I'm in tears right now, I feel like running away

I wish there's a place I can just run to even if it for a while, please anyone within uyo or ph to accommodate me #serious

My family is very mean, they care less about another. No encouragement no natural care for one another.It just of recent I realised I'm the only one that cares for them deeply.

They seem to show fake care and love when all is rosy only. I lost my job two months ago and have noticed my elder bro that I stay with is putting up attitude already, little stuffs ahome I used to fix with my money (like refilling the gas)he can't assist but prefer to eat out with his numerous babes, I get the feeling that he's tired of me around his crib, a place that I practically feeds myself and makes it look like a home cos he's damn lazy when it comes to choirs.

Well instead of him to make me act desperate and move in with a man I'll rather disappear, i must wait and find my dream man that I can happily settle with.

For now all I need is to leave his sight cos it making me sick, imagine at this time of the night I can't find sleep, thinking of why my family can't cherish eachother.

I'm in pains for real need real help!!!

whatsapp me maybe i cud help u emotions

really sad but going away ain't the best solution , have u tried talking to your bro? make him see how u feel and what is creating a gap in your family?

if you have other siblings, call them too and maybe have a lil family meeting

Luedave:
whatsapp me maybe i cud help u emotions

Luedave:
whatsapp me maybe i cud help u emotions

Thanks for your concern, i wish I can read your mind to know if your intentions are genuine, believe me I'm in tears as I'm typing this

Sorry abt dat.my dad always say to us "you owe yourself the responsibility to be happy "

I guess u can still stay wit ur bro pending d time u wil get another job n stil ignore hs excess just to remain happy.

ToroJah:


Thanks for your concern, i wish I can read your mind to know if your intentions are genuine, believe me I'm in tears as I'm typing this

U dnt have to cry... Its normal to face dis...... be strong and if u want us to talk no p. dats me wotsapp

lordmayor4:
really sad but going away ain't the best solution , have u tried talking to your bro? make him see how u feel and what is creating a gap in your family?

if you have other siblings, call them too and maybe have a lil family meeting

He's very selfish, he wouldn't even grant me the audience to talk to him, he's far far my snr over 5yrs gap, I'm the least of them all my two sis are married and so occupied with their immediate family since they don't care too don't wanna go disturb them, it's so sad!

ToroJah:


He's very selfish, he wouldn't even grant me the audience to talk to him, he's far far my snr over 5yrs gap, I'm the least of them all my two sis are married and so occupied with their immediate family since they don't care too don't wanna go disturb them, it's so sad!

never lose faith or hope, I believe in communication , try to reach out to them or any of your relative that they listen to. solve the problem in the family ..,... don't ever make the mistake of going to stay with a stranger, don't even think of it.

If you are based in Lagos contact me for a job I have a recruitment opportunity going on right away. Send me an e-mail.

focus7:
If you are based in Lagos contact me for a job I have a recruitment opportunity going on right away. Send me an e-mail.

Good morning to you, thanks for the interest in helping out, it's a pity I'm not in lagos and don't have reliable people I can stay with there, I'm in my state of origin, akwa ibom.

lordmayor4:


never lose faith or hope, I believe in communication , try to reach out to them or any of your relative that they listen to. solve the problem in the family ..,... don't ever make the mistake of going to stay with a stranger, don't even think of it.

If only it's easy as you made it sound. Good morning!

Am so sorry you are going through this right now.. You owe it to yourself to be happy and stay happy.

Once you accept that you own the key to your happiness trust me you will feel good with yourself and this will affect everything in your life as well.
E-hugs for you.

ToroJah:


If only it's easy as you made it sound. Good morning!

it is easy if u start seeing it as easy.... see it as a challenge not a problem. take the first step and pray

lordmayor4:


it is easy if u start seeing it as easy.... see it as a challenge not a problem. take the first step and pray

Okay, thanks!

ToroJah:

Okay, thanks!

welcome

What about your parents? ?

Ity, it is sad what you are going through and even if it is allowed you feel sad for a while, you shouldn't fall into depression.
The 5 year or so gap between you and your elder bro is not an excuse for him not to grant you audience...it's just that yours is not a close knit family.
Is your brother working? Because he at least cannot eat all days of the month outside for the past two months.
Who pays the light bill? Who gets water that is if water isn't running inside your apartment?

What kind of job were you doing? Is it those kind you can go to the Post Office for? If it is, why not go there and check out vacancies, just so you get out of the house. I think some of the radio stations read out vacancies too...I really do not know which stations and the time they do but I know it is in the mornings; ask people.

Do you not have friends either from church or wherever? They should be your go-to at this point.

As for the gas, tell your brother it needs refilling and that there aren't some foodstuffs after he might have brushed in the morning. Hear what he'll say first.

Kpe ayen ndoko!

Enoquin:
Ity, it is sad what you are going through and even if it is allowed you feel sad for a while, you shouldn't fall into depression.
The 5 year or so gap between you and your elder bro is not an excuse for him not to grant you audience...it's just that yours is not a close knit family.
Is your brother working? Because he at least cannot eat all days of the month outside for the past two months.
Who pays the light bill? Who gets water that is if water isn't running inside your apartment?

What kind of job were you doing? Is it those kind you can go to the Post Office for? If it is, why not go there and check out vacancies, just so you get out of the house. I think some of the radio stations read out vacancies too...I really do not know which stations and the time they do but I know it is in the mornings; ask people.

Do you not have friends either from church or wherever? They should be your go-to at this point.

As for the gas, tell your brother it needs refilling and that there aren't some foodstuffs after he might have brushed in the morning. Hear what he'll say first.

Kpe ayen ndoko!

thanks so much dear sis for the concern.

yes he works, no need talking to him again about the gas refill, he's aware of it, when his friends comes around and complain of hunger he offer to take them to an eatery. the only thing he does to my benefit in the house is to pay rent and light bills, it's an apartment where water runs in the house so water is not an issue.

two weeks ago before the gas issue I told him to try subscribe dstv that I'm bored he snapped at me that he doesn't have money but a moment the girlfriend came and complained he quickly subscribe, so it obvious he's tired of me around him so I have to find my way out of his sight soon, I just pray places have hope on should call me soon for a job offer cos it obvious I'm alone in this life.

focus7:
If you are based in Lagos contact me for a job I have a recruitment opportunity going on right away. Send me an e-mail.

Pls am interested. Can i send you an email? Thanks.

You are welcome. The thing is even if you get a job, you would have to save a while before moving out.
If the gas hasnt been refilled, how have you been eating?
What of your parents?

ToroJah:


thanks so much dear sis for the concern.

yes he works, no need talking to him again about the gas refill, he's aware of it, when his friends comes around and complain of hunger he offer to take them to an eatery. the only thing he does to my benefit in the house is to pay rent and light bills, it's an apartment where water runs in the house so water is not an issue.

two weeks ago before the gas issue I told him to try subscribe dstv that I'm bored he snapped at me that he doesn't have money but a moment the girlfriend came and complained he quickly subscribe, so it obvious he's tired of me around him so I have to find my way out of his sight soon, I just pray places have hope on should call me soon for a job offer cos it obvious I'm alone in this life.

ToroJah:


Good morning to you, thanks for the interest in helping out, it's a pity I'm not in lagos and don't have reliable people I can stay with there, I'm in my state of origin, akwa ibom.

in that case you case you can still mail me, there's a way I can help you out, ok.

It all boils down to upbringing.




I dunno what to say,u want to leave and go to a place where u will be trated as a guest. They say,visitors are like fish,they start to stink after a few days.







Where are ur parents?

Enoquin:
You are welcome. The thing is even if you get a job, you would have to save a while before moving out.
If the gas hasnt been refilled, how have you been eating?
What of your parents?

ahsekeena:
It all boils down to upbringing.
I dunno what to say,u want to leave and go to a place where u will be trated as a guest. They say,visitors are like fish,they start to stink after a few days.
Where are ur parents?

Enoquin:
You are welcome. The thing is even if you get a job, you would have to save a while before moving out.
If the gas hasnt been refilled, how have you been eating?
What of your parents?

they're late

focus7:
in that case you case you can still mail me, there's a way I can help you out, ok.

thanks, God bless!

focus7:
in that case you case you can still mail me, there's a way I can help you out, ok.

please did you receive the mail, don't really understand how the mail thing works here

ToroJah:


He's very selfish, he wouldn't even grant me the audience to talk to him, he's far far my snr over 5yrs gap, I'm the least of them all my two sis are married and so occupied with their immediate family since they don't care too don't wanna go disturb them, it's so sad!

You can build a new family,if you are old enough... Go get married.

Op sobbing and self pity will not solve the problem. Get up, dust yourself and woman up

Also

ToroJah:


they're late

I am so sorry. I guess you are the last child. Don't blame your sisters too much, you don't know how financially hard it might be for them or if their hubbies aren't receptive to the idea. Since you have applied for a job, let's keep our fingers crossed.

Please cross depression out of you. Mesiere, how was your night?

The sad thing is that you might receive the same treatment when you go somewhere else.
This is hard but we all went through it at some stage of our life when we were dependent on others.

BE humble and make sure you help very actively in the house. It might be he is pissed because you are not doing enough.
This is a good training you are experiencing- we learn more from bad experiences.

This is the time to turn to God and not to man. All you need is to humble yourself to cope with him and to wait for the good times to come. They always do:

I've been in your shoes dear. This one even includes far and near cousins, and all i did was get a new life.
I got myself a church, prayed fervently, resolved my problems with the pastor and it was a miracle. Your bro has no reason whatsoever not to give you attention. Imagine his lifestyle. My dear, take this pro to God and he's ever willing to help.
Right now, my family even from far and near calls me messiah, a peace maker. I think its your calling, so don't cry and accept the challenge.
Goodluck!

Dear Family, I still haven't gotten a job till now oh, still applying please if there's any that can help wwith a job within port Harcourt, I'm squatting with a friend somewhere close to garrison, please my e-family assist a sis before frustration drives me into something evil

God bless as you help!