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| Do NOT Get Married Until You're Capable Of These 3 Things!!! by Nobody: 8:28am On Oct 29, 2015 |
[b]"Preparing yourself for marriage is even more important than preparing yourself for the wedding day". That's an understatement! I spent the better part of Saturday tilling, weeding and planting a garden with my wife and our next door neighbors. We decided to make it a community thing this year so all the kids could experience the joy of having a garden. The problem is, I am a creative kind of guy, not a labor kind of guy. I spend my days behind a keyboard and a microphone. I'm lucky I am able to type, due to the bulging blisters that even made my neighbor wince. After much digging, weeding and making lines in dirt, we eventually made it to planting. And the comment was made "Wow, it's amazing how much preparation and time you have to take to get the dirt ready. Then you plant, and within minutes you're done." This gardening principle seems to be something we lack in today's marriages . We spend lots of money and time preparing for the wedding day. The penguin suits and puffy white dresses, cakes, champagne, the guests, where the service will be, then the reception. A lot of work for just a few hours of time. Often, we spend more time and energy preparing for the wedding than we do preparing for the marriage. What would happen if we actually prepared ourselves for marriage , not just the wedding? What might that "preparing the garden" process look like? Here are three steps to "prepare your garden" for marriage. I believe these are things we all need in our marriages , no matter the season of our relationships: 1. Having your money under control: Whether you're dating or have been married for 20 years, we can all get better at how we handle money in our relationships. Money is a tool. In our marriages, we have to be on the same page about how it is used. It is critical that you set guidelines about money. Who will pay the bills? How much money will you spend and on what? How will you make decisions about big expenses? If you both don't agree on a big expense, then wait to purchase it. Money (or the items we buy with money) can't be more important than our marriages. If you are able, take a financial class together to learn about how to be wise with your money. 2. Learning communication skills: Learning how to effectively communicate with your spouse is extremely important. It is something that we really have to work on — for most of us it doesn't come naturally. I suggest you read books, listen to podcasts, go to conferences — anything you can do to improve yourself on both sides of the communication process, better listening and better speaking, so your mate will understand you. 3. Having a relationship with God: The foundation of a good marriage is one that includes God. Our pastor made a great statement: "You don't know who you are, until you know who God is." If we get our identities from our past, our occupations, our families or our spouses, then our marriages will be much more difficult than they have to be. Everybody knows that line from the movie Jerry Maguire where Tom Cruise says "You complete me." Well, that's just bogus. I can't complete my beautiful wife and she can't complete me. We can complement each other, we can each bring different strengths to the marriage, but I have to know who I am first (and so do you). And I really can't figure out who I am until I have an understanding of the person who created me. Hope this helps  ...[/b]2 Likes |
| Re: Do NOT Get Married Until You're Capable Of These 3 Things!!! by crazyabbey(m): 8:33am On Oct 29, 2015 |
To Copy This Tune Press 1  2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Do NOT Get Married Until You're Capable Of These 3 Things!!! by sanbells(f): 8:35am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Marriage isn't a bed of roses |
| Re: Do NOT Get Married Until You're Capable Of These 3 Things!!! by Joygalore(f): 8:37am On Oct 29, 2015 |
I am coming |
| Re: Do NOT Get Married Until You're Capable Of These 3 Things!!! by Nobody: 8:40am On Oct 29, 2015 |
sanbells:Well said! But even with the thorns, The Rose is still the most beautiful flower. |
| Re: Do NOT Get Married Until You're Capable Of These 3 Things!!! by buzquet(m): 8:41am On Oct 29, 2015 |
To me, marriage is overrated |
| Re: Do NOT Get Married Until You're Capable Of These 3 Things!!! by Cutehector(m): 8:42am On Oct 29, 2015 |
K |
| Re: Do NOT Get Married Until You're Capable Of These 3 Things!!! by Nobody: 8:43am On Oct 29, 2015 |
crazyabbey:at what rate? Me sef wan copy the tune as well |
| Re: Do NOT Get Married Until You're Capable Of These 3 Things!!! by Nobody: 8:44am On Oct 29, 2015 |
buzquet:On the contrary, I think marriage is underated!!! 1 Like |
| Re: Do NOT Get Married Until You're Capable Of These 3 Things!!! by Nobody: 8:45am On Oct 29, 2015 |
sanbells:there is no where in the world that we have something like "bird of roses" hehehe |
| Re: Do NOT Get Married Until You're Capable Of These 3 Things!!! by Nobody: 8:46am On Oct 29, 2015 |
buzquet:it shouldn't be rated in the first place |
| Re: Do NOT Get Married Until You're Capable Of These 3 Things!!! by Nobody: 8:47am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Lemmie read  |
| Re: Do NOT Get Married Until You're Capable Of These 3 Things!!! by Nobody: 8:48am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Joygalore:by the time you are back, the thread would be dead as deadwood |
| Re: Do NOT Get Married Until You're Capable Of These 3 Things!!! by Nobody: 8:52am On Oct 29, 2015 |
 chukingchuks:Bro, your negative energy fit generate power for a full country Sha.  … |
| Re: Do NOT Get Married Until You're Capable Of These 3 Things!!! by Nobody: 9:03am On Oct 29, 2015 |
rexkexmilan:lolz, am not a pessimist bro |
| Re: Do NOT Get Married Until You're Capable Of These 3 Things!!! by YUSUPH1986(m): 9:40am On Oct 29, 2015 |
crazyabbey:guy can u believe u made me 2 show my 32. Funi u |
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