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| Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by Laitesmart(op): 3:56pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
For a start.... Yorubas refer to mother as WURA while they refer to the father as JIGI. WURA means GOLD while JIGI means MIRROR.. Which would you say is much more valuable as a title for the parents  ?Well. A student of mine asked me the question WHY DO INDIVIDUALS CHERISH THEIR MOTHERS MORE THAN THEIR FATHERS?? I responded by asking him what he observed. He said he noticed on social networks that people openly admire their mothers more than and better than their fathers... In the sense that they create time to wish them happy birthday, happy women day, and happy mothers day. He went on to say that there are majority of rhymes for mothers appraisal while that of the fathers is far fetched and even the hip hop stars prefer to sing inspiring songs for their mothers thereafter ending it with the fact that they want to accomplish a lot for their mothers... Infact... I still dont know how to answer the question.. Why do we cherish our mothers better than our fathers? Is it only the mothers that deserve all the care? |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by Bambless1(m): 3:59pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
Iyaniwura! |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by therealdeal10: 4:03pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
Bcus mums r always there 2 listen 2 ur cries Dey r soft-hearted |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by crackhaus: 4:11pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
You mean in Nigeria where women are disrespected, discriminated against, and looked down upon? A Nigeria where being a woman is the next evil to being the devil himself? So mothers (women) are cherished more than fathers (men)? No way! Chimamanda Adichie must hear this...  7 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by Miami11: 4:24pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
crackhaus:I think she meant to say kids love there mothers more than fathers 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by obiak4(m): 4:25pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
crackhaus:i guess u r from mars what the op stated are fact about mothers and women generally in nigeria maybe where u reside they abuse women ga...... AS FOR ME AFTER JESUS CHRIST NA MY MAMA OOOO TILL I GET MARRIED SHE WOULD BE MY FIRST LOVE 4 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by Blizzyblinkzy(f): 4:28pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
Because they are more caring 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by crackhaus: 4:35pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
Miami11: obiak4:*Oh lord, it flew way over their heads...*   2 Likes |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by 5minsmadness: 4:57pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
Because their mothers were always there. |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by obiak4(m): 4:59pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
crackhaus:warefar dau 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by 5minsmadness: 4:59pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
obiak4:He was being sarcastic. Or is it ironic. 3 Likes |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by tpiander: 5:31pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
Laitesmart:says who? as per your topic, explain how people's personal lives concern you first, then folks can respond to your matter. |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by Laitesmart(op): 5:43pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
Miami11:Not kids..... I mean the general populace as a whole |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by Laitesmart(op): 5:45pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
tpiander:Want u to answer dis tooo.. DO U LIKE YOUR MUM? 2 Likes |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by Haywhymido(m): 8:04pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
therealdeal10:u said it all.They r soft-hearted. Dat's d reason. |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by tpiander: 8:11pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
Laitesmart:it's a pet peeve of mine when a jackass jumps out of nowhere and starts asking s.tupid questions as if I'm obliged to answer. Is your head correct at all or this is what's considered normal where you come from ? |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by Nobody: 8:15pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
my mom likes my sis than me so why should I love her.she is a fool |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by Xplicit1(f): 8:22pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
obiak4:Your head dey there. For me some of d reasons are dat mothers are more caring & soft hearted, they put their kids need b4 theirs. |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by Fkforyou(m): 11:34pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
Lol....cant believe they missed the sarcasm in that post. Nairaland newbies I guess. @ OP call it instincts or nature, everyone has that soft spot for their mother except if she was mean or cruel to them at their tender age. |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by Nobody: 1:08am On Oct 01, 2015 |
Fkforyou:I care for my father way more than my mother. I only respect my mother. I don't really "love" her. |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by Nobody: 1:50am On Oct 01, 2015 |
crackhaus:This is nairaland after all. *deep sigh* |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by cococandy(f): 2:08am On Oct 01, 2015 |
is this one a question? The moms dedicate more time to take care of their kids hence the kids appreciate their moms more. Anyone with half a brain should know that. But as things are changing and more dads are becoming hands on, you see a shift towards kids learning how important their fathers are and appreciating them accordingly. Sadly it can only happen for those who actually act like true loving fathers to their kids. Not the ones that create threads on nairaland to ask us if it's okay to babysit their own kids when the mom ain't around. Even if such a man is a mumu, he will have enough sense not to wonder why the kids will appreciate their mom when they grow up over him. It's not rocket science. Your reap what you sow. 9 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by Laitesmart(op): 5:59am On Oct 01, 2015 |
tpiander:Are u for real? I guess u must be feeling so high right now thinking u possess the poetic license to just type and respond to peoples comment anyhow.... Check it dear... U are as useless a sadist as any person can ever be.... Simpleton. Tot u were responsible before after reading ur first comment. Is it a must u comment?.. 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by Fkforyou(m): 6:28am On Oct 01, 2015 |
aim5:I guess she was unfair/ mean to you |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by lilmax(m): 6:41am On Oct 01, 2015*. Modified: 10:06am On Oct 01, 2015 |
Thats going to change,this generation of women(some) prefer to be strong hearted,prefer to be a man,focus more on career than children.....in the next five years come back to modify this topic Years to come, instead of saying "my mum's food is the best " it would be "our maid's food is so sweet " |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by Artistree: 8:36am On Oct 01, 2015 |
hbpeze:OMG |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by crackhaus: 8:52am On Oct 01, 2015 |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by Nobody: 9:35am On Oct 01, 2015*. Modified: 4:08pm On Nov 25, 2015 |
aim5:I love my mother....but the poor lady stands little chance when compared with my father I idolised my dad...he was this super -intelligent, calm, composed, influential, proud (not arrogant), fiercely loyal man (okay, he might have had a mild superiority thing going on there shaa)....I adored him It is said in some circles that my daddy issues is one of the two big reasons I am still single   ...Even when he was sick and I shrank from going close..it was because I could not bear to see him helpless...and so I stayed faaaar away in my heart (biggest regret)...anyway My mother is wonderful...the rare kind person that takes in or wants to take in total strangers who may be mentally ill...true ...who may borrow money to give people when she does not have....who will believe ANYTHING people tell her....who sees off her sons' girlfriends and tells me I am harsh when I try to make my brothers face maybe life and work instead of girls My mother's goodness is like this, I love her...but she literally floats in this world...unaware of wrong My father was the rational one...the cynic...the teacher...the ruler...I adored him. God had to take him and I had to do a lot of growing up to appreciate my mother..my unrealistic, trusting, good, child-like and over generous mother...strong too...and totally respected my dad...at times frustrating and stubborn too...hard to fit all these in one person..but yeah..that is my mama My dad was my cake...my mom is my icing So OP is not correct I choose both...but if pressed...my dad takes it 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by Nobody: 9:41am On Oct 01, 2015 |
Fkforyou:How did you come up with this guess from his post? It does not have to be, you know? Maybe he just loves his father more? |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by Nobody: 12:01pm On Oct 01, 2015 |
Fkforyou:Well no. She's hardworking and helps my dad, but I just don't have that connection with her. I respect her though. That's it. |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by Nobody: 12:02pm On Oct 01, 2015 |
milychocs:Hmm very rare for a girl to be closer to her father... But anyways, your post was interesting. 2 Likes |
| Re: Why Do Individuals Cherish Their Mothers more Than Their Fathers??? by Shymm3x: 2:28pm On Oct 01, 2015 |
This is somewhat subjective depending on the type of family you were raised in - broken and proper family structure - albeit it seems we tend to hear more spoken proclamation of love for mothers, while dads enjoy unspoken love. If you're from a broken home and you were raised by ya mum. Evidently, you'll always tell the world how much you love her and how much of a warrior she's. Then you have got a case where from infancy to childhood, cos most mums are always around, kids always tend to have more rapport with their - thus creating a strong bond. And it's generally easier to get along with the mum than the dad at that age. Then once you move from childhood to adolescent age - most girls tend to be closer to their dads, while most boys tilt towards mums. But once you move to adulthood (I can't speak for girls) - I believe most guys start appreciating their dads more. It's just a thing about experiencing the world and understanding what being a man is. Once you become privy to that as a guy, you'd adore ya dad for paving the way for you and trying his best possible to educate you from early about life - albeit you never understood back then. However, due to male ego and general male temperament...it's always some sort of unspoken love. Unlike chics who tend to make noise about it cos they're emotional beings. Women probably have the advantage based on publicised love and mums are easier to talk to - but I don't think most people from proper family structures cherish their mums than their dads. |
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