Thanks OP.
I'm a living witness to your claim.Though mine went another direction.Before anyone demands my head, I presently resides in US, NY to be precise for my masters program. I'm not in search of greener pasture. All I wanted was quality education because I'm definitely coming back home after I badged my Professorship.
I met this lady at school she was in her 20's. Let me say she was the first female I met soon as I arrived for my program. She speaks Yoruba fluently just like myself. Instantly I fell for her and ask her for friendship and she accepted and we exchange contacts and get started.
Fast forward to like two weeks of our friendship she told me she would like we meet for something important.We met as scheduled she said she observed I'm a Muslim because she used to see me go to the school Mosque and I replied YES.She continue that if I really want her I will have to follow her to their church for baptism. I was shocked at her request.I tried explaining religion should not be a barrier to our relationship but she stood on her ground. I gave series of examples of Muslims who got married to Christian in Nigeria like Tinubu, Gov. Adulfatai of Kwara state, etc she declined. Like I said I'm not after green card because if I am I would have faked for her of which I'm very sure she would fell. I had to quit and move on with my life.Many Nigerian guys I met told me Nigeria girls are very proud and difficult to please. If I would ever marry in US I will never marry a Nigerian girl take or leave it.

donem:

If true, e good as you bone am o.. before she for go cast you for public one day. I have noticed majority of naija ladies are the same, they talk talk, talkatives.

Reminds me of this guy from abroad married one ordinary banker o! As per kpe e came from abroad no work or busines as yet so e dey house. We had the same gear issues with our cars(same make different models) as I was fixing mine d guy came around and told me that he had d same issue and he spent over 270k buying another gearbox. Not long after d lady came to join us where they are fixing my car. She then repeated What her husband had said and embarrassed him big time. She said " it was this problem our car had, I SPENT OVER 270K TO FIX IT" see as d woman come open d guy yansh just because na she spend d money. The guy quickly left d place leaving d wife there in annoyance.

hahahah lol.. na so

Asiwaju9ja:


Reminds me of this guy from abroad married one ordinary banker o! As per kpe e came from abroad no work or busines as yet so e dey house. We had the same gear issues with our cars(same make different models) as I was fixing mine d guy came around and told me that he had d same issue and he spent over 270k buying another gearbox. Not long after d lady came to join us where they are fixing my car. She then repeated What her husband had said and embarrassed him big time. She said " it was this problem our car had, I SPENT OVER 270K TO FIX IT" see as d woman come open d guy yansh just because na she spend d money. The guy quickly left d place leaving d wife there in annoyance.

MrsPhyno:
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ur mates r contributing smth, it is only "dot" dat u will write...

Shams218:
Thanks OP.
I'm a living witness to your claim.Though mine went another direction.Before anyone demands my head, I presently resides in US, NY to be precise for my masters program. I'm not in search of greener pasture. All I wanted was quality education because I'm definitely coming back home after I badged my Professorship.
I met this lady at school she was in her 20's. Let me say she was the first female I met soon as I arrived for my program. She speaks Yoruba fluently just like myself. Instantly I fell for her and ask her for friendship and she accepted and we exchange contacts and get started.
Fast forward to like two weeks of our friendship she told me she would like we meet for something important.We met as scheduled she said she observed I'm a Muslim because she used to see me go to the school Mosque and I replied YES.She continue that if I really want her I will have to follow her to their church for baptism. I was shocked at her request.I tried explaining religion should not be a barrier to our relationship but she stood on her ground. I gave series of examples of Muslims who got married to Christian in Nigeria like Tinubu, Gov. Adulfatai of Kwara state, etc she declined. Like I said I'm not after green card because if I am I would have faked for her of which I'm very sure she would fell. I had to quit and move on with my life.Many Nigerian guys I met told me Nigeria girls are very proud and difficult to please. If I would ever marry in US I will never marry a Nigerian girl take or leave it.

gbam! Buh should u eva end up marryn a nigerian girl who isn't frm ur trible, pls dnt force her to change to ur religion too.. Thanks

Bros I wish say i fit like your post 200 times. Absolutely true.

Asiwaju9ja:

Reminds me of this guy from abroad married one ordinary banker o! As per kpe e came from abroad no work or busines as yet so e dey house. We had the same gear issues with our cars(same make different models) as I was fixing mine d guy came around and told me that he had d same issue and he spent over 270k buying another gearbox. Not long after d lady came to join us where they are fixing my car. She then repeated What her husband had said and embarrassed him big time. She said " it was this problem our car had, I SPENT OVER 270K TO FIX IT" see as d woman come open d guy yansh just because na she spend d money. The guy quickly left d place leaving d wife there in annoyance.

So, myopic of her, the husband is already planning to leave her, she no no.. hin just dey wait for work before he do so.... Who will tolerate such insult

Kelvinpam:
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a bullet dot on ur forehead.

Shams218:
Thanks OP.
I'm a living witness to your claim.Though mine went another direction.Before anyone demands my head, I presently resides in US, NY to be precise for my masters program. I'm not in search of greener pasture. All I wanted was quality education because I'm definitely coming back home after I badged my Professorship.
I met this lady at school she was in her 20's. Let me say she was the first female I met soon as I arrived for my program. She speaks Yoruba fluently just like myself. Instantly I fell for her and ask her for friendship and she accepted and we exchange contacts and get started.
Fast forward to like two weeks of our friendship she told me she would like we meet for something important.We met as scheduled she said she observed I'm a Muslim because she used to see me go to the school Mosque and I replied YES.She continue that if I really want her I will have to follow her to their church for baptism. I was shocked at her request.I tried explaining religion should not be a barrier to our relationship but she stood on her ground. I gave series of examples of Muslims who got married to Christian in Nigeria like Tinubu, Gov. Adulfatai of Kwara state, etc she declined. Like I said I'm not after green card because if I am I would have faked for her of which I'm very sure she would fell. I had to quit and move on with my life.Many Nigerian guys I met told me Nigeria girls are very proud and difficult to please. If I would ever marry in US I will never marry a Nigerian girl take or leave it.

Her opinion about religion as nothing to do with wealth or being Nigerian. There's a make or break for everyone and our tolerance for certain things is different. Her dream man requires the same spiritual alignment, and you've to respect that. Truly, my parents are from mix religion, but tolerance for others is the most critical for me. that's what she want, you are fortunate, she knows it, and said it out-rightly without wasting time.

sukkot:
nick cannon is not poor. he is worth like 50 million dollars.

His networth around 15million -20 million dollars not 50million as he earn 70k dollars per month meanwhile Mariah networth is 550 million dollars. Can u see the huge gap? If you are doubting my info, Google is there.

kinglekan:


Werey nie ee ooooo

Aja ke? O buuru oooo. Kilo le to yen naaa

Hey, this is not a Yoruba forum.
speak Nigerian language.

My brother,the thing tire me o. When did Nick Cannon become so rich to own a company that was founded in 1977,and has grown into a large global brand? Nick aint even a shareholder in Nickelodeon or its parent company,Viacom. Viacom is owned by National amusement which is being owned by 93 years old business tycoon and billionaire,Sumner Murray Redstone. And to think that this your friend claims to have lived in the US and doesn't even know jack about Nick Cannon,Nickelodeon,Viacom,CBS corp,National amusement and Sumner Redstone,is quite embarrassing. The way some Nigerians come out boldly to spew trash and give false information in public,is amazing. That's how you know folks who aren't intelligent.

youngice:

Stop embarrassing your self
Mariah Carey and Nick no be mate and Nick doesn't own Nickelodeon, it's owned by Viacom,

winnieberry:
Op i think d'problem comes from d'guys and our myopic,archaic societal vaalues whose states dat A man must d'wealty one.Most naija guys are intimidated by rich ladies,even on threads here,some guys feel guys should not go after rich ladies.When a man goes after rich ladies,he is a either a gold digger or gigolo,Naija guys got alot of problems wit them:date a rich babe no ,then they go fter broke ladies and start complainig she is only after my money ,for crying out wat do u wat her to be after wen she is a broke bitch?We need change in our beliefs on relationship

God bless you. You completely killed the topic with this your comment. Our society is the major problem here.

udmbat:
I am 100% certain that I would soon be among the list of rich elites in Nigeria. I swear, any woman/lady/girl that comes my way pretending to have one nonsense like/love, I will gun you down. The only women i owe much love and affection are my mum & sisters. Peace

What is this @ the bolded? Orisirisi . See as I dey laff 4 inside bus. May God bless our hustle.

sonofananimal:
THIS IS WERE I PARK MY CAR!

DID YOU WANT TO KNOW WHY

LET ME NOT SAY BECAUSE NAIJA WOMEN ARE ANIMALS (BUT YOU PEOPLE ARE ACTUALLY ANIMALS )

pride is the major cause to it and that's just it. There is no scientific explanation to it and not just only NAIJA WOMEN but also the black women around the world but it is particular within NAIJA WOMEN.


BUT WETI CONCERN ME ALL I KNOW IS THAT I AM OR I WILL NEVER SET MY EYES ON ANY GOD DAME NAIJA WOMEN

this guy eh! On a Monday morning like this. Mehn this thread has made my day.

Nnemuka:
Cant you guys let Nigerian girls be?
Honestly we dont care what you guys say, if it isnt working out the way you want with nigerian girls pls let them be.

foolish response!

both are captains and u cant ve two masters at a time in a ship

99% of Nigerian ladies won't see this topic from the right perspective, they will assume that they are being attacked,


anyway, its none of my business,
complaints about Nigerian ladies are too much which for me, should be enough reason for them to look back and examine their lives.

1. The "not so rich" naija men most times feel
intimidated by the so called rich/super rich naija
ladies (a man's ego esp black men is usually golden)
Also, these rich ladies are sometimes skeptical of
the intent of low income relationship partners
(the fear of being a means to an end).

2. It's a very rare practice in black African societies for
a female to approach/woo a male for whatever form
of relationship likewise marriage.

My humble contribution.
Nice week ahead guys

sonofananimal:
brother na pride ohhh.

You sure say na only pride?

Nigerian men suffer from low self esteem even more than the women as they claim,always wanting their women to be below them.If a Nigerian man should marry a richer woman,they would complain that she is proud even when she is the humblest of all creatures.That is why most wealthy women steer clear from less wealthy men to avoid these troubles

Someone should give me the phone number of Linda Ikeji.

I know she won't like me at first because I am not Ramsey Noah.
But she will definitely like me when she sees my account balance.

Anyone who sends the phone number first gets 10K in naira. No jokes.

But on a more serious note, why will a Nigerian guy go abroad and still desire to date the same Nigerian women that he has difficulties dating in Nigeria, who says she must be Nigerian..... I know of family members who won't touch Nigerian ladies in the US and UK with a 10m pole. It is not just about dating them but the fact that they are quick to use the female-centric family laws of these societies to Bleep up your existence in the event that things don't work out again between you and them.

Most Nigerian males I know, especially the Igbos don't bother marrying Nigerian women there for the single reason that they are way too much headache to deal with..... I would rather marry some other African woman, European or come back home and pick a wife. All these ones with 21 century feminism hardliners who would rather compete than complement you in the marriage will want to switch and compare positions..... Let alone the rich ones.

Nigerian men will attack women for going after rich men but they don't see anything wrong when the men go after rich women.
who no like beta tin abeg?
if women does it they are gold diggers and lazy and cannot work hard to support them self's but if men does it its good and nothing is wrong with it.

firstEVA:
First of all, it's not a general thing, some well to do girls just want to get married and bear another man's name even though he has no money, I have heard of several cases where a woman sponsors her wedding, pays for their accommodation, even baff up her man, it happens a lot.

The category of ladies you have referred to are in the majority, the fact is this, a woman wants to be able to look up to her husband in every aspect of life, particularly financially. A woman earning more than her man places her in a higher position than her husband, it takes the grace of God for a woman to maintain her humility and sanity when she is expected to meet most of the demands of the home, it becomes a case of role reversal and can lead to a lot of commotion in the home particularly if he has some ego. To avoid all this wahala, a successful woman/lady would want a more successful man so they don't have an awkward married life.
Cc captainswag225

Smart

Which way Naija women?

obaty:
Nigerian men suffer from low self esteem even more than the women as they claim,always wanting their women to be below them.If a Nigerian man should marry a richer woman,they would complain that she is proud even when she is the humblest of all creatures.That is why most wealthy women steer clear from less wealthy man to avoid these troubles

what exactly is your definition of self-esteem, a woman being equal to a man in a marriage..... Let me ask you this one question, how much success are marriages where both husband and wife are assumed equal in responsibility and ability to lead and make decisions for the relationship-have been recorded with such models. A woman can never be equal to a man no matter what any feminist tell herself in a marriage. The man is the leader and the woman is his companion and is there to complement him.... All that crap about women being equal and should be left to make decisions only lead to uneccessary strife and competition that eventually leads to the high baby momma and baby daddy models we now see creeping into our society from the the West.
No man will stay in a relationship where his decisions have to always be first vetted by his wife before it passes, that's not low-self esteem, it is common sense, it calls to question his ability to lead or be trusted to lead.. .

humilitypays:
Some days ago, I and a friend who recently returned from abroad were gisting about life, and one thing led to another, we ended up discussing Nigerian issues like- insecurity in the northeastern Nigeria, abnormal increase in graduate unemployment, politics, and of course romance; basically the rate at which true love is fading away in Nigeria of our time.

It was at this point that my friend started telling me stories of how Nigerian ladies abroad (especially those living in US and UK according to him) play hard-to-get and difficult for Nigerian guys living abroad, especially if they discover that the guy isn't from a wealthy family back in Nigeria.

He revealed to me that many Nigerian guys living in US and Uk would love to marry Nigerian ladies living there, but that the problem is that Nigerian ladies don't always make it easy for Naija guys living there with them to approach them and that most of the Naija ladies there usually flock around a Nigerian guy there if they notice that the guy is from a wealthy Nigerian family or at worst, studying medicine or working as a doctor there.

He also mentioned that he has observed that Nigerian ladies who come from wealthy family backgrounds or those who worked hard to become rich themselves will never agree to date or marry a Nigerian guy who isn't richer than them or popular; that's a celebrity.

His statement shocked me because exactly what he said was also my thought having observed things here in Nigeria for some time now, and some months ago, I also overheard a group of guys discussing same thing at a gathering I went to.

Now, I want to throw this question open to Nigerian ladies of all social status, since nairaland is a popular forum where people of all class visit...please no insults, I just want to hear your opinion.

Why don't we see more of rich single Nigerian ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys? Is it a crime or does it mean Nigerian ladies only develop love when they see or smell wealth and success?

At least, we have witnessed or heard of several cases of wealthy Nigerian guys date and marry poor Nigerian girls from poor families who don't even have a job, but on the other hand, we rarely hear or see rich Nigerian single ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys; I am not even talking of dating or marrying broke guys, I mean guys who aren't that rich or popular.

Before anyone come calling for my head, please kindly sit back and observe things in your area of residence; you will notice that we now have plenty number of Nigerian single ladies working in big companies and earning fat salaries, some are born into wealth, some have become rich doing business, yet these ladies are single probably waiting for a rich or richer guy to come ask them out and marry them, hence making it difficult for them to find husband.

But in other countries of Africa, Europe, Asia, and Americas, rich ladies date and marry broke and not-so-rich guys without issues, but is seems to be different in Nigeria, why pls

What then is the need of fighting for feminism and gender-equality if NIgerian ladies can't embrace the changes that comes with gender equality/feminism?

Let me give some examples:

Linda Ikeji, Genevieve Nnajia, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, Tonto Dikeh, Kate Henshaw, etc

Believe it or not, Linda Ikeji wants to marry, but she's probably waiting for one rich guy or son of a former minister, governor, MD, etc to settle down with.....same with Genevieve Nnaji, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, and so many others that are not that popular but rich or come from rich family background.

Does it mean that rich Nigerian guys dating and marrying poor or not-so-rich Nigerian girls are fools

At least Marriah Carey married poor Nick Cannon...and many of such cases abound in western countries, but rarely happen in Nigeria, why? Something is wrong somewhere, can someone please explain.

Note:
I am not saying its a crime for a lady to date or marry rich guy, neither am I saying that a lady must date/marry broke guy, I am just curious as to why it is rare to hear that a rich single Nigerian lady is dating or married to a guy who isn't rich?

na their problem. they prefer sugar already made daddy. Is in their blood since b4 they became rich.
AND WITHOUT THEM, PEOPLE SELLING Love Machine AND OTHER S3X TOYS WILL GO OUT OF BUSINESS.

obaty:
Nigerian men suffer from low self esteem even more than the women as they claim,always wanting their women to be below them.If a Nigerian man should marry a richer woman,they would complain that she is proud even when she is the humblest of all creatures.That is why most wealthy women steer clear from less wealthy man to avoid these troubles

na lie


The fact is you cannot be proud and humble at the same time,the reason they dont get married to poor guys is because of “responsibility“

@OP, our men insecurities is the main problem. How many poor or average guys can boldly walk up to Linda Ikeji and ask for her hand in marriage. In a country where a man's self-esteem/worth is hinged on the amount of money he has? Many men are intimidated by rich single women because they feel they have nothing to offer her and this is mostly true when you think in terms of material things alone. You will be surprised that such ladies may not be after a wealthy man, they just want an intelligent man, with self-confidence, who will love and value them.

You talk proper..before i read the comments...Make i buy you small Alomo and bushmeat for the comment make you use am start the week...i know they would have converged on the topic like bees weh see honey...

super rich ladiez tend to
end up single anyway
.. coz dey intimidate
all men away wit deir uptight
attitude
no man wantz a b1tch wu actz lyk
ha shiiit doesnt stink

wen dey end up alone in
old age, dey then retreat 2
hide under d blanket
of 'feminism' juss lyk
majority of d old, single
bitter women on diz forum