I just read a post on fb from a mother of two. She talked about how she wished her husband would get a clue about what it is like to be home with kids all day. She talked about how the minute her husband walked in the door every evening she would start complaining about how bad her day had been, and all the things the kids had done wrong.

She said he asked her one day if she'd be happier going back to work. She realized then that all she talked about was the bad stuff. She realized that she never talked about the good things that happened during the day.

She mentioned that she just wanted him to acknowledge what she went through everyday. He did say one day, after he watched the kids one Saturday morning while she went out, "I don't know how you do this everyday." She was so thrilled that he finally got it.

She realized that he thought she was unhappy staying home with the kids. She decide that she would start only reporting the good things when her husband got home.

That's great but...she seems a little selfish to me. She says they used to sit and talk about their day before the kids came and she liked that. I have to wonder if during these 3 years she was so miserable and attacking her husband the second he walked in the door if she ever thought about how his day went.

Did she ask, "Honey how was your day?" or say, "Darling I appreciate all you do for our family. Did she ever acknowledged his part in supporting the family?

Sometimes I think we, as wives and mothers, forget that he is working for the family too. He has bad days too. He needs to be acknowledged too. Once we have children, we tend to forget that he needs to know we love him too.

Somehow there needs to be a middle ground. Both Mom and Dad need to know they are appreciated and loved.

Do this:

1. Post something you wish your spouse/significant other would do or say to show you their love and appreciation.

2. Post something you could do or say to show your love and appreciation to your spouse/significant other.

GO!

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Cutehector:
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Mynd44:
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Good for you. Mynd why are you trolling my thread?

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Spouse: Honey, tell me about your day.

Me: It was great. I met the President and we shook hands.

Okay, you tell me about your day. (A grave mistake)

Spouse: Did you know that Mrs Brown has an illegitimate child? This morning, Mrs Thompson's husband caught her with another man. Mrs Ernest bought a new foot-mat, it's so beautiful. Old Miss Lucy is... (She goes on for hours).