₦airaland Forum

zeongeon:
Chineke !!! relocate preek kwa...nothing I won't hear on this forum..you with your gra gra when you see wahala you go humble...your type will soak her pillow with tears.

Just pray you don't experience a die hard cheat.

lezz:
Call me a sexist or chauvinist but a woman cheating is a whole lot different than a man cheating.

Modernity cannot equate it to be same. The consequences aren't same.

Religion, morality and personal ethics holds a man to faithfulness.

lezz:
Your lust isn't anywhere near what a man goes through.

If I should inject you with a drop of testosterone, you won't be shopping for cloths and spending 30 minutes in front of a mirror.

You won't be playing hard to get
Or needing a man to take you to fancy eateries,

You will be _fucking us just for the hell of it.

Kgdavid:
That is the definition of cutting off your nose to spite your face. The fact is, you can't live with your husband, with whom you have shared so much of your life, as strangers in the same house and be happy.

Airpure:
OP I can bet you aunt died from a thinking and worry related illness. Like High BP. May her soul rest in perfect peace .

Thanks for the story I guess women should tolerate a cheating husband til they die so the husband can be free to do it more. U said he never go married again like its cos he loved his wife so much. Think of it why will he get married again. Guess he has kids now so why tie him self down with one woman when he can have as many as he wants.

RIP to all women that died of a broken heart.

daretodiffer:
What assertion? You are not very bright to make an assertion in the first place therefore I am going to pass.

I pity the woman that puts up with you. Too many dumbass thinking that they are smart because they are men.


You aren't smart darling. Don't ever forget that.

PunkyVeer:
You asked for my opinion, now it's not good enough? I didn't tell him to be a slut, so basically, I can even move to the end of the world if that's what I feel will give me inner peace. He stops to matter the minute he decides to step out on me, so I won't be considerate of his feelings when I'm making decisions about MY life & what matters to ME. Why should I care how he feels?

Kgdavid:
hold up, i didnt say anything about his feelings....it's all about yours. Would you really be happy living that way? I sincerely doubt it but if you insist... I just want to make the point that sometimes even though a wrong deed cannot be reversed, in relationships, 2+2 could be whatever you want it to be.

A man cheats on you and you can't go back in the past to change it but is packing up and calling it quits guaranteed a happier ending than sucking it up and staying put, not for his happiness but for yours?

akike:
I hate people who nag and I like me a man not the bunch of you with low self esteem.

A man who has my respect day and night. Who knows I will be always be there for him

Joy1706:
So you WILL divorce her ba? What is different? Does the woman not feel the same pain, hurt, betrayal, disgust men feel? Abeg, I'm done here. Can't stand hypocrites

daretodiffer:
I forgot to mention, this is psychology not biology

daretodiffer:
Apology for what? Nigerians have come again o

Would I have if I knew she was dead? No
Am I remorse for using such words on her? Yes
Do I have to apologise? No
Why? Because it has been done and the op is too silly to admit his own mistakes and too silly to accept one


I can attack his aunt. Why? Because he used his aunt's case to attack all women.
Can I see that I shouldn't have attacked her? yes, because I realised that I could have insulted him for not recognising that his aunt's case was different and I should have explained his aunt's actions in a much clearer way without insulting her.

Can you blame me? Not really. he attacked me first with his aunt's actions.





Are you biased? Yeah, you wouldn't let the dead aunt go after repeated explanation and if I were to apologise, it is not in your place to tell me so

rapmike:
Again, you missed what am trying to say here- I did not mean that place, I meant when you started calling me biased because I challenged you over the dead aunt.

Mind you, I quoted you again , don't mind me.

lezz:
I didn't learn about hormone in psychology class. This is clearly biology either in basic or advance form.

PunkyVeer:
Well, we all handle stress differently, I presume. My way of handling anything that upsets me is by removing myself from the situation or source of my misery, so to speak. I just can't be looking at that every day. I need to peace out, so I can regulate my emotions & feel normal again. Out of sight. Out of mind.

awesome11:
Having listened to both parties, here is my observation:

* Daretodiffer, you were too defensive; hence he hastily doubted the quality of your self-esteem.

* You didn't know his aunt was dead because you didn't read the post well.

Are you a feminist?

I'm waiting for those insults to pour in, better still allege me for being sentimental. But remember, people are always entitled to their own opinions, no matter how stupid they sound!

daretodiffer:


If you read our convo well, you would know that he didn't doubt my self esteem and also know that I have every right to very defensive.

If you began this thread with I and the OP/went through my posts, , you would know that piece of information was not included initially

If you read my post well, you would know that it is common sennse to treat people the way you want to be treated therefore it is not about feminism.



@dearestaramide, where are you? I own your ass

awesome11:
Back to the bone of contention:

Culturally, it is a lesser evil if a man does engage in extra-maritals and a heinous crime if a woman does same. It's unexplainable, but that's the way it has always been.

You can keep yearning and try to go about a societal reorientation but you had better wake up from these weird dreams as long as you are gonna live on planet earth.

Even the whites know that infidelity from a woman is suicidal compared to a man.

And to you, when one tries to win arguments beyond limits, one often makes a fool of one's self as more of statements are exposed to be flawed!

lezz:
Reality isn't hypocrisy. It is a fact of life.

daretodiffer:
You are a foo.ll!

You have never lived with the whites yet you are claiming what you don't know. Do you have any idea how foolish and silly you sound? Idio.t claiming intelligent. If your father has sent you to school to keep acting and thinking like an sheep, my father didn't. You are not my type and can never be. So why don't you keep your advice for women who are below you and at the same level as you in esteem level.

Read my signature....I don't give a damn about stupi.D people trying to sound intelligent


God bless my soul

*Ignore mode activated*

awesome11:
Now, I understand why someone said you need to grow up! You abused someone's aunt memory 'ignorantly' the other time and its now time to attack someone else's father.

I know enough about western literature to know that infidelity from a man is not as criminal as one from a woman culturally.

You were right. You can never be like me because growing up emotionally and mentally to my current status would cost you over a century, and the whole of humanity and divinity may have to be on your case.

Quote me at your peril!

awesome11:
Now, I understand why someone said you need to grow up! You abused someone's aunt memory 'ignorantly' the other time and its now time to attack someone else's father.

I know enough about western literature to know that infidelity from a man is not as criminal as one from a woman culturally.

You were right. You can never be like me because growing up emotionally and mentally to my current status would cost you over a century, and the whole of humanity and divinity may have to be on your case.

Quote me at your peril!

daretodiffer:
Criminal ke? When did cheating become a crime tori olorun

I knew you were a fo.ol. It wasn't an insult it was a fact

You are welcome

daretodiffer:
Criminal ke? When did cheating become a crime tori olorun

I knew you were a fo.ol. It wasn't an insult it was a fact

You are welcome

dearestaramide:
MY uncle and I love to have conversations on life, relationships, politics etc. Any way, we got into discussion on the high rate of divorce in Nigeria and he went on to express what he felt were cause of it. He emphasized on patience and forgiveness and went on to tell me of an experience that cured him of his player life style

Years ago, my uncle was like the average Nigerian man, that is of course womanizer but like the average man, he was smart not to flaunt it, though as women, we always can tell. His wife had always known and was always told by her over sabi friends but since she never caught him red handed, she couldn't do anything about it.

The constant late night calls, meetings, sudden travels increased her belief of what she already knew. what could she do? yes, as any average wife, she was in pains but still showed him love and made sure she was there for him any time he needed a friend to talk to. She never complained or cried to her family or friends but kept in all inside her. He respected her for this even though as he said, he was too addicted to women to stop, though he tried.

My uncle was called off for a conference which was to last for one week and as usual with out delay, he jetted off. A cousin of my aunt whom she had not seen for over two years then came to visit and but was staying in a hotel which was by all means high standard and very expensive. My aunt decided to visit her on a Saturday so as to stay longer and catch up on old times. My aunt as you suspected caught sight of her husband really romancing a woman in the pool area and as you know, the man was supposed to be in Port Harcourt and had presumably jetted off three days before. She calmly finished what took her to the hotel and went back home.


My aunt never showed her husband any difference and still treated him normal as usual but one day whilst he was in a very good mood and they were watching an interesting movie in their room, she calmly told him what she had seen THREE MONTHS EARLIER and asked him not to do it again as he had hurt her deeply.

That night, shame, shock, fear all kinds of thoughts but best of all respect clouded my uncle's thought. He did eventually stop but not immediately oooo. He said it was gradual but he eventually stopped.

MY aunt fell ill and died years later and my uncle was sooo heart broken. He is still single by the way.

WHAT I LEARNT

all men are the same only thing that differentiates them is fear of God and self control.
Women need to be wiser and more matured than men.
Never act immediately this enables you time to think and strategise
shouting doesn't change men but pushes them away

awesome11:
Now, Look up the dictionary meanings of 'criminal'. One of its meanings should be easy enough for you to comprehend. My dictionary here says: MORALLY WRONG.

So?

Not every one attended some backyard school..

sexynabila:
if u don't mind me asking...how did your aunt died?

sexynabila:
if u don't mind me asking...how did your aunt died?

sonofananimal:
MUMU


So you even know weti KILL HERSELF self

I SWEAR! You WOMEN really don't have sense at all