money and what he is saying that these aggravated contests blow back into incidents of rape. I don't totally agree but I am of the school that says 'prevention is better than cure' and I am always an advocate of women seeking to 'develop themselves' mentally, morally and financially in order to make better choices and ultimately cut down on cases of self induced violence.

So the summary of this epistle is that we shuldnt really blame men that rape girls because they have spent heavily on them. Rather we should blame the opportunist who saw a willing spender who thinks he can buy anything by throwing cash around. Is that what you are saying this sunday morning?

True talk
Above all,be prayerful,watchful and learn



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Dez80:
Even their dressing to chuch alone makes a brother lose focus. Like the one passing to church right now

Lol, how she dress? And im sure na one of those winners chapel people. Their dressing na wa

The rate at which the rape issue occurs this days is very alarming