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Not all ladies are desperate

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You may have come across several post where girls/ladies are termed "Desperate" because of the believe that every girl's mind and thought is marriage.
You may be wrong,and you may also be right. Follow me

1. YOU MAY BE RIGHT: During my undergraduate days in the university, I met several girls and all they thought and talked about was marriage. One told me "She prays to meet a nice guy in camp(NYSC) because when you leave camp, husband go hard o" Though she is through with service and still not married till this moment,her entire mindset was marriage marriage and marriage. If you visit an female hostel, 90% of their discussion is marriage,boyfriend,How my dream husband should look like,Tall,handsome,No pot belle oo etc... I had a friend some years ago and we were in the same choir in church. She was 17 and I was 19-20years, but her thinking then really scare me because if a girl her age can think of not marrying any guy except he drives a car, then she might miss it. According to her, she said any guy that doesn't drive a car is not a man and she can't marry any man without a car. If a girl at 17years grow up with such mindset, I wonder what would happen if no man with car comes. She is still single today and I guess she is waiting for Mr nice car guy.
During my undergraduate days(final year), A lecturer insulted all the girls in class because only one girl was engaged. He said the other girls were not wife material and that is why no guy find them interesting for marriage. Because of that,the engaged lady always wore her engagement ring to class and everyone was jealous and she made fun of them by showing whoever wishes to see her #263,000 diamond engagement ring. That girl wore that engagement ring till we graduated and no one ever heard from her. Not too long, someone added me on Facebook and to my greatest surprise,she was the one. We got chatting and she broke the news and narrated how she parted with that guy that initially engaged her,made love to her and got tired till he realised she had bad character and can't fit in as a wife. I couldn't say a word but to say sorry to her. She is back single,searching and waiting to mingle while 60% of the other girls in class then are married and some of them even with two or three kids. What am I saying, there are girls that discuss marriage like its a do or die affair; You hear some of them say "infact if I don't marry next year like chioma, I'll become a Rev Sister". Some of this girls have totally nothing to offer to a man or their marriage other than sex,cook and sex.

2.YOU MAY BE WRONG: While most people see ladies as desperate, Every lady is not desperate for a husband. I know so many ladies that got too busy that their parents were inviting some men to the house to have dinner or lunch so their daughter and the men could get along,become friends and work out something.Some worked, but some did not.
So many lady out there don't just want any man for a husband. Apart from having a car,nice house and good dress sense, most ladies want a guy with Brain.. A goal-getter and a game changer. Some ladies are too busy fulfilling their purpose and that alone mean so much to them other than end up in a man's house sleeping and lazy. A lady with a purpose is not desperate because she knows her worth. Every girl/lady with self worth is hardly moved by negative discussions. Marriage don't move them because they know their worth. Men come begging and not them killing themselves just to change the miss for a Mrs status.
Most purposeful ladies have so much to carry-out and if you talk about marriage to them, you won't like their reaction. Every desperate "chick" doesn't mind who comes; just have some little cash,nice apartment,brain or no brain a desperate "chick" will cheerfully accept(dream come true)
For the purposeful non desperate lady, she doesn't want just any man but a man with vision,passion and a man that can assist her fulfil her purpose. A purposeful lady knows marriage doesn't complete her so she is passionate in discovering her purpose,fulfilling them and still enjoying the marriage union. She knows her worth so she doesn't go begging playboys to put a ring on the finger even if it cost millions. Non Desperate ladies marry when it goes hand in hand with their vision and purpose. Unlike a desperate chick that won't mind an engagement ring from a*ba, a non desperate lady is always reserve because MR right must come...She knows her worth,so she is not desperate.