₦airaland Forum

Marriage, they say, is the 'legal' union between a man and a woman. The term, 'legal' in this definition means that it is accepted or supported according to the common customs and traditions of the people and backed by the constitution of the land.

It is pitiful that the Nigerian society has been so monetized and materialized to the extent where this 'legal' institution is now seen as a business venture...or to say, a financial contract where a young man should belt himself up very well before embarking on.

I don't think marriage should even be seen among the lists of things or events a young man saves up for! If marriage has not been 'bastardized' and monetized in Nigeria, why do young men save up cash as if they are getting prepared to acquire a land, car or house? What stops a young man from paying the agreed bride price to the girl's family if they both love each other? I mean, must every one in the entire community be involved in the unnecessary merry-making that goes with this new type of 'business venture'? Why can't those resources be saved for business that can grow and give the unborn children an everlasting joy in life?

We Nigerians know how to copy the evils of the white people quickly but we are very slow to copy the reasonable aspects of their way of life . In other climes, friends and families come together to observe light merriment and after that, the young man is allowd to retire to his house with his new bride. Not in Nigeria!!! If such happens, people would murmur for weeks on how 'poor' and 'quiet' the marriage is!

A young man graduates, struggles to get a job; if he finally gets one, it might just be sufficient to take care of his immediate needs! Coupled with this, he would have to save to get an apartment, buy a car and at the same time, save for marriage! . As a man, you must also live up to the upkeep of the family or else, the 'contract' becomes shaky and breaks!!!

This is the main reason why male life expectancy in Nigeria is shamefully low!!!

Oya, where those small boys wey think say Nigerian marriage na beans? Dem dey 'propose' to imaginary babes for another man thread!

Cos it takes two to tangle

Many things has changed and that's why you see many people cohabiting nowadays because of the high cost of marriage but anyhow sha, what doing is what doing well

pet4ril:
Many things has changed and that's why you see many people cohabiting nowadays because of the high cost of marriage but anyhow sha, what doing is what doing well

A time will come when ladies will be indiscriminately impregnated just to start a family without a dime paid! It is already happening in most southern communities in Nigeria!

because marriage is not cheap

Rapmoney:
A time will come when ladies will be indiscriminately impregnated just to start a family without a dime paid! It is already happening in most southern communities in Nigeria!

hmmmm

kelvyn7:
because marriage is not cheap

Cheap? People celebrate weddings in Nigeria; not marital life!

Rapmoney:
Cheap? People celebrate weddings in Nigeria; not marital life!

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hmmm......idodo oro. Some after celebrating d wedding, few months later d marital life colapse.

Rapmoney:
Cheap? People celebrate weddings in Nigeria; not marital life!

Yeah, agree with u

kelvyn7:
Yeah, agree with u

That's why you find out that many plan for the wedding but not for life after it!

allytinted:
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hmmm......idodo oro. Some after celebrating d wedding, few months later d marital life colapse.

A couple in Warri sold their gold wedding ring just to keep up!