400billionman:


She wan marry fellow dokita nah.

na WA o. na doctor damage fellow doctor like dis. na WA o

400billionman:


She wan marry fellow dokita nah.

na WA o. na doctor damage fellow doctor like dis. na WA o dem suppose probe d mumu wen allow animal graduate

I am only saying that the hospital should carry out a thorough investigation. I wish the law enforcements would pick interest too, with or without the family's consent to investigate.

That is what is done in sane societies. Every death is treated as suspicious as long as it wasn't due to natural causes.

This woman was very small and petite. She could have been pushed down that building.

You don't just rule something a suicide just because a woman turned up dead on the sidewalk. Irrespective of her medical history and old cuts to the wrists!
On her wedding day, she wore an armless gown. She definitely didn't have any cuts then....

annibro:


On point. I was a victim. I ran after 1yr of marriage & today am Hale, Happy & Hearty with a Tall, Dark, Handsome, Young, Righteous Man enjoying our Lives 2geda in Love, Peace & Harmony.
To God be the Glory

Thank God for your life dear. I wish our women where as strong as you.

dalu:
I described the injuries... The story is she jumped off the second floor

She jumped off with a nylon bag around her head? Really?

annibro:


Prov 6: 16 - 19....."God also hates a proud look & a Lying tongue" etc but pipu go away wit ds all day & only remember 2 quote "God hates Divorce". D Bible says "d Letter Killeth but D Spirit gives Life". All ve sinned & fall short of D Glory of God. D woman with 5 husbands in D Bible was 4given.
My Dear, one mesage I ve 4 ur Friends is dat, Don't Condemn urself & Don't allow anyone Condemn U. Only God has D Power 2 Judge & He's Merciful 2 forgive.
Only d Sin of Blasphemy against D HolySpirit is unpardonable Luke 12:10.
Get ds books 4 dem;
1) Where is God wen it hurts by Philip Yancey
2) Divorce & Remarriage by Guy Duty
3) Marriage, divorce & Remarriage by Keneth Hagins
4) Wen u see d Invisible, u'll do D Impossible by Oral Roberts
Ds books help me a lot in my recovery process. 4get Naija pastors; dey play religion without D Word. Only D Word can make U free

my God in heaven will definitely bless u; I really wish we have sensible women like u out there, that won't allow religion make them plain foolish!!!
The American society of psychologist, are making a move to classify people that cannot make sensible decisions on the basis of religion, as mentally deranged. I in my humble opinion think remaining in a marriage like this Becos of ur pastor qualifies under mental derangement...
Truth be told I donot feel sorry 4 dis woman at all; she truely deserve what she got... to imagine an enlightened,pretty, fully educated woman with wonderful pay... choose to die like this; what a pitty.
Those that advice her to stay, should please make sure her body remains in that house; they should make sure it stays in same room with that man....


FOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOLS!!!

The day my sister told me her husband was incessantly abusing her domestically! That was the day I ended that so called marriage; i'm helping her process her divorce papers as I write this, despite various plea 4rm her man; as I have told her; a violent man will remain a Violent Man; Nothing can change them...

WOMEN: NO FOOLISH UNION IS WORTH UR LIFE

Raymondenyi:
my God in heaven will definitely bless u; I really wish we have sensible women like u out there, that won't allow religion make them plain foolish!!!
The American society of psychologist, are making a move to classify people that cannot make sensible decisions on the basis of religion, as mentally deranged. I in my humble opinion think remaining in a marriage like this Becos of ur pastor qualifies under mental derangement...
Truth be told I donot feel sorry 4 dis woman at all; she truely deserve what she got... to imagine an enlightened,pretty, fully educated woman with wonderful pay... choose to die like this; what a pitty.
Those that advice her to stay, should please make sure her body remains in that house; they should make sure it stays in same room with that man....


FOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOLS!!!

The day my sister told me her husband was incessantly abusing her domestically! That was the day I ended that so called marriage; i'm helping her process her divorce papers as I write this, despite various plea 4rm her man; as I have told her; a violent man will remain a Violent Man; Nothing can change them...

WOMEN: NO FOOLISH UNION IS WORTH UR LIFE

Thank the good Lord she has a sister like you! I will not understand a woman who can let another fellow human being beat her to nonsense. A man who was born another day from you, had a life before you, saw you and decided you were good enough to marry after your parents did all the work, now decides it is his right to be a god in your life and manhandle you?! Something even the creator has not done, yet has the right to if He so willed?

And we have the audacity to say a tradition allows it and a man believes it as true. A tradition allows you to tear someone apart because you paid bride price? I don't get it and really want a woman who is abused and reading this to consider very carefully. Five minutes before you met the man, you were living and surviving. Five minutes later does not change you into his property. Your parents did all they did so you will have value, do not let any human being OWN that value. If you have no parents, still God made you with value and if He says you have an intrinsic right to happiness, peace, joy and life, He God has given no other human being the right to take that value He has put on you.

For the men reading this that are abusive, understand that you can not treat another human being like that and prosper long term. You might be prospering short term but at some point, might be older age you will pay. I have seen an example of that. You can not treat God's daughter like an animal and think He will not put an account on all you are doing. If you feel an inner need to exert force over her because that is the only way you know how to be a man, please leave the house and the marriage alone.

Concerning this case, it will be a shame if her colleagues just let this end this way. No external investigation? She jumped from a two story building and can sustain those kinds of injuries? It is a pity no one will be bold enough to fight for her.

dalu:
No it's not a well known fact.. Hestia worked with me for years.. She came in in a pool of blood with a nylon bag over her head face smashed in chest and arms fractured.. Husband told us she had a history of depression and suicidal attempts and that her family know this.. For now we are working with that.. The family may or may not confirm this.. She's had a full body scan post mortem and is in the morgue.. Please don't speculate and cause unnecessary pain to her 2 kids

And how did she fracture her two arms by herself? How did she inflict a cut on her own forehead to the point of piercing the bone?

Why would she put a nylon bag over her own head. Why didn't the husband remove it?

You say you knew her for years, did she at any time show signs of mental illness? Where is her file?

Her husband is a consultant pathologist in the same luth right? So his people at going to be in charge of the autopsy, right?

This doesn't look suspicious to you?

Painfull loss of a childhood friend. Same primary, secondary, and tertiary schools attended. Primary school classmate. Calm, angelic, very intelligent and decorous. Sad.

dalu:
yeah about that too.. Sometimes jumpers cover their eyes or faces so they don't see death sort of a check against last minute dissuation...especially common in serial failed attempts.. Which they claim she had done..

Have read your update.
So even her unit members are corroborating the story.
Hestia? Suicidal?
Such a lovely and intelligent lady, always sat at the front of the class, always cracking jokes, always talking that with her small frame she will achieve great things... I can't believe it.
You say she came in with slashed wrists more than once? If she was having issues why didn't she tell her friends? They were all around her!
I just can't believe it.

onosprince:
Too much bad news in this Buhari regime

The husband started beating her since GEJ's regime

LordReed:


She jumped off with a nylon bag around her head? Really?

Even I have never heard of this. And that's saying something.

What a shame! I still find it unbelievable how a nice and happy family relationship can aggravate the suicidal tendency of the late doc. It would be an unpleasant and depressing /distressing situation that caused it, especially when there appeared to be no ways of escape. And to the person stressing that he knows them so well, did you live with them? How are you so sure that the man never battered her? What if the man actually threw her down the 2 storey building? At least that's a possibility when/if abuse was happening. I think this case should be investigated properly and don't be too much in a hurry to declare the husband innocent. If the woman had suicidal tendencies, what steps did the man take to alleviate or aggravate the situation? That man is prime suspect, forget about whether the woman 's family absolved him or not. Chances are that he threw her down in a moment of rage(in which case, he's the one who needs psychiatric attention.

This case should be properly investigated by the Lagos State government and the finding should be made available to the public.

Most Nigerians hate scandal and its possible the families will not want any public attention but in other for our society to get better a proper investigation should be made.

DrJayKay:


Thanks for the info though. But it isn't enough to say suicide, by what means? How was she found? Did she jump from height or jump in front of a train??
Or what?

million thanks for the info. The husband was my classmate @ Government College Ibadan and the Chairman of our set(82) He is such a gentle soul. I was so shattered when the stupid abuse rumor first surfaced because Kayode is just not the type at all and I was just praying that the real truth come out. May her soul rest in peace.

May her soul RIP
I wonder how she managed to jump out of a building or jump in front of a car,damage one side of her body then walk to the house or where she was found then put a cellophane bag over her head
HOW THE HELL IS THAT POSSIBLE??
Not to point fingers o but if the person she's living with is a pathologist,isn't it remotely possible (if im to assume the worst)that the whole thing was staged and a story cooked up? And then for an autopsy to be carried out by the colleagues of the same person in this naija??
A thorough investigation should be carried out if possible by pathologists in a totally different place for the case to be unbiased because already the story doesn't add up.if she was murdered,it could be a thief,musnt be her husband that killed her.Let murder be ruled out first then suspects arraigned.

For those saying he's gentle,he's kind,please how do people that perpetuate domestic violence look? Do you expect them to carry placard saying I beat my wife or I beat my husband?? NEVER!! It's usually people who you would never ever suspect.Marriages where all appears to be too perfect.

So now it's now being said that she was suicidal because she's dead and can't defend herself? Chaii. Depression is an ugly disease so when did it start? What drove her to cutting herself? Where are her friends? Where did rumors of domestic violence come from.If indeed she was being beaten up and there are whispers that means she at least told someone.Are they afraid to speak up?Theres definitely someone who knows.And families are always quick to avoid scandals because fingers will be pointed at them for allowing and maybe coercing their child to remain in a bad marriage.Who knows?

For someone to cut herself or be so depressed it means she was deeply unhappy,This extent of depression is hard/ impossible to hide infact functioning on a day to day basis qould have been difficult for her.How come none of her friends knew she had this sort death wish? Then again if she was being beaten up,chances are that she was isolated from friends and family.

Unfortunately this is Naija so chances of justice or at least a clean investigation are zero.

I hope she's finally found peace.

Nb someone said jumpers cover their faces before jumping,why class her a jumper? Has she jumped before?How many jumpers cover their faces?So she secured the bag tied it well well then jumped?

Her wedding dress was sleeveless so no cuts on her wrists so that at least shows that she became severely depressed after marriage, does that not at least say something?A very happy marriage with a suicidal wife?

Many doctors are depressed and are getting treatment I don't see how that would destroy her budding surgical career after all she was carrying out her duties excellently despite her misery.Where is the psychiatrist and where are her notes?I hope this is investigated and a statement put out.

All the explanations sound so convenient,too perfect but then who am I to judge?

Raymondenyi:
I Think she deserves to die!!!


As enlightened as she is, working class specialist with good pay, u still choose to stay in an abusive marriage; it only tells the kind of person she is, her personality... she deserves what she wanted...


Women and Men, say No to domestic violence!!!

It is folly to judge a one sided story. You don't really know what happened and you jumped to conclusion that her husband was responsible.

Don't believe evey news you read online or Nigerian newspapers, there is no credibility in them. People just write things these days based on what they think and not on investigation or truths.

The topic is even more annoying. LUTH Doc. dies through DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
Haba, you people should use sense na, what if you are wrong. Just what if it was something else and not domestic violence.

Fear God oooooo

5minsmadness:


And how did she fracture her two arms by herself? How did she inflict a cut on her own forehead to the point of piercing the bone?

Why would she put a nylon bag over her own head. Why didn't the husband remove it?

You say you knew her for years, did she at any time show signs of mental illness? Where is her file?

Her husband is a consultant pathologist in the same luth right? So his people at going to be in charge of the autopsy, right?

This doesn't look suspicious to you?

Sir kindly read through all my previous posts your questions have answers within them.. Thanks

#say no to domestic violence. its such a shame that people will read all this and still stay put in violent marriages
even the holy books say Dont be violent... and also Dont inconvenient itself to make other ppl convenient...

So sad, I hope what is happening to some Nigerian Medical professionals is not creeping to Nigeria.

cooldee and dalu I am disappointed at the way you both are sounding defensive, u say the husband is innocent
yet u can't prove this cos breadfruit said something that really struck me how did the nylon bag get to her head..
I am suspecting u guys were paid to defend your friend or you want to believe Mr Thomas did it..
just few question from me that needs clarifications
1) before she got married was she depressed
2)the cuts started when
3) If she was a friend she must have talked to u about it..
pls anybody that really knows her should help us out cos domestic violence must stop... same thing happened to a banker few years ago same excuses were given too that she is suicidal until we discovered she was killed by her husband.. #stop domestic violence now...

jaydee87:
cooldee and dalu I am disappointed at the way you both are sounding defensive, u say the husband is innocent
yet u can't prove this cos breadfruit said something that really struck me how did the nylon bag get to her head..
I am suspecting u guys were paid to defend your friend or you want to believe Mr Thomas did it..
just few question from me that needs clarifications
1) before she got married was she depressed
2)the cuts started when
3) If she was a friend she must have talked to u about it..
pls anybody that really knows her should help us out cos domestic violence must stop... same thing happened to a banker few years ago same excuses were given too that she is suicidal until we discovered she was killed by her husband.. #stop domestic violence now...

wow.. Paid me a surgeon.. Wow.. This is my number 07038564445.. Check on truecaller.. We can talk and compare notes.. 1.yes apparently she had issues her dad prof idiodi confirmed it
2. We can't truly say when the cuts started
3. Even her closest friends didn't know about.. She's a surgeon.. Would you allow a surgeon with depression to operate on you?.. Do you realise the damage it would cause to her career?

To further buttress why do you think her dad a renowned prof on Benin hasn't pressed for reparation. He surely can't be scared of Thomas who's years younger, less accomplished and infinitely less connected.
It's good to have a high index of domestic violence but very bad to falsely label people without due knowledge

Please do call if you have questions

dalu:
hestia is essentially childlike.. 5'2.. Barely 50kg.. A jump from the second floor can cause that kinda harm.. I should know.. It's my field

cheifo, so my theory was right, she actually did jump from a storey building...

dalu:
wow.. Paid me a surgeon.. Wow.. This is my number 07038564445.. Check on truecaller.. We can talk and compare notes.. 1.yes apparently she had issues her dad prof idiodi confirmed it
2. We can't truly say when the cuts started
3. Even her closest friends didn't know about.. She's a surgeon.. Would you allow a surgeon with depression to operate on you?.. Do you realise the damage it would cause to her career?

To further buttress why do you think her dad a renowned prof on Benin hasn't pressed for reparation. He surely can't be scared of Thomas who's years younger, less accomplished and infinitely less connected.
It's good to have a high index of domestic violence but very bad to falsely label people without due knowledge

Please do call if you have questions

Makes sense. Really sad that this happened. As I said before I think we should let he family grieve in peace and leave the husband alone. Nobody knows. Let the investigation be done and the results will tell.


Thanks for all the updates.






Ps: this thread has cemented the fact that many people don't even read again. They just look at the topic and comment on it. Also the MODs should stop be having like the illiterate bloggers and remove that domestic violence from the topic. Thanks.

azzima:
million thanks for the info. The husband was my classmate @ Government College Ibadan and the Chairman of our set(82) He is such a gentle soul. I was so shattered when the stupid abuse rumor first surfaced because Kayode is just not the type at all and I was just praying that the real truth come out. May her soul rest in peace.

you can't know somebody if he/she is not your husband/wife.. thats how they paint my father "humble soul" humble soul indeed. u can be his twin brother,but the way he will relate with you is different from his wife. thats how people used to see my father out there as a very generous,nice,caring man e.t.c. but he was a monster. sincerely looking at him as an outsider (he will look as an angel to u) though i was very young but i can remember the beating,d tears n settlement.he will get down from his car n drag my mum down for telling him she wants to buy christmas cloth n chicken for the children.my mum stayed in marriage for her children which i dont advice anyone now as i'm now grown up.
i am a student right now at medilag- luth, pls to correct the mistake-her husband works at lasuth not luth pls.
Dr Thomas was a doctor we as students looked up to. i dont believed she killed herself. she wont jump down and leave her two children behind -NO, she won't. she is a black woman not a white one.,she wont leave her students thats looking up to her behind.NO She won't. Someone pushed her if at all the story is correct... which i doubt. the gov should take this up, the medical coucil should take this up if her family permits.
If she can still perform surgeries and came to luth the day before her death. i dont think she was depressed to the extent of ending it.
what i have come to realize is that a woman beater will be a woman beater no matter your level of education or status in the society. as boyfriends beat girlfriends even in this century.
R.I.p Dr Thomas. your love,teaching and encouragement will be missed.

annibro:


Thanks dear, its was trully an experience. D truth of d matter is, d signs are always der frm d onset but we tend 2 overlook it. Desperation made me do it as I felt all my younger ones were married. Also I was misled by Big Anties(advisers), who say der are powers dat don't want me 2 marry & its a usual norm in all marriages 2 ve misunderstandings, dat sooner dis tins will be over.
But one driving force dat pushed me 2 tek dat bold step was each time I remember d home I come frm & how my parents lived in penury just 2 see me tru d university & how dey mite never enjoy d fruit of deir labor if I allow some1 kill me in marriage.
One tin dat mek me laf each time I luk bak was d day d Judge gave d final verdict 4d annulment of d union, I went straight 2d market 2 sell my gold wedin ring & branch Mr Biggs 2 enjoy my freedom frm d cash
Am putting up a book on dis 2 save other souls.

God bless you my dear. You have the balls to do what so many are ashamed of doing. They rather continue to suffer and smile.

May your children call you blessed. May they applaud your boldness and thank God for their father. May your husband continue to celebrate you and protect you. Well done!

dalu:
Just spoke with her unit members.. It seems it's confirmed that it's a suicide.. The family reached out in support to the husband and confirmed the previous history of depression and won't be taking anything up.. Boys heading to her home in ajao estate.. End

But how does one commit suicide and do all those things to themselves? How do you mutilate yourself to the point of death?

stonecoldcafe:


But how does one commit suicide and do all those things to themselves? How do you mutilate yourself to the point of death?

http://www.m.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/self-injuring-hurting

I think the injury(ies), if severe enough, is what leads to death.

dalu:
wow.. Paid me a surgeon.. Wow.. This is my number 07038564445.. Check on truecaller.. We can talk and compare notes.. 1.yes apparently she had issues her dad prof idiodi confirmed it
2. We can't truly say when the cuts started
3. Even her closest friends didn't know about.. She's a surgeon.. Would you allow a surgeon with depression to operate on you?.. Do you realise the damage it would cause to her career?

To further buttress why do you think her dad a renowned prof on Benin hasn't pressed for reparation. He surely can't be scared of Thomas who's years younger, less accomplished and infinitely less connected.
It's good to have a high index of domestic violence but very bad to falsely label people without due knowledge

Please do call if you have questions

Must people Dont like to drag issues esp wen the media is involved.
have had cases where a young girl of 8 was raped by her headmaster and
the parent said they Dont want to take the case to court..
we should start doing the right thing by being responsible for every act done.
I think the death should have been reverted if she was managed properly
we av seen depressed people get better by showing them love and companionship
Mr thomas is guilty of this from my deduction cos if he managed her well it wont get to that.
and I blame her father too cos he should have done more since he know the ailment of his daughter.
well I will give u a call on Sunday.
but all in all the ngo's need to look into domestic violence even naptip.
av a great sunday...

I just spoke to sources close to the family and they confirm it's suicide and this is her second attempt in weeks after a failed attempt in her parent's house a while back.

All the family needs now is support and prayers.

FOR ALL THE SPECULATORS AND RUMOUR MONGERS HERE....AND TO THE HALFBAKED JOURNALIST THAT STARTED THIS WRONG INFORMATION ON NAIRALAND AND ALSO TO ALL THE PEOPLE THAT BELIEVE ITS A RESULT OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, GO CHECK THE ACCURATE REPORT IN SUNDAY PUNCH 18TH OCTOBER. YOU WILL SEE A WELL RESEARCHED REPORT. ITS ON PAGE 5 AND THERES A SMALL HEADING ON THE FRONT PAGE.

annibro:


Well said. As a victim, my 'ex' was & funny enuf is still a senior Pastor in one of ds most respected churches dat ladies don't wear jewelries. Wen I started opening up no one believed me cos of his comportment outside until he displayed it in d opened one fateful day.
Pipu had compelled me 2 go report 2d church authourity but becos I know how I mite be compelled 2 endure 2 keep d story silent cos of d image of d church & his position, I was more concerned 4 my life. I went 2 court myself 2 get my life & freedom back. 2day am Free 2d glory of God

I'm so happy for you, there are many women still in terribly abusive relationships that don't even know and have no avenue of leaving.

It's quite heart-breaking to see a human maltreat another human he is supposed to love and care for.

I'm happy for you sister, that you had the courage and strength to stay NO to abuse.

I also wish you all the best and for God to replenish whatever you may have lost in the experience.

I have been through this too, it's not as easy for the victim as our people think.