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Please this is a serious issue. I have realized that in recent times, a lot of ladies somehow notice me especially the matured ones.

Honestly there a lot of matured single ladies out there that are doing well career wise. I don't know who told them that I am searching for a life partner. It is kinda making my search tedious.

Being myself, when I notice those green lights, I try to chat up just to ease the lady up, because I have seen that one thing that annoys a lady sooo much is being ignored when she is giving a green light.

This is a serious case because the few I chatted up have come to like me a lot, asking me to get to know their parents or guardians or their house, and I am like 'not yet'! One was even telling me, 'promise me you won't leave me'. I smartly evaded that request. I did not ask her out. She came to me for a very little assistance and that was it.

How do I handle this situation. I don't want my relationship with them to give any of them false hopes. And believe me, I am not spending; not all ladies are after your money.

What do I do?

Mehn... You know your plans on marriage issues, cause girl go swear for you if you dump her after using her money and her whole being with promises when she trust you

So but if you're ready to get married, nothing get in touch with one after long survey



In other words, I dedicate this plot of lekki land to FTC Hustlers, am here for the first time

AwesomelyMade:
Please this is a serious issue. I have realized that in recent times, a lot of ladies somehow notice me especially the matured ones.

Honestly there a lot of matured single ladies out there that are doing well career wise. I don't know who told them that I am searching for a life partner. It is kinda making my search tedious.

Being myself, when I notice those green lights, I try to chat up just to ease the lady up, because I have seen that one thing that annoys a lady sooo much is being ignored when she is giving a green light.

This is a serious case because the few I chatted up have come to like me a lot, asking me to get to know their parents or guardians or their house, and I am like 'not yet'! One was even telling me, 'promise me you won't leave me'. I smartly evaded that request. I did not ask her out. She came to me for a very little assistance and that was it.

How do I handle this situation. I don't want my relationship with them to give any of them false hopes. And believe me, I am not spending; not all ladies are after your money.

What do I do?

you aren't a broke dude that's why they are all over you like 'labalaba' use your head and play along

agarawu23:
you aren't a broke dude that's why they are all over you like 'labalaba' use your head and play along

I have never really shown them money.....when they call me we talk like 15 or 20 minutes but when I call, we talk like 5 minutes and I request they call me back..and they do..hahahaha

Just be yourself around them and keep an open mind . Who knows, you might just be dissing the real woman meant for you

AwesomelyMade:
I have never really shown them money.....when they call me we talk like 15 or 20 minutes but when I call, we talk like 5 minutes and I request they call me back..and they do..hahahaha

now I am doubting your story you are broke as fvck and ladies still hang around you, na juju u dey use ?

"Promise me you won't leave me" just like that. Hehehe

Fear God o.

Learn to set boundaries,especially to those you don't all that fancy.You can't love everyone you know.

That's life. Those ladies will be giving some guys attitude but they're begging you for love. You can only pick one. The rest must go heartbroken. Don't try to be Mr Nice guy to all of them. It will destroy your relationship with the one you pick.

agarawu23:
now I am doubting your story you are broke as fvck and ladies still hang around you, na juju u dey use ?

ahahahaa....not all ladies are after money bro..... It's not about being broke or using juju, it's about making them want to do it, you give them sth to hear or talk about but this time they will be spending more of the air time

SUGARBEE:
Just be yourself around them and keep an open mind . Who knows, you might just be dissing the real woman meant for you

i try to be my real self when dealing with ladies......i don't know how to fake reality

macaranta:
Learn to set boundaries,especially to those you don't all that fancy.You can't love everyone you know.

Yeah...thanks! But Please can you suggest some kind of boundaries that work?

andromida:
"Promise me you won't leave me" just like that. Hehehe

Fear God o.

Hmm..Funny right..I myself was shocked when she said it and persisted I promise. But thank God I didn't promise.

Cc. Lalasticlala

AwesomelyMade:
Yeah...thanks! But Please can you suggest some kind of boundaries that work?

Ok for instance I have some really cool female friends,but they all belong to some categories.
There are some I know I can't date,so I avoid sharing emotional and personal topics with them.Also the issue of personal space...the ones you can't date ...try not to spend alone time with them so nobody "catches feelings"

op na Godwin!!

op na Godwin!!

AwesomelyMade:
Hmm..Funny right..I myself was shocked when she said it and persisted I promise. But thank God I didn't promise.

Cc. Lalasticlala

If you stop stringing the chics along they will stop asking for promises. Life is simple. True.

macaranta:
Ok for instance I have some really cool female friends,but they all belong to some categories.
There are some I know I can't date,so I avoid sharing emotional and personal topics with them.Also the issue of personal space...the ones you can't date ...try not to spend alone time with them so nobody "catches feelings"

Hmm. Good one. Thanks

andromida:
If you stop stringing the chics along they will stop asking for promises. Life is simple. True.

I don't understand what you mean by 'stringing',

U r one lucky guy...

Cutehector:
U r one lucky guy...

well...if thou sayest so

AwesomelyMade:
I have never really shown them money.....when they call me we talk like 15 or 20 minutes but when I call, we talk like 5 minutes and I request they call me back..and they do..hahahaha

[email] Dude, you dont value what you have till you lose it. [/email]

AwesomelyMade:
I have never really shown them money.....when they call me we talk like 15 or 20 minutes but when I call, we talk like 5 minutes and I request they call me back..and they do..hahahaha

arrh @least today a guy is saying good about naija ladies

But how old are they?

Laveda:
arrh @least today a guy is saying good about naija ladies

But how old are they?

I don't ask ladies their age but they should be around 24 to 30

Go find a wedding ring and pretend you're already married. Tell them whatever you want e.g. that your wife is in the UK for her P. HD and would soon be back.
Hang your sister's large picture in your sitting room and pretend she's your wife... .
In all, that those women make no demands on you does not mean they are not up to some mischievous scheming and calculations. I'm speaking from experience bro. Be real careful. Never allow them cook your food or wash anything for you because whoever feeds you controls you, jazz or no jazz
Finally, fear women, live long.

Oh jeez.

Why do nlers always rush to open thread anytime they say they got a little attention from someone?

AwesomelyMade:
Please this is a serious issue. I have realized that in recent times, a lot of ladies somehow notice me especially the matured ones.

Honestly there a lot of matured single ladies out there that are doing well career wise. I don't know who told them that I am searching for a life partner. It is kinda making my search tedious.

Being myself, when I notice those green lights, I try to chat up just to ease the lady up, because I have seen that one thing that annoys a lady sooo much is being ignored when she is giving a green light.

This is a serious case because the few I chatted up have come to like me a lot, asking me to get to know their parents or guardians or their house, and I am like 'not yet'! One was even telling me, 'promise me you won't leave me'. I smartly evaded that request. I did not ask her out. She came to me for a very little assistance and that was it.

How do I handle this situation. I don't want my relationship with them to give any of them false hopes. And believe me, I am not spending; not all ladies are after your money.

What do I do?

You certainly pulled them in too deep, and are now backing out out of insecurity, methinks.