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This may not be the best
time for me to write on this
because of misinterpretati
on, but I can no longer
resist the push.
"Husband Scarcity" has
become one of the
challenges faced by many
young girls today. If you go
to prayer houses, majority
of the intentions are prayer
for a life partner. And this
calls for concern.
Casting our minds back to
the time of our mothers and
grandmothers, was there
really much of a "Husband
Scarcity" problem?
Or, maybe there were more
men than women then, or
there was an adequate
corresponding numbers of
both genders.
I don't think so.
Maybe then, the women had
values and were prepared to
build a
home and not park into a
built home. Then, once a
young man comes of age
and can at least feed
himself and his wife, he
goes out in search of a wife
and the woman really
appreciates him and helps
him to build a future.
What am I really trying to
say?
We created what we now see
as "Husband Scarcity" for
ourselves. Today, the
reverse is the case.
Ask an average girl to define
her dream husband; you get
things like "he has to be
tall, handsome, fair, and
rich, own a house at least,
and be presentable" and
then she adds "God fearing"
in order not to sound so
worldly.
Then, check the number of
girls around you and the
number of men that meet
that standard, and you will
see the problem.

You hear girls say, "I cannot
suffer in my father's house
and then go and start
suffering with a man." What
a wonderful dream! What if
from the beginning, you
have everything you want
and there is no suffering,
and later in the marriage,
the table turns around, then
comes suffering? Will you
run away? No one prays for
suffering, but it is good to
start small and end big,
than start big and end
small.
The problem is that the
description majority of girls
give of their ideal man is
virtually the same. When 50
girls want the same kind of
man and the man that fits
what they want is just 1
man, and the man can only
pick one.
Then, what becomes of 49
others? They simply start
lamenting of "Husband
Scarcity". Another irony of
our time is that it is hard,
due to the face of our
economy to find a man who
is of marriage age who
possesses all those things
these ladies want, legally
(except those involved in
Internet fraud); even the
number of those in Internet
fraud is not enough to
match all those searching
for already made husbands.
If you look around, majority
of the ladies of substance,
of good value and virtue,
who are ready to build a
home with a man who has
prospects, are married and
not complaining of husband
scarcity. The easiest way to
find a husband now, is to
change your view of who a
husband is. A husband is
that man God made and
then saw that it may be hard
for him to really actualize
his purpose for making him,
without a help mate and
then made the woman and
gave to him, and he felt
complete and fulfilled.
MARRIAGE IS NOT A
POVERTY ALLEVIATION
PROGRAM.
It is a mission of building
the family of God here on
earth. For those who see
marriage as a way out of
poverty, it is a way into
bondage. Women are HOME
BUILDERS, not HOME
WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE
A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS
DESTINY. Where he is today,
may only be a route to
where God has destined him
to be tomorrow. Another
truth is that YOU MAY BE
THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO
THAT HIS DESTINATION.
Join in alleviating "husband
scarcity". PICK UP THE
RIGHT VALUES. I am not
saying that you should pick
anyone that comes your way
and talks of marriage, not
all men are husband
materials. What I am saying
is that you should stop
setting your standard on
material acquisitions or
physical appearances.
Look beyond the physical.
WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO
HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE
OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS,
IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP
OF. And that which he is
made of is, most times, not
seen with the physical eyes,
only its effects can be seen.
Marriage is a permanent
thing. Whatever is seen is
temporal and that which is
not seen is permanent.
Relax and go to God in
prayer. God did not just
make Eve for making sake;
He made her for Adam's
need to become complete
and fulfilled.



Sorry for the long write up pls.

Mods, pls do the needful.

Lmao

Pidggin:
Lmao

Pidggin:
Lmao

Lolz. I actually think guys mastürbate to the idea that we're getting desperate enough to marry any loser one of them just because there's a "husband scarcity". Like how e take concern them? Let there be a scarcity. Why should it bother them more than it bothers us. Lubbish.

MrsPhyno:
Lolz. I actually think guys mastürbate to the idea that we're getting desperate enough to marry any loser one of them just because there's a "husband scarcity". Like how e take concern them? Let there be a scarcity. Why should it bother them more than it bothers us. Lubbish.

On point as usual

Dem dey talk say husband scarce, but na every weekend i dey attend wedding, person wey divorce sef dey marry again, the ones wey don born before still dey marry, Olosho sef dey follow marry, my question is who dis people dey marry sef, no be man? Abeggi, my dear make we carry oursef commot for dis thread jor

Pidggin:
On point as usual

Dem dey talk say husband scarce, but na every weekend i dey attend wedding, person wey divorce sef dey marry again, the ones wey don born before still dey marry, Olosho sef dey follow marry, my question is who dis people dey marry sef, no be man? Abeggi, my dear make we carry oursef commot for dis thread jor

lagmostkuit:
Tire me oh!

We haven't even complained bout it and they're crying

MrsPhyno:
Lolz. I actually think guys mastürbate to the idea that we're getting desperate enough to marry any loser one of them just because there's a "husband scarcity". Like how e take concern them? Let there be a scarcity. Why should it bother them more than it bothers us. Lubbish.

ukeme200:

hobiiii

Oro na dun.hobiii

I no even bother sef read that nonsense. Ladies are single because our young men are broke! No money, no work, nothing! !!! .

EggovinMma:
I no even bother sef read that nonsense. Ladies ate single because our young men are broke! No money, no work, nothing! !!! .

but we have love to give

I guess the economy also marriage is a road full of sacrifices and disappointment s

Hmmmm,husband scarcity indeed.people are fast enough to conclude that a lady's standard is too high when she does nt get married on time..wt of the one that lowered her standard jst to start small and all but eventually,the man stll messes up because he feels he's done with her?*see finish*the truth is everybody has different destinies in life,when its time ,it is time!no woman wants to put up with aman that feels he did her a favour by marrying her.!#GODISNEVERLATE#

Issoraite

goldbim:
Hmmmm,husband scarcity indeed.people are fast enough to conclude that a lady's standard is too high when she does nt get married on time..wt of the one that lowered her standard jst to start small and all but eventually,the man stll messes up because he feels he's done with her?*see finish*the truth is everybody has different destinies in life,when its time ,it is time!no woman wants to put up with aman that feels he did her a favour by marrying her.!#GODISNEVERLATE#

, @goldbim, I cant love you enough for this your post. U said my mind actually.

prettyangel10:
, @goldbim, I cant love you enough for this your post. U said my mind actually.

lol,but that's it now.I know some married ladies that says marriage is over rated sef.that they wished they did not rush into it.I just keep mute and keep my opinion to myself so dt they wnt misinterprete me.lol

SAMBARRY:
hobiiii

Oro na dun.hobiii