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Pinopinoguy:
Let me register my presence; am Henry 38 by dec, i reside in lag and am happy to be part of this mature mind's thread.

Welcome on board bro.

PascalJ:
Pls inbox me ur wats app no or ur facebook name

are you looking to purchase hair ?

Of a truth, I'm not up to 30, still got like half a decade to go but my exposure to this thread has been enlightening, it may not be noticed directly but indirectly refreshing, likes of OP, toks2008 ,sihom and others have been making invaluable contributions, ideas like this could make me a better boyfriend. or rather perfect hubby in a foreseeable future
Keep em coming...

Hi everyone
Kitchen business is serious business ooo
I just came up for air.
Am going back to read back posts.
Hope everyone is fine?

sihom:
At Martins 301,

You asked why older women discriminate against younger men, I'll gist you a bit about my personal experience and hopefully you may understand.

Early last year (2014) at 32, I attempted to date a guy 5 years younger than me - first time ever I would attempt such a feat. The experience was for the most part an unpleasant & annoying one.

Daniel ( not his real name) wanted sex practically all the time and he had this obnoxious habit of calling incessantly at all hours of the day - common like who does that?

He would call at 5 am on his way to work - when I was either having my quiet time with Heaven, working out or just trying to wrap my mind and head around a new day. He would call during working hours when I was seriously pressured with tasks, and call again in the evenings.

This was someone I informed early on, that if you call me twice and I don't answer, pls send a text message and I'll get back to you as quickly as possible. Did he listen - no he didn't he just wore me out with calls. I felt severely harassed at the frequency of his calls and I am not exaggerating about the calls or this entire story.

Our phone conversations were often like this:

Me: Hi how was your day and what's happening with you.
Daniel: I am feeling Hot when was the last time you had sex.
Me: Can't we have a meaningful conversation without you bringing up sex?
Daniel: Ok, fine my day was ...... so what are you wearing now?

Exhausting conversation right? As if that wasn't bad enough the dude would ask me to come see him at his office after working hours during the week when you are trying to beat traffic and get home. Seeing him on a Friday would have been cool cos there's no work on Saturday but he never thought that way.

These are just a few incidents, the dude was too immature & unreasonable in how he conducted himself. I mentally cringe when I recall things and I say to myself - girl what the hell were you thinking?

I am extremely wary of men younger than me, Daniel put a sour taste in my mouth about that. That whole affair with him didn't last more than 4 months but I still cringe. I wasn't dating him for marriage's sake, I was just being spontaneous, trying something new & different.

I mean no offence to younger men but very often we are worlds apart in our emotional & mental maturity as well as in other things. I still prefer my men older than me - the older the better.

I must break the rule!

Girl, Lol, you did meet one hell of a guyyyy!

Well I've dated a lady who's 3 years older and it was the best I ever had!


Back to the sidelines...

I Love your comments Toks2008 really enlightening and matured. Sihom, love the blunt and matured way you clearly express yourself. You're the bomb guys! Glad I joined.

siamia:
Hi everyone
Kitchen business is serious business ooo
I just came up for air.
Am going back to read back posts.
Hope everyone is fine?

Welcome sis.hope you had a great service.

Talking about kitchen business..do you know that im a sucker for GOOD FOOD? i really dont know how ii will cope with a bad cook as a wife?

fairlyisabel:
sweetheart, mate and companion are always easy to come by. You can get anytime anywhere every thing that marriage can offer.

Hmm I beg to differ,its not the same with getting married but anyway to each his own right?if that works for you and you are genuinely happy then by all means ride on,happiness is the most important thing in this short life o and whatever makes you happy then hang on to it as much as you can. You ehnn you'll make a good politician o cos all my questions you didn't answer any of them you just give stylish reply smh if I catch you ehnn..lol

@everyone
it was not easy, but i am now up to date. as usual, there were some hilarious posts. like the one where pascal asks for uduak's contact, and she wants to know whether he's buying hair! Lol
And toks2008, who has been hinting at ladies in their 20s joining this thread.
Well, without fear or favour, I exercise my full authority to categorically state that this thread is for 30plus and single.
If ur 30th birthday is 2mro, God will preserve us till then, to welcome u in. Until then, don't let me catch u here ooo.
Toks, if u like the 20plus ladies...if u want to widen ur net to catch as many fishes as possible, just post ur number, and they will whatsapp u in camera.
To all the ladies and gents under 30, if u really like this thread, then I can set up something similar for u, and moderate it in such a way that the older ones will be begging to join!
This matter has been laid to rest. This thread is for 30plus and single.
Thanks.

OP

Toks2008:
I know you are not up to 30 yet so i understand your decision not to give out your number,nevertheless im curious to know your age cos you have a deep intellectual prowess that is endearing..

You must also undderstand that the best investment you can have is in a human being.

Many ladies tend to make a collosal blunder when they react harshly to a guy just because a guy approaches them.

Every guy you meet in life is an asset but ladies dont know this. I make friends like kilode and no lady i have ever met on nairalandd can come out to say i have ever asked her out and i stand challenged but they will tell you how wonderful my friendship have been to them.

If the op bcomes the first lady tomorrow and i gain access to her,trust me she cant deny me and as a budding politician that i am,when i climb the saddle of authority in the nearest future,i can never deny knowing everyone i have ever known.

The best time to be friends with great people is when they are ordinary people.

If this guy you turned down happens to be a governor would you have said No? at least if not for romance no one dares refuse giving a governor his or her phone number.

So please make this an habbit and give every man who ask for your contact a means of contact. It may not be your direct call line,you could have a fbook ID,twitter handle or linkedin account...trust me,even that tout you turned down harshly might be one of the armedrobbers that will prevent his gang from robbing you in future.

My advice to any other lady reading this is that they must understand that no matter how hot or classy they may be,that truck pusher has a right to approach them and they also have the right to turn him down but if they must do so,it must be done with proper decorum as it becomes totally immature to talk down on any man no matter his status simply because he approached you.

Im just trying to make common sense and i hope you got the drift.

True to most of what you have said but I have just a few people I call friends and yes I hope to widen the circle but regrettably, I cannot be friends with everyone neither can everyone be my friend.

I hope @smshola didn't think I was harsh because that wasn't my intention and if you were hurt, I am sorry.

I may not fit the criteria of this group but I am an old soul that is why I posted. I have found out that there are select people I can deeply converse with, the rest of acquaintances on all social media and even in phone, we barely have a passing conversation. When you hear guys complain of girls that reply with 'K' 'lol' (I am not saying I do that) this is usually the case. The desire to not want to displease or turn down every request.

So, that is what I was trying to avoid with smshola...even if he was a governor or president, I'd still refuse...statuses don't move me

Much love to the thread users...peace!

Toks2008:
All these ghost mode posters sef..abeg lets know you if you are a lady or man.

Ghost mode ke? Ghost mode deactivated

House please welcome me

I'm 34, lepa and single, ready to meet good people

My eyes is already on some beautiful faceless guys here..na shame crippled my first life..but I have put that behind me

Still 30 and above for everyone eh?
It is well *walks back to the sidelines*

siamia:
@everyone
it was not easy, but i am now up to date. as usual, there were some hilarious posts. like the one where pascal asks for uduak's contact, and she wants to know whether he's buying hair! Lol
And toks2008, who has been hinting at ladies in their 20s joining this thread.
Well, without fear or favour, I exercise my full authority to categorically state that this thread is for 30plus and single.
If ur 30th birthday is 2mro, God will preserve us till then, to welcome u in. Until then, don't let me catch u here ooo.
Toks, if u like the 20plus ladies...if u want to widen ur net to catch as many fishes as possible, just post ur number, and they will whatsapp u in camera.
To all the ladies and gents under 30, if u really like this thread, then I can set up something similar for u, and moderate it in such a way that the older ones will be begging to join!
This matter has been laid to rest. This thread is for 30plus and single.
Thanks.

OP

My recommendation stemed from the fact that a 28yr old lady will likely want to socialize with people in their 30s.

Every recommendation i give iis to broaden the thread responsibly in order to keep it alive and you can imagine how monotonous it would have been if only 40 plus people are on the thread but the traffic it gained and still gaining is as a result of adding the 30plus.

I also believe that many guys in their 40s would gladly join but judging from inception,i could observe that many single ladiies in their 30s are too timid to express themselves but by narrowing down the age bracket for ladies,more females will get on board which ofcourse will keep the thread more vibrant and this does not take away the fact that a man will always be iinterested in who he fancies regardless of the age.

The title may be if you are 26plus lady or 30plus guy and single lets talk,trust me,you will be proud of this thread.

Trust me this recommendaton is in the best interest of everyone and not about personal interest but as i wrote,its your thread and you have the final say.

Hello Tbaby...............

tbaby123:
Ghost mode ke? Ghost mode deactivated

House please welcome me

I'm 34, lepa and single, ready to meet good people

My eyes is already on some beautiful faceless guys here..na shame crippled my first life..but I have put that behind me

MzCorleone:
Still 30 and above for everyone eh?
It is well *walks back to the sidelines*

How old are you if i may ask?

VenusBetty:
but you reply isn't matured enough

You are a black beauty in every way, where have you been hiding your gorgeous self?!

Please i'm confused.. How do I start a topic in the diary section of nairaland

torqque7:
Hmm I beg to differ,its not the same with getting married but anyway to each his own right?if that works for you and you are genuinely happy then by all means ride on,happiness is the most important thing in this short life o and whatever makes you happy then hang on to it as much as you can. You ehnn you'll make a good politician o cos all my questions you didn't answer any of them you just give stylish reply smh if I catch you ehnn..lol

Lollll @ making a good politician. Na now I no say you no like me @ all. You like football? Chelsea fan, arsenal fan, man u? Which one?

Melish:
Please i'm confused.. How do I start a topic in the diary section of nairaland

lwkmd honestly relish i just cant stop laughing at your nauthy nature oh my.

You really love this thread o..kai

oya make una answer our baby o if anyone knows...kai

Toks2008:
How old are you if i may ask?

Will be 26 by Dec

tbaby123:
Ghost mode ke? Ghost mode deactivated

House please welcome me

I'm 34, lepa and single, ready to meet good people

My eyes is already on some beautiful faceless guys here..na shame crippled my first life..but I have put that behind me

Shame kwpa

If im a lady and i really want a duse walahi i will give him vivid signs and if he makes the move on me and thinks i will be a zombie for him then he is on a long thing.

Many ladies fail to realize that you could prove difficult to get yet be easy prey for guys who are dogged and dangerous.

i always tell single mature ladies,come out of your shell and be expressive. Prove your worth to that guy even if you showed interest first.

Yes you can woo a guy and still have him crave for you..its all about how you comport urself.

MzCorleone:
Will be 26 by Dec

Apparently you are mature for marriage agewise and thiis was why i clamored for the inclusion of younger ladies above 25 and except you are morally deficient,you wont be among those ladies who still want to play around and ofcourse guys in their 30s are ideal candidate for you and they are here on this thread.

But unfortunately the OP wants it as it is.

[email][/email]

Toks2008:
Shame kwpa

If im a lady and i really want a duse walahi i will give him vivid signs and if he makes the move on me and thinks i will be a zombie for him then he is on a long thing.

Many ladies fail to realize that you could prove difficult to get yet be easy prey for guys who are dogged and dangerous.

i always tell single mature ladies,come out of your shell and be expressive. Prove your worth to that guy even if you showed interest first.

Yes you can woo a guy and still have him crave for you..its all about how you comport urself.

Call me old school but i cannot woo a man
I can give him the necessary signals and attention,but to outrightly woo him laye kojo.

Sparkles003:
[email][/email]
Call me old school but i cannot woo a give.
I can give him the necessary signals and attention,but to outrightly woo him laye kojo.

I dont even advice you do that considering the guy codes.

btw nice dp though not too conspicous lol

Still waiting till you consider we below 30...

add me if you want top quality virgin hair at very affordable prices. bbm 5908E5FE Mfon.

fairlyisabel:
sweetheart such a woman does not exist. The bible was asking that as a question. No woman on earth is like that mbok.

I implore you not to quote the Bible out of context, it wasn't a question, that was advice from king Lemuel, and is even referred to as an "oracle from his mother"...read verses 29-31

just because you don't believe there's true love doesn't mean there isn't...such women do exist

Toks2008:
Apparently you are mature for marriage agewise and this was why i clamored for the inclusion of younger ladies above 25 and except you are morally deficient,you wont be among those ladies who still want to play around and ofcourse guys in their 30s are ideal candidate for you and they are here on this thread.

But unfortunately the OP wants it as it is.

Its a good thing we have someone like you clamoring for the age limit to be reduced.

OP has put her foot down on the limit and we can't help but respect her wishes. We will be @ are designated location tho.

MzCorleone:
Its a good thing we have someone like you clamoring for the age limit to be reduced.

OP has put her foot down on the limit and we can't help but respect her wishes. We will be @ are designated location tho.

Yeah the op is someone i love in personality and much more so let her have her stand but for me i love making friends so xheck my contact on page 3 or 4 and lets be friends.

cheers.

Toks2008:
I dont even advice you do that considering the guy codes.

btw nice dp though not too conspicous lol

Thanks.some of us prefer to be conspicous

Toks2008:
Welcome sis.hope you had a great service.

Talking about kitchen business..do you know that im a sucker for GOOD FOOD? i really dont know how ii will cope with a bad cook as a wife?

you could teach her if you can cook...alternatively, a 3 months training in a catering school can work wonders

fairlyisabel:
Lollll @ making a good politician. Na now I no say you no like me @ all. You like football? Chelsea fan, arsenal fan, man u? Which one?

Haba being a politician is not a bad thing now just no thief money like diezani Alison when u become a politician lol. hmm am not really into football like the average nija guy o,but I like arsenal and man u sha..you de find who to yab abi?aspa chelseas loss?God pass u....so I take it you like football Abi?where do you belong?.by the way am very much interested in the story you said you cudnt share here in public, so how do i hear/read it privately?