In this piece, we will be looking at the flip side of my earlier article titled 16 COSTLY MISTAKE MARRIED WOMEN MAKE. Like I wrote earlier, the purpose of these write-ups is to help our marriages become better. Many marriages are in crisis today become many married people have deviated from what God intended marriage to be. What is you see today are marriages as men want it and not marriages as God intended it.

There are many costly mistakes married men make and these are some of them;

1.As the spiritual head of the home, when was the last time you led your family (wife and children) in prayers? Yes, your wife also can lead prayers also but are you doing enough spiritually for your marriage and family?

2.Comparing your wife with your ex, especially for those that did many ‘permutation’ and ‘combination’ with many ladies whilst single is a sign that you have not left your past.


3.Condemning your wife’s meal, soup, stew as you compare it to that of your ex-gilrfriend, ex-wife or your mother.


4.The private things that happen in your marriage that you tell your family members will ultimately create a negative impression and perception of her. Ultimately, you will also reap what you sow as her husband.


5.Not acknowledging or paying for your wife’s hair and personal make up and appearance. You don’t like her appearance yet you are not paying for her to look good.
6.Mr Husband, your mouth odour, your body odour, your dirty boxers and socks are serious put-off to your spouse. Take a little time to wash, to tidy up yourself. She probably may have even told you but you get offended. Mr, there are truth nobody will tell you except your wife!


7.Husband, your 2 minute ejaculation is serious punishment for your wife. If she has told you, please change. If she has not complained, she is merely enduring. A sexually and emotionally dissatisfied wife is an unhappy wife!


8.Sex in marriage ought not to be boring. But yours is boring because you want it only at your own time and not at a more conducive time to both parties.


9.Your wife is not a slave. You need to assist with house chores. And if you think you are too big for the chores get technological tools that can help and a house-help to support. A distressed wife is a stressed wife!


10.It is selfishness to keep your educated and skilled wife idle at home. It does not matter how much you earn, how much you pay or give her, she also has a dream to fulfil in life. There is greater joy in marriage when both husband and wife are fulfilled! Support her dream!!


11.Getting intimidated by your wife’s achievement, career and business successes is a reflection of your insecurity and low self-esteem. Your wife’s achievement should be a thing of pride to you also and not of intimidation!


12.It just does no make sense to be suspecting your wife. How can you become a detective in your home and expect to have joy and fulfilment?


13.Yes, the Bible instruct that wives should submit to their husbands but you have turned submission to subjugation. You have become a terror to your wife!


14.Beating up your wife no matter what she did wrong is not a prove of your seniority, masculinity, or manhood, instead it is a show of your immaturity and irresponsibility.


15.There is no time that you are ever home with your wife and children even on public holidays. When your business or job ends, will you still have a wife and children to be proud of. Your wife and children need you more than money and toys that you buy for them!


16.Engaging in extra-marital affair that can never ever give you joy and fulfilment. Extra-marital affair is an unprofitable venture. You loose spiritually, you loose physically, you loose financially. By the time you loose your wife and children, you are the biggest looser of all!


17.How can you be attracted to your wife’s maid, sisters or her friends? What is attracting you in them that your wife don’t have? Have you discussed those things with your wife in a loving way?


18.Irrespective of your religion, polygamy is not the solution to your insatiable sexual appetite. It will ultimately cost you more for less satisfaction and joy


19.How have you secured your wife and children against the predators of your properties, assets and estates? Do you have a will?


20.Taking your wife through the pain and rigour of divorce because you have found a ‘sweet sixteen’ is not the way to go. Most men who change women like diapers end up miserable also as they become serial divorcees.
Friends, it is high time we tell ourselves the naked truth. If you want to enjoy being married, be responsible. There is alot of responsibility that God placed on men. Let us see what God expect of husbands in the Bible;
“…..Love your wife, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself forit’’ Ephesians 5 Vs 25
If you appreciate how much Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it, you will know the magnitude of responsibility on you as a husband and father. An irresponsible husband is likely to be an irresponsible father and you know Christ is not like you!
“…..love your wife as your own body. He who loves his wife loves himself”Ephesians 5 Vs 28
It is in your own interest to love your wife. If you love her you love yourself
‘’…….dwell with them with understanding, giving honour to the wife as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered”1 Peter 3 Vs 7
Simply put, you hinder yourself by the way you treat your wife!

If it is true that man was created in the image and likeness of God, guys, it is time we wake up to the expectation of our maker. I doff my cap to husbands who are responsible and doing quite alot to make their marriages work. God will bless you the more and encourage you. Your labour will not be invain. Amen!

Source: http://adegboyegailori.com/20-costly-mistakes-married-men-make/

Another day another list

Lol.






As if marriage is sooooo straight forward.

If there are 20 mistakes married men make, there are 100 married women make!



And I can list them for y'all ladies.


1 they stop dressing well
2 they want to imprison their husband
3 they get fat mostly due to lack of exercise
4 they fight their husband relatives
5 they want to control their husband
6 they get dirty
7 they pile up the house with loads
8 they don't want you to hang out with guys
9 they become impatient
10 some cheat
11 some complain about sex
12 some cook what you don't eat
13 they nagg
14 they fight you over little/nothing
15 they hate their mother inlaw
16 they questions your decisions
17 they wanna go through your call list
18 they wanna come to your office for...
19 they wanna choose your secretary
20 they don't want fine house helps
21 they abuse their husbands at will
22 some get very greedy
23 some become extremely rude
24 some use your children to fight you
25 some push their man towards crime
26 some frustrate their husbands life
27 they suspect you unnecessarily
28 they demand an inventory of your outing
29 they accuse you of being stingy
30 they cook late watching Africa Magic
31 some turn their husbands to ATM
32 some forget home become career women
33 some hand over husband to house help
34 some become lazy & reduced to gossips
35 some deny their husbands sex
36 some become feminists in Africa
37 they run mouths like grinding machines
38 they compare dia husband to moneybags
39 some become diabolical
40 some listen more to friends than husband

People wey never marry go just carry list upon list dey trouble us for Nairaland here.








OP, if you marry eeh, you no go even get strength type all these things wey you write here!

Incredible write-up.

Eagerly waiting for a counter thread.

IdiAmin1:
Incredible write-up.

Eagerly waiting for a counter thread.

Did u read the article at all?

delectablegyal:


Did u read the article at all?

I didn't only read it, I digested it and have planned on correcting my own errors as a husband but ladies' version should also be looked into.

Nice write up .........



Men wid responsibilities are classy

Beating up your wife. That's a very bad one. You should never

This thread is wacked from the first point... The man is the 'PHYSICAL' Head of the home, the woman might be spiritually stronger thab the man.

Hmmm, nice one.

NO. 5 Are you serious?.. That's just f*+kd up!. While at it, can I still pay for pants, her tissues, her paloma, her pad too?. What ever happened to the 'financial independent' that you girls all shout about?. Did you girls attend a different school from us?

Wetin this man wey never marry dey write like this? See ya fake d.p sef! Nonsense!

As usual..

Another list

Wow!

Lalasticlala, let's go to front page.

Crap

illiad1:
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Knife?

Real niggaz no dey carry pot commot for fire for kitchen with napkins. They use bare hands, that's all

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MemphisDepay:
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Holland?

Seen

omaniblog:
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Ohlolo?

Beating up your wife no matter what she did wrong is not a prove of your seniority, masculinity, or manhood, instead it is a show of your immaturity and irresponsibility.

Ladies should know when to walk away from any abusive marriage or relationship. You don't have to die before u know that life is once. Any man that beats his wife or girlfriend is a BEAST. Life is precious, don't let anyone cut it short for u. Marriage isn't a war zone, take a walk and live Ur life. Marriage is a prison, study Ur inmate carefully and sentence urself wisely. Don't be fooled that divorce is a sin. Na person wey dey alive de talk, dead body no de talk.

Ok

AnneMomoh:

Holland?

shoroniyen?